Define cheating......

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  • Dino_bacon2112
    Dino_bacon2112 Posts: 341 Member
    "But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart." - Jesus

    Just one guy's definition.. Do what you will with it.

    Good thing Jesus isn't real.





    Now let's get this party started.

    Don't tell the rest of my FL, but you're my new favorite friend.
  • "But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart." - Jesus

    Just one guy's definition.. Do what you will with it.



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  • MiloBloom83
    MiloBloom83 Posts: 2,724 Member
    "But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart." - Jesus



    Since when is my gardener an expert on cheating?
  • Holly_Roman_Empire
    Holly_Roman_Empire Posts: 4,440 Member
    Since cheat posts seems to be the theme today....define it.

    Harmless flirting?
    Sexting?
    Phone number exchange and communication?
    Better conversatons than with your SO?

    _______________ <--your opinion here

    for the record, I only do the first!!

    To me, anything that you wouldn't readily admit to your SO is cheating. If you find yourself hiding something or deleting messages, you're already cheating.

    This, or as I usually say, "If you wouldn't do it in his/her presence, don't do it behind their back."
  • doorki
    doorki Posts: 2,576 Member
    "But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart." - Jesus

    Just one guy's definition.. Do what you will with it.

    Why take relationship advice from a virgin who never had a girlfriend?
  • tottie06
    tottie06 Posts: 259 Member
    "Harmless flirting?"
    "Sexting?"
    "Phone number exchange and communication?"
    "Better conversations than with your SO?"

    1. I am all fun and games on these boards, but I hate when people try to PM me wanting to flirt or ask if they can call me. wtf Just because I am outgoing and fun, don't mean I am open to this.
    2. Engaging with someone other than your SO in this way? F no!
    3. Why bother leading anyone on, or give them hope when you are not available?
    4. Don't play with fire.
  • Maryaly40
    Maryaly40 Posts: 551 Member
    define "harmless flirting"
  • BinaryPulsar
    BinaryPulsar Posts: 8,927 Member
    Dude... you mother-in-law should have nothing to do with your definition of infidelity.

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    This!!! :sick:
  • sixout
    sixout Posts: 3,128 Member
    Dude... you mother-in-law should have nothing to do with your definition of infidelity.

    gag.gif

    This!!! :sick:

    Apparently no one here knows how hot mother in laws are. Just look with your hands, and not your eyes, people. You'll see how great it can be.
  • pawnstarNate
    pawnstarNate Posts: 1,728 Member
    "Harmless flirting?"
    "Sexting?"
    "Phone number exchange and communication?"
    "Better conversations than with your SO?"

    1. I am all fun and games on these boards, but I hate when people try to PM me wanting to flirt or ask if they can call me. wtf Just because I am outgoing and fun, don't mean I am open to this.
    2. Engaging with someone other than your SO in this way? F no!
    3. Why bother leading anyone on, or give them hope when you are not available?
    4. Don't play with fire.

    do you kik? :laugh: (ps...I'm jokin)
  • pawnstarNate
    pawnstarNate Posts: 1,728 Member
    Dude... you mother-in-law should have nothing to do with your definition of infidelity.

    gag.gif

    This!!! :sick:

    Apparently no one here knows how hot mother in laws are. Just look with your hands, and not your eyes, people. You'll see how great it can be.

    PLEASE FOR THE LOVE OF GOD MAKE THIS IMAGE GO AWAY!!!
  • sixout
    sixout Posts: 3,128 Member
    "Harmless flirting?"
    "Sexting?"
    "Phone number exchange and communication?"
    "Better conversations than with your SO?"

    1. I am all fun and games on these boards, but I hate when people try to PM me wanting to flirt or ask if they can call me. wtf Just because I am outgoing and fun, don't mean I am open to this.
    2. Engaging with someone other than your SO in this way? F no!
    3. Why bother leading anyone on, or give them hope when you are not available?
    4. Don't play with fire.

    do you kik? :laugh: (ps...I'm jokin)


    pps. he's not joking.
  • cmcollins001
    cmcollins001 Posts: 3,472 Member
    Picking the lock on the handcuffs and escaping when I'm not looking.

    Never again....NEVER again!! :grumble: :grumble:

    I'm sorry. I'll get back in my cage.

    It won't be the same...but...I'll just learn to live with it.

    If you spank me, I'll never do it again!

    You said that last time...and yet..here we are. I beginning to think you like it.
  • bcc112986
    bcc112986 Posts: 362 Member
    Cheating is when your partner chooses to act in a way that disrespects your commitment and love whether that is flirting, texting, sexting, sex, or a friendship.
  • JeniferEverx3
    JeniferEverx3 Posts: 219 Member
    For me there is no such thing as harmless flirting. If you're flirting with someone else whether you have intentions to act or not I still consider that disrespectful. If you need to flirt with other people to satisfy some kind of need you have then you have no business being in a committed relationship. Having a friendly conversation with someone is fine, but if you add flirting to the equation, to me that says that you have no respect for the person you are with, because what may be harmless to you may come off as an invitation to the person you are flirting with.
  • BarbellApprentice
    BarbellApprentice Posts: 486 Member
    "But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart." - Jesus

    Just one guy's definition.. Do what you will with it.

    Good thing Jesus isn't real.

    Now let's get this party started.

    What a knowledge bomb you just dropped. I better rethink everything.
  • sixout
    sixout Posts: 3,128 Member
    "But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart." - Jesus

    Just one guy's definition.. Do what you will with it.

    Good thing Jesus isn't real.

    Now let's get this party started.

    What a knowledge bomb you just dropped. I better rethink everything.

    I do what I can to enlighten the world.
  • tottie06
    tottie06 Posts: 259 Member
    "Harmless flirting?"
    "Sexting?"
    "Phone number exchange and communication?"
    "Better conversations than with your SO?"

    1. I am all fun and games on these boards, but I hate when people try to PM me wanting to flirt or ask if they can call me. wtf Just because I am outgoing and fun, don't mean I am open to this.
    2. Engaging with someone other than your SO in this way? F no!
    3. Why bother leading anyone on, or give them hope when you are not available?
    4. Don't play with fire.

    do you kik? :laugh: (ps...I'm jokin)

    lmao
  • missbp
    missbp Posts: 601 Member
    Cheating is a betrayal of trust. For some, that's penetration. For others, it's a kiss.

    This. Exactly this!!!
  • aljharvey
    aljharvey Posts: 73 Member
    Anything you have to hide from a significant other. Anywhere from texting, emailing, to sex. If you have to hide it or lie about it, it's cheating. The definition will be individual to every relationship. Some couples are ok with things that others would not be ok with.

    This.
  • Mother_Superior
    Mother_Superior Posts: 1,624 Member
    iddqd and/or idkfa
  • Keiras_Mom
    Keiras_Mom Posts: 844 Member
    I agree with so many others, that cheating and what's considered cheating, are entirely dependent upon the relationship. Furthermore, it can evolve within the relationship. 10 years ago, if my husband was flirting with someone, I'd be hurt. Now, we go out and each flirt with other people. It's FUN! He loves it when other men find me attractive, and I feel the same when some cute girl thinks he's hot. Total turn on. I would be hurt if he took it further without my knowledge, consent, and/or participation, but that's a topic for another day.
  • k8blujay2
    k8blujay2 Posts: 4,941 Member
    Personally, I think someone is cheating when they have to hide a relationship from a significant other. And it can be emotional or even physical.
  • SCrompton
    SCrompton Posts: 240 Member
    If I flirt, it is always with my wife present. She just rolls her eyes. :huh:

    The rest are off limits.

    Agreed!! ---If you wouldn't do it in front of your SO than it's a problem!
  • devil_in_a_blue_dress
    devil_in_a_blue_dress Posts: 5,214 Member
    Pretty sure it's when you don't play by established, agreed upon rules.
  • BikerGirlElaine
    BikerGirlElaine Posts: 1,631 Member
    All relationships have different rules of what cheating is. The only one that always works is:

    It's cheating if you wouldn't want you partner to know about it.
  • JoRocka
    JoRocka Posts: 17,525 Member
    For me there is no such thing as harmless flirting. If you're flirting with someone else whether you have intentions to act or not I still consider that disrespectful. If you need to flirt with other people to satisfy some kind of need you have then you have no business being in a committed relationship. Having a friendly conversation with someone is fine, but if you add flirting to the equation, to me that says that you have no respect for the person you are with, because what may be harmless to you may come off as an invitation to the person you are flirting with.

    flirting is about making someone feel good... there is absolutely such a thing as harmless flirting.

    I do it all the time- everyone has a good time and we all walk away smiling.

    I know guys who confuse being NICE with flirting- it's not my job to sort that out for you "what may be harmless to me may come off as an invitation"???

    walking down the street looking good may come as an invitation to some people- that's just WAY to easy to get carried away- it's not my job to cage my words to met your potential misinterpretations. GTFO.
  • favoritenut
    favoritenut Posts: 217 Member
    Sexting, sex, foreplay...all things sexual


    so if all things sexual is considered cheating, then porn, strip clubs, lap dances would be considered cheating since it involves sex.
  • ironanimal
    ironanimal Posts: 5,922 Member
    Pausing the game in the middle of a combo!
  • SemperAnticus1643
    SemperAnticus1643 Posts: 703 Member
    Anything you have to hide from a significant other. Anywhere from texting, emailing, to sex. If you have to hide it or lie about it, it's cheating. The definition will be individual to every relationship. Some couples are ok with things that others would not be ok with.

    ^^^^This!! Cheating doesn't always have to be sexual in my opinion. A person can emotionally cheat as well.