Saboteurs
jeromybilbo7
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Does anyone else have saboteurs around them? Seriously. This is getting rough. At this time, I am living with my parents while I am going back to school full time, and the food that gets brought in here is unbelievably tough. I have talked to them, but it isn't helping. Any advice?
Feel free to add me please. I can always use the motivation. Still 60lbs to go.
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Feel free to add me please. I can always use the motivation. Still 60lbs to go.
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can you buy your own food?
can you offer to do the grocery shopping or cook a few of the meals?
what about practicing portion control to just eat the same food only enough that it doesnt make you consistently go over you calorie goal?0 -
Does anyone else have saboteurs around them? Seriously. This is getting rough. At this time, I am living with my parents while I am going back to school full time, and the food that gets brought in here is unbelievably tough. I have talked to them, but it isn't helping. Any advice?
Feel free to add me please. I can always use the motivation. Still 60lbs to go.
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Sabotage implies intended malice.0 -
Nope, I am the master of my domain :laugh: I don't have to eat it just because someone else offers it or is eating it themselves.0
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I agree with the first response - you should offer to do the grocery shopping or to cook a few meals each week. That way you'll get to control what food you're eating, and your parents will have one less chore to do. If that doesn't work and you can't buy your own food, can you request that they buy a few items that are healthier just for you? Maybe you could have your own cabinet and only eat what you buy or what healthy options they get?0
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Money saved living with your parents can be used to buy better foods. I only say this because after college I moved home for a year and managed to save some money...that is all.0
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Buy some of your own groceries, or just eat less of what they cook. As mean as it sounds, use this as a chance to toughen yourself up and "suck it up", if you will. For example, if your weakness is ice cream, and they bring home a gallon of your favorite brand, use it as a lesson in moderation, measure yourself out a serving size, and eat it straight out of the measuring cup. After it's gone, measuring cup goes in dishwasher or washed in the sink and put away. It sounds goofy, but it works. At least I know it did for me.
Bottom line is you can't expect those around you to change because you are. As long as they're not plotting behind your back to keep you fat, they're not really sabotaging you. The onus is on you to work around them, not the other way around.
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I know what you're going through. I work with a great bunch of people, most of whom can eat whatever they want and lose weight practically without even trying. They order out 4-5 times per week and although I try not to order with them, I usually end up giving in. I really am my own self-saboteur. At home my mother brings in junk food constantly, and although I know she istrying to be nice constantly buys me candy and chips as presents. I try not to eat them or portion them out but I have failed up until recently. I really just changed my mindset. I stopped eating the food in the house and buying my own food. chicken, fruits and veggies, yogurt, and I joined a website called graze.com which mails healthy snacks (low cal options available) right to your house for $6 per box. I have a code that will allow you to try the first box free if you're interested send me a message and I can give it to you! Good luck!0
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Buy your own food and cook shared meals. This isn't a bad idea anyways.
It can be very difficult for someone who lives with their parents to essentially change the food that their parents put in front of them. The best way to do it is to participate in the cooking and the shopping.0 -
I have one on my friend's list.0
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Does anyone else have saboteurs around them? Seriously. This is getting rough. At this time, I am living with my parents while I am going back to school full time, and the food that gets brought in here is unbelievably tough. I have talked to them, but it isn't helping. Any advice?
Feel free to add me please. I can always use the motivation. Still 60lbs to go.
:happy:
Sabotage implies intended malice.
^ This. Work on your mindset. There's not a person out there who is out to make you overweight. We do that to ourselves.0 -
Offer to cook a few healthy meals and see if they will come on board
Good luck. My family gives me a hard time when I try to make us meatless. 0 -
Offer to cook a few healthy meals and see if they will come on board Good luck. My family gives me a hard time when I try to make us meatless.
I'd revolt.0 -
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Maybe they figure you aren't a kid anymore and need to deal with the real world, even if it's mom and dad's.0
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Dude! You're a grown man, living under THEIR roof, eating THEIR food, at (apparently) THEIR expense; and you're gonna kvetch and whine about the menu? The very existence of this post suggests you are a serious ingrate, my man. The suggestions I've seen in this thread are good and reasonable, and should be tried. But what sticks in my mind is that someone with enough brainpower for higher education couldn't visualize these possibilities himself. C'mon, man; you're better than that, aren't you?0
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You do not have to accept food brought to you. Buy/make your own. Maybe it's her way of passive-aggressively making you so unhappy you will move out! Wait....that's what my mom would do - hence, she lives in another state, LOL!!!
Bottom line, you control what you eat. Just close your mouth next time she tells you to "open up for the choo-choo!"0 -
Option 1: Cook your own food.
Option 2: Learn how to eat their food in portions that fit within your calories/macros, as closely as possible.
Both are difficult, but if you can change your mindset and not see certain foods as bad, or the other people in the house as sabateurs, then you can make it work for yourself.
Anything worth having takes effort. Good luck with it bro.0 -
Dude! You're a grown man, living under THEIR roof, eating THEIR food, at (apparently) THEIR expense; and you're gonna kvetch and whine about the menu? The very existence of this post suggests you are a serious ingrate, my man. The suggestions I've seen in this thread are good and reasonable, and should be tried. But what sticks in my mind is that someone with enough brainpower for higher education couldn't visualize these possibilities himself. C'mon, man; you're better than that, aren't you?
I pay rent as a roommate and all of my own bills. I don't mooch or live off of them financially. We agreed to have me here as a third of the rent as three roommates would. I am simply asking how to you all avoid the temptations when others bring the bad crap in. Maybe "sabotage" was a wrong word.0 -
I pay rent as a roommate and all of my own bills. I don't mooch or live off of them financially. We agreed to have me here as a third of the rent as three roommates would. I am simply asking how to you all avoid the temptations when others bring the bad crap in. Maybe "sabotage" was a wrong word.
Strong response, srs. Just tell yourself that it's not your food and you didn't pay for it. It's one thing to resist the temptation to snack, but what about stealing? Tell yourself that it isn't yours and eat the food that you buy.0 -
One of my bosses doesn't just bring food in, she physically places food in my hand and makes me eat it. Usually it's fairly good options, a cheese, hard boiled egg, or fruit, but sometimes it's chocolate. Yummy. I've just learnt to leave room for however much she has been bringing recently. If she doesn't bring food on any given day, or less, I just have more room at the end of the day for something yummy of my choosing. Simply having the food around isn't a big deal. Simply learn to only have what fits into your goals.0
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Just throw it away. If they ask you about it, just say you have been eating it. Sucks to have to toss out good food/money but sooner or later they will get the hint. Once you get in to the lifestyle it will be second nature to avoid the stuff but for now just throw it away it will be worth every penny.0
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Woot! I was hoping that somebody else likes the Beasties!!
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Just throw it away. If they ask you about it, just say you have been eating it. Sucks to have to toss out good food/money but sooner or later they will get the hint. Once you get in to the lifestyle it will be second nature to avoid the stuff but for now just throw it away it will be worth every penny.
You would be the worst roommate ever!
This isn't like mom sending you home with a lasanga! He doesn't need to waste their money by tossing food away. And how exactly is pretnding to eat the food they buy going to discourage them from buying it -- they will assume he LIKES it. He needs to buy and eat his own food. If he LIKES what they are making he has to learn how to eat it and stay within his macros.
OP, seriously I lost 50 pounds living at home with parents who give NO cares about healthy eating the summer following my college graduation before my job started (which moved me away). I bought my own food so I could make my own meals or suplemment what they were making.0 -
A thread just for me?
*sniff*
I want to thank my Mum, my Dad, my brother, my nieces and nephew...
...the cat with three legs who bit me when I was 4...
...the barber who shaved all my hair off when I was 8...
...Thank you, thank you everyone who made this possible.0 -
A thread just for me?
*sniff*
I want to thank my Mum, my Dad, my brother, my nieces and nephew...
...the cat with three legs who bit me when I was 4...
...the barber who shaved all my hair off when I was 8...
...Thank you, thank you everyone who made this possible.
Yay! You made it!0 -
A thread just for me?
*sniff*
I want to thank my Mum, my Dad, my brother, my nieces and nephew...
...the cat with three legs who bit me when I was 4...
...the barber who shaved all my hair off when I was 8...
...Thank you, thank you everyone who made this possible.
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Discipline. I have an 18 yr old who eats whatever she wants. I even take her to get her food and have even went to restaurants and sat there with lemon water.
Its up to you to decide your path. And you can eat their food just have to be mindful of amounts and calories.
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I live with my parents as a college student as well. I try to buy my own groceries, which I think helps my mindset. I'll not let food go to waste if I'm buying it, and I know there's always something waiting for me that will fit my calories. Of course, they have their food as well. I'm welcome to share it....but I found once I wanted this bad enough, staying out of their food wasnt as much of an issue anymore.0
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Just throw it away. If they ask you about it, just say you have been eating it. Sucks to have to toss out good food/money but sooner or later they will get the hint. Once you get in to the lifestyle it will be second nature to avoid the stuff but for now just throw it away it will be worth every penny.
Throw away the food someone else buys? Are you serious?
That is the most selfish, inconsiderate thing OP could do.0 -
Just throw it away. If they ask you about it, just say you have been eating it. Sucks to have to toss out good food/money but sooner or later they will get the hint. Once you get in to the lifestyle it will be second nature to avoid the stuff but for now just throw it away it will be worth every penny.
Throw away the food someone else buys? Are you serious?
That is the most selfish, inconsiderate thing OP could do.
^This.
OP, just eat less of it and move more.0
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