Bad news, but now I know why he has been acting the way he's

GTOgirl1969

I hate to dump this on you all, but I found out tonight that my husband is having an affair. THE WOMAN SHOWED UP AT MY HOUSE!!!!!!!!!! *not too bright of him to tell her to come over* She asked if he was there, and I asked her who she was. She said that they'd been seeing each other for almost ten months:noway: and that she didn't know he was taken. *my a*s she didn't* I told her to leave.
Now I know why he's been acting like a jerk...he's been picking little fights so that he would have an excuse to leave the house. ugggggggggghhh...:explode: :explode: :explode:
At least this won't derail my weight loss....when I get stressed, mad or upset, I don't eat! I seriously feel like I am going to be sick:sick:

GTOgirl1969

I hate to dump this on you all, but I found out tonight that my husband is having an affair. THE WOMAN SHOWED UP AT MY HOUSE!!!!!!!!!! *not too bright of him to tell her to come over* She asked if he was there, and I asked her who she was. She said that they'd been seeing each other for almost ten months:noway: and that she didn't know he was taken. *my a*s she didn't* I told her to leave.
Now I know why he's been acting like a jerk...he's been picking little fights so that he would have an excuse to leave the house. ugggggggggghhh...:explode: :explode: :explode:
At least this won't derail my weight loss....when I get stressed, mad or upset, I don't eat! I seriously feel like I am going to be sick:sick:

Helawat

Wow, that's very intense and I'm sorry to hear that your man turned into such a turd...more than a turd, a complete *kitten*. I'm upset from hearing about that! :explode: :mad: :explode: :mad:

Please don't let this put you off track! You're getting close to your goal and if you're ever going to do something for yourself now, this is the time!

You're a bigger woman than me.....I would have either attacked the woman or my husband....maybe both.

Keep going! Don't let this stop you now!

5KNohno

I am so sorry!!! Don't really know what to say, just wanted to let you know that we are all here for you.

hmmmm

MEN SUCK!! I am really sorry this happened to you. I hope you can get thru this. What did he say?? Jerk. I hope you know we are there for you even if it is just over the internet. It seems like you still have a positive outlook and I am very glad to see this. If you need to talk I am here. Heather

GTOgirl1969

I wanted to kick her a*s but my girls were right there, and I didn't want to lower myself in front of them. I politely told her to get the hell off my property before I called the police. Of course my husband tried to lie and say that he hadn't been seeing her, but right now his credibility with me is ZERO..so I believe her.

jenken99

I hate to dump this on you all, but I found out tonight that my husband is having an affair. THE WOMAN SHOWED UP AT MY HOUSE!!!!!!!!!! *not too bright of him to tell her to come over* She asked if he was there, and I asked her who she was. She said that they'd been seeing each other for almost ten months:noway: and that she didn't know he was taken. *my a*s she didn't* I told her to leave.
Now I know why he's been acting like a jerk...he's been picking little fights so that he would have an excuse to leave the house. ugggggggggghhh...:explode: :explode: :explode:
At least this won't derail my weight loss....when I get stressed, mad or upset, I don't eat! I seriously feel like I am going to be sick:sick:

wow the nerve of her,if she didnt know about you would be different, she had to have known i had a similar situation years ago and trust me, he isnt worth it,, greener grass on the other side,,
keep on track with your diet and live life to the fulliest!!!!:drinker:

GTOgirl1969

I just don't know who else to talk to...my family has already made it abundantly clear how they feel about him., so they just don't want to hear it:ohwell:
Guess it's time to load up the GTO and just drive, baby, drive....

icandoit

I am so sorry to hear this. I know there are no words to make you feel better. I do know this...we are all here for you and stand behind you. You have a full team of support. Be strong and show him what kind of woman you are. A beautiful, caring, head strong, don't take **** kind of woman. From all your posts, you are very strong and you will be fine. You and your kids show him that he cannot bring you all down.
You take care.:flowerforyou:

Don't pack of the GTO.....He can pack up and ride. You stay home with your kids. He screwed you.....you didn't screw him.

BreaNix

I am sorry to hear your news. That's terrible.

It doesn't matter if the girl knew or not, she's no body to you. Its your husband that gets all of the blame. He was the one that made a commitment to you.

I am glad you were able to put on a brave face for you daughters. You'll need to keep your cool head to get through this. You can vent to us. Stay strong.

Helawat

That's right!

We stand behind you and despite us being on the internet and many of us may not have had a chance to have had a true conversation with you, we are members of the same community and fight the same demons and battles.

If you need to talk or rant, or talk crap about your man's lack of balls we're here It may not be of much comfort but if your family doesn't want to hear it we will :flowerforyou:

chriss1tt

That's right!

We stand behind you and despite us being on the internet and many of us may not have had a chance to have had a true conversation with you, we are members of the same community and fight the same demons and battles.

If you need to talk or rant, or talk crap about your man's lack of balls we're here It may not be of much comfort but if your family doesn't want to hear it we will :flowerforyou:

Well said and I agree. What a BUTT=HOLE. I am soooo sorry. Hang in there, there is bigger and better waiting for you.

GTOgirl1969

I'm not going to get mad, I'm going to get EVERYTHING!!!

She can have him....we'll see how much fun he is to be around when he's flat broke from paying spousal/child support, and doesn't have a pot to piss in!
Even his son is pissed off at him...he said, "Dad, you really gave her a raw deal, and I wouldn't blame her if she left and took you for all you are worth!"

Helawat

You're my hero

dschref1

I've lived both sides of this. I'll not pretend to know what specifically to suggest, other than to say, either walk away and be done - or sit down with him and get to the root cause of the problem and fix it. Either path will be hard and plagued with question and doubt. What I know from personal experience is that I couldn't live with anything between those two paths. Be decisive one way or the other. Sincerely, best of luck and be strong either way.

lifesaver

wow... what an jerk. we're all here for you! :flowerforyou: keep your head up

icandoit

Did you cancel the ad on craigslist??:laugh: Sorry I just had too.

GTOgirl1969

Did you cancel the ad on craigslist??:laugh: Sorry I just had too.

No, I just moved it to the "obituaries" section:laugh:

icandoit

Did you cancel the ad on craigslist??:laugh: Sorry I just had too.

No, I just moved it to the "obituaries" section:laugh:

PERFECT:laugh:

Hannele

What an idiot!! But as everyone else has said already, we're all here for you! :-)

marshall153

Ugh... I hate that, my dad cheated on my mum. The stupid ***** even knew me and my little brother and sister. Sorry, I'm still angry :explode:
I'm so sorry to hear that, and yep we're all here for you. Good luck with things :flowerforyou:

GTOgirl1969

Thanks y'all...I think I'll put him at the curb with the rest of the trash.
On to bigger/ better things....let him have his cake! I hope he chokes on it.:devil:

alyfin

I'm sorry for your pain.

cmriverside

GTO - Boys are dumb. And yours seems to have lost his mind. Whatever you decide to do, stay with us. This is a great group of people, and we are here for you.

:flowerforyou: Crusty Pottydoodle. (AKA Cheryl)

neverbeenskinny

GTO, they will all get theirs in the end. My ex-husband cheated on me too, for far too long...3 years with the same woman and others. I was going through medical problems at the time, Ovarian Cancer, so my focus wasn't so much on us as it was on healing and getting healthy. It was like he lived 2 separate lives, even his friends and family didn't know about it, he was so good at deceiving.

I am happy to report that as of today, I have lost 60 pounds since the divorce. A couple of weeks ago, I saw the woman that my ex was cheating with for years, and she looked like she picked up all of my 60 pounds and then some...justice...it's so sweet. :laugh:

As for me, I'm happier now than when I was married to him, it took me a while to get here, but I'm here.

REB89

I'm not going to get mad, I'm going to get EVERYTHING!!!

She can have him....we'll see how much fun he is to be around when he's flat broke from paying spousal/child support, and doesn't have a pot to piss in!
Even his son is pissed off at him...he said, "Dad, you really gave her a raw deal, and I wouldn't blame her if she left and took you for all you are worth!"

good for you! He's an idiot for screwing up a relationship with a strong, beautiful and caring woman like you and I truly do believe that what goes around comes around and he will get exactly what he deserves. In the mean time we are all here for you whether you want to be upset, angry, get advice, vent or whatever :flowerforyou:

natashav

my man treated me like **** too but dont worry when your hot and skinny and he is still with that old *kitten* he'll be sorry or thats just what i tell myself and i truly hope you leave him because once a cheater always a cheater

jakspak

just want to say ive got your back girl even all the way here in nz

my friend is going through this at the mo although already at the tried to work it out (he was groveling and saying sorry so gave him a chance) but she cant get past it as it was her brothers partner he cheated with mmm not a good thing so he is on his ear still begging to be back. kids are young so abit hard on them but she is strong and has lost loads of weight since it all happened and looking hot. which is not great for his ego when a famous tv presenter here hits on his ex wife lol

you go girl and keep on track as you are doing this for yourself not for him so keep coming in here and vent away.

and give it to him make him pay like the 1st wives club dont get even get everthing like you said lol

kimber607

What an *kitten*
((HUGS))
You can get through this...kick him to the curb,.,you deserve MUCH MUCH better!!!!

Kim

TamTastic

Hey!

I am really sorry to hear what you are going through! I can't even imagine what I would do if I found out something like that! Actually, I would function and survive for the sake of my children (Just like you are!)

You are a VERY strong woman!! You deserve the best!!! Good luck!!

Hugs!
Tami

lina1131

Oh dear lord, I am so sorry.

What an *kitten*! :mad: