Why does everyone seem to be doing better then me?
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WOW congrats on your loss!... I sometimes feel that I work so hard.. and get nowhere.. and if we could only remember JUST KEEP GOING!..... I think we always focus too much on the scale... when really we are making a difference in our everyday health!... keep going! :happy:0
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?? that is almost 3lbs/week, most people just aim for 1-2 lbs/week, so not sure why you are thinking this
^^^this...your expectations are jacked OP. I lost 40 Lbs over about a 6-7 month period. Get your expectations in line with reality.0 -
?? that is almost 3lbs/week, most people just aim for 1-2 lbs/week, so not sure why you are thinking this
^^^this...your expectations are jacked OP. I lost 40 Lbs over about a 6-7 month period. Get your expectations in line with reality.
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Reality check... 24 pounds in TWO MONTHS is 3 pounds a week. That is freaking amazing! The recommended is 1 pound a week, so I'd say you are kicking butt. Slow and steady wins the race.0
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Wait - there are people on the homepage that say they've lost 48 pounds in 2 months? Like, 6 pounds a week? Are you sure about that?0
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are you eating ENOUGH and working out?? if youre just starving yourself you could have lost 24 pounds an an unhealthy way... and it wont look very good on you... skin kinda hangs, and the body eats at muscle tissue rather than the fat when you arent eating enough!
i lost 20 pounds in 2.5 months once... and it was because i was severely depressed and not eating.. and in consiquence, my immune system tanked and i got VERY ill. of course i gained that weight back over time, and finally got it off again just this year...
you are not comparible to anyone else... noone else is YOU. your journey and your marathon is your own... you shouldnt look at how fast others seem to lose... their numbers dont mean a thing to yours! 24 pounds is a GREAT success!! keep it up!!
in two months from june to august, working out 5 days a week and eating between 1330-1700 calories, i lost 10 pounds....
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The rate at which you lose is going to depend very heavily on how much weight you have to lose in the first place. If you have a lot to lose you will lose much faster than someone who does not. Losing 12 lbs a month is something that I could NEVER do at my current weight, but when I was starting on MFP at 228 lbs I lost close to 25 lbs in 2 months. My friend hit 60 lbs lost almost in the blink of an eye because he started at over 300. You absolutely can not compare your rate to anyone else unless they have exactly the same weight, height, age, medical background, activity profile etc etc etc...
If you think you are losing slow now just wait until you only have 30 lbs to get to your goal and you will be ecstatic if you lose 2 lbs a MONTH. You need a reality check. You did not gain weight over night and you will not lose 100 lbs in 4 months in any kind of healthy sustainable way UNLESS you start out weighing 500 lbs because for someone with that much to lose the goal IS very realistic. If you are needing to lose a total of 100 or so lbs you need to be prepared for it to take close to 2 YEARS if you intend to keep it off for the rest of your life. If you expect quick fat loss you are in the wrong place.0 -
Sounds normal, everyone gets discouraged at times. We always hear about the good stories but rarely hear or see the bad times or gains. But it happens to just about everyone.
I've joined groups and challenges on here and am very competitive (mostly with myself), I hate the thought of others seeing me fail or me failing myself. So I try and meet the weekly goals I set.
Sounds like you are sticking with it and that's great. Hang in there!
Ps - I hate the scale/weight loss challenges (I only have about 8 lbs to lose so wouldn't do me any good.) I love the non-scale challenges!0 -
I'm very unmotivated at the moment. I've lost 24 pounds in two months and not only am I feeling unaccomplished, especially considering that on this websites' home page they have people boasting (rightfully so) that they have lost twice as much as me in the same amout of time, but also in the fact that no one has noticed. I understand that it's only important for me to notice the difference, but it's disheartening to think that I could gain 24 pounds right now and no one would notice that either. I just wonder if people will only see me as "fat".
I know this is a bit of a pity party, I guess I'm just reminding myself to keep at it, "It's not a sprint, it's a marathon." Anyway, any stories of how you seem to stay with it would be greatly appreciated.
Do NOT let the scale be what validates you. I have been trying to lose weight and get into shape for almost 2 YEARS and have only lost 37 of the 83 lbs I have to lose. I have only lost 3lbs this year. I have been wearing the same size for 18 months...they just fit better.
NSVs are what validates me. I have amazing legs. I have added 50lbs to my squat weight ( I can squat 150#). I can do things that some GUYS in the gym cannot do. I used to be able to run 4mph for 2 minutes...now I can run 5mph for 5 minutes. I used to chest press 15 lbs...now I can bicep curl 15 lbs.0 -
Different diets give different results for different people
we are all unique, we all have different metabolisms and weight loss "styles". Those with more to lose and/or make the most drastic lifestyle changes are more likely to lose it quicker.
BUT keep in mind that losing weight too quickly can leave you with a couple of nasty side effects, one being that it's much easier to put it back on, the other is that your skin won't necessarily "shrink" to fit your new bodyshape so easily or quickly, and you may end up with loose, saggy skin and even "folds". 24lbs in 2 months is amazing! Ideally you should lose at most 2-3 lbs per week to lose weight healthily and to give your skin adequate time to adjust to your body changes.
ALSO keep in mind (mainly if you're incorporating exercise into your weight loss plan) that muscle weighs more than fat, and the scale is not the only way to tell if you're getting more healthy or not! You can lose inches around your waist and still gain weight if you're building enough muscle.0 -
Don't think they don't notice. They're just too afraid to say anything! Right now your friends, family, coworkers, whoever are looking at you and thinking... Gosh, I think she lost some weight, but I really hate to say something if she didn't, because if she didn't, well then she's going to think I thought she was fat!
Just keep going and before long they're all going to be falling over you with the great job pats on the back and you'll be loving every minute of it. Just keep the chin up and keep doing what you're doing because it's obviously working.0 -
This reminds me of a Kurt Vonnegut story: on a certain planet they liked to publish statistics about average height etc. When an alien race decided to take over, all they had to do was switch those statistics to inachievable figures and the whole societiy's self esteem plummeted so badly that they let the aliens take over without a fight.
OP, your weight loss has been better than average. Just as the figures you are seeing on your newsfeed destabilise you, you saying that you are unhappy with your considerable loss will be shaking someone else's self-confidence, as they question whether their 2lb a week is good enough or not.
I've turned off the weight loss notifications because I don't want to be convinced that faster is better. I want sustainable weight loss and to know I can say goodbye to certain clothes sizes forever.0 -
I'm very unmotivated at the moment. I've lost 24 pounds in two months and not only am I feeling unaccomplished, especially considering that on this websites' home page they have people boasting (rightfully so) that they have lost twice as much as me in the same amout of time, but also in the fact that no one has noticed. I understand that it's only important for me to notice the difference, but it's disheartening to think that I could gain 24 pounds right now and no one would notice that either. I just wonder if people will only see me as "fat".
I know this is a bit of a pity party, I guess I'm just reminding myself to keep at it, "It's not a sprint, it's a marathon." Anyway, any stories of how you seem to stay with it would be greatly appreciated.
24lb loss when you need to lose 100 won't be noticeable. Give it a few more pounds but truly: enjoy the time when they don't notice. When they start noticing they start saying things that can really mess with your motivation and your head.
As to the only 24lb in 2 months... that's 12lb a month. That's 3lb a week. That's as fast as anyone can go. Nobody can go faster than that! What are you on about woman! that's stellar progress! If I can lose 12lb a month I'll consider myself the diet queen.
there's a huge diff between 'oh, i've lost 4lb this week, it's my first week' and 'i have consistently lost an average of 1 1/2lb over a period of 2 months.' Huge.
Don't compare apples to oranges. 0 -
Oh - and don't worry about the notifications that say 'x has lost 5lb since her last weigh-in' - she might weigh once a month.
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I'm only losing about 5 pounds a month, and I think I'm doing great. I think that slower weight loss is more sustainable.
I do get encouraging comments from people I've told that I'm working on weight loss, but I don't get comments from people who don't know. That's a little disappointing, but I'm doing this for me, not them.0 -
I'm losing about a pound a week. Sometimes I think that more should be coming off too but I realize that it took a while to gain all of this weight and it's gonna take a while to come off.0
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I think that is a great loss! I've lost 19 pounds since the middle of July. My husband didn't even notice til last week. My closest friends have commented, but other friends and acquaintances haven't commented so much. I bet you are seeing the difference, and although we love to hear the comments and encouragement from our friends, that is important too!0
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I've lost around the same amount and got my first comment this week. I went from wondering why no one noticed to remembering how intrusive those comments can sometimes be.0
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Don't be dishearten!! This is about you!! Don't mind how people are progressing, just make sure that You are a better You each day!! ♡ Stay strong and motivated!!! 0
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It took losing 30 pounds for people to notice. I kept plugging away for me.
Next time you're at the store, grab a 25 pound bag of potatoes and carry them around the entire shopping trip. You will quickly see what you have done for yourself.
I figured I must have carried my weight well.
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That is a great idea from when your feeling discouraged!!! Think I may try that!!! Only lost 10 pounds myself and constantly no changes so I know the feeling....but we just got to keep at it!!!!0 -
I know this is a bit of a pity party, I guess I'm just reminding myself to keep at it, "It's not a sprint, it's a marathon." Anyway, any stories of how you seem to stay with it would be greatly appreciated.
I haven't read responses, so forgive me if I repeat.
You remind yourself that it's not a sprint, it's a marathon, but you must also remember that a marathon is very much about being all by yourself, focusing on putting one foot in front of the other and not on what everyone else is doing. If it might help, instead of the race analogies, as that implied competition, also remember that losing weight is not a race.. it is a long and slow process... like moving mountains one rock at a time.
From what you said, you've been losing about 3 lbs a week. Recommendations are to aim for 1-2 lbs, so you are doing quite well!
As for other people noticing, sometimes it takes quite a while. Remember that most people are selfish and focusing on themselves, so they may not notice, or sometimes people just don't want to say anything because they're not sure.
When I lost weight last time, it took a long time for people to notice the first big chunk of weight, but after that, they tended to notice smaller increments.
Just focus on you, you're doing this for you, not for how others see you.0 -
It isn't a race or a competition. What you have lost is a big deal and you should celebrate it instead of feeling bad because of what others are/aren't doing.0
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The other thing is that they may have GAINED in the mean time and just lost the gain and maybe a bit more. MFP does not report the gains, only the losses. THANK GOODNESS! :-)0
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I can't speak for everyone, but I know I'm always cautious about congratulating someone on a weight loss unless it's a good friend and I know s/he's been trying to lose. Their body isn't my business, ya know, and I don't want to sound like I'm judging their heavier self. So maybe your friends and co-workers are just a little socially awkward (like me!) and not quite sure how to compliment the new you without dissing the old you.
BTW, you're doing awesome work. It's bound to slow down a bit, but 24 pounds? I've lost 8 in just over a month and I'm thrilled!0 -
you've lost a total of 54 pounds... thats insane in my books and thats something i can only dream about right now!!
ive lost only 1 kg in nearly 2 months and right now ive put back on 7 grams of that due to trying to adjust my daily
calories to work out whats right for me in order to lose.
Youve lost sooo much so far, isnt that awesome in itself? i think so!
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I'm very unmotivated at the moment. I've lost 24 pounds in two months and not only am I feeling unaccomplished, especially considering that on this websites' home page they have people boasting (rightfully so) that they have lost twice as much as me in the same amout of time, but also in the fact that no one has noticed. I understand that it's only important for me to notice the difference, but it's disheartening to think that I could gain 24 pounds right now and no one would notice that either. I just wonder if people will only see me as "fat".
I know this is a bit of a pity party, I guess I'm just reminding myself to keep at it, "It's not a sprint, it's a marathon." Anyway, any stories of how you seem to stay with it would be greatly appreciated.
Don't base your judgement of yourself on the success or failures of others.0
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