Hating the idea of maintaining.

Its_Tina_Betch

I don't know why but I hate the idea that I'm done losing weight.
When I was losing weight, I felt good knowing I was eating less than others...that I was getting skinnier while they were not.
But now I don't need to get any skinnier and need to start eating more...
the problem is when I see people eating way less than me on a daily basis I feel like crap about myself...Especially when I gain(even if it is only .2 pounds) the next day.
Did anyone else go through this problem?

Also I'm going through this feeling where I just want to stop logging. I want to stop weighing in. I just want to be like other skinny people and be able to eat all day long and not care. I hate having to go through this struggle >.<
Would it be bad to have a week or two where I live as "The old me" =/

ndj1979

If you want to have one cheat/re-feed day then yes you would do that …BAsed on your comments, A whole two weeks at your old you does not sound like a smart idea…as at the end of that two week period you may not like what you have consumed and will just go back to old habits..

Not sure why maintenance would scare you ..I mean you get to eat some more food, and maybe throw in some additional goodies like ice cream and some pizza once in a while…

I just increased my intake from like 1900 to 2500 a day and I am loving it..gym performance is up, and I feel great….so don't be afraid of maintenance embrace it...

What kind of training regimen are you on? Maybe you should look into lifting heavy and eating at maintenance? This way you can shred a little more body fat and lean out, and look better…

TavistockToad

wow, you care WAY too much about what other people think....

Whyareyoumad

You should be happy, you reached your goal and now need to maintain. That is what should happen. Congrats to you, now go be happy!

joyfuljoy65

Don't let other comments on here make you feel bad - maintenance after a long time losing is HARD. We have trained our brains to think in a new way, and now we have to slightly adjust it!! We still should be eating well and not reverting to our old habits that led us to the land of excess and obesity, but we can give ourselves some leeway.

I found upping my calories slowly from losing level (1370) over the past couple of months (now at 1600) has helped. I will increase it to 2000 for the Christmas week and then revert back to 1600 and see how I go.

It is so important that we are happy with our new ways of eating, exercising, in fact LIVING. If we are not we will slowly (or quickly!) revert back to the comfort eating ways of old (that was always my downfall). I hope you get past this and realise the fantastic job you have done and how awesome you are..... (and yes I need to listen to my own advice!).

tuckerrj

to reach your goal weight and start maintenance is cause for CELEBRATION! Learning how to tweak your food intake and exercise in order not to balloon back up is a blessing. Have a cheat meal once in a while, or a day you don't log. But weighing yourself periodically and going back on a "mini-diet" for a day or two to get back down to your optimum weight is the essence of what maintenance is (for me anyway). Congratulations and good luck on maintaining.

steffij100

Sounds to me like you need a new goal. You've achieved a huge amount, so revel in your success and be kinder to yourself. Now you are where you want to be weight wise, maybe make your goals more fitness related. Lift heavier, run/cycle/swim faster, whatever you enjoy doing. Take up a new sport. Challenge yourself so you have something new to aim for. Never worry about what others are doing/eating. It's you that counts.

And- enjoy those extra calories, you earned them!

ironanimal

If eating less than others is something you took pride in, you have mental issues that need to be worked through with a professional.

angelzprophecy

For me, i look at dieting as a skill so whenever i reach my end goal weight, i inevitably end up just not logging in anymore and going idgaf about the diet (except for protein intake) until i gain too much then i start dieting again. theres never maintenance for me :P but i guess itll be different for a girl

LolBroScience

If eating less than others is something you took pride in, you have mental issues that need to be worked through with a professional.

x2

speedy740

I am 100% in the same boat you are, completely terrified.

Its_Tina_Betch

So would it be bad for for me to have one day where I "Cheat" And then go on a mini diet for the rest of the week? I feel as though that would make me feel good because I'd be eating less then everyone else all the other days of the week except for that one day =P
Like I could weigh myself the morning of my cheat day, cheat, eat less for the rest of the week then re-weigh in again on the morning of my next cheat day to see if I earned it?
I think what I need to do is stop weighing in daily even though it sometimes helps...but only when the number I see is lower.

amy1612

Let me state what may seem like a surprising fact......Skinny people do not eat all day long and just stay skinny.

The problems you have sound like things to discuss with a counsellor.

amy1612

Wait, is your diary accurate?

LishieFruit89

Let me state what may seem like a surprising fact......Skinny people do not eat all day long and just stay skinny.

The problems you have sound like things to discuss with a counsellor.

So much this.
Especially after going through your diary...

24.75g of a pot pie for breakfast...
That's like 1 bite, maybe 2.

Its_Tina_Betch

Let me state what may seem like a surprising fact......Skinny people do not eat all day long and just stay skinny.

The problems you have sound like things to discuss with a counsellor.

So much this.
Especially after going through your diary...

24.75g of a pot pie for breakfast...
That's like 1 bite, maybe 2.

I did only eat a bite of it because I found it to be disgusting....but I still wanted to log it.

Cranquistador

So would it be bad for for me to have one day where I "Cheat" And then go on a mini diet for the rest of the week? I feel as though that would make me feel good because I'd be eating less then everyone else all the other days of the week except for that one day =P
Like I could weigh myself the morning of my cheat day, cheat, eat less for the rest of the week then re-weigh in again on the morning of my next cheat day to see if I earned it?
I think what I need to do is stop weighing in daily even though it sometimes helps...but only when the number I see is lower.

How old are you really?

Greywalk

You assume skinny people eat all day long and stay skinny. So as the father of two skinny children, one who is now a skinny adult I can state for those two your assumption is wrong. They worry about eating to much and are always asking if they are eating like a pig. They do not eat like a pig accept on occasion and then they feel guilty about it. Most of the time they eat like a bird. They will eat anything but only in small portions. Witness, from last nights 2 cheese meal from McDonald's and fries one of them the teenager insisted had to have as they were starving, dying of starvation.... I now have in my fridge...1 cheese burger partially eaten, half a bag of fries, and one cheeseburger not touched. They both compare what they eat with the others in the family and worry if they are eating more than the rest. This from a family that contains several amateur athletes so their calories consumption is significantly higher.

amy1612

Let me state what may seem like a surprising fact......Skinny people do not eat all day long and just stay skinny.

The problems you have sound like things to discuss with a counsellor.

So much this.
Especially after going through your diary...

24.75g of a pot pie for breakfast...
That's like 1 bite, maybe 2.

I did only eat a bite of it because I found it to be disgusting....but I still wanted to log it.

Literally everything you eat is what I wouldnt call 'snack food'. Some animal crackers, or a bowl of cereal, or a popsicle....these are really meals or going to keep you full. I'd be SO hangry if I ate the same way as you.

I reiterate, you need to speak to someone. Youre showing symptoms of disordered behaviour.

LishieFruit89

Let me state what may seem like a surprising fact......Skinny people do not eat all day long and just stay skinny.

The problems you have sound like things to discuss with a counsellor.

So much this.
Especially after going through your diary...

24.75g of a pot pie for breakfast...
That's like 1 bite, maybe 2.

I did only eat a bite of it because I found it to be disgusting....but I still wanted to log it.

Literally everything you eat is what I wouldnt call 'snack food'. Some animal crackers, or a bowl of cereal, or a popsicle....these are really meals or going to keep you full. I'd be SO hangry if I ate the same way as you.

I reiterate, you need to speak to someone. Youre showing symptoms of disordered behaviour.

Exactly, I noticed the same thing going through your diary.
And I really do not believe you are 18.

Marcia315

So would it be bad for for me to have one day where I "Cheat" And then go on a mini diet for the rest of the week? I feel as though that would make me feel good because I'd be eating less then everyone else all the other days of the week except for that one day =P
Like I could weigh myself the morning of my cheat day, cheat, eat less for the rest of the week then re-weigh in again on the morning of my next cheat day to see if I earned it?
I think what I need to do is stop weighing in daily even though it sometimes helps...but only when the number I see is lower.

Why does it matter if you eat less than everyone else?

This isn't a competition.