Going on a date with someone I'm not interested in?
This guy keeps asking me out and I keep making up excuses as to why I can't go on a date with him. He's a very nice guy but I'm not really feeling him like he's feeling me.
He's asked me multiple times, and I'm starting to feel bad for rejecting his offer so often. Should I be nice and agree to a date but tell him that we'll go dutch on all expenses or just break the news to him that I'm not interested?
He's asked me multiple times, and I'm starting to feel bad for rejecting his offer so often. Should I be nice and agree to a date but tell him that we'll go dutch on all expenses or just break the news to him that I'm not interested?
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I've been on dates with guys who I wasn't overly interested in, I was bored senseless!
My advice, don't bother x0 -
Don't do it, because it gives them hope when there isn't any. Then he starts to bother you even more because there's that glimmer of hope. I know from experience.0
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Tell him "I'm sorry, I can't." And that's that.0
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I would tell him that you're not interested, and will never be.
It's simple.0 -
I felt that same way about a guy i went to law school with. I knew he was SO into me and I just didn't feel like he was my type. I ended up marrying him and we have a baby on the way. I say go on that date, because you really never know!0
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Be a little bit more obvious in your excuses. Don't give the guy any hope.
Some people will kill you with persistence.0 -
I definitely agree about not giving him that sense of hope by saying yes.
I would just sit him down and tell him honestly, you don't feel it, and it's never going to happen.
If he's so nice, you want him to find someone that can actually love him, and not be stuck on you for ages.0 -
tell him you can't because you're moving to yemen.
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Be a little bit more obvious in your excuses. Don't give the guy any hope.
Some people will kill you with persistence.
one I heard recently that I thought was brilliant was " I have to alphabetize my tee-shirts"
now if that's not obvious I don't know what is.I'm sure I can come up with a few more like that if you want.0 -
I don't want to hurt his feelings but I don't want to lead him on. That's why I suggested that I go on the date but pay for my part of it. I feel bad.0
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This used to be my problem.I don't want to hurt his feelings but I don't want to lead him on. That's why I suggested that I go on the date but pay for my part of it. I feel bad.
You will get sucked in if you don't address it now that you're ahead.
Get him out of your life now, before he gets more entangled in it.
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Just tell him you're not interested in being anything other than his friend, and that his advances make you uncomfortable. Sometimes being too nice just doesn't work!0
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Honesty is probably your best bet. If you keep making up excuses he'll keep asking or key into the fact that you're lying to blow him off and that will hurt him.0
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People like direct talk. A lot of people, not all, but many, think talking like that is being rude.
FIFY.
It's not a gender thing, it's a people thing.0 -
The last time I was honest with a guy about not being interested, he called me ugly and fat lol. I'm not too good at this.0
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That's called he was butthurt.The last time I was honest with a guy about not being interested, he called me ugly and fat lol. I'm not too good at this.
If you were "ugly and fat", he would not be pursuing you in the first place. He reeked of rejection. Just laugh and move on.
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That's called he was butthurt.The last time I was honest with a guy about not being interested, he called me ugly and fat lol. I'm not too good at this.
If you were "ugly and fat", he would not be pursuing you in the first place. He reeked of rejection. Just laugh and move on.
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I did haha. It was his loss.0 -
TOTALLY!
That's called he was butthurt.The last time I was honest with a guy about not being interested, he called me ugly and fat lol. I'm not too good at this.
If you were "ugly and fat", he would not be pursuing you in the first place. He reeked of rejection. Just laugh and move on.
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I did haha. It was his loss.
Just tell the dude you're not into him. If he wants to be friends.. Cool. That's where you draw your line.
Don't feel bad, be blunt.0 -
well, what's wrong with him, why AREN'T you interested in him.0
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TOTALLY!
That's called he was butthurt.The last time I was honest with a guy about not being interested, he called me ugly and fat lol. I'm not too good at this.
If you were "ugly and fat", he would not be pursuing you in the first place. He reeked of rejection. Just laugh and move on.
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I did haha. It was his loss.
Just tell the dude you're not into him. If he wants to be friends.. Cool. That's where you draw your line.
Don't feel bad, be blunt.
I HATE rejecting guys lol. I'll have to, though. Thanks for the advice.0 -
Stop making excuses. You're not into him. Let him know, so he quits wasting his time and yours.0 -
Had to quote.
Stop making excuses. You're not into him. Let him know, so he quits wasting his time and yours.
For the love of MLP.0 -
Tell him "I'm sorry, I can't." And that's that.
Thread should have ended here. Say you are not interested and move on.0 -
I felt that same way about a guy i went to law school with. I knew he was SO into me and I just didn't feel like he was my type. I ended up marrying him and we have a baby on the way. I say go on that date, because you really never know!
^^^^^this!!!! my best guy friend used to ask me to dinner or a movie almost daily and I always rejected until one night I said okay but I picked the places we went (dollar movie but we missed it ended up going to an arcade) and here we are two years later married with a beautiful daughter. love is strange but you never know!
and yes my man (with enough persistence) made it OUT of the friendzone!0 -
If you go dutch or even offer to pay, I don't see the harm. So long as you INSIST on at least half. I say this because I have dated some really awesome people by just giving them a shot. Maybe it will spark an interest. But if it doesn't, be straight forward afterwards.0
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Just tell him you r not interested0
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I felt that same way about a guy i went to law school with. I knew he was SO into me and I just didn't feel like he was my type. I ended up marrying him and we have a baby on the way. I say go on that date, because you really never know!
My friend was like this too, she said he's not my type etc. I said just go and they're still together 2 years later.0 -
I would tell him that you're not interested, and will never be.
It's simple.
Do this. Otherwise you give the guy hope that one date might lead to other dates. If you know now that won't happen, tell him.0 -
Thanks everyone. (:0
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