Ironic motivation

Thorbjornn

If he feels that way about you, I'd suspect others there might too.

Good luck and just know that here starting useless threads asking the same questions over and over is frowned on as well.

I suspect you wont' do that here though for 2 reasons. 1) you have already been admonished over there for it and probably are smart enough to take the advice and 2) you might have been frustratingly asking the same questions over and over wondering what was missing and finally realized it's your diet.

Actually he's the only one who's ever done it. Other long time regulars have always supported each other, including me. Understand, I've been a member there since Dec. 2002. Things change over the course of 11 years, and obviously I'm not the same person I was 11 years ago (nor is anyone else). We've all seen each other change, get hurt, recover, post about our personal lives, even asking for and talking about family and marital advice, divorces, deaths of loved ones. It's really like a dysfunctional but affectionate family, with the point being that some stories get told over and over. I have indeed changed, despite him saying I haven't. One look at my progress pics (over there, which he can see) tells the tale. That's what I find totally baffling. I don't know if this will display properly... http://bodyspace.bodybuilding.com/Minotaur/

Hope you have more success here while continuing your workouts eating at the right TDEE should reveal what I'd imagine after years on a bodybuilding site are lot's and lots of muscles.

Thanks, I hope to see more of the muscles too.

Thorbjornn

Thanks.

The old quote rings true, "Before you diagnose yourself with low self esteem or depression, first make sure that you are not, in fact, just surrounded by *kitten*." Today you were So what if you are slow at getting started on your weight loss journey, the first step is to want to make the change and it seems that you do! A cheap suggestion to start you off is to turn on some music and dance! I have several line dance songs on my ipod which helps because I can just steal other peoples moves ( I'm not a great freestyler). Good luck on your journey!

Conversely, I think it was Ann Landers who said that 1 in every 4 persons is mentally unbalanced, if you think of your 3 best friends and/or relatives, and they seem OK, then you're the one. :laugh:

ILoveGingerNut

Happy to help if I can. Don't worry too much about funny routines and focus on eating in a healthy way, with proper meals and proper portition sizes and avoiding binges. Weight loss will come as a consequence.
http://www.fitbie.com/slideshow/best-ways-to-lose-weight

Thorbjornn

Happy to help if I can. Don't worry too much about funny routines and focus on eating in a healthy way, with proper meals and proper portition sizes and avoiding binges. Weight loss will come as a consequence.
http://www.fitbie.com/slideshow/best-ways-to-lose-weight

Thanks.

Stripeness

You can do it just befriend those that will have a positive influence and ditch the others.

The funny thing is that out of a 3 page thread, there were only 2 negative posts... his and another one agreeing with him. Now, why is it that we let 1 negative comment out of 100 positive and encouraging ones get to us? Probably because it's public humiliation, and the other people have too much class to turn it into a p' ing contest. But we forget that. They just take it for the ignorance it is.

Agree with this advice. And I'm gonna say one other thing. Normally the kinda thing said only over a 3rd single-malt, to a good friend, w/o eye contact. Dude, you mention you've been working at this (weightloss) for years. And clearly, you're <winces> vulnerable to at least some types of negativity - meaning that it throws you off your best game.

Since you haven't been able to just focus on the positive, it's time to take a deeper look at what's going on. I don't recommend a care-and-share <shudders> on a forum. Rather, you need to think about this in the privacy of your own head, or with a trusted friend. Or counselor, if you don't have said trusted friend - "warm" lines can be really useful if you need a free, positive, confidential perspective.

You want to be successful in reaching your goals. Yet, you keep letting yourself get stopped. Why? Answer that, FIX that, so that you can 1. finally reach goal, and 2. be HAPPY once you get there (not feeling empty b/c there are still occasional haters).

Wishing you all success. Make 2014 your year!

ILoveGingerNut

Happy to help if I can. Don't worry too much about funny routines and focus on eating in a healthy way, with proper meals and proper portition sizes and avoiding binges. Weight loss will come as a consequence.
http://www.fitbie.com/slideshow/best-ways-to-lose-weight

Thanks.

No probs

nomeejerome

We are not on that forum, so we do not know the entire story. If you really want to reach your goals, do it.

http://forum.bodybuilding.com/showthread.php?t=159141741&page=2

Yep.

Hope you reach your goals.

Thorbjornn

nomeejerome wrote: »

Hope you reach your goals.

Thanks very much. I've taken an oath and made an unbreakable promise that I will work to reach them. All I asked in return is the strength and guidance to soldier on.