Starting Diet Pills at a Normal Weight

LuLuChick78

You need a new psychiatrist. I can't think of a reasonable reason why to tell someone who is in normal BMI with a history of disordered eating and self image problems to use diet pills or even losing more weight.

Um, I'm going to agree with this. I don't know any doctor who would tell a person with disordered eating or body image issues that they're a normal BMI but look overweight. Find another doctor and get a second opinion. I would also go back to your GP and see what he/she thinks about taking the diet pills in combination with the Prednisone.

And I also agree lifting weights may be a better option. Ditch your scale, you're more than a number. Go how by you look and feel. After you've started lifting heavy, you'll lose inches and your body will look completely different.

I wholeheartedly agree with all of this.

LuLuChick78

He thought he was helping me. He knew I wanted to be smaller to be happier and was trying to help me with it and to control the appetite that came with other medications.

I guess it wasn't his fault that I took the passing/fleeting comments and internalised them. He just wasn't right for me- maybe he'd be perfect for someone else and I wouldn't want to jeopardise that.

Generally when people finally do become "smaller" they still are not happy with how they look if there are underlying issues. What is your end point? A number on the scale? A certain item of clothing? It is likely something measurable (is that a word?, lol)

kimad

He thought he was helping me. He knew I wanted to be smaller to be happier and was trying to help me with it and to control the appetite that came with other medications.

I guess it wasn't his fault that I took the passing/fleeting comments and internalised them. He just wasn't right for me- maybe he'd be perfect for someone else and I wouldn't want to jeopardise that.

Any doctor in their right mine would help you by working on your body image issues, by making sure you are connected with a doctor specialized in eating disorders, THEY WOULD NOT help you have an eating disorder. The logic is so off, so I second another poster that said he may not even be a legal doctor. I think you not reporting him is a shame also.

splixi

I know he is DEFINITELY a legal doctor. - he has a provider number and has visiting rights at a hospital.

I appreciated his honesty with me because no-one else was honest enough with me to tell me I looked overweight. - which is true. He made me realise that I still had a lot to fix.

Time to leave it behind me. I have another Dr who is amazing.

I don't dare to keep a food diary here anymore because I think doing that is what was enough to trigger me down a nasty path. I still count calories in my head without even thinking but before I went into hospital i'd be lucky to have 200-300 calories a day and seeing it all as numbers in front of me just makes me want to cut everything out or work off every one of them. I come here to look at the forums though - try and get myself into healthier patterns.

RoadsterGirlie

I don't understand how this "doctor" has a license to practice medicine.

roniredd

Personally, if my doctor told me that I looked overweight, he would no longer be my doctor.

splixi

I guess lots of doctors are upfront with their patients (it just didn't work for me)......

He told me my BMI- told me it was normal but not always the best judge and that looking at me I did look overweight.

He reassured me that he had experience dealing with eating/weight issues (particularly with people who had had gastric sleeve surgery) and that he would get me where I wanted to be if that meant being happier and feeling more confident.

The comments were just triggers for me personally that put me down a path of using desperate means for fast weightloss. I have the body I wanted now....but all I want is something more- the cycle doesn't end.

I know any other professional I speak to has said the comments were completely inappropriate- I might ask them if I should do anything about it.

kimmymayhall

He thought he was helping me. He knew I wanted to be smaller to be happier and was trying to help me with it and to control the appetite that came with other medications.

I guess it wasn't his fault that I took the passing/fleeting comments and internalised them. He just wasn't right for me- maybe he'd be perfect for someone else and I wouldn't want to jeopardise that.

His job is not to be your friend and just tell you what you want. His job is to help you be well, the whole you. Weather malicious or incompetent, it sounds like his ability to treat people should be reevaluated before he hurts others. The fact that your new doctors agree his actions were inappropriate shows that it wasn't just you being too sensitive. It was his mistake, not yours.

I'm glad that you have a strong, supportive team now. Best of luck to you in your recovery.

auddii

I guess lots of doctors are upfront with their patients (it just didn't work for me)......

He told me my BMI- told me it was normal but not always the best judge and that looking at me I did look overweight.

He reassured me that he had experience dealing with eating/weight issues (particularly with people who had had gastric sleeve surgery) and that he would get me where I wanted to be if that meant being happier and feeling more confident.

The comments were just triggers for me personally that put me down a path of using desperate means for fast weightloss. I have the body I wanted now....but all I want is something more- the cycle doesn't end.

I know any other professional I speak to has said the comments were completely inappropriate- I might ask them if I should do anything about it.

I'm sorry that it took hospitalizations and lots of problems for you to realize that he wasn't the doctor for you, but at least you can move on now. I'd even suggest talking to several different doctors, especially if they don't make you feel comfortable. Don't assume that the doctor knows best; there are specialists who deal with people with eating disorders, and I'm sure none of them would tell you that you look overweight even though you're not. I'd try to find a specialist to help you even if you don't think you have a "strict eating disorder". It sounds like you don't have the healthiest relationship with how you view your body.

That said, it is possible to be at a lower weight but still have a high body fat percentage. I echo others who have suggested eating enough calories to maintain your weight and add strength/weight training; a progressive program. Here's a great success story, and if you look down towards the end, I think she looks better at a higher weight, but it's because she built muscle and reduced her body fat:

http://www.nerdfitness.com/blog/2011/07/21/meet-staci-your-new-powerlifting-super-hero/

castadiva

I know he is DEFINITELY a legal doctor. - he has a provider number and has visiting rights at a hospital.

I appreciated his honesty with me because no-one else was honest enough with me to tell me I looked overweight. - which is true. He made me realise that I still had a lot to fix.

I'll rephrase - he may be practising fraudulently - there have been numerous cases of 'Doctors' with all of the apparent trappings of legality and certification who have falsified records and gained provider numbers and visiting privileges etc, but had no business practising medicine.

What he did for you was not 'honest' or helpful - it was dangerous. You survived, though you were hospitalised several times. His 'advice' and 'help' and 'honesty' very fortunately did not put you in a life-threatening situation - others might not be so lucky. Please, speak to the other professionals, listen when they inevitably say that what he did was profoundly wrong, on so many levels, and then report him. At the very least, he needs to be re-certified in working with people who have body-image and eating issues.

splixi

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What a champ! Maybe one day when I get over my fear of numbers on the scales i'll be able to do that kinda thing too.