What would push you to divorce?

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  • Phildog47
    Phildog47 Posts: 255 Member
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    I'll let you know...
  • Alisontheice
    Alisontheice Posts: 9,624 Member
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    And husband at the tender age of 40 something deciding he would rather party and visit strip clubs with his single friend. Someone who tries to emotionally abuse you. This is what pushed me to divorce.
  • scottalanlong
    scottalanlong Posts: 3 Member
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    Buy him a video game 'stead of a tool. That's his love language...Shheeeesh.
  • kkzmom11
    kkzmom11 Posts: 220 Member
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    - abuse in any form towards me, our potential children or animals
    - alcoholism, drug abuse or gambling addiction that was seriously deteriorating our family (and I'm talking about after getting help and the relapses keep happening)


    i think thats about it

    I would agree with this. I think many things can be worked out, but this is not tolerable.
  • simsburyjet
    simsburyjet Posts: 999 Member
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    I thnk a double chin or backfat
  • jenifr818
    jenifr818 Posts: 805 Member
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    Disavowing being a 49er fan. For reals.

    A.C.E. Certified Personal/Group FitnessTrainer
    IDEA Fitness member
    Kickboxing Certified Instructor
    Been in fitness for 30 years and have studied kinesiology and nutrition

    You sound like my in-laws. Apparently if I ever say the words War Eagle or Go Vols around them, I'm toast
  • amymt10
    amymt10 Posts: 271 Member
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    It wasn't the cheating that did it for me. It was the fact that she couldn't stay away from him when we were supposedly working it out.

    That's one of the reasons my 1st marriage ended. He kept cheating even though he was caught. I told him to choose his girlfriend or wife, he said wife but kept seeing the gf. Peace out!!!!!!!! I'll make the choice for ya, bye bye. The verbal and emotional abuse was heard enough then you add the cheating.

    Now i have the most awesome husband!!!!!! He treats me better than I ever thought a guy could treat a girl. I hit the jackpot the 2nd time around ;)
  • morethenjustmum
    morethenjustmum Posts: 170 Member
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    do every kid of late life divorced parent a huge favour and don't stay together for the children.
    It doesn't work. Its equally as hard at 12 as it is at 2, they know whats going on and it sets a horrible precedent for them
    he sounds like a douche, he made promises I assume , ones he's not keeping.
    If you have every looked at divorce papers some of the reasons for filling are
    fraud - he is a fat liar
    irreconcilable differences
    alienation of affection is one I think

    questions
    are you miserable?
    have you tried everything?
    do YOU want to move on and be happy?
  • dawnsjourney
    dawnsjourney Posts: 80 Member
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    I left my husband because he loved, and I mean LOVED to share his penis with everyone!!!! I'm a nice girl and all, but that does not work for me.
  • mojohowitz
    mojohowitz Posts: 900 Member
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    1.Infidelity
    2. Financial infidelity
    3. Nagging
    4. Chemical dependency
    5. "Letting her/himself go."
    6. Mental illness. (It may not be your fault but its your problem. Get help.)
    7. Violence
    8. Being a fan of Ted Nugent
    9. Wearing camo
    10. Shooting flaming arrows at guitars.
  • amymt10
    amymt10 Posts: 271 Member
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    What about selfishness, addiction to videos games and lack of emotion or communication? One who will have his mother watch his one year old daughter so he can play his video game first thing when he gets home till he falls asleep.. doesn't pick up after himself. Takes his wife for granted working a full time job, coming home to be mommy and house wife at the same time? One who can't buy a simple card for his wife on her birth day when the month before his wife bought him a 800$ tool he isn't using because of a video game. One who snaps at his wife for tryin to go to bed for work in the am, asking to get off the game. So his wife sleeps in another room. One who say he knows he has things to work on but does nothing? One who is 30 years old and has do much potential but choses to throw it away? Or a spouse that has had good conversations with you on positive Change who doesn't even bother to nag anymore?

    I'm just curious... would this be a cause or am I the selfish one?

    wow that almost sounds just like my ex-husband!!!!!!!!! Except we never had kids together, thank god!!!!!!!

    My 2nd hubby is my prince charming.
  • xSirensSong
    xSirensSong Posts: 615 Member
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    Multiple times being cheated on (Secretly.. 6 of the 8 women [that I know of] didn't come out until after we were divorced), false excuses about the weird and random behavior ('I'm a sex addict', 'I'm addicted to alcohol', 'I have a shopping fetish', etc. None of which were true mind you), being terrible with money & always having to bail him out of his overdraft fees/payday loans/school loans/overdue bills, being overly manipulative (ie: start an argument about something and by the end of the argument, me feeling like it was my fault for starting it).

    Yep, I'd say my first husband was an absolutely horrible pick on my part.
  • caramelgyrlk
    caramelgyrlk Posts: 1,112 Member
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    Physical-Emotional abuse of me or my children and definitely, pedophilia.
  • FerretBuellerr
    FerretBuellerr Posts: 468 Member
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    What about selfishness, addiction to videos games and lack of emotion or communication? One who will have his mother watch his one year old daughter so he can play his video game first thing when he gets home till he falls asleep.. doesn't pick up after himself. Takes his wife for granted working a full time job, coming home to be mommy and house wife at the same time? One who can't buy a simple card for his wife on her birth day when the month before his wife bought him a 800$ tool he isn't using because of a video game. One who snaps at his wife for tryin to go to bed for work in the am, asking to get off the game. So his wife sleeps in another room. One who say he knows he has things to work on but does nothing? One who is 30 years old and has do much potential but choses to throw it away? Or a spouse that has had good conversations with you on positive Change who doesn't even bother to nag anymore?

    I'm just curious... would this be a cause or am I the selfish one?

    That sounds just like my ex, but we didn't have kids and we never married....thank god. I can only assume that's what my life would have been if we stayed together.
  • MuscleAndMascara
    MuscleAndMascara Posts: 1,259 Member
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    OP, so you don't want to know what would push other people to divorce, you wanted to know if your husband is a douche. I'd lead with the primary reason instead of the red herring in the future.

    That was a remarkable end run to the point...

    Yes and no. I wanted to see what other people would do. Regardless of my situation
  • BinaryPulsar
    BinaryPulsar Posts: 8,927 Member
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    Honestly, I see no reason to speculate on something like this. You either have reasons or you don't, why create them? I love my husband and there really isn't anything that he could do because he never would do anything that would warrant divorce. He is such a wonderful person that whatever it was, we could work it out. I'd be more likely to think I could be the one to cause a problem before I would think he would. We are both human and we both have our issues, but nothing that we can't work out. That's why I married him.

    But, I would never stay with someone that beats women and children and rapes or abuses children or anyone. I wouldn't stay with someone that is a sociopath or a sadist. Just speaking from the experience of my childhood. I would report them to the police and I would not stay, and I would testify for any of the victims that needed me to. I wish everyone could do that. And I have done that: reported to the police and testified.
  • BusyRaeNOTBusty
    BusyRaeNOTBusty Posts: 7,166 Member
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    For me: abuse, rampant dishonesty, criminal activity, several years of unhappiness despite trying.
  • Jerrypeoples
    Jerrypeoples Posts: 1,541 Member
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    What about selfishness, addiction to videos games and lack of emotion or communication? One who will have his mother watch his one year old daughter so he can play his video game first thing when he gets home till he falls asleep.. doesn't pick up after himself. Takes his wife for granted working a full time job, coming home to be mommy and house wife at the same time? One who can't buy a simple card for his wife on her birth day when the month before his wife bought him a 800$ tool he isn't using because of a video game. One who snaps at his wife for tryin to go to bed for work in the am, asking to get off the game. So his wife sleeps in another room. One who say he knows he has things to work on but does nothing? One who is 30 years old and has do much potential but choses to throw it away? Or a spouse that has had good conversations with you on positive Change who doesn't even bother to nag anymore?

    I'm just curious... would this be a cause or am I the selfish one?

    in light of all the snarky and funny comments i dont think you really need to know what would push someone to divorce. quite sure you already know the answer
  • ACepero79
    ACepero79 Posts: 711 Member
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    If she had a penis. That's a deal breaker for me.
  • Ailbe1
    Ailbe1 Posts: 164
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    Being married would tip me over the edge.

    Yes! I'm going with this!

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