Ms. New Booty

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  • BeachIron
    BeachIron Posts: 6,490 Member
    OP, did your bf threaten to break up with you if you didn't achieve said physical look?

    No way he's just idk.. Its not mandatory but it would be nice

    Oh good, then he isn't the d-bag that others were trying to accuse him of being.

    You have to ask yourself a few questions. Do you want a bigger/nicer butt? If no, are you willing to work on getting one solely for him?

    You could also suggest some nice heels he could buy you that would help accentuate what you have.
  • meshashesha2012
    meshashesha2012 Posts: 8,329 Member
    Sure that's no different. Having bank balance at the top of your list is just as questionable as demanding that your S/O is worth showing off ...

    What's wrong with showing off your SO?

    How frigg'n "deep" does someone have to be for you all?

    Apparently you can only be interested in someone intellectually and not care in the least about their physical appearance. Although, I don't know how a thread about someone's BF wanting them to be better at math or science would go over.

    probably the same. especially if the bf (like in the this example) knew that the girl he was dating wasnt good at math when they first met. i dont understand the logic of expecting some sort of alchemy to happen in people's bodies (or math or science abilities) once they become your SO.

    there's a difference between caring about someone's physical appearance and knowing exactly what you're getting and then later saying the other person should change.

    Well, if he started dating her despite of her lack of curves, I think it would be safe to assume that he is into her as a person. And while him expressing his desire for her to have a certain physical attribute he finds attractive constantly isn't the most tactful way to approach it, I do think that romantic partners should be able to talk honestly with each other about that sort of thing.

    Like if I was dating a girl and she told me she thinks it would be hot if I had nicer arms or shoulders. I would likely move that particular thing up on my priority list while in the gym.

    let's go back to the OP, shall we
    Can someone please tell me what I can do to get wider hips and not just a bigger booty but one that sits high. My bf constantly tells me I need to get one I really don't care but Im starting to feel really self conscious about it. I'm a small framed black Asian and Ethiopian female I wasn't born with big hips or a butt and its embarrassing can someone help me PLEASE!

    considering the temporal impossibility of her becoming his gf BEFORE she was born or before they met, logic would dictate that this guy (i'm assuming he wasn't blind and handless when they first met and didnt becoming sighted and handed afterward. OP please correct me if i'm wrong) knew what she looked like before he became her bf.

    it's just kind of sucky to tell your partner after you're with them that they should to change something they were full aware you had (or didnt have in this instance). it'd be different if she started out with padankadonk and then one night a%$ bandits came and stole her butt and he's asking her to replace what was lost...

    as to my relationship status, don't worry boo. you arent my type and you couldnt handle this anyway :wink:
  • wheird
    wheird Posts: 7,963 Member
    OP, did your bf threaten to break up with you if you didn't achieve said physical look?

    No way he's just idk.. Its not mandatory but it would be nice

    Oh good, then he isn't the d-bag that others were trying to accuse him of being.

    You have to ask yourself a few questions. Do you want a bigger/nicer butt? If no, are you willing to work on getting one solely for him?

    You could also suggest some nice heels he could buy you that would help accentuate what you have.

    There you go, trying to suggest her boyfriend dictate her footwear. :angry:
  • wheird
    wheird Posts: 7,963 Member
    Sure that's no different. Having bank balance at the top of your list is just as questionable as demanding that your S/O is worth showing off ...

    What's wrong with showing off your SO?

    How frigg'n "deep" does someone have to be for you all?

    Apparently you can only be interested in someone intellectually and not care in the least about their physical appearance. Although, I don't know how a thread about someone's BF wanting them to be better at math or science would go over.

    probably the same. especially if the bf (like in the this example) knew that the girl he was dating wasnt good at math when they first met. i dont understand the logic of expecting some sort of alchemy to happen in people's bodies (or math or science abilities) once they become your SO.

    there's a difference between caring about someone's physical appearance and knowing exactly what you're getting and then later saying the other person should change.

    Well, if he started dating her despite of her lack of curves, I think it would be safe to assume that he is into her as a person. And while him expressing his desire for her to have a certain physical attribute he finds attractive constantly isn't the most tactful way to approach it, I do think that romantic partners should be able to talk honestly with each other about that sort of thing.

    Like if I was dating a girl and she told me she thinks it would be hot if I had nicer arms or shoulders. I would likely move that particular thing up on my priority list while in the gym.

    let's go back to the OP, shall we
    Can someone please tell me what I can do to get wider hips and not just a bigger booty but one that sits high. My bf constantly tells me I need to get one I really don't care but Im starting to feel really self conscious about it. I'm a small framed black Asian and Ethiopian female I wasn't born with big hips or a butt and its embarrassing can someone help me PLEASE!

    considering the temporal impossibility of her becoming his gf BEFORE she was born or before they met, logic would dictate that this guy (i'm assuming he wasn't blind and handless when they first met and didnt becoming sighted and handed afterward. OP please correct me if i'm wrong) knew what she looked like before he became her bf.

    it's just kind of sucky to tell your partner after you're with them that they should to change something they were full aware you had (or didnt have in this instance). it'd be different if she started out with padankadonk and then one night a%$ bandits came and stole her butt and he's asking her to replace what was lost...

    I can't even properly address this after the *kitten* bandits line. :laugh:
  • BusyRaeNOTBusty
    BusyRaeNOTBusty Posts: 7,166 Member
    I've been married almost 10 years and my husband would ike me to look like Jamie Eason....


    I think it's fine to make random comments about your appearance as long as it doesn't hurt your feelings. When it DOES hurt your feelings, this is where you need to talk to him about it. Most people cannot read minds. You have to tell them when something is bothering you.
  • wheird
    wheird Posts: 7,963 Member
    I've been married almost 10 years and my husband would ike me to look like Jamie Eason....


    I think it's fine to make random comments about your appearance as long as it doesn't hurt your feelings. When it DOES hurt your feelings, this is where you need to talk to him about it. Most people cannot read minds. You have to tell them when something is bothering you.

    Mirin' your reasonable comment and squat form.
  • BeachIron
    BeachIron Posts: 6,490 Member
    OP, did your bf threaten to break up with you if you didn't achieve said physical look?

    No way he's just idk.. Its not mandatory but it would be nice

    Oh good, then he isn't the d-bag that others were trying to accuse him of being.

    You have to ask yourself a few questions. Do you want a bigger/nicer butt? If no, are you willing to work on getting one solely for him?

    You could also suggest some nice heels he could buy you that would help accentuate what you have.

    There you go, trying to suggest her boyfriend dictate her footwear. :angry:

    The idea is to turn the OP into a complete arm piece, right?
  • ironanimal
    ironanimal Posts: 5,922 Member
    Hips are a fixed size.

    Squats will lift your butt.

    Telling that **** to shut his mouth or dumping him will make you feel better.
  • wheird
    wheird Posts: 7,963 Member
    OP, did your bf threaten to break up with you if you didn't achieve said physical look?

    No way he's just idk.. Its not mandatory but it would be nice

    Oh good, then he isn't the d-bag that others were trying to accuse him of being.

    You have to ask yourself a few questions. Do you want a bigger/nicer butt? If no, are you willing to work on getting one solely for him?

    You could also suggest some nice heels he could buy you that would help accentuate what you have.

    There you go, trying to suggest her boyfriend dictate her footwear. :angry:

    The idea is to turn the OP into a complete arm piece, right?

    Who on earth would want that?
  • BeachIron
    BeachIron Posts: 6,490 Member
    I've been married almost 10 years and my husband would ike me to look like Jamie Eason....


    I think it's fine to make random comments about your appearance as long as it doesn't hurt your feelings. When it DOES hurt your feelings, this is where you need to talk to him about it. Most people cannot read minds. You have to tell them when something is bothering you.

    Mirin' your reasonable comment and squat form.

    ^ dis
  • BeachIron
    BeachIron Posts: 6,490 Member
    OP, did your bf threaten to break up with you if you didn't achieve said physical look?

    No way he's just idk.. Its not mandatory but it would be nice

    Oh good, then he isn't the d-bag that others were trying to accuse him of being.

    You have to ask yourself a few questions. Do you want a bigger/nicer butt? If no, are you willing to work on getting one solely for him?

    You could also suggest some nice heels he could buy you that would help accentuate what you have.

    There you go, trying to suggest her boyfriend dictate her footwear. :angry:

    The idea is to turn the OP into a complete arm piece, right?

    Who on earth would want that?

    clearly only an uneducated, shallow, d-bag with a small tool . . .





    and by "tool" I mean back hoe
  • Slrajr
    Slrajr Posts: 438 Member
    I didn't say it wasn't a factor. If you -properly- read my post, I said it should not be top of your list.

    I'd rather have someone intelligent, who could read, and who had a sense of humour, for example ... ;)

    Clearly this must be your first encounter with both BeachIron and myself. We're both two of the most intelligent guys on this website and pretty damn funny. :wink:

    I agree with the pretty darn funny part! ^this is :laugh: Pretty darn funny
  • 777Gemma888
    777Gemma888 Posts: 9,578 Member
    Can someone please tell me what I can do to get wider hips and not just a bigger booty but one that sits high. My bf constantly tells me I need to get one I really don't care but Im starting to feel really self conscious about it. I'm a small framed black Asian and Ethiopian female I wasn't born with big hips or a butt and its embarrassing can someone help me PLEASE!

    Agree with the suggestions on the first page. For your hips, you could try focusing on the gluteus medius, minimus and maximus muscles. Side lunges should work using heavy dumbbells. What are your stats? If you were to provide them, we might have a clearer picture, thereby allowing us to assist you better.
  • tehboxingkitteh
    tehboxingkitteh Posts: 1,574 Member
    OP, did your bf threaten to break up with you if you didn't achieve said physical look?

    No way he's just idk.. Its not mandatory but it would be nice
    Okay good. Just wanted to make sure there wasn't more going on behind the scenes.

    Do what makes you happy, but there's nothing wrong with also trying to please your partner. Try talking to them. If it bothers you, let them kknow. Maybe there's a happy medium? Or something that you'd like him to also change for you?
  • Cali_Chica
    Cali_Chica Posts: 895 Member
    If you aren't built with wide hips, you probably can't do much about it. If you work on slimming your waist it might give the illusion of wider hips though. Target your glutes with glute bridges, weighted kick backs, squats and deadlifts. You can add muscle mass with these exercises.

    As for the boyfriend....sweetie, don't let ANY man dictate your self-image. We are all built differently and beautiful in our own unique way. Embrace your assets.
  • BusyRaeNOTBusty
    BusyRaeNOTBusty Posts: 7,166 Member
    I've been married almost 10 years and my husband would ike me to look like Jamie Eason....


    I think it's fine to make random comments about your appearance as long as it doesn't hurt your feelings. When it DOES hurt your feelings, this is where you need to talk to him about it. Most people cannot read minds. You have to tell them when something is bothering you.

    Mirin' your reasonable comment and squat form.

    ^ dis

    Thanks to the both of you. :drinker:
  • Care76
    Care76 Posts: 556 Member
    I personally think it is cruel to ask you to change your body type if it is something you can't control. If it doesn't bother you then you can do some heavy lifting to try and build your bum and maybe get some more curves. I'm not sure if it will be what you (or he) wants as every person is different and will achieve different results. You can always go have plastic surgery if you want to go that far.

    I'm thankful I have a husband who loves me for who I am and wouldn't try to get me to change something that I wasn't able to change. Telling a partner you would like it if they lost some weight or cut their hair is OK, but it's hard to get something you never had, like hips, bum, breasts, etc. My husband has never even told me he would like me to lose weight. He supports me in whatever I decide to do. For the record we have lived together for 19.5 years and been married for 13. I definitely do not look like I did 20 years ago, I was hot lol. But neither does he. He still tells me he thinks I'm hot though, but I think it's because he loves me so much he doesn't see what I see.

    I hope whatever you do you reach happiness and that it is for you, not somebody else's happiness.
  • MisterDerpington
    MisterDerpington Posts: 604 Member
    Let's all read into things when we don't know how the conversation went. Yaaaay MFP!
  • 777Gemma888
    777Gemma888 Posts: 9,578 Member
    Can someone please tell me what I can do to get wider hips and not just a bigger booty but one that sits high. My bf constantly tells me I need to get one I really don't care but Im starting to feel really self conscious about it. I'm a small framed black Asian and Ethiopian female I wasn't born with big hips or a butt and its embarrassing can someone help me PLEASE!

    Agree with the suggestions on the first page. For your hips, you could try focusing on the gluteus medius, minimus and maximus muscles. Side lunges should work using heavy dumbbells. What are your stats? If you were to provide them, we might have a clearer picture, thereby allowing us to assist you better.

    You should also inculcate weighted side and back dragging. Just bear in mind, changes will not happen overnight or as quickly as you might need them to.

    ETA: It's more effective if your chosen weights are at the heaviest you can withstand, to complete reps rotation.
  • LaLa482
    LaLa482 Posts: 82 Member
    I wasn't planning on commenting until I noticed your race. (Full discourse, I'm half habesha as well, but my mom gave me more than enough derriere, and for that I am grateful.)

    You can do some exercises to make it look different/lift it or even some to make your legs and back look better but sorry sweetie, it is often genetic.

    Good luck to you and your quest to a new booty! :) Like cinneadh said, embrace your assets!

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