Ladies...need an opinion (I dont get it)

Dr_Flo
Dr_Flo Posts: 465
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So yesterday while I was at work I had a customer come in and talk with me about a purchase. We sat and chatted in my office for a while and as he's talking he says, "I mean what are you, like 40 something?"
For reference, Im 33.

Now I realize that I do have grey, Ive started to salt and pepper in the hair.. and Im not back to my best bod just yet.. but 40's?

I need an honest opinion.. do I look like Im that old? (Not that theres anything wrong with that, But I have a good 7 years till then)


Should I start dying my hair? I didnt think I needed to .. but Im gonna see what you guys think.
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  • PennyM140
    PennyM140 Posts: 423 Member
    I do not think you look 40. Have other people said something or just the one customer?
  • ThePlight
    ThePlight Posts: 3,593 Member
    You should only bother with it if it really matters to you.
    Do you particularly care what others think?
    Does it really bother you so much? (I'm guessing it sort of does, but levels cannot be interpreted through the internet...)
    Only do what you deem necessary and what YOU feel comfortable with. If you're not comfortable with something, change it :)
  • CassandraBurgos83
    CassandraBurgos83 Posts: 544 Member
    No, not to me.
  • ren_ascent
    ren_ascent Posts: 432 Member
    Based on your pic, you look true to age. Some people are just bad at judging age.
  • guppygirl322
    guppygirl322 Posts: 408 Member
    No, You don't look like you're in your 40's. That being said, I AM in my 40's and don't think I look it. So, 40 must be the new 30 so don't be offended!
  • gabbygirl78
    gabbygirl78 Posts: 936 Member
    No i would have guessed late twenties or early thirties..... definitely not 40
  • So_Much_Fab
    So_Much_Fab Posts: 1,146 Member
    You don't look old to me...and you're pretty cute, to boot!
  • A_nonymous2
    A_nonymous2 Posts: 366 Member
    Maybe it was more a statement of your professionalism or something like that and not motivated at all by physical appearance. I'd take it as a compliment. Esp. since he did business with you.
  • jaecobb86
    jaecobb86 Posts: 25 Member
    You look fine. I work with children, so I am used to having my age skewed daily. I have been told that I look 38...

    No worries my friend, just live your life!
  • jenilla1
    jenilla1 Posts: 11,118 Member
    I don't think you look forty - more like mid thirties. But If it's forty, then it's a good-looking forty, so don't even worry about it. I bet it's the hair that threw the guy off. I personally think a little grey hair is adorable. DON'T dye it!!! :flowerforyou:
  • echofm1
    echofm1 Posts: 471 Member
    Really, it can be hard to tell the difference between 30 and 40. I wouldn't take it too hard. I think you look fine.
  • shining_light
    shining_light Posts: 384 Member
    Dude, three of my fiance's friends are in their mid-to-late 20s and near bald. All shave their heads because their male-pattern baldness is so bad. It does make them look older, so I can't blame them for shaving it(damn that extra testosterone, hey? :laugh: ). Greying hair at a young age ain't so bad. My ex's dad started to grey in his 20s, and so I'd always tease my ex that, "Oh, I think you've got a grey hair there".

    Don't let it get to you. If it's that big of a concern to you that some people might perceive you as older, then do what you have to do. From your picture, there's no way I would say you look like you're in your 40s. Otherwise, I think you should be comfortable and confident in how you look. I think hair dye looks really "fake" on a lot of guys and they're better off showing that bit of grey.

    Also, I'm a terrible judge of age. My parents have always consistently looked about 10 years younger than their age(my mother has legitimately been confused for being my sister despite always dressing and acting maturely), so to me, EVERYBODY looks old. Lol. :tongue:
  • ThinLizzie0802
    ThinLizzie0802 Posts: 863 Member
    I think you need more male opinions on the subject because it was a man who passed the judgement. Men probably look for different ques of age than women, and like a previous poster said, it may have been the fact that it was a business dealing and you were in your office. This can make you authoritative in the situation and make you seen older than you are, rather than look older than you are.
  • walleyclan1
    walleyclan1 Posts: 2,784 Member
    I would guess early to mid 30's. You look good, no worries.
  • kenyonl85
    kenyonl85 Posts: 217 Member
    As a gay male, I'll say you don't look near 40 at all. Very handsome guy, I wouldn't worry about it too much. My bf who is 24 is dying to have salt and pepper hair already...consider yourself blessed.
  • climbing_trees
    climbing_trees Posts: 726 Member
    To me, I'd guess mid/late 30s. I am pretty young though (22), less experienced guessing ages, I usually try to avoid it so I don't accidentally offend someone haha. None of my male peers have mustaches, so that adds a few years. Definitely don't think 40 though!

    Nothing wrong with salt and pepper hair! My dad had it since before I was born, and I feel like it is a sign of maturity.
  • hbrittingham
    hbrittingham Posts: 2,518 Member
    I would have guessed you at your early 30s. I am 46 and there is no way you look even close to my age to me.
  • JilloftheDead
    JilloftheDead Posts: 296 Member
    You look on par for mid 30s to me! :) And totally don't colour your hair! I love the distinguished salt and pepper look!
  • MissDeeDee78
    MissDeeDee78 Posts: 415 Member
    You have a mature look and there's nothing wrong with that. You look no where close to 40!
  • lauren3101
    lauren3101 Posts: 1,853 Member
    No, I don't think you look 40. But I'm basing that on one picture; don't forget that people can assume you are older based on your personality and attitude as well. People have always thought I am older because I 'grew up' sooner than a lot of people my age and had a different lifestyle.
  • Kimdbro
    Kimdbro Posts: 922 Member
    You don't look anywhere near 40... some people have skewered age estimations. This person was likely just not very good at estimating age. Also, perhaps it was more about your personality, how you carry yourself, or speak. Many people are "old souled" happens a lot when people have lived or seen a lot, they seem 'wise beyond their years' so to speak. Your profile states you're former army.... I'm guessing you've seen some stuff, been through a lot, and likely carry yourself in a less carefree way that people would associate with youthfulness. Don't frett about it, S&P hair is sexy, I know very few women that don't find it attractive. Keep it, it adds character. George Clooney would never have been the sex symbol he became without having had his trademark s&p hair.
  • Dr_Flo
    Dr_Flo Posts: 465
    Thank you guys for your opinions .. I appreciate it.. I just wanted to make sure I wasnt going crazy. I mean I am very professional in the way i deal with the customers.
    Im a goof with my friends..

    But I didnt think I looked like I was in my 40s.

    This guy was probably 43, 44 .. so he thought we were the same age.. yeah no.

    If any of you would like to add me as a friend please do.. I always appreciate the support here.

    So dont dye it huh ?
  • jboccio90
    jboccio90 Posts: 644 Member
    I am one that is bad a at judging age, if you decide to color your hair get color that blends grey hair rather than covers it up completely.
  • BusyRaeNOTBusty
    BusyRaeNOTBusty Posts: 7,166 Member
    Eh, people are going to assume because of the grey, but no, you don't have to dye it. A lot of women (and I guess men) like the "salt and pepper" thing.


    Also, I creeped your profile, and want to thank you for your service. Happy Veteran's Day. :flowerforyou:
  • 22sep2013
    22sep2013 Posts: 13 Member
    NO NO you don't look like you are forty ... you actually look your age
    I wouldn't advice dying your hair ... it may look ridiculous ... but mostly salt and pepper is sexy
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    I think it's the goatee.

    I could buy 40s, but also 33. You're kind of age ambiguous.
  • Naomi0504
    Naomi0504 Posts: 964 Member
    I would guess early to mid 30's. You look good, no worries.

    I agree with this
  • Jennloella
    Jennloella Posts: 2,286 Member
    I've never been good at guessing age because is my line of work everyone looks younger than they are, but please please do not dye your hair. It looks great.
  • MatthewLewis81
    MatthewLewis81 Posts: 59 Member
    I'm not a lady (hopefully that's obvious!), but had to chime in because I just had a similar experience, but in the role of your customer instead of you.

    Basically, I saw a guy who had the same color hair and similar facial features to my wife's uncle, who is around 50. I could tell the guy wasn't that old, but I guessed low 40's. I was surprised to find out he was my own age (I'm 32), but once I found out, I could see that my original guess was way off. So maybe you just reminded your customer of some older person they know.

    Frankly, in my opinion it's always best to age gracefully. People tend to notice efforts to evade aging (like dying hair, etc.) and that always results in jokes and a worse social impression than the effects of aging could cause. Better just to keep up a professional appearance (which can be done at any age) and be comfortable and confident with your natural appearance. (Again, my opinion.)
  • FerretBuellerr
    FerretBuellerr Posts: 468 Member
    I think it's the goatee.

    I could buy 40s, but also 33. You're kind of age ambiguous.

    I agree with her. But when I say 40s, I'm thinking early 40s (40-43 at max) and not meaning that in a negative way. You look like a very attractive man!

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