Mo' money, mo' problems...

lorigem

For those of you shacked up with someone, who manages the money? Do you care? And finally, who makes more?

Just a curious cat...

_noob_

same salary. We both play roles in managing the money.

msf74

I do.

No, it doesn't bother me or her.

I make all the money but our roles are equal in worth.

Cliffslosinit

What is this "shack up" you speak of?
....you mean "living in sin"?

Iron_Lotus

He makes it I manage it

TheBackStory

My husband makes more than I do. We both have input on the money management. One account, one budget, all big expenses are talked over before made.... It works best for us that way.

lorigem

What is this "shack up" you speak of?
....you mean "living in sin"?

Living together, married - generally coupled up with their monies intermingled somehow.

healthymissfit

I handle the money, he hates dealing with bills, however, he is definitely the one who handles money better (i ambitiously spend lol) I make more (only because I work two jobs, 17 hours a day) but we pay equal parts as far as bills and rent.

mmckee10

He works. I pay the bills and all the fun stuff that goes with running a household.

gabbygirl78

i wish i could find someone to "shack up" with that manages their money and can help me with the bills!!!! I have no money left to manage after bills are paid!!! :grumble:

iamanadult

I manage all the money.

I put 90% of my pay into savings and use his for bills and everything else.

aldale

My hubby makes the money. I am a stay at home mom. I have input on how it is spent though.

lorigem

I manage all the money.

I put 90% of my pay into savings and use his for bills and everything else.

That's an interesting dynamic.

just_Jennie1

Right now my husband is the bread-winner.

I manage the money and pay the bills. He just doesn't have time for it.

escloflowneCHANGED

emergencytennis

Gawd, I am going to sound so old-fashioned.

If you are shacked-up, then keep everything separate. Half the rent, half the bills, half the food, half the housework. Write it down if you need to. Separate bank accounts. Keep receipts.




When you are married, then divide the work and money however you like.

Before you are married, divide everything strictly by halves and keep the receipts.

Alex_is_Hawks

^^^ It's not that interesting a dynamic actually, it happens a lot.

I make more money. He's also younger than I am so in theory his future earning power at my current age will be more than mine, but because I have more career experience than he does at this juncture, I make more than him and probably always will until I retire.

We have separate finances and probably always will. However we have shared financial goals and already work towards them. He saves 90% of his paycheque towards future expenses and I pay all the housing costs and bills.

If we were to merge our finances he would probably handle the money even though he makes less and saves his salary. Basically because his career is in accounting/financial management/software development and I'm the "creative, big ideas person"

He's better suited to the budget.

susanmc31

We both work but he makes more. He's the one who takes care of the money 99% of the time. We talk about all our big purchases together and are respectful of what each other wants. He tells me everything that is going on with the account and I trust him completely.

BrainsOnGains

Does this question pertain to a "pimp/ho" situation?

staplebug

He makes it I manage it

Same here. Not exactly "shacked up," though -- married.

RaeLB

I do.

No, it doesn't bother me or her.

I make all the money but our roles are equal in worth.

:noway:

BusyRaeNOTBusty

Everything is joint (we even share the vehicles). I make slightly more currently. In the past he made more when I worked part time due to kids and before I went back to school (and while I was in school). I manage everything, although he did do the taxes this year, first time in nine years I think. We discuss any big purchases (like over $50).

lorigem

Does this question pertain to a "pimp/ho" situation?

Hey, I don't judge... :glasses:

taunto

I give her some money. She spends it with her husband buying drugs and food. Mostly drugs.

SmartAlec03211988

My husband works and pays all the bills. He gives me an 'allowance' to spend however I wish every payday. We keep our bank accounts separate.

HeidiMightyRawr

I manage the money, sort out what needs to get paid in bills, or necessary purchases / put aside for food etc. I enjoy doing it, and he's not fussed either way. We split the leftover equally so of that, I have no input, he can do what he wants with his half and vice versa.

He earns more, but only by a small amount (£80/90 a month)

Naomi0504

He makes it I manage it

Same here. Not exactly "shacked up," though -- married.

Also same. A pp mentioned allowance- I don't get an allowance, I have my own debit card.

BamaBreezeNSaltAire

We both make money, plenty of it. However, we both share a part in paying the bills and buying whatever we want within reason. If we can't pay cash for it, then it isn't purchased....that simple. Bills paid first by whoever happens to get to them at the moment. We both play a part in managing retirment accounts and stocks. Same bank account. Married for 13 years.

crackur

I give her some money. She spends it with her husband buying drugs and food. Mostly drugs.

nice

highervibes

He makes it I manage it

This is our arrangement also.

ldrosophila

do you work for irs?