Fit girl problems/ gym stories

89nunu

but if he didn't offer to help, all you would think is "that douche"...right? right?


no

i dont care...


women..

I was getting ready to deadlift!
I don't think I would have noticed the presence of the guy if he wouldn't have started talking to me...

Myhaloslipped

I was doing sit ups on the mats next to this old guy, and he kept farting and then looking over at me as if I had done it. lol, I figured there was no point in saying anything about it. I thought it was pretty funny!

DopeItUp

Yea, a few months ago, just after shoulder surgery, I was having a tough time getting the 45lb plates on to the leg press machine with my right arm in a sling.
Wouldn't you know it, a couple of the regulars came over and loaded the machine for me! Hell, they even put the weights away when I was done. This crap went on for more than a week before I could handle the plates myself.

It's just plain rude and insulting I tell ya!

How dare they. What a bunch of jerks. I hope you talked to management about them.

89nunu

I was doing sit ups on the mats next to this old guy, and he kept farting and then looking over at me as if I had done it. lol, I figured there was no point in saying anything about it. I thought it was pretty funny!

Hahaha!! Well, it's gotta come out when your moving your belly like that :laugh:

dbmata

So what are funny stories that happened to you in the gym? Anyone ever insulted you by accident?

So in the UK an offer to help is an insult?

Fullsterkur_woman

I just wanted to hear funny gym stories where people did things that you didn't get...

But it turned into a full blown debate on principles!

HOW DO I MAKE IT STOP??

The great ways of the internet:drinker:

OK, here's a little one. One time I was doing a circuit in the faculty/staff weight room at our university, and I needed to use a machine that a couple of professors had been standing around talking nearby and/or leaning on. Finally, I went up and asked if they were doing anything with that piece of equipment, and one of them says, "Just admiring it as an objet d'art!" That was probably 10 years ago, and I still crack up; it's not that big, but it was just quick-witted, and I like that.

I was doing sit ups on the mats next to this old guy, and he kept farting and then looking over at me as if I had done it. lol, I figured there was no point in saying anything about it. I thought it was pretty funny!

My husband will look at somebody and say, "Did you fart?" and when they say "No!" he says "Musta been me!":laugh: (only to people he knows, though!)

BeachIron

I saw some woman at the gym the other day struggling to load plates so I told her to "man up." It seemed like the only polite thing to do considering that I'd insult her by helping . . .

Danny_Boy13

I already put this on my wall but I though I share here to get some funny stories

So today, some guy asked me if I wanted help when I was setting up the bar for deadlifts (granted I probably looked a little funny cause we got a new platform with a super gripping floor and new plates that handle very differently to the old ones)
I said: no thanks I'm alright but I thought: what do you think I'm going to do with this bar once I'm done? Sit on it while I'm doing my nails?
I know he probably just wanted to be nice but that was insulting!

Also one of the guys that's always there at this time and knows me looked very amused, might well be because of my expression when the guy offered me to help...

So what are funny stories that happened to you in the gym? Anyone ever insulted you by accident?

So you're visibly struggling loading the bar. Some guy offers to help and you're INSULTED? Oh please!

Yup... double edged sword. Men get bashed for offering help to a female when they are showing issues / difficulties and we also get bashed if we do not offer assistance.

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odusgolp

In the next breath, why don't you go b*tch about chivalry being dead...

Mr_Excitement

C'mon... men, how many times has another man offered you help in the gym? For me, it's been exactly zero times in about... eh... 20 years?

I do think there's an element of condescension in asking a woman if she wants help with weights. If she wants it, she'll ask.

dbmata

C'mon... men, how many times has another man offered you help in the gym? For me, it's been exactly zero times in about... eh... 20 years?

I do think there's an element of condescension in asking a woman if she wants help with weights. If she wants it, she'll ask.

Sounds like you picked one or many crappy gyms. There's a lot of helping going on at most of the ones I've been to. It's called community.

So you feel that there is condescension when you offer a woman help? Then don't offer, or offer better.


At the end of the day, next time I see a woman struggling with a bar, I'm going to record it with my phone and send it to world star hip hop if it turns out hilarious.

That'll prevent condescension, derision, disparagement, and sandy bottoms! Pip pip, cheerio!

Mr_Excitement

C'mon... men, how many times has another man offered you help in the gym? For me, it's been exactly zero times in about... eh... 20 years?

I do think there's an element of condescension in asking a woman if she wants help with weights. If she wants it, she'll ask.

Sounds like you picked one or many crappy gyms. There's a lot of helping going on at most of the ones I've been to. It's called community.

So you feel that there is condescension when you offer a woman help? Then don't offer, or offer better.

You're telling me men have literally offered to help you put weight on a barbell?

There's help and there's help. There's a difference between say, offering to spot for someone and asking if they need help with some trivial, solo task.

I've been to a lot of gyms-- always the same experience. Some have community, sure. I've been asked to spot for other people, asked others to spot for me, had conversations, made friends, blah blah-- but have I ever had a stranger walk up and offer to help me put weight on a bar? No, I can't say that I have.

dbmata

You're telling me men have literally offered to help you put weight on a barbell?

You do realize you don't need to use the word literally here? It smells of pedant.

Yes, people have offered to help me. I'm loading one side of the bar, they happen to be on the other side, "Hey, what do you want on this side?" I understand it's revolutionary, but amazingly... it happens.

Then again, maybe they just wanted to see how I would top em. Yeah, that's the ticket, because there would be NO REASON AT ALL for someone to help someone, just because.

Mr_Excitement

You're telling me men have literally offered to help you put weight on a barbell?

You do realize you don't need to use the word literally here? It smells of pedant.

Actually, the word "literally" was appropriate because you were talking about help generally, and I wanted to know if you had specifically been offered help loading a bar. I know it's trendy to complain about the use of the word literally right now, but that one doesn't really work.

And it would've smelled of *pedantry*, not "pedant".

And just to save you some time... *that* ^ wasn't irony.

33Freya

I think I would only be insulted if his tone was condescending.

I prefer to focus on people's intentions, and give the benefit of the doubt where ever I can.

If a fella wants to offer help, my thanks will be genuine whether I accept or refuse his help.

We affect other people for the good or the bad- and one woman getting offended at an offer for help, or an opened door for that matter, can unfortunately discourage a man whose help may have been appreciated by 10 other women, cause him to stop offering help or opening doors.

Chivalry is not dead, nor should we strong women try to kill it. Focus on the intention of the other person and react accordingly.

dbmata

Actually, the word "literally" was appropriate because you were talking about help generally, and I wanted to know if you had specifically been offered help loading a bar. I know it's trendy to complain about the use of the word literally right now, but that one doesn't really work.

Sadly, you're incorrect, but that's ok, because you're being pedantic. There were no metaphors, similes, or other comparative devices being used, so at best use of "literal" was a misdirected inefficiency and mildly illiterate use of the world, at worst it was a snooty and pretentious misuse. Take your pick. I'm an optimist, I'll happily chalk it up to you making a mistake.

And it would've smelled of *pedantry*, not "pedant".

Again, no, sadly, this is very basic. It smells of pedant, meaning, as you are a pedant (a person who acts in a certain manner, etc, etc.), you smell a certain way, and you left you pedant musk all over. I'm glad to help you better understand.

Basically, I just beat you at your own game. I'm going to go hit xvideos for a victory lap.

QuietBloom

Actually, the word "literally" was appropriate because you were talking about help generally, and I wanted to know if you had specifically been offered help loading a bar. I know it's trendy to complain about the use of the word literally right now, but that one doesn't really work.

Sadly, you're incorrect, but that's ok, because you're being pedantic. There were no metaphors, similes, or other comparative devices being used, so at best use of "literal" was a misdirected inefficiency and mildly illiterate use of the world, at worst it was a snooty and pretentious misuse. Take your pick. I'm an optimist, I'll happily chalk it up to you making a mistake.

And it would've smelled of *pedantry*, not "pedant".

Again, no, sadly, this is very basic. It smells of pedant, meaning, as you are a pedant (a person who acts in a certain manner, etc, etc.), you smell a certain way, and you left you pedant musk all over. I'm glad to help you better understand.

Basically, I just beat you at your own game. I'm going to go hit xvideos for a victory lap.

Oooh boy fight!!

PSULions2008

Mr_Excitement

Actually, the word "literally" was appropriate because you were talking about help generally, and I wanted to know if you had specifically been offered help loading a bar. I know it's trendy to complain about the use of the word literally right now, but that one doesn't really work.

Sadly, you're incorrect, but that's ok, because you're being pedantic. There were no metaphors, similes, or other comparative devices being used, so at best use of "literal" was a misdirected inefficiency and mildly illiterate use of the world, at worst it was a snooty and pretentious misuse. Take your pick. I'm an optimist, I'll happily chalk it up to you making a mistake.

And it would've smelled of *pedantry*, not "pedant".

Again, no, sadly, this is very basic. It smells of pedant, meaning, as you are a pedant (a person who acts in a certain manner, etc, etc.), you smell a certain way, and you left you pedant musk all over. I'm glad to help you better understand.

Basically, I just beat you at your own game. I'm going to go hit xvideos for a victory lap.

bloominheck

So today, some guy asked me if I wanted help when I was setting up the bar for deadlifts (granted I probably looked a little funny cause we got a new platform with a super gripping floor and new plates that handle very differently to the old ones)
I said: no thanks I'm alright but I thought: what do you think I'm going to do with this bar once I'm done? Sit on it while I'm doing my nails?
I know he probably just wanted to be nice but that was insulting!

The nerve of that guy. What a douche.

:huh:

lol I know geez!


I love when men help me, whether I need it or not. It is so sweet and it makes my day.:blushing:

JoRocka

You're telling me men have literally offered to help you put weight on a barbell?

There's help and there's help. There's a difference between say, offering to spot for someone and asking if they need help with some trivial, solo task.

I've been to a lot of gyms-- always the same experience. Some have community, sure. I've been asked to spot for other people, asked others to spot for me, had conversations, made friends, blah blah-- but have I ever had a stranger walk up and offer to help me put weight on a bar? No, I can't say that I have.

I think it's very situational. If I'm engaged in random small talk with said stranger for whatever reasons- I'll help if I'm close enough. But I don't walk around helping people load up there bars. Even when I was an employee I didn't. Only if I happened to be there and the person was changing weight.

DopeItUp

C'mon... men, how many times has another man offered you help in the gym? For me, it's been exactly zero times in about... eh... 20 years?

I do think there's an element of condescension in asking a woman if she wants help with weights. If she wants it, she'll ask.

So you're unhelpful, big deal. I helped a guy deload plates from his squat bar last night because I was between sets. Whoopie.

SoLongAndThanksForAllTheFish

I have guys offer to help load more plates on when I work in all the time, or when I've asked someone to spot me, they also help. Never had one walk over to help put a plate on as far as I can remember unless I've talked to them before, but some people have said I look mad when I work out at times. But even if I don't want the help, if someone helps me out, I tell them thanks, or if I really don't maybe "thanks, I got it".

When I've helped guys its always fine too. But, whatever I do, I feel the sting with women in the gym: when I help every once in a while I get blasted with looks, and then I don't help for a while and some other woman will blast you with looks for not helping: maybe women could learn to at least have some sympathy in the gym instead of "I'm no weakling and I missed my precious warm up loading plates" or "why wont that jerk help me"...

Remember, if guys aren't doing what you'd like, its probably the result of getting "judged" and called a "jerk" for doing or not doing the same thing randomly. Even if you don't slam people who don't meet your expectations, whichever you choose to do as a guy, there is always a certain percent of women who will still have some "issue" with whatever you do.

Makes you want to pretend not to notice when women are loading plates sometimes: its the only way you can do or not do something and not be labeled...and I'm here to work out dammit not play silly games to be "judged" on. Then I decide this is silly, I'll just help anyways...and randomly get looks again...just like this post, sigh