It finally happened...

laurenz2501
laurenz2501 Posts: 839 Member
in Motivation and Support
I got the "Are you having a baby?" Question...


WHYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY DO PEOPLE ASK THAT QUESTION?!?! :devil: :brokenheart: :sad: :huh:
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  • gcbma
    gcbma Posts: 112 Member
    :-(
  • lilbearzmom
    lilbearzmom Posts: 600 Member
    I think we sorely underestimate the amount of social morons in the world. I will never understand why anyone thinks it is ever appropriate to ask that question....
  • kjo9692
    kjo9692 Posts: 430 Member
    Oh gosh... I know, that's too bad! One time like a group of people offered me to go into the retired line of the bank (pregnant women get to go in that line too). I was so embarrassed that I had no other choice other than going into that line LOL!

    But you know what - it doesn't matter! Because we are all working to lose that pregnant-looking belly :bigsmile:

    And yes, people should know better and never ask that. It's none of their business anyway!! :explode:
  • emilyc85
    emilyc85 Posts: 450 Member
    I USED to get this question quite frequently. You know what shuts them and makes sure that they never ask again, AS WELL AS helps spread word to not ask??

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    "Nope, just fat" :devil: :laugh: :devil: :laugh: :devil: :devil: :devil:

    I say it cheerfully, and with a big *kitten* smile :wink: :wink: :wink:
  • bheathfit
    bheathfit Posts: 451 Member
    Step 1: Buy awesome high voltage tazer.

    Step 2: Taze anyone who asks anything remotely like that or tries to touch your belly.

    After 1 or 2 people, you might just buy one of those fake baby bumps just to have the excuse to taze another D-Bag! :smile:
  • emilyc85
    emilyc85 Posts: 450 Member
    Step 1: Buy awesome high voltage tazer.

    Step 2: Taze anyone who asks anything remotely like that or tries to touch your belly.

    After 1 or 2 people, you might just buy one of those fake baby bumps just to have the excuse to taze another D-Bag! :smile:

    I like this! My kind of plan!! :devil: :devil: :devil: :devil:
  • bheathfit
    bheathfit Posts: 451 Member
    IMO we would have a much better and more polite society here in America if every child attending High School was able to balance their own checkbook and was issued a high quality tazer upon graduating.

    An armed society is a polite society...
  • Cindyinpg
    Cindyinpg Posts: 3,902 Member
    I USED to get this question quite frequently. You know what shuts them and makes sure that they never ask again, AS WELL AS helps spread word to not ask??

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    "Nope, just fat" :devil: :laugh: :devil: :laugh: :devil: :devil: :devil:

    I say it cheerfully, and with a big *kitten* smile :wink: :wink: :wink:
    I totally did that once too. :laugh:
  • NRSPAM
    NRSPAM Posts: 961 Member
    OMG, I used to get asked that all the time!!! Really P'd me off!!!! Look at me now though sucka's!!! Lol. Don't let them get to you girl. Pretty soon they'll be asking you how you lost all that weight, and telling you how fabulous you look. :flowerforyou:
  • fit_healthy92
    fit_healthy92 Posts: 21
    I was in Hong Kong and constantly had locals rubbing my belly haha
    "The big buddha".. Uhm thanks
  • R4eBro
    R4eBro Posts: 44 Member
    I have taught my children never to ask that question....ever ....some people are dumb!
  • songbird513
    songbird513 Posts: 1
    I work at a gas station and some guy bought a lottery ticket and proceeded to promise me that if he won he would put my baby through college (pointing to my stomach.) ....Some peoples' children....
  • lawlorka
    lawlorka Posts: 484 Member
    As much as this used to upset me, I do miss the guaranteed seat on the train :P
  • DR2501
    DR2501 Posts: 661 Member
    I think we sorely underestimate the amount of social morons in the world. I will never understand why anyone thinks it is ever appropriate to ask that question....

    Because reproduction is the meaning of life, its why we're here, so it is (and should be) a happy event. I don't think people are intentionally trying to upset anyone, they're trying to bring up a happy occasion.

    Unfortunately, sometimes in this day and age it can cause offense.

    OP, sorry you had the question, but at least you're here trying to do something about it - good luck :smile:
  • Cara720
    Cara720 Posts: 7
    I got a good one once... a mum at my daughters nusery asked me that question... i said no im not and she said 'oh... its just because i am expecting so thought you were' - what???? so cos your having a baby you think i am too.. well no love just got baby weight from thye last one!!!

    Jeezzzzz!!
  • SimoneBee12
    SimoneBee12 Posts: 268 Member
    IMO we would have a much better and more polite society here in America if every child attending High School was able to balance their own checkbook and was issued a high quality tazer upon graduating.

    An armed society is a polite society...

    This is going to make me sound like one of those airhead Millennials, but, what graduating teenager has a cheque book? Haha, everyone just BPays, PayPals and Direct Debits. I guarantee half my graduating class wouldn't even know HOW to write a cheque, let alone balance the whole book, something which I can actually do.

    However, as someone that works in retail, I believe they should receive a tazer, and have to politely pass through a supermarket checkout before being allowed to graduate, or I, the cashier, gets to taze them with their own tazer, and squash their watermelon!
  • mitchiejo
    mitchiejo Posts: 179 Member
    When I was in college ( a long time ago) I had girls that worked in the next office that use to whisper that about me. I don't think you should EVER ask someone if they are pregnant.
  • sunnshhiine
    sunnshhiine Posts: 727 Member
    Been there before. A co-worker asked me when I got "knocked up." My dad also made comments about me being pregnant. super awkward.

    Turns out I just had massive tumors the sizes of footballs and baseballs in there. Two surgeries later, I'm on my way back to a healthy weight. ;)
  • JohnsElan
    JohnsElan Posts: 81
    Being that I'm a guy, it is a particulary scathing quantum of douchebaggery when someone asks me that question.
  • randomtai
    randomtai Posts: 9,003 Member
    I think we sorely underestimate the amount of social morons in the world. I will never understand why anyone thinks it is ever appropriate to ask that question....

    Because reproduction is the meaning of life, its why we're here, so it is (and should be) a happy event. I don't think people are intentionally trying to upset anyone, they're trying to bring up a happy occasion.

    Unfortunately, sometimes in this day and age it can cause offense.

    OP, sorry you had the question, but at least you're here trying to do something about it - good luck :smile:

    This. I'm pretty sure no one did it to hurt your feelings.
  • dennik15
    dennik15 Posts: 97 Member
    This is going to make me sound like one of those airhead Millennials, but, what graduating teenager has a cheque book? Haha, everyone just BPays, PayPals and Direct Debits. I guarantee half my graduating class wouldn't even know HOW to write a cheque, let alone balance the whole book, something which I can actually do.

    However, as someone that works in retail, I believe they should receive a tazer, and have to politely pass through a supermarket checkout before being allowed to graduate, or I, the cashier, gets to taze them with their own tazer, and squash their watermelon!

    Unfortunately for those not taught to use a checkbook, there are still companies that don't accept electronic payment and you actually do have to use snail mail and a check. Not many, but often smaller service companies don't have the ability or desire to accept plastic or paypal. For example, the fine gentlemen who fixed my furnace the other day (when it was -30 wind chill and we had no heat in 1/3 of the house)...no check, no heat.

    To the OP...I had a lady at a blood drive ask me when I was due, WHILE I WAS DONATING BLOOD. Pretty sure my donation should have been the first clue as they don't let pregnant women do that sort of thing that I'm aware of. I told her 2 years ago, that promptly shut her up.
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    I got the "Are you having a baby?" Question...


    WHYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY DO PEOPLE ASK THAT QUESTION?!?! :devil: :brokenheart: :sad: :huh:
    What were you wearing at the time? Loos-fitting shirts and dresses can make even the slimmest woman look pregnant.
  • Schtroumpfkin
    Schtroumpfkin Posts: 123 Member
    I hope you said "Yes, can I have your seat?"

    Every cloud etc....
  • kar328
    kar328 Posts: 4,159 Member
    I USED to get this question quite frequently. You know what shuts them and makes sure that they never ask again, AS WELL AS helps spread word to not ask??

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    "Nope, just fat" :devil: :laugh: :devil: :laugh: :devil: :devil: :devil:

    I say it cheerfully, and with a big *kitten* smile :wink: :wink: :wink:

    Love this and I've used it myself. It works well and puts the embarrassment back where it belongs, on the other person.

    I've also heard "when are you due?" and respond with a blank look and "due for what?" That works well too.

    Ironically, I'm a Labor and Delivery nurse. We also never assume the person at the front desk is pregnant, especially if the ER is bringing them up to us. On occasion they've brought up non-English speaking women who are just overweight.

    The rule of thumb should be, don't ask if someone is pregnant unless you see the head emerging from her body. :bigsmile:
  • geebusuk
    geebusuk Posts: 3,348 Member
    I'm sure I've been asked "when's it due", sure I've done the same at least once to friends.
    Ok, I'm bloke and that would be to male friends :).

    I noted a reasonably 'large' woman had to specify something about being pregnant to me - I had just presumed she was fat!
  • Lonestar5775
    Lonestar5775 Posts: 740 Member
    I got the "Are you having a baby?" Question...


    WHYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY DO PEOPLE ASK THAT QUESTION?!?! :devil: :brokenheart: :sad: :huh:

    Because they want to be the first to congratulate you.
  • Livin4me1969
    Livin4me1969 Posts: 745 Member
    I USED to get this question quite frequently. You know what shuts them and makes sure that they never ask again, AS WELL AS helps spread word to not ask??

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    "Nope, just fat" :devil: :laugh: :devil: :laugh: :devil: :devil: :devil:



    I say it cheerfully, and with a big *kitten* smile :wink: :wink: :wink:

    Totally This :laugh:
  • UsedToBeHusky
    UsedToBeHusky Posts: 15,228 Member
    I worked with a woman who was normally very thin. I hadn't seen her for several months and when I ran into her. She had a protruding belly. There is no way she had put on that much weight in that short amount of time and she was only carrying it in her stomach. She was standing with her hand on her belly too.

    Admittedly, I asked if she was expecting. She wasn't. I'm still not sure what was going on with that. But depending on the circumstances, I could see how one might make that mistake.
  • tzig00
    tzig00 Posts: 875 Member
    I got asked that by a lady that I used to go to church with. I had my almost 1 year old son with me buying Christmas gifts for my family and she said she heard I was pregnant and asked when I was due. I looked her straight in the eyes and pointed to my son and said this is him and I was due in January of this year. You should've seen her eyes and how big they got! She just said I'm sorry and congratulations and didn't say another word to me. I also had a guy at 7-11 ask when I was due (when I was actually pregnant) and I told him and asked how he could tell. He told me he asks anyone who wears the "high waist" shirts that. Ignorance is bliss...
  • Zombieinkpot
    Zombieinkpot Posts: 745 Member
    I was waiting outside a shop one day and a little girl walked past with her father. I heard her ask 'is that lady pregnant?' It made a welcome change from 'look at that fatso' which children usually cry when they see me.

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