What would you choose if this was your family?

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  • pinkledoodledoo
    pinkledoodledoo Posts: 290 Member
    Considering the child is still a baby, I'd suggest they suck it up where they are until the child is closer to school age and sock away as much money as possible so that in 3-4 years they can move elsewhere and hopefully both find rewarding jobs.
  • Koldnomore
    Koldnomore Posts: 1,613 Member
    Life isn't always fair. Sometimes you HAVE to do things you don't like. It must be nice to have the problem of making good money and having all the nice 'toys'.

    Personally, I would say that the deciding factor is going to be providing the child with the best life that they can. When you have a child it is no longer about 'YOU' and all your stuff. If it were me, I would suck it up and continue in the job, pay off my bills, sell anything that is not vital, make sure I had no debts and THEN decide.

    Quitting a job and forcing your partner to move to another place when they already have a good job is selfish in the extreme. If she is not happy there then they need to make a plan and not make any life changing decisions rashly. She wouldn't be the first person to hate her job and keep doing it because it was best for the family.
  • dandelyon
    dandelyon Posts: 620 Member
    We moved with a 1 yo and no job prospects for one of us (me) and it worked out. It was easier to find a job once I was living in the area. I had a temp job turn into the breadwinning job. We even lived in the one bedroom apartment with one child, and a couple of years later bought a nice house and decided to have more children :)
  • BlueBombers
    BlueBombers Posts: 4,064 Member
    1. Stay there, and hope that she can suck it up some more. Although, it doesnt look like she's going to last much longer.

    I would stay there for now but keep looking for opportunities in other cities THEN leave when something comes up.
  • LavenderBouquet
    LavenderBouquet Posts: 736 Member
    It's kind of hard to gauge when the details are a bit sparse, especially in relation to how horrible the boss really is. It sounds like they have it amazing where they currently stand, with the exception of the boss. They sound very well off and spoiled (I don't mean to be rude by saying that) in their current situation, and if they had to live in a smaller house and have only one car for two people, that's really not awful in any sort of way. Or perhaps my own living situation gives me a different perspective, but having multiple cars and toys and a house with rooms I don't use sounds a tad ridiculous. If the boss wasn't completely awful I would likely stay where I was, but happiness is much more important than money and "toys." If that required moving and living more modestly, then so be it.
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