Fit girl problems/ gym stories

89nunu

I already put this on my wall but I though I share here to get some funny stories

So today, some guy asked me if I wanted help when I was setting up the bar for deadlifts (granted I probably looked a little funny cause we got a new platform with a super gripping floor and new plates that handle very differently to the old ones)
I said: no thanks I'm alright but I thought: what do you think I'm going to do with this bar once I'm done? Sit on it while I'm doing my nails?
I know he probably just wanted to be nice but that was insulting!

Also one of the guys that's always there at this time and knows me looked very amused, might well be because of my expression when the guy offered me to help...

So what are funny stories that happened to you in the gym? Anyone ever insulted you by accident?

taiyola

I was once on the mat doing sit-ups, headphones in... man started trying to give me advice on how to do a sit-up. I mean, c'mon, not exactly hard is it?! Funnily enough, the dude was out of shape himself :huh:

tuckerrj

I already put this on my wall but I though I share here to get some funny stories

So today, some guy asked me if I wanted help when I was setting up the bar for deadlifts (granted I probably looked a little funny cause we got a new platform with a super gripping floor and new plates that handle very differently to the old ones)
I said: no thanks I'm alright but I thought: what do you think I'm going to do with this bar once I'm done? Sit on it while I'm doing my nails?
I know he probably just wanted to be nice but that was insulting!

Also one of the guys that's always there at this time and knows me looked very amused, might well be because of my expression when the guy offered me to help...

So what are funny stories that happened to you in the gym? Anyone ever insulted you by accident?

So you're visibly struggling loading the bar. Some guy offers to help and you're INSULTED? Oh please!

elyelyse

I already put this on my wall but I though I share here to get some funny stories

So today, some guy asked me if I wanted help when I was setting up the bar for deadlifts (granted I probably looked a little funny cause we got a new platform with a super gripping floor and new plates that handle very differently to the old ones)
I said: no thanks I'm alright but I thought: what do you think I'm going to do with this bar once I'm done? Sit on it while I'm doing my nails?
I know he probably just wanted to be nice but that was insulting!

Also one of the guys that's always there at this time and knows me looked very amused, might well be because of my expression when the guy offered me to help...

So what are funny stories that happened to you in the gym? Anyone ever insulted you by accident?

So you're visibly struggling loading the bar. Some guy offers to help and you're INSULTED? Oh please!

I know that seems crazy to a guy, and it's not entirely rational...but sometimes, as a strong woman, it can feel like an insult when a man offers to help with a physical task. Any time a man used to offer to help me carry something heavy I'd think to myself "what, you think I'm not strong enough to do it myself?!" I eventually got over that as I got older and realized they were genuinely just trying to be helpful and polite...even if that politeness comes from years of being conditioned to think that men are more capable of lifting heavy things (which, often, they are). Truth is, if it was another guy setting up instead of a woman, the help would less likely have been offered.

CyberEd312

Oh how times have changed... Use to be a time where you thanked someone for holding a door open for you or offered a helping hand, now you hold the door and the person walks through and doesn't acknowledge your existence..... or apparently it is insulting for someone to lend a hand.... Hmmmm..... Seem legit....

tuckerrj

Recently, I was struggling to get the last plate on a 455 lb. barbell and some 17 year old guy comes up and grabs the bar, elevating it so I can get the last plate on. I said, "Thanks, man!". "No prob", he replies.

END OF STORY

All I could think was, "Nice kid!".

links_slayer

So today, some guy asked me if I wanted help when I was setting up the bar for deadlifts (granted I probably looked a little funny cause we got a new platform with a super gripping floor and new plates that handle very differently to the old ones)
I said: no thanks I'm alright but I thought: what do you think I'm going to do with this bar once I'm done? Sit on it while I'm doing my nails?
I know he probably just wanted to be nice but that was insulting!

The nerve of that guy. What a douche.

:huh:

CyberEd312

Recently, I was struggling to get the last plate on a 455 lb. barbell and some 17 year old guy comes up and grabs the bar, elevating it so I can get the last plate on. I said, "Thanks, man!". "No prob", he replies.

END OF STORY

All I could think was, "Nice kid!".

Yep happens in my gym all the time.... Half the time you need a spot, you don't even have to ask. Just make eye contact and they know exactly what the question will be without you even asking... You just get a head nod and they come give you a spot.... Strange concept to some I guess........ lol

koootenay

He could have a gym crush on you and just needed a way to talk to you : ) That happens right?

MaritzK

Some time ago suddenly someone came to me and asked me if he could tell me something. I said OK, and then he started telling me how I was distracting him from working out and how beautiful I was. And then he asked if we could be just friends. Since I have a boyfriend I'm not really looking for random male friends at the gym that look at me this way, but it was really sweet though

monisiaczeq

I saw a girl two days ago doing rowing without her feet strapped in. it was amusing to watch, but she seemed to be having a good time.
i also get funny looks on my upper body day. ie when doing chest press and pull downs.. i mean i know i cant press whatever the "lads" are but still! im working as hard as everybody else is!

woodsygirl

I was working out using the NROL4W book a while ago and was trying to get the hang of one arm dumbbell snatches. So... some guy comes over and says he was sort of worried about my knees. I had really nice strong legs and he didn't want to see me get hurt, lol. Then he looks at the book (you know, it says "Lift like a man, look like a goddess" on it) and says "well, you're 1/2 way there" I hope he meant the lifting like a guy part.. hahah.

sarahrbraun

I already put this on my wall but I though I share here to get some funny stories

So today, some guy asked me if I wanted help when I was setting up the bar for deadlifts (granted I probably looked a little funny cause we got a new platform with a super gripping floor and new plates that handle very differently to the old ones)
I said: no thanks I'm alright but I thought: what do you think I'm going to do with this bar once I'm done? Sit on it while I'm doing my nails?
I know he probably just wanted to be nice but that was insulting!

Also one of the guys that's always there at this time and knows me looked very amused, might well be because of my expression when the guy offered me to help...

So what are funny stories that happened to you in the gym? Anyone ever insulted you by accident?

So you're visibly struggling loading the bar. Some guy offers to help and you're INSULTED? Oh please!

I know that seems crazy to a guy, and it's not entirely rational...but sometimes, as a strong woman, it can feel like an insult when a man offers to help with a physical task. Any time a man used to offer to help me carry something heavy I'd think to myself "what, you think I'm not strong enough to do it myself?!" I eventually got over that as I got older and realized they were genuinely just trying to be helpful and polite...even if that politeness comes from years of being conditioned to think that men are more capable of lifting heavy things (which, often, they are). Truth is, if it was another guy setting up instead of a woman, the help would less likely have been offered.

I also think you were being a bit touchy about it. I don't think I look like I lift, and new guys in the gym kinda give me an odd look sometimes when they see me in the weight area. Occasionally they will offer to help me, but I just smile and say "nah...don't worry about it, I got it"

a few months ago I helped the fitness attendant demonstrate the back extension machine for another gym member ( Ron had tweaked his back and couldn't do it himself). I got on and it was set for 130lbs. he saw it and advised me to "drop the weight a little". I just smiled and said " nope, it's fine" and proceeded to knock out 12 perfect reps.

devil_in_a_blue_dress

I hate it when people off to help me when I am struggling with something. Just let me suffer people, it burns moar calories.

89nunu

Haha, great story ladies!

Also I know he meant well and I replied nicely (also I do thank people for holding open doors and hold open doors for people myself, I'm in the UK politeness is second nature)

But setting up the bar is part of the work. Carrying around the 25kg plates and wiggling them onto the bar warms up every part if my body and let's me think about the task ahead.

Quickly popping on/off some plates together because someone else or you needs the bar next is different. He specifically came over to give me a hand... I know I probably overreact, but that's just what I thought at the time.

Also, spotting us a whole different story

RickNeedzToGetShreaded

Didn't put the clip on the bench properly when doing bench press and it fell off, and the skinniest kid in the gym came over and grabbed the bar for me lol, nice kid know I was looking around like **** I'm screwed. I now check the clips haha!

devil_in_a_blue_dress

(granted I probably looked a little funny cause we got a new platform with a super gripping floor and new plates that handle very differently to the old ones)

I am just gonna quote this alone for emphasis.

SpecialSundae

I hate it when people off to help me when I am struggling with something. Just let me suffer people, it burns moar calories.

Meh! I'll burn more calories by doing a darned good lifting session than by setting up and the more effort I exert on setting up, the less I have left in the tank for squats/deadlifts. So if someone offers to help me with the bar, I'll take it.

That said, I'm still in a deficit so I'm edging towards burning out at the moment.

For me, it was the time I wandered into the gym between meetings to look for a foam roller to use for 15 minutes and asked the curl bro in the weights area if he knew where they were. His response, "I don't know, I just lift." My response, "I just lift too, which is why I need the foam roller... bloody DOMS."

Topsking2010

Sorry but this thread is silly. Some people really need to lighten up!!!

fannyfrost

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I know that seems crazy to a guy, and it's not entirely rational...but sometimes, as a strong woman, it can feel like an insult when a man offers to help with a physical task. Any time a man used to offer to help me carry something heavy I'd think to myself "what, you think I'm not strong enough to do it myself?!" I eventually got over that as I got older and realized they were genuinely just trying to be helpful and polite...even if that politeness comes from years of being conditioned to think that men are more capable of lifting heavy things (which, often, they are). Truth is, if it was another guy setting up instead of a woman, the help would less likely have been offered.
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I totally get what you mean. I am a mom and live in a building with a doorman. I would get a 10lb box and the guys would be like that is too heavy, let me get it, you need a wagon, but nobody flinched when I carried my 30lb sleeping child.

It's an independence thing too. Society says women are weak, well as an independent person I don't want to be seen that way. Getting out of a van someone puts a hand out to help me, but not my husband. I know they mean well, but that's not the point, I need to prove I can do it. My personal trainer is surprised how strong I am.

FYI, my daughter is a dancers and knows how to jump, at 125lbs I can still catch her and hold her!

TonyStark30

I already put this on my wall but I though I share here to get some funny stories

So today, some guy asked me if I wanted help when I was setting up the bar for deadlifts (granted I probably looked a little funny cause we got a new platform with a super gripping floor and new plates that handle very differently to the old ones)
I said: no thanks I'm alright but I thought: what do you think I'm going to do with this bar once I'm done? Sit on it while I'm doing my nails?
I know he probably just wanted to be nice but that was insulting!

Also one of the guys that's always there at this time and knows me looked very amused, might well be because of my expression when the guy offered me to help...

So what are funny stories that happened to you in the gym? Anyone ever insulted you by accident?

So you're visibly struggling loading the bar. Some guy offers to help and you're INSULTED? Oh please!

I know that seems crazy to a guy, and it's not entirely rational...but sometimes, as a strong woman, it can feel like an insult when a man offers to help with a physical task. Any time a man used to offer to help me carry something heavy I'd think to myself "what, you think I'm not strong enough to do it myself?!" I eventually got over that as I got older and realized they were genuinely just trying to be helpful and polite...even if that politeness comes from years of being conditioned to think that men are more capable of lifting heavy things (which, often, they are). Truth is, if it was another guy setting up instead of a woman, the help would less likely have been offered.

Either thought that men have been told since they were children, before they even knew what a gym is to offer help to women? And it has nothing to do with being conditioned about being more capable it just comes from being told thats what gentlemen do, they might not even want to help you they just think they should ask lol.

Other strange thing about the gym is when people complain about being looked at (Not Spotted) by men when in the free weights area. Everyone is looking at everyone, and it is only the people who are watching that are going to help you when something goes wrong and you haven't got a spottter!

HeidiMightyRawr

Haha I don't mind help with loading / unloading. It's fine by me, help all you want. I've seen guys who are struggling to get a plate on the bar for whatever reason, get helped by other men. I'm sure it happens more often men helping women, but it's not the only case.

One thing that does bug me though is people helping during my sets, spotters for example, even when I specifically say beforehand not to help! I want to struggle, and I don't wish to have help unless it's going back down and I call you in. Helping me "it's all you" when I show slight effort is not beneficial to me at all.

At my old gym it wasn't all too bad, when I was by myself, there were a few people I could trust to give a decent spot for bench for example. At my current gym I plan my 2 benching days around mine and my partner's work shifts so that he will always spot me. It's less of a lifting gym, and most people there think a good benching session is putting a weight far too heavy on, bringing it down halfway, and hip thrusting it back up, *kitten* off the bench and everything. Talking during a set is also not uncommon.

sarahrbraun

I already put this on my wall but I though I share here to get some funny stories

So today, some guy asked me if I wanted help when I was setting up the bar for deadlifts (granted I probably looked a little funny cause we got a new platform with a super gripping floor and new plates that handle very differently to the old ones)
I said: no thanks I'm alright but I thought: what do you think I'm going to do with this bar once I'm done? Sit on it while I'm doing my nails?
I know he probably just wanted to be nice but that was insulting!

Also one of the guys that's always there at this time and knows me looked very amused, might well be because of my expression when the guy offered me to help...

So what are funny stories that happened to you in the gym? Anyone ever insulted you by accident?

So you're visibly struggling loading the bar. Some guy offers to help and you're INSULTED? Oh please!

I know that seems crazy to a guy, and it's not entirely rational...but sometimes, as a strong woman, it can feel like an insult when a man offers to help with a physical task. Any time a man used to offer to help me carry something heavy I'd think to myself "what, you think I'm not strong enough to do it myself?!" I eventually got over that as I got older and realized they were genuinely just trying to be helpful and polite...even if that politeness comes from years of being conditioned to think that men are more capable of lifting heavy things (which, often, they are). Truth is, if it was another guy setting up instead of a woman, the help would less likely have been offered.

Either thought that men have been told since they were children, before they even knew what a gym is to offer help to women? And it has nothing to do with being conditioned about being more capable it just comes from being told thats what gentlemen do, they might not even want to help you they just think they should ask lol.

Other strange thing about the gym is when people complain about being looked at (Not Spotted) by men when in the free weights area. Everyone is looking at everyone, and it is only the people who are watching that are going to help you when something goes wrong and you haven't got a spottter!

Personally, I am OK with guys watching, as long as they aren't being creepy about it. A few months ago I didn't realize a guy was watching me do front squats until he made a comment. As I was racking the bar I heard a voice say "wow. I haven't seen anyone do overhand grip front squats in a long time! What made you decide to do them?" I smiled for hours after that...

89nunu

Yeah, finding a good spotter is hard! Unfortunately, I don't really have one.

I got used to the looks and i don't care. I mostly train in the early mornings when it's about 4 people in the free weight area anyway...

Although right now most looks go towards the building site that's right next to the free weight area (total refurbishment of the gym, hence the new equipment) and the builders as well as the lifters favourite past time is to see what the other one is doing. It's like a two way zoo, very funny.

smc864

Maybe I'm in the minority but I LIKE when a man is polite enough to help when I'm struggling to do something. I find it insulting when they see me having difficulty and don't offer to help. Call me crazy...

SpecialSundae

I already put this on my wall but I though I share here to get some funny stories

So today, some guy asked me if I wanted help when I was setting up the bar for deadlifts (granted I probably looked a little funny cause we got a new platform with a super gripping floor and new plates that handle very differently to the old ones)
I said: no thanks I'm alright but I thought: what do you think I'm going to do with this bar once I'm done? Sit on it while I'm doing my nails?
I know he probably just wanted to be nice but that was insulting!

Also one of the guys that's always there at this time and knows me looked very amused, might well be because of my expression when the guy offered me to help...

So what are funny stories that happened to you in the gym? Anyone ever insulted you by accident?

Would you have been insulted if it were another woman?

89nunu

Yeah probably...
I mean when I said I looked a bit funny because of the new equipment, I like to think that it was just a little tugging on the bar and it didn't move (I'm thinking I have to learn how to move the new stuff on my own anyway)

But yeah, I can see that I probably overreacted. But I don't like people thinking I can't do certain things (not just physically but also in any other aspect)

elyelyse

I already put this on my wall but I though I share here to get some funny stories

So today, some guy asked me if I wanted help when I was setting up the bar for deadlifts (granted I probably looked a little funny cause we got a new platform with a super gripping floor and new plates that handle very differently to the old ones)
I said: no thanks I'm alright but I thought: what do you think I'm going to do with this bar once I'm done? Sit on it while I'm doing my nails?
I know he probably just wanted to be nice but that was insulting!

Also one of the guys that's always there at this time and knows me looked very amused, might well be because of my expression when the guy offered me to help...

So what are funny stories that happened to you in the gym? Anyone ever insulted you by accident?

So you're visibly struggling loading the bar. Some guy offers to help and you're INSULTED? Oh please!

I know that seems crazy to a guy, and it's not entirely rational...but sometimes, as a strong woman, it can feel like an insult when a man offers to help with a physical task. Any time a man used to offer to help me carry something heavy I'd think to myself "what, you think I'm not strong enough to do it myself?!" I eventually got over that as I got older and realized they were genuinely just trying to be helpful and polite...even if that politeness comes from years of being conditioned to think that men are more capable of lifting heavy things (which, often, they are). Truth is, if it was another guy setting up instead of a woman, the help would less likely have been offered.

Either thought that men have been told since they were children, before they even knew what a gym is to offer help to women? And it has nothing to do with being conditioned about being more capable it just comes from being told thats what gentlemen do, they might not even want to help you they just think they should ask lol.

see, we all see the world very differently! the way we act and perceive the actions of others is based completely on our own experiences. the girl who doesn't want help in the gym has her reasons, and isn't doing it to be rude...just as the guy who helps is just trying to be polite, not condescending.

and for the record...I have no problem with a guy helping me carry stuff or do something physically demanding now. it was more something I experienced when I was younger, when I assumed that being offered help meant I was seen as weak.

randomtai

Um.. ok. :huh:

in_the_stars

Maybe I'm in the minority but I LIKE when a man is polite enough to help when I'm struggling to do something. I find it insulting when they see me having difficulty and don't offer to help. Call me crazy...

Ditto:)

89nunu

Ha... thanks mate :glasses: