Help! She's filming me at the gym!

Jacqson84
Jacqson84 Posts: 189 Member
in Fitness and Exercise
Hi, all!

I'm all the way in South Korea, and live in a neighbourhood that has a small expat community. So, foreigners in this area are few and far between. I do get the occassional stare for looking different and I'm fine with that. I've been here for a while and never have I ever had someone brazenly take a picture/video of me without my knowledge.

About two months ago, I was doing a bit of cardio at the gym, using the aerobic step. Not far from me, was a middle aged Korean woman, sitting on a gym ball and with her phone held high towards my direction. Once I spotted her, she quickly lowered her phone and continued texting. I didn't think much of it. The second time was when I was using the squat rack. Again, I thought I was just imagining things but I thought I'd keep an eye on her. A month passed and I forgot about the incident.

Three days ago, however, I'd been deadlifting when I spotted her in the mirror, filming me from behind! This is the last straw! What do I do? How do I handle this situation?

Please help!
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  • Phaedra2014
    Phaedra2014 Posts: 1,254 Member
    Tell her to stop as you don't want to be filmed.

    Be assertive.
  • SoDamnHungry
    SoDamnHungry Posts: 6,998 Member
    Ask why she's filming you, and then tell her not to film you anymore. Can you talk to the staff?
  • jigsaw_me
    jigsaw_me Posts: 616 Member
    Tell her to stop as you don't want to be filmed.

    Be assertive.

    This and report her to the gym management, telling them that you have asked her to stop, so that they are aware of the situation.
  • Trechechus
    Trechechus Posts: 2,819 Member
    Tell her to stop as you don't want to be filmed.

    Be assertive.

    This and report her to the gym management, telling them that you have asked her to stop, so that they are aware of the situation.

    Yeah. That's creepy as hell
  • jennifer_417
    jennifer_417 Posts: 12,344 Member
    Tell her to stop as you don't want to be filmed.

    Be assertive.

    This. Assertive =/= rude. Really.

    And even if you were rude...well, she was being rude first.
  • SoDamnHungry
    SoDamnHungry Posts: 6,998 Member
    Tell her to stop as you don't want to be filmed.

    Be assertive.

    This. Assertive =/= rude. Really.

    And even if you were rude...well, she was being rude first.

    Yep. No need to treat her nicely when she's a total creep.
  • feelin_gr_8
    feelin_gr_8 Posts: 308 Member
    Tell her to stop as you don't want to be filmed.

    Be assertive.

    This. Assertive =/= rude. Really.

    And even if you were rude...well, she was being rude first.

    This...you never know...maybe she's recording your form so she can get that good? :)
  • DollyMiel
    DollyMiel Posts: 377 Member
    Start filming back with a really clunky, obvious recording device. And/or just stare at her.

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  • Mcgrawhaha
    Mcgrawhaha Posts: 1,596 Member
    i would stare into the camera and start picking my nose... really good... im not joking...
  • meshashesha2012
    meshashesha2012 Posts: 8,329 Member
    girl she might be filming you trying to see if you fit in her crawlspace. i wouldnt even confront her because that's CREEPTASTIC and you never want creeps to know that you are aware that they are in your bushes.

    Just go tell the gym management and tell them that it's rightfully maing you uncomfortable
  • HanamiDango
    HanamiDango Posts: 456 Member
    South Korea is really sensitive about filming/photos of others without permission. Ask her to stop and let the management know as soon as possible. Good luck ^_^
  • Chain_Ring
    Chain_Ring Posts: 753 Member
    It's a setup.........
  • DeltaZero
    DeltaZero Posts: 1,197 Member
    Push into her space and start taking your clothes off (but not really). I'm sure that will scare her away.
  • SoDamnHungry
    SoDamnHungry Posts: 6,998 Member
    Push into her space and start taking your clothes off (but not really). I'm sure that will scare her away.

    I'm not sure. Maybe she has a creepster crush on the OP.
  • biscuitwelsh
    biscuitwelsh Posts: 86 Member
    Might be worth learning a couple of choice phrases in Korean.
  • Pedalpush
    Pedalpush Posts: 246 Member
    Confront her. Look directly in to the phone. Then kick her in the box.
  • DeltaZero
    DeltaZero Posts: 1,197 Member
    Push into her space and start taking your clothes off (but not really). I'm sure that will scare her away.

    I'm not sure. Maybe she has a creepster crush on the OP.

    Either way, it would confirm what's going on.
  • Rerun201
    Rerun201 Posts: 125 Member
    My Korean is a bit rusty, but I think the Korean word for "No" is "On-nea". That and report to gym management.
  • UltimateEscape
    UltimateEscape Posts: 95 Member
    Maybe she's trying to sell you online. I'd definitely get her to stop. Use all avenues until she does. Have the management threaten to ban her.
  • trinity5703
    trinity5703 Posts: 78
    I wouldnt even bother confronting her. Tell the management immediately. Point her out. If she does it again, stop exercising and immediately inform the management.
  • tesha_chandler
    tesha_chandler Posts: 378 Member
    I would tell staff at the gym when she is not around, that way they can be keeping an eye on her while your back is turned and catch her doing it.
  • WalkingAlong
    WalkingAlong Posts: 4,926 Member
    I wouldnt even bother confronting her. Tell the management immediately. Point her out. If she does it again, stop exercising and immediately inform the management.
    I agree. If you pay for this gym, there probably are rules in place to protect your privacy.
  • Seajolly
    Seajolly Posts: 1,435 Member
    How creepy! You should report her to the gym's management, and also next time you catch her doing this, STARE HER DOWN with intense, evil eyes while shaking your head no. I'm sure she'll get it.
  • BlueBombers
    BlueBombers Posts: 4,064 Member
    I'd accidently step on her phone....or report her to the management.
  • donnystedham
    donnystedham Posts: 8
    Ask her if she has heard the word that Jesus Loves Her and that she can have eternal life thru Jesus Christ.
  • Amanda_Gx6
    Amanda_Gx6 Posts: 320 Member
    Go to Management and then along with them confront her loud and clear just in case she is a closet psycho. That is absurd. I would call her out in front of everyone so that everyone is aware of what this patron is doing.

    On a lighter note you could get a fart machine and put it in your bag and as you squat hit the button. That would make great commentary for whatever film she is creating :laugh:
  • Lauren8239
    Lauren8239 Posts: 1,039 Member
    If she's looking away quickly and stopping when she sees you saw her......that would put up a red flag for me. She obviously knows it's wrong. My first thought is that she's showing your pics to someone and saying how awesome you are. But to be safe you should tell management and/or ask her why she's taking your pics. She might have a genuine innocent reason. Maybe she thinks you'd be perfect for her son............lol
  • Jacqson84
    Jacqson84 Posts: 189 Member
    Thank you all! I'd asked a Korean friend to accompany me to the gym as a translator, and it turns out I'm not the first foreigner to complain about this woman's antics. The staff said they'd talk to her again and if she doesn't relent, they'll ask her to leave the gym.
  • DannehBoyy
    DannehBoyy Posts: 546 Member
    Man that would p*ss me off. I'd follow them round with my own camera asking why they felt the need to film me...really stick the camera in their face. Some people are just nasty
  • MyPureSteez
    MyPureSteez Posts: 265 Member
    Maybe she never seen a black lady before?

    Act like you have magic power, say some gibberish and do some funky stuff with your hands pointed in her direction. That'll freak her out good.

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