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  • AmberJewelCR
    AmberJewelCR Posts: 97
    Pfft. Yeah, me to. Jeez I'm a Debby Downer.

    Anywhoo, that's why I'm here. I've got to get my groove back.
    And that starts with feeling good about myself.

    :) you can do it!
  • randomtai
    randomtai Posts: 9,003 Member
    Oh yeah in b4 the lock.... We don't get to have nice things here.
  • JustAnotherGirlSuzanne
    JustAnotherGirlSuzanne Posts: 932 Member
    Fulfilling each other's desires = 10.
  • AmberJewelCR
    AmberJewelCR Posts: 97
    Oh yeah in b4 the lock.... We don't get to have nice things here.

    We can't talk about sex and being married?
  • MonaRaeHill
    MonaRaeHill Posts: 145 Member
    sex is an adjunct to a really great partnership of the minds, which, in my mind, is the way it should be.:) i'd much rather be friends (and so, compatible) with the person I am with, then worry about physical things, all the time. I've had relationships where sex was everything. dreadful. so, no thanks. one of the things I learned from age is that companionship and open, honest, responsive, communication, beats all. :)
  • _Krys10_
    _Krys10_ Posts: 1,234 Member
    Pfft. Yeah, me to. Jeez I'm a Debby Downer.

    Anywhoo, that's why I'm here. I've got to get my groove back.
    And that starts with feeling good about myself.


    good for you!!
  • AmberJewelCR
    AmberJewelCR Posts: 97
    sex is an adjunct to a really great partnership of the minds, which, in my mind, is the way it should be.:) i'd much rather be friends (and so, compatible) with the person I am with, then worry about physical things, all the time. I've had relationships where sex was everything. dreadful. so, no thanks. one of the things I learned from age is that companionship and open, honest, responsive, communication, beats all. :)

    So what's your answer?

    My husband and I were best friends before we became intimate. They don't have to be separate
  • devilday1805
    devilday1805 Posts: 272 Member
    10
    You can't feel any closer then when you are having sex. Good sex too is two people intune with eachothers unspoken desires. To be able to response to someones touch honest and openly shows a trust and a bond between two people that is strong.
  • randomtai
    randomtai Posts: 9,003 Member
    Oh yeah in b4 the lock.... We don't get to have nice things here.

    We can't talk about sex and being married?

    Not usually. Sadly.
  • baldzach
    baldzach Posts: 1,841 Member
    12?
  • gabbygirl78
    gabbygirl78 Posts: 936 Member
    I think it's different for everyone obviously, but in my 20s it would have been a 2....in my 30s it would be a 10.

    Gawd, I love my 30s.

    This!!! Lovin my 30's too!!!! So I say 10 and would give it a 20 if I could lol!
  • AmberJewelCR
    AmberJewelCR Posts: 97
    12?

    :laugh:
  • MillyFleurs
    MillyFleurs Posts: 57 Member
    This has actually been a problem with my life, because it places just under cracking me up. You'd think that would make things easy, right? Not. At. All.
  • TheRoadDog
    TheRoadDog Posts: 11,788 Member
    Three stages of sex in a marriage. That first couple of years, when we were young, it's was so important. We did it in every room. On the kitchen counter, Laundry Room, Jacuzzi --every possible place. As we got a little older and our marriage progressed, it was a little less important. We called it "Bedroom Sex" You know? We're already in bed, we're both awake, why not? The last phase we call "Hallway Sex." As we pass each other in the hallway, we both look at each other and say "Fck You!"


    Seriously? In a good marriage, it is not any more important than any other aspect of communication. I love sex and so does my wife, but if something were to happen and sex was no longer an option, it wouldn't change how much I love my wife or how much I am committed to her.

    So, I have to say 5.
  • AmberJewelCR
    AmberJewelCR Posts: 97
    Three stages of sex in a marriage. That first couple of years, when we were young, it's was so important. We did it in every room. On the kitchen counter, Laundry Room, Jacuzzi --every possible place. As we got a little older and our marriage progressed, it was a little less important. We called it "Bedroom Sex" You know? We're already in bed, we're both awake, why not? The last phase we call "Hallway Sex." As we pass each other in the hallway, we both look at each other and say "Fck You!"


    Seriously? In a good marriage, it is not any more important than any other aspect of communication. I love sex and so does my wife, but if something were to happen and sex was no longer an option, it wouldn't change how much I love my wife or how much I am committed to her.

    So, I have to say 5.

    Good answer
  • dirty_dirty_eater
    dirty_dirty_eater Posts: 574 Member
    It changes as marriage goes on. Eventually, I think, the feeling you get when you touch each other changes from a rising passion to a deep comforting closeness.
    The challenge comes when one partner reaches that point years before the other.
    It's tough to reconcile my 7/10 with her 1/10.
  • Keiras_Mom
    Keiras_Mom Posts: 844 Member
    I think it ebbs and flows depending on whatever else is going on in your life and your relationship. I've been with my husband for 14 years, and there have been times it wasn't a priority. I don't think it ever really affected the level of love we have for each other, but there really is an increased feeling of intimacy when sex is a regular part of the relationship. We're going through a period of not being able to get enough of each other right now, and it's wonderful, but I don't expect it to be like this forever. When it tapers off, though, I know it'll return again in the future.
  • ldrosophila
    ldrosophila Posts: 7,512 Member
    These go to 11 because 11 is one louder.

    The man is probably closer to a 3 maybe 2.
  • TheBackStory
    TheBackStory Posts: 263
    I would say a 10. I'm needy that way.
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  • ldrosophila
    ldrosophila Posts: 7,512 Member
    9 - 10 with me, and our marriage has really suffered since we don't have it regularly

    and it does suffer when the numbers arent compatible. Eyes wander and imaginations roam for that higher number.
  • sizzle74
    sizzle74 Posts: 858 Member
    12
  • Jenn_Lyn1102
    Jenn_Lyn1102 Posts: 219 Member
    Def a 10!! :smooched:
  • SpeSHul_SnoflEHk
    SpeSHul_SnoflEHk Posts: 6,256 Member
    how important is sex in a marriage?

    I was having a conversation with someone this morning that said their neighbors have had sex once in 14 months.

    To me, sex is a 10. Ties close with communication in a marriage.

    Your thoughts?

    Is that once in 14 months with each other, or overall?
  • MizTerry
    MizTerry Posts: 3,763 Member
    It depends on the mutal agreement of both parties in the marriage.
  • suziepoo1984
    suziepoo1984 Posts: 915 Member
    Three stages of sex in a marriage. That first couple of years, when we were young, it's was so important. We did it in every room. On the kitchen counter, Laundry Room, Jacuzzi --every possible place. As we got a little older and our marriage progressed, it was a little less important. We called it "Bedroom Sex" You know? We're already in bed, we're both awake, why not? The last phase we call "Hallway Sex." As we pass each other in the hallway, we both look at each other and say "Fck You!"


    Seriously? In a good marriage, it is not any more important than any other aspect of communication. I love sex and so does my wife, but if something were to happen and sex was no longer an option, it wouldn't change how much I love my wife or how much I am committed to her.

    So, I have to say 5.

    ^^This. There are different stages in marriage. Sex is important, but not everything! There comes situations/stages when we are not in a good place physically/mentally, this is the situation when the real test of marriage happens! Its about compromising and understanding each others needs. So i would also say a 5.
  • Naomi0504
    Naomi0504 Posts: 964 Member
    I think it's different for everyone obviously, but in my 20s it would have been a 2....in my 30s it would be a 10.

    Gawd, I love my 30s.

    RIGHT!!!

    Yesssss!!
  • illuvatree
    illuvatree Posts: 185 Member
    I think a level of intimacy is definitely important! It doesn't have to be about sex --- some people are asexual and might not like it much after all, and everyone is different, but some sort of intimacy builds trust and bonding for sure. A lot of people achieve that with sex, but there are definitely other options. Massages, cuddling, etc. Or a combination of all of the above!

    While I agree with most of what you said, I feel like sex, the act of having sex not just "being intimate" is very very important.

    Thing is, some people just don't like sex, that's all :)
  • Mustgetbuff
    Mustgetbuff Posts: 267 Member
    I'd say a 7 or 8 but I think more important is just general contact. I love sex, but I love cuddling in front of the TV with my husband more than anything. I love him so much during those moments.
  • seltzermint555
    seltzermint555 Posts: 10,740 Member
    Yeah for me it is a 9+ My husband feels the same way, actually he would probably say it's 12 on a scale of 1-10 ;-)

    I was only kidding myself in my former marriage when I would say to friends (or to myself) that it really was not that important. Maybe for some people that is true but for me it's VERY important.

    Physical affection is also very important to me.

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