Second child

Iron_Lotus

Number 2 was easy it is 5 and 6 that are damn near killing me!

Nicolee_2014

I only have one but I've heard going from 1-2 is easy, it's going from 2-3 that's hard.

I've heard the opposite from a few ladies I work with who have 3. They say the transition from 1-2 is the hardest but when you tack on a 3rd its nothing. I guess it depends on the person.

My eldest was 27 months when my youngest was born. She loves her sister to death but there is a lot of jealousy there. They fight like cat & dog (which I guess is to be expected of siblings, I just didn't think it would start so young).

I found it hard because I didn't get any downtime. 1 would go for a nap, the other would be awake, I'd go to feed 1 the other would want to be feed too or need toilet/nappy change. So much harder taking them both in the car or on outings.

A friend of mine has an age gap of 4 years 3 months & she is struggling too. She forgot how hard it was to get up to a baby in the night. So, I don't think there is any perfect gap or a right time or anything to be honest. If you & your husband want to have another baby - do it. Each baby is different. I thought my 2nd child would be so much easier than my 1st. I couldn't be more wrong! She's more of a handful than the 1st :frown:

AlongCame_Molly

When you have more than one child, you aren't dividing your love in two. :-D

This. Love isn't a finite resource. It grows and compounds with each child, to the point where you wonder how you ever lived with only one or two children. My sister has 6, and it's amazing to see how happier and happier her home gets with each successive child, and how much she loves all of them MORE with every addition. I can't wait to be in a position to add to my little family, as well.

ElyseL1

I think it depends on the family dynamic. I come from a two child house hold and we were raised by our father. We didnt fight for his attentions because we did everything as a family. I was recently talking to my dad abt starting a family of my own sometime within the next two years and this is what he told me, " It's the hardest thing that your ever going to do, kids are both annoying as hell and cute as can be, and you have to kiss your personal life goodbye, there is no right or wrong answer as a parent and you are never going to love anything more than your family."

BinaryPulsar

I know a lot of people are talking about fighting, but my kids are both girls and they are 2.5 years apart, but one is in 1st grade and the other is in 4th. They don't fight. They are always hugging and saying they love each other. They are very close. Having a sibling is like having a best friend. They even play with each others friends. My older daughter is very helpful and good with little kids. My younger daughter is very confident and independent and I think a lot of that comes from having an older sister. They really support each other and balance each other. They share very well, are flexible and resilient. I think they practice these qualities by having a sibling to work things out with.

kelly_c_77

Wow guys! Thanks for all of the feedback!
It definitely sounds like it's (obviously) harder but not so much that you would ever change your decision if given the chance!! I already knew that I would never regret having a second child..I just want to make sure that I wouldn't be getting too far in over my head (because of not having much help). There were a few responses that really stood out and made me even more excited about the thought of having a second child! Thanks again so much!! I appreciate it! I can't wait to show my husband all of the posts!!

kelly_c_77

Okay, and I'm adding this:
When you have more than one child, you aren't dividing your love in two. :-D

Ok, THIS one for me. Im a dad, not a mom, but we both work, and as it so happens, Im the more domestic of the two of us.
Were both 41, and our son is 9, our daughter 6 - pretty close to where you might be, just further down the road a bit right?

The quote above is 100% accurate, so no worries there, and IMO, having more than one is EXPONENTIALLY MORE WONDERFUL - gives them someone to play with, someone to take it out on, someone to look after, someone to blame it on, someone to argue with, someone to teach, someone to learn from, someone to talk to, someone to LOVE besides YOU. And you get to watch it all, and do your best to steer them in the right direction...

No doubt its more work, but when theyre your children, is it really work at all???

DONT TRY IT. DO IT!!

Thank you for this! Love it!!!

kelly_c_77

When you have more than one child, you aren't dividing your love in two. :-D

This. Love isn't a finite resource. It grows and compounds with each child, to the point where you wonder how you ever lived with only one or two children.

Love this one too! And many other responses! Again, thank you guys so much!

ruwise

I'd say short term it will be harder but longer term it will be easier as they will play with each other and entertain each other. The only thing I would say is anything up to a 4 year age gap is fine or beyond that about an 8 year age gap but I find from my experience 5-7 year age gaps can be problematic. My brother in law initially didn't want a second child and after sticking to his guns for about 5 years he finally relented. They had only just gotten back to having their sleep back when they were back to square one and my nieces don't ever seem particularly close. The eldest just finds the younger one annoying. They may get closer with age but at the moment they don't love each other whereas my other niece and nephew have a 3 year age gap (my nephew was adopted so was 20 months old when they got him and they just adore each other. They go asleep holding hands and hugging. Just so cute!! So if you do decide to go ahead I'd get going right away!

BinaryPulsar

We live in a home that has three bedrooms, so each girl can have her own room, but they chose to share a bedroom and use the other bedroom as a play room. They love sharing a room.