Mo' money, mo' problems...

sammniamii

Me
Yes it does
I make 3x him

We have separate accounts (different banks) but only because I don't like his (BoA) and mine won't add him (credit union and he doesn't qualify for some stupid reason).

I pay 7/8'ths of ALL THE BILLS, buy 3/4'ers of ALL THE FOOD & stuff for the house. Worst part is he DOESN'T consult me when HE decides to make some type of major finical change - IE: i find out he got another CC when it shows up in the mail. WTF - I pay all of them, rarely get to use any of them and if I want anything major I run it by him first.

I'm NOT happy about it, specially considering he has the old "he's the bread winner & guys do the work - women play house" mentality. It really gets to me and has been getting worse over the years. One day it will be too much and he'll come home to find his crap outside.

links_slayer

Me
Yes it does
I make 3x him

We have separate accounts (different banks) but only because I don't like his (BoA) and mine won't add him (credit union and he doesn't qualify for some stupid reason).

I pay 7/8'ths of ALL THE BILLS, buy 3/4'ers of ALL THE FOOD & stuff for the house.

I'm NOT happy about it, specially considering he has the old "he's the bread winner & guys do the work - women play house" mentality. It really gets to me and has been getting worse over the years. One day it will be too much and he'll come home to find his crap outside.

sounds healthy

sammniamii

Me
Yes it does
I make 3x him

We have separate accounts (different banks) but only because I don't like his (BoA) and mine won't add him (credit union and he doesn't qualify for some stupid reason).

I pay 7/8'ths of ALL THE BILLS, buy 3/4'ers of ALL THE FOOD & stuff for the house.

I'm NOT happy about it, specially considering he has the old "he's the bread winner & guys do the work - women play house" mentality. It really gets to me and has been getting worse over the years. One day it will be too much and he'll come home to find his crap outside.

sounds healthy

you're right, it's not. but no matter how many times I explain it to him, it doesn't stick.

or he pulls the, "thanks for reminding me that I'm not a man and can't provide" crap. I DON'T care who makes the money, I don't think it's f-ing fair to saddle me w/ everything and the stress of work/managing the household.

bugaha1

Me
Yes it does
I make 3x him

We have separate accounts (different banks) but only because I don't like his (BoA) and mine won't add him (credit union and he doesn't qualify for some stupid reason).

I pay 7/8'ths of ALL THE BILLS, buy 3/4'ers of ALL THE FOOD & stuff for the house.

I'm NOT happy about it, specially considering he has the old "he's the bread winner & guys do the work - women play house" mentality. It really gets to me and has been getting worse over the years. One day it will be too much and he'll come home to find his crap outside.

sounds healthy

you're right, it's not. but no matter how many times I explain it to him, it doesn't stick.

or he pulls the, "thanks for reminding me that I'm not a man and can't provide" crap. I DON'T care who makes the money, I don't think it's f-ing fair to saddle me w/ everything and the stress of work/managing the household.

It don't sound like you will forever.

djeffreys10

When I was married, I tried to manage money. But in reality, she blew *kitten* tons of money on whatever the hell she wanted, and I struggled to keep the bills current with whatever was left. Even when she was presented with a detailed list of everything she spent via the bank records, and a detailed list of bills, she denied spending that much and accused me of lying about the financial situation. So glad she is gone

TheSlorax

I am single and bitter so I manage my own money and pay my own bills.

lorigem

One thing that boggles my mind is when I see people in relationships keeping money separate in order to not fight about it. I've never understood this at all but if it works for you, it works.

I've worked in the financial industry for 12 years and I think that affected my decision to have separate accounts. Too many instances with one partner not knowing the other partner took out money so now they're in the red. Scared the crap out of me. So in essence, we have 2 accounts. Mine is the main one where all the bills are paid from. His check is deposited into my account and I give him an allowance. I think he does have a problem with this arrangement. But I figure, I have my shizz together, I make 2x more than he does and just from the stories he told me on how he managed his account in his country...yikes.

msf74

I do.

No, it doesn't bother me or her.

I make all the money but our roles are equal in worth.

:noway:

Something I said?

I've only been back 5 minutes and I'm already in trouble. Sheesh.

Myhaloslipped

Haha I love how you call it "shacking up" like my father. Dad, is that you? Did you create an account on this site?

TheRoadDog

We both make very good money, but we still handle our finances as we did when we were first married. We both kept our original Bank accounts; just added the other to it. We opened a joint account for household finances and we both contribute to it.

My wife pays the bills from the household account.

Some advice:

My wife and I open seperate accounts for Vacations and Emergencies. We both contribute and we do not take money from those accounts for any other reason.

We both also have "Gifting" accounts for birthdays, anniversaries, Christmas, etc.

The secret is to have the same goals. Working towards them together strengthens our resolve and our marriage.

My personal secret is I know what my life was like before her, and how fabulous it is now that she has been in my life this long. I always heed her advice.

RaeLB

I do.

No, it doesn't bother me or her.

I make all the money but our roles are equal in worth.

:noway:

Something I said?

I've only been back 5 minutes and I'm already in trouble. Sheesh.

Stop leaving without saying bye

msf74

I do.

No, it doesn't bother me or her.

I make all the money but our roles are equal in worth.

:noway:

Something I said?

I've only been back 5 minutes and I'm already in trouble. Sheesh.

Stop leaving without saying bye

Oh that...

My apologies.

You will have a friend request in 5...

4....

3....

suziepoo1984

Married and hubby makes more than me. His salary goes towards rent and bills and mine goes in as savings or emergency costs.
He manages all the finance, because i am just not good with it and also not interested in doing it. We do make all financial decisions together and i am in loop on how our money is being spent.

dmoppy

My wife and I didn't live together before we were married and obviously had separate accounts and such. Once we were married we just pooled the money into one account and she started to manage it. At that time I made just a little more than she did, not that it would have mattered to us (maybe if she made multiples of my salary it would have mattered to her, I don’t know, but it wouldn’t to me in the reverse).

She's been home with the kids since our first was born 15 years ago and is managing the household. I trust all the details to her although we have discussions now and then about our finances - mostly when I'm trying to figure out if I can justify a new motorcycle or sports car...:happy:

It's all a little funny because before we were married (18 years ago) she used to drive me a crazy with the way she managed her money. I’m fine not managing the details and I think it gives her back some feeling of control since she isn’t working outside the home. Or maybe it’s because she just likes doing it and I don’t really care. Whatever the case it seems to work until she runs away with the pool boy (luckily we don’t have a pool).

Francl27

I'm a stay at home mom so he makes all the money, and I just buy whatever. I'm really not bad. I buy things we need, like clothes (usually cheap ones on sale), food, things for the kids... I spend a lot of time on some reward website to get Amazon gift cards, about $150 a month worth, so it pays for most of my books, games, movies etc (and he uses some too). He typically pays our bills and I pay my own credit cards (mostly store ones).