Question to grieving parents...

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  • tchereej
    tchereej Posts: 18 Member
    So sorry for your loss! I know it isn't the same as losing a child but my brother was killed on October 20. We were exactly 13 months apart in age and we were very close. I was/am devastated to say the least. It just so happens that he is my inspiration for being here and starting my diet. I never thought about death before this happened, and no one close to me has ever died. It really made me realize what a gift life is! He was my age and his was taken away. I feel like it is horrible for me to waste mine being overweight, especially knowing the weight will shorten my life. I don't want to take my life for granted because there are many deserving people who don't have the opportunity to live theirs. So, I use that as motivation. It almost feels unfair to him for me not to do this.
  • Kimmiepro6
    Kimmiepro6 Posts: 1 Member
    I am sorry for your loss. I to loss a child. I loss 30lbs after his passing. It fell off me like butter and I was able to eat anything, nothing stayed. The weight did not start coming back for almost a year. By then I was into some very bad eating habits and the depression and crying fits were still very huge daily occurrences. I was tired all the time and had sugar cravings all day long. I started having vertigo issues. My doctor kept testing me for thyroid problems and one day my tests came back with a non-functioning thyroid. I do not know the cause of it, but have read it can happen after being pregnant. For some the thyroid reawakens after a long shutdown and for others it can never truly starts working again. Have you had your Dr check your Thyroid levels? Also I had my levels tested 3 months apart and it was on the second test that showed it was non-functioning. Once I was placed on meds, stability began and the deep depression began to lift. My Dr. Also suggested a vitamin B complex shot every 2 weeks and daily under the tongue vitamin B complex drops. It helps tremendously with my lack of energy. I hope this helps, you will find the strength to continue on your journey.
  • jellybeans37
    jellybeans37 Posts: 33 Member
    In March I lost my baby after an hour of her birth. It was a total shock for my husband and I. After all my babies I was able to get right on track and lose my weight. After the death of baby Sienna, well. It took me so long and many fails to get back into working out and managing calories. To be honest this last week was just a breakthrough moment when I went into a dressing room. I have to let go of the grief and get my body back in shape and healthy again. I pray for comfort and for encouragement that you need.
  • meritage4
    meritage4 Posts: 1,441 Member
    Compassionate Friends is a group of parents whose child has died. It's an american organization so there might be a chapter near you. It's NOT therapy but it is others who have been through it.
  • jenilla1
    jenilla1 Posts: 11,118 Member
    Grief counseling or similar therapy. You have nothing to be ashamed of. It's not crazy to seek help after such a traumatic loss. :heart:
  • Vegan_85
    Vegan_85 Posts: 40 Member
    I'm very sorry for your loss. That was a horrible experience and your reaction is normal. However, medication might help you cope in the meantime, until you get back into the habit of being active and eating well.

    Good luck
  • Marcellus_08
    Marcellus_08 Posts: 253
    Thank you all so much for commeting and leaving me suggestions.
    It really was so nice to wake up and see all your sweet comments and the personal messages some of you have left me.
    I am so sorry for all the one that also said they have lost a loved one.
    I think I am going to go out and walk today and find something active to do.
    Thank you all so much.
    I was so nervous writing about it, but you all have been so incredibly sweet and understanding. I really really appreciate it. More than you know.

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