why do men cheat?

TheSwoleMinister

"A man is only as faithful as his OPTIONS."

--Chris Rock

FrauHaas2013

If you cheat on me, it had better have been worth it because you're DONE as far as I'm concerned. Kicked to the curb. Dead to me forever. There is no reason or excuse you could possibly give that would cause me to even slightly entertain the notion of forgiveness.

My favorite scene in the movie the Five Year Engagement is when the woman comes home and tells her fiance that she kissed her boss at the bar after the fiance left...or rather, "HE kissed ME!" To which the fiance replies, "He may have kissed YOU, but there must be a reason why he thought that was an option."

Myhaloslipped

Because you're boring and I'm horny.

CassandraBurgos83

Truly wish I knew....
The one you love and want to spend the rest of your life with is the one person to cheat on you that hurts you and the one(s) you don't really care about don't cheat on you, but if they did it wouldn't really bother you.

finallylean

I think they cheat when they aren't satisfied. I think as woman we need to satisfy our men and change things up a bit, always make it interesting for them. They cheat when they get bored. Gotta spice things up.

CassandraBurgos83

I think the men should spice things up as well...Gets old on our end too when they play out the same tricks and dirty talk, but that doesn't mean we cheat to get that fulfillment we are missing out on with them.

H_Factor

There are 6 or 7 categories of cheating.....so not "one size fits all". I don't recall all of the reasons, but some of them boil down to "emotional needs are not being met"....and if you're not sure what emotional needs are, read the popular "His Needs, Her Needs", which probably should be required reading for couples. Of course, there are folks who are just programmed that way, there's revenge cheating, etc.

Yes, those categories generally apply to both men and women....but if you want to reduce the chances of your partner straying, its important to: (a) learn your partner's emotional needs; and (b) provide them on a regular basis. This is also know as "marriage takes work"...the work is meeting your partner's emotional needs on a regular basis.

No, all men don't cheat. I never have.

s1rens0ng

because they dont respect or love the person they are with anymore ? god knows why :P

otter090812

I think they cheat when they aren't satisfied. I think as woman we need to satisfy our men and change things up a bit, always make it interesting for them. They cheat when they get bored. Gotta spice things up.

srsly?

RickNeedzToGetShreaded

Boredom, lack of trust, something better has come along. Think that's the main reasons.

PghPensFan69

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Mrsallypants

Lack of a fulfilling sex life. Withholding sex will backfire on you.

Myhaloslipped

Just stop, drop, shut 'em down open up shop. On to the next one. Switch, and if they act up just leave 'em alone. ---I was just really just trying to see how long of a string of song lyrics I could use to respond to this. That is all for now.

CassandraBurgos83

lol @ myholslipped

mccindy72

Men are biologically driven to spread their genes as far and wide as possible. And women are supposed to be drawn to the strong alpha type who will be strong and able to protect them, and will try to attract that man when she meets him. So he's drawn both ways.
Plus in our society women are taught to withdraw sexually once they have children, and to use sex as a weapon to punish the husband if he doesn't behave in the expected fashion.

If he's not getting it at home, and it's being offered somewhere else, he's probably gonna go for it.

hbrittingham

Men are biologically driven to spread their genes as far and wide as possible. And women are supposed to be drawn to the strong alpha type who will be strong and able to protect them, and will try to attract that man when she meets him. So he's drawn both ways.
Plus in our society women are taught to withdraw sexually once they have children, and to use sex as a weapon to punish the husband if he doesn't behave in the expected fashion.

No.

Just no.

I can't believe people actually believe this stuff.

BigSnicka

This article about sums it up.

http://realnewspaper.wordpress.com/2014/03/13/why-men-cheat-on-loyal-women/

FTF2014

To answer to OP question no all men don't cheat. Just like all women don't cheat.

U_R_my_Sunshine

I believe the majority of men and women won't cheat -- but if you don't feed your "dog" -- your dog with start hanging out at the neighbor's house. If this situation doesn't fit -- then I say some people aren't meant to pair up -- and probably had good intentions going into the relationship, but just couldn't do it after all.

AussieGal73

I don't buy the sometimes you just can't help it mentality either. We're not primates, we're humans and we're fully capable of controlling ourselves. It's just a matter of wanting to or giving in to temptation. If you value certain things higher than a few moments of closeness with a stranger then this isn't a problem.

However, I know exactly what you're saying above there. I know many people who were single for a while, several of their friends got married and had kids, they felt as though they were "behind" and had to "catch up", so they married the first person that came into their life. Everyone around them would wonder, what did he see in her, why did they get married? It just didn't seem right. Sometimes it works, other times it doesn't. But there are definitely many cases of people just getting married and having kids because they think that's what you're supposed to do.

The reality is, there is nothing that you're "supposed" to do in life. You can live your life however you want provided you are willing to accept the consequences of your actions. If you don't want to get married, then you shouldn't. You shouldn't do something that life altering just because other people are doing it. It's not as trivial as trying a cigarette in high school with your friends when you're a young dumb impressionable kid. This is committing to someone else for the rest of your life, and as an adult you should know what you're getting into ahead of time and weigh everything out. Even then nothing is guaranteed, things could still go south. But to do something just because others are doing it is not very smart.

I knew long ago that I wanted to get married and have kids, and I love it. But its not for everybody. I have a friend in the military who can't keep a girlfriend for more than 3-6 months, and he's so self absorbed he'd most likely be a horrible husband or father because he can never put anyone ahead of himself. But he knows that's how he is, so he stays single, and enjoys the single life and what he does for a living.

To each their own I say. I don't think staying single or getting married are necessarily the "right" way to live life, you have to do what makes you happy and what works for you. But to jump into something as serious as marriage and then throw kids into the mix just for the sake of "catching up" to your friends or conforming to social norms is a bad idea.

It doesn't have to be a choice between the free-wheeling single life and a monogamous marriage. There are lots of ways that committed, loyal couples navigate the complex terrain of sex and commitment with compassion and openness and honesty. It can be scary to talk to your partner about your sexual desires, but we all have urges for other people and we shouldn't lie to our partner about them.

ironanimal

Dat necro

AussieGal73

Sorry my response went AWOL earlier.. nevermind my situation would not be a popular here, I think I will refrain from divulging my sexual life LOL

Cre8veLifeR

I think women cheat more than men, to be honest! It's also women who sleep with married men and don't care that they are married. My point is women are evil.:devil:

burning2much

never cheated, never will and always tell the truth...HA!

Myhaloslipped

Such nonsense and a sweeping generalization. Of course all men don't cheat. :noway:

summertime_girl

My husband thought I was too fat, too unattractive, and too boring. I didn't cook enough, I worked too much, and didn't give him as much attention as he wanted. So he's now with someone 15 years younger than he is, much thinner, much shorter, and blonder than me.

LolBroScience

Because you're boring.

mjbowman821

I took my vows to my late wife very seriously including cutting ties to a female friend being that we had emotional intimacy. As for me cheating is a deal breaker. I did the small things to be safe. I didn't give my number out. If they needed to contact me I gave them my wife as a point of contact. I never went to have lunch with a girl friend. Its the little things you do to prove you are not available. When she got sick she had a fear that I might leave or cheat, but I married her for better or for worse for richer or poorer in sickness and in health till death do we part. ( I used to joke with her that when I said those vows I didn't know I would have go through ALL of them) She was a AMAZING woman. I used to tell her that ONE day your body will be healed, you will feel a joy that you can't express and be loved to a depth that you can't fathom, and that one day will last FOREVER.

RECowgill

I'm positive that men and women do not cheat equally. Men cheat more than women for sure. Don't use the cloak of reverse sexism as some kind of false equivalency shield. The genders may be equal, but we are different.

And if you want to know why men cheat, watch Moonstruck. The answer is finally given to you and it's simple, there really is only one reason ever. It's because men fear death.