Posting your relationship on facebook

AryaSnow
AryaSnow Posts: 26
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I'm in a distance relationship and my boyfriend said he doesn't want to change his relationship status on facebook after us meeting and being together for 2 weeks, saying that he's not very social and he doesn't want to explain to people about dating a foreign chick. He says he wants us to be in a relationship and he's taking it seriously, he doesn't want to cheat or anything, but it just seems to me like he's embarassed to tell people that we're together. How do you guys feel about changing your relationship status on facebook?
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  • miss_jessiejane
    miss_jessiejane Posts: 2,819 Member
    I feel like my relationship status on facebook has very little do with my relationship.
  • Nouurann
    Nouurann Posts: 183 Member
    I never like posting my relationships on Facebook. I've never had a long distance one, but I still never appreciated the broadcasting of a relationship or a (potential) break up. Maybe he's the same way?
  • BusyRaeNOTBusty
    BusyRaeNOTBusty Posts: 7,166 Member
    I'm in a distance relationship and my boyfriend said he doesn't want to change his relationship status on facebook after us meeting and being together for 2 weeks, saying that he's not very social and he doesn't want to explain to people about dating a foreign chick. He says he wants us to be in a relationship and he's taking it seriously, he doesn't want to cheat or anything, but it just seems to me like he's embarassed to tell people that we're together. How do you guys feel about changing your relationship status on facebook?

    That's not really a good sign.
  • escloflowneCHANGED
    escloflowneCHANGED Posts: 3,038 Member
    I'm still single on FB but my girlfriend doesn't have a FB account so what she doesn't know won't hurt her, it's nice to have all those women still throw themselves at me and flirt with all of them!
  • iamanadult
    iamanadult Posts: 709 Member
    How to you expect him to pick up a side piece if he changes his relationship status?
  • silver_arrow3
    silver_arrow3 Posts: 1,373 Member
    I'm still single on FB but my girlfriend doesn't have a FB account so what she doesn't know won't hurt her, it's nice to have all those women still throw themselves at me and flirt with all of them!

    How YOU doin'? :wink:
  • Timshel_
    Timshel_ Posts: 22,834 Member
    I just keep mine as single or no women hit on me and send nood photo.
  • SofaKingRad_II
    SofaKingRad_II Posts: 591
    That's cause for a breakup. Facebook relationship status is serious and should not be discounted as something that is not important. Facebook is EVERYTHING!
  • Nouurann
    Nouurann Posts: 183 Member
    I'm still single on FB but my girlfriend doesn't have a FB account so what she doesn't know won't hurt her, it's nice to have all those women still throw themselves at me and flirt with all of them!
    Don't think you're making her feel any better :noway:
  • escloflowneCHANGED
    escloflowneCHANGED Posts: 3,038 Member
    I'm still single on FB but my girlfriend doesn't have a FB account so what she doesn't know won't hurt her, it's nice to have all those women still throw themselves at me and flirt with all of them!

    How YOU doin'? :wink:

    Hey, I heard you got yourself a new guy friend lately, as long as your status isn't changed on FB, it's not cheating!
  • odusgolp
    odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
    I'll never change my FB status to "in a relationship with", until they allow me to list everyone I'm "in a relationship with." It's only fair. Don't want to leave anyone out.
  • ldrosophila
    ldrosophila Posts: 7,512 Member
    IDK dont let FB drama get to you. I mean you could tag him in photos of the two of you if you kind of wanted to do it underhanded, and let the side women know youre an item.
  • sweetpea03b
    sweetpea03b Posts: 1,123 Member
    I feel like my relationship status on facebook has very little do with my relationship.

    This.
  • BigCupOTea
    BigCupOTea Posts: 66
    Facebook is stupid for this very reason.
  • Nouurann
    Nouurann Posts: 183 Member
    IDK dont let FB drama get to you. I mean you could tag him in photos of the two of you if you kind of wanted to do it underhanded, and let the side women know youre an item.

    Smart!!
  • So_Much_Fab
    So_Much_Fab Posts: 1,146 Member
    I changed my status to 'in a relationship' once...then I felt like a dork when I had to change it back to 'single'. I wouldn't change it again unless I got married or engaged.
  • randomtai
    randomtai Posts: 9,003 Member
    Facebook is stupid for this very reason.

    Qft!
  • KindredSouls
    KindredSouls Posts: 188 Member
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  • CorvusCorax77
    CorvusCorax77 Posts: 2,536 Member
    Facebook is stupid for this very reason.

    ^this.

    Seriously??? you are worried about his FB status??? Have you ever been through a break up while having your reltationship status on FB? ever have to deal with all the drama and comments when it goes from "in a relationship" to "single"????

    If FB is dictating your emotions this much, time to deactivate gurl.
  • Miss_Meliss86
    Miss_Meliss86 Posts: 372 Member
    I'm still single on FB but my girlfriend doesn't have a FB account so what she doesn't know won't hurt her, it's nice to have all those women still throw themselves at me and flirt with all of them!

    Oh don't worry. I'm just going to save over your file on Zelda tonight
  • escloflowneCHANGED
    escloflowneCHANGED Posts: 3,038 Member
    I'm still single on FB but my girlfriend doesn't have a FB account so what she doesn't know won't hurt her, it's nice to have all those women still throw themselves at me and flirt with all of them!

    Oh don't worry. I'm just going to save over your file on Zelda tonight

    Ok let's not go crazy here! It was a joke!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
  • vtmoon
    vtmoon Posts: 3,436 Member
    Lol @ people who care about what their relationship says on a website versus reality.

    Fun answer:
    He is a player and doesn't want to be locked down by the Facebook status because he is trying to play the field and conquer as many ladies as he can. You should break up with him because this is a big red flag of his lack of commitment, next you are going to tell me he doesn't want to be in a relationship with you on MySpace or doesn't want to label you on his phone as future wife!

    Real Answer:
    If you are happy in your relationship with him and he is being genuine with you, do you think the extra showcasing on Facebook will some how enhance or change that? the only thing it changes is now you are just adding extra people's opinions into your relationship. But if you are a person who cares that much about others' opinions, or you need that self esteem boost from having a website status declare you are in a relationship to a bunch of people you barely see or talk to, then force him to do it. If he doesn't, then break up and move on to someone who is willing to meet your expectations in a relationship (declare love on Facebook).
  • missomgitsica
    missomgitsica Posts: 496 Member
    What Facebook says about your relationship has very little to do with your actual relatinoship. But the fact that you're insecure/worried about him not wanting to put it on Facebook means that you don't trust him, and that's a red flag.
  • Mia_RagazzaTosta
    Mia_RagazzaTosta Posts: 4,885 Member
    Facebook? That's still around?
  • FerretBuellerr
    FerretBuellerr Posts: 468 Member
    When I was in high school, this was something I cared a lot about. Why, I don't really know.

    Now that I'm not in high school and above that high school mentality, I don't care nearly as much anymore. I like to have it showing because I think I'm a little OCD about things like that (I'm one of few friends I have on FB that actually keep their job and education sections up to date because the innacurracies drive me crazy!) but I know that even if it's not up, everyone that matters would still know who I'm dating. The people (in my experiences) that hide when they are single or are in a relationship is just because they have dealt with so much drama in the past regarding who they are or are not in relationships with that they don't want to deal with it anymore.

    If it's important to you, just ask why he hasn't - he is your boyfriend after all, you are allowed :laugh: . Maybe he doesn't want to change it because your relationship is still new - wait a few more weeks at least before mentioning it to him.

    And if him not putting up his relationship status with you is a relationship ended, then I'm sorry sweetie, but you may not have been mature enough to handle a relationship in the first place.
  • mammamaurer
    mammamaurer Posts: 418 Member
    both mine and my husband state "married" and sometimes we even mean to each other



    bacon
  • gabbygirl78
    gabbygirl78 Posts: 936 Member
    Really? You don't have to post EVERYTHING about your life on Facebook... Some people like their love life to be a mystery....The one's who really need to know your are in a relationship already do I'm sure.:flowerforyou:
  • ironmonkeystyle
    ironmonkeystyle Posts: 834 Member
    Facebook? That's still around?

    bingo.
  • ercarroll311
    ercarroll311 Posts: 295 Member
    My boyfriend of a year has never accepted my relationship request. It bothered me at first (because of part two of my story) but I've come to see that he definitely is all in. He's never seemed too interested in putting stuff on Facebook, but I am 100% sure it's not a bad thing.

    That said, the boyfriend before him refused to put anything on Facebook and used the same reasoning (doesn't want people in his business, etc). This was an early sign of his dedication to me, I found fairly quickly it was because he used Facebook to chat with girls and didn't want anyone to know about me.

    My best advice is, let your relationship with him tell you whether this is a red flag or not. If it is, there will be a million other signs. It's harder to see them sometimes in long distance relationships, but you will. If this is just a little quirk of his, you'll know that too. Your instincts should tell you if this is the guys for you or not. Pay attention to his actions, how he interacts with you on Facebook, etc. One small thing like this could be a sign or it could be nothing, but giving things time and looking at them as a whole rather than focusing on a detail like this has always worked better for me in relationships.
  • fivethreeone
    fivethreeone Posts: 8,196 Member
    Delete your FB. Problem solved.

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