How do you even flirt?

heylookitsval

Usually I'll bust into a choreographed routine of Pat Benetar's Love is a Battlefield, shimmy and all...

I haven't gotten a date yet.

miss_jessiejane

I generally seduce people with awkwardness. 70% of the time, it works, every time.

ldrosophila

Gosh, I dont think I'd know how to flirt if it hit me over the head.

Not sure how you would do it with someone you are interested in. I just do the direct approach with my BF, but we've been together for a few years.

noemibp

Grab his package and wink. :drinker:

That would definitely get my attention

Lmao!

sheepysaccount

I'm just entering back into the single world after a long break so I can't really offer advice. I do wish you all the best though. Ill check back to see how things go!

Says the man who's pretty much sex on legs. I don't think you'll have too much trouble getting back on that horse. And thanks for checking back

Edwin_S

See this is me checking back! Sex on legs, Wow...that made me blush. You're a natural!

See you need to take that same ferocious passion you just said there and direct it at the man you’re interested in. The rest should fall into place naturally.

During the height of the storm you can’t always predict where lightening will strike, but you /can/ make sure you’re prepared for the thunder that follows.

Twinkielingus

I usually just say ..

If you give me a nickle, I will tickle your pickle. Works every time...

funforsports

I usually just say ..

If you give me a nickle, I will tickle your pickle. Works every time...

What if they don't have a nickel? Do you give discounts?

heylookitsval

I usually just say ..

If you give me a nickle, I will tickle your pickle. Works every time...

you're expensive...

StrongLife

Tell him he can come home with you and pick a hole...guys love that!

Lol! Those weren't the type of pickup lines when I was single.

FatHuMan1

I usually just say ..

If you give me a nickle, I will tickle your pickle. Works every time...

you're expensive...

Give me a dime I'll show you a good time.

Give me a dollar, I'll make you holla.

Give me a sawbuck, I'll give you a great f#@&

Give me a hundred, I'll roofie your *kitten*, tie you up in my basement and demand a ransom from your family.

sheepysaccount

See this is me checking back! Sex on legs, Wow...that made me blush. You're a natural!

See you need to take that same ferocious passion you just said there and direct it at the man you’re interested in. The rest should fall into place naturally.

During the height of the storm you can’t always predict where lightening will strike, but you /can/ make sure you’re prepared for the thunder that follows.

Thank you, Obi-Wan. I will try.

breezyleaf

Great post!!! I struggle with the same things!! A lot of great ideas i just may steal

breezyleaf

Ask him what he is doing tonight. Tell him its the wrong answer before he finishes. Tell him it should be you.

^^GENIUS!!!

breezyleaf

Drop an "if ya know what I mean" at the end of everything.

Target: Golly it sure is nice out today.
OP: Yeah the clouds are so fluffy...if ya know what I mean.
Target: Excuse me?
OP: I mean, the grass looks so green and luscious...if ya know what I mean.
Target: ...

Guaranteed success with this one OP, you can't go any more wrong than you're already going.

HHIILLAARRYOOUSSS!!!!

breezyleaf

Oh, and before all this flirtation stuff make sure that you are comfortable with you first. It's so important to feel attracted to yourself first! So do what you need to do to make yourself kinda check yerself out in the mirror and go "oh yeah!". Maybe some primping, waxing, epilating, killer eye makeup, yummie perfume, sexy boy lace panties, new hairstyle, basically whatever makes YOU feel sexy

And I would also suggest letting him do the asking unless he is super shy or something. This way there is no soul-crushing embarrassing let downs. Otherwise just keep the flirting low key, because as you said you wouldn't want to come off desperate or something. I know how you feel though, I used to have a big problem with confidence. It's gotten better over time, but it's still a work in progress.

And if you have social anxiety you might also consider seeing a therapist for treatment options, there are some prescription meds that can facilitate "getting out there". They can at least get your feet wet so social encounters with someone that you are attracted to will become less awkward. Eventually you may be able to drop the meds and be less anxious on your own as you get more and more used to being you and being semi-comfortable in front of the opposite sex.

Another crucial tip Thanks stealing this too!!

sectsandviolence

If ur not confident enough to talk to him straight out, then dont. But if u really want to, then make ur words real and fluid.
P.S. sorry to be so blunt, but get over this "i dont want a man to see me naked" blah, blah, blah
Whats sexier in bed, A self consious woman gripping on to her clothes in the sack? Or a confident full figured girl with possible demon in the sack qualities?

melsayshello

If ur not confident enough to talk to him straight out, then dont. But if u really want to, then make ur words real and fluid.
P.S. sorry to be so blunt, but get over this "i dont want a man to see me naked" blah, blah, blah
Whats sexier in bed, A self consious woman gripping on to her clothes in the sack? Or a confident full figured girl with possible demon in the sack qualities?

**** YEAH!

Oscarinmiami

Tell him he can come home with you and pick a hole...guys love that!

I love this woman

IwearBatmanUndies

As much as I know...I never know when a woman is flirting with me..unless its a guy, and he happens to have a lisp, and he's callin me daddy..*barf.:sick:

gimpy117

I just talk to a girl, hell I've been told a few times that the reason she flirted back was because I was fun to talk to and acting friendly and not creepy

the_oncomingstorm

How you doin'?