Weight loss jealousy

sugaspice999

OMG, I'm going through the same thing (though I'm still not as fit as I'd like to be).

Mostly with my sister! Especially because I fit into some of her clothes from before she gained some weight (shes 14). She's going through the same thing I did/am and I'm really want to be there for her, but she just kind of ignores me now and is extremely condescending to the point where I can't even connect with her anymore. But she's like this with the whole family most of the time, just more with me.

You're already not boasting and talking 24/7 about working out/eating vegetables etc and how your life has changed for the better, so I don't really know what else you can even do. For me, I just try to not wear her clothes around her, and try to support her as much I can. Your coworkers are going to be jealous, because seems like they are not your true friends. If they were, they would stick by you and be proud of you!

I lost a LOT of friends when I lost the weight! But I now realize they weren't really actual "friends". My parents were crazy slaphappy when I lost the weight and kept asking me tips/advice etc but it was weird for me because my ed had originally started from the abusive comments. It's actually funny when people say "oh, you look too skinny...anorexic...blah blah blah" but then they're also like "so how did you lose the weight...how much do you exercise...what type of exercise do you do?...can I come to the gym with you?....what are you eating?" LMAO I always get asked what I'm eating and if I'll take a gym buddy -_-

Just be proud of your weight loss and let the haters hate and be jelly!!!

(Ps, awesome transformation, you look amazing! )

marieskee

They are secretly wishing it was then. They are laughing off the pain. It's hard for them to see you happy and a changed person. They are afraid of change. I don't know just a few options.

Cali_Chica

MercenaryNoetic26

Just hold your head up high and be happy for you. Stay fabulous. Eventually, they'll get accustomed to the new you and forget about it. If not, oh well.

buffywhitney

Thanks everybody! Your sweet comments and encouragement are appreciated .

pinkfanatic68

Sometimes as we get better..take steps to take care of ourselves.. others around us may get worse. Especially family members. You'd think they'd be the first ones to support you and cheer you on. :frown I learned this my first time going through inpatient treatment for my eating disorder. I think Dr. Phil refers to the person in need of treatment/therapy as the "identified patient". Example is my disorder and its symptoms were most obvious, and stirred up the dust and skeletons in my family's closet, so-to-speak. So they reacted in response to my disordered behavior. Then when I began working on myself, setting boundaries with them, etc... Well this caused a real shift in our relationships. During the times when I was/am refraining from my disordered behavior. They didn't have me for their scapegoat to blame all family problems on me. They had/have to look at themselves. We know how hard it is to get honest with ourselves about certain things. It's threatening to the status quo. It's like unburying family skeletons and secrets. It's hard to take, I know. :frown: It's so hard to accept that their reaction to your new healthy behavior is THEIR problem and they're trying to make it your problem. It doesn't lessen the hurt we feel when others turn on us. I'm glad you're reaching out for support from those (us) who have your best interest at heart.

pinkfanatic68

I almost feel sorry for those who can't be happy for someone else's achievements, etc... Misery loves company and they want to bring you down with them. I just don't understand feeling the need to bully/put others down to make myself feel good. Be proud of yourself for taking the necessary steps to take care of yourself.