Feeling sad because guy cancelled date. Advice?

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  • Wifey7891
    Wifey7891 Posts: 91
    At least he didn't stand you up! That happened to me once and it sucked. But you can't force someone to want to spend time with you. There could have been a lot of reasons he cancelled. Maybe its bad timing? If school is far away? Be patient.
  • Andy_83
    Andy_83 Posts: 270
    Diamonds arent a girls best friend, DD batteries are

    Amen brother!

    I've heard of AA batteries and D batteries but DD, i don't even wanna know. And you wonder why men are intimidated :)
  • j0705
    j0705 Posts: 185
    sounds like he put you on the back burner .. something else came up he would rather do??? dont be second best to anything ..he missed his chance dont give second chances , you become a door mat if you do x
  • Jerrypeoples
    Jerrypeoples Posts: 1,541 Member
    Diamonds arent a girls best friend, DD batteries are

    Amen brother!

    I've heard of AA batteries and D batteries but DD, i don't even wanna know. And you wonder why men are intimidated :)

    im old
  • Chieflrg
    Chieflrg Posts: 9,097 Member
    Rule 1: Never over-analyze anything a guy says.

    Rule 2: Move on and find someone else who will be interested in meeting up.

    QFT
  • jeralank
    jeralank Posts: 56 Member
    Sounds like he chickened out to me.

    agreed!!!
  • baileysmom4
    baileysmom4 Posts: 242 Member
    I'm concerned about his "sure we can hang out another time" response. To me it sounds like he's just not that into you - whether its because he's too busy or not interested. After having my own dating horror stories, I've tried to just accept when a guy is not that into me and just move on. If he is really interested, he will make the effort and reschedule. In the meantime, save yourself some grief and just focus on yourself. Last time a guy I met online bailed on me, turns out he had a girlfriend. So he may be doing you a favor by cancelling the date.

    this ^
    You got to have a tough shell to online date. NEVER take a rejection as meant because of you. They haven't even met you! I think a lot of the guys that are online are either shy or very awkward around women and being behind the computer screen gives them guts to say things they could never say in person. Then when it gets down to the wire, they chicken out and make lame excuses. Heck, I did that in my past online dating life. You learn it is the norm online and just don't ever take it seriously. Otherwise you will drive yourself crazy! Good luck! OH and did I mention, I met my husband online! :heart:
  • Monkey_Business
    Monkey_Business Posts: 1,800 Member
    Rule 1: Never over-analyze anything a guy says.

    Rule 2: Move on and find someone else who will be interested in meeting up.

    Totally agree with Ginger, guys are guys (stupid inconsiderite jerks at times).

    Move on, think of it this way you are looking for a pearl in a sea of clams, you will find it, just keep looking

    Good Luck
  • Greytfish
    Greytfish Posts: 810
    Rule 1: Never over-analyze anything a guy says.

    Rule 2: Move on and find someone else who will be interested in meeting up.

    This.
  • MayaSPapaya
    MayaSPapaya Posts: 735 Member
    Thanks so much for your advice everyone! After day of getting over the dissapointment, I'm ready to accept that him cancelling was entirely on him and was his loss!
  • Greytfish
    Greytfish Posts: 810
    Thanks so much for your advice everyone! After day of getting over the dissapointment, I'm ready to accept that him cancelling was entirely on him and was his loss!

    Atta girl!
  • TamTastic
    TamTastic Posts: 19,224 Member
    Don't look into it too much. It could be for a bunch of reasons. He's really busy and knows he's going back to school and didn't think it smart to start something? Or he's just busy and couldn't make it...you really have no idea. Online dating is an odd duck for sure. I did it for awhile but backed off because it was turning me off dating!! haha!!

    Last year I went on a date with a guy and he wanted to see me again...we were going to hang out a Tuesday. I was sick (truly sick) and had a doctors appt and was nauseous, etc..and asked to reschedule for Friday..he said sure....and then Thursday I said "Hey we still on?"...and he said "I'm sorry I've met someone else!" (I think he was annoyed I had cancelled the Tues date) LOL! And then a couple of weeks later text me saying "Ohh she wasn't for me, I'd like to see you again". Errr..don't think so!! :tongue:

    My point is that it could be a legitimate reason he cancelled and instead of assuming he's doing something wrong or mean...maybe it's just that he can't make it. You know? Don't assume too much, especially with online dating.

    :flowerforyou:
  • meeper123
    meeper123 Posts: 3,347 Member
    He could be hiding something like a wedding ring just don't sweet it
  • Greytfish
    Greytfish Posts: 810
    Last year I went on a date with a guy and he wanted to see me again...we were going to hang out a Tuesday. I was sick (truly sick) and had a doctors appt and was nauseous, etc..and asked to reschedule for Friday..he said sure....and then Thursday I said "Hey we still on?"...and he said "I'm sorry I've met someone else!" (I think he was annoyed I had cancelled the Tues date) LOL! And then a couple of weeks later text me saying "Ohh she wasn't for me, I'd like to see you again". Errr..don't think so!! :tongue:

    Did you take advantage of the opportunity to text back "I've met someone"

    I don't know that it's anything about online dating. I think the experience has more to do witht he way women date than the way men date. Men meet someone (in person or online) and are interested. Then they meet someone they're more interested in, so their focus shifts and they back burner the other woman (breaking a date, not setting a meeting, saying they've met someone else) and pursue the new object. When that doesn't work out, if their isn't option #3 on the horizon, they take advanatge of the opportunity and reach out to girl #1.

    Oh, and they use the "I've met someone" when they have met someone, but also when they just aren't that interested and want to pursue other opportunities without totally closing the door, in case they don't find something better. It works because it makes women think they're committment oriented and that if they go out with him, that's what he's telling other women.

    It boils down to this: If a man is interested, he will make time. If he doesn't, he's not.

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