Remarks others have made about your weight...

bjshooter

Once when I weighed about as much as I do now 169, a guy was starring at me and went wow you would be so beutiful if you lost all the weight

rfialkiewicz

Once when I weighed about as much as I do now 169, a guy was starring at me and went wow you would be so beutiful if you lost all the weight

Di you answer, "Wow. You would be so beautiful if you hadn't opened your mouth and spoke." ?

millerll

"I was working out at the ymca and a guy was mad because all the ellipticals were being used. I happend the be on the elliptical closest to the walkway, he came up to me and told me I was to fat to be using the machine and that I needed to get off so people like him wouldn't become like me. "

If anyone had ever said anything like that to me at the gym, I'd have jumped off that elliptical and jack-slapped him into the next zip code. Don't fu@k with the fat girl.....just sayin'...........

Scorpiomom222

I've got a good one I haven't seen yet. "You got the brains, your sister got the looks."

Heard that most of my life. Not demoralizing at all, no! :grumble:

What happened to being beautiful on the inside? There are a lot of people I know who are thin and beautiful on the outside, but I would never want to be them because they are so disgusting on the inside.

Don't you know that nobody goes for "beautiful on the inside" anymore? Nobody cares what's on the inside as long as they can GET inside. (if you know what I mean)

Scorpiomom222

I was working out at the ymca and a guy was mad because all the ellipticals were being used. I happend the be on the elliptical closest to the walkway, he came up to me and told me I was to fat to be using the machine and that I needed to get off so people like him wouldn't become like me. :devil:

What a F*CKING jerk! I would have socked him right in his big mouth!

jantawa

The thing is really...even when we reach our desired/normal weight, when it comes down to it - people that are jerks and don't like you, will still not like you. I have always told my kids who would say if I was just...(fill in the blanks) than everyone would like me. And I said whether you are fat or thin, wear glasses or don't; you can never strive to be someone else's ideal...because there will always be someone who will find something they don't like about you. Do whatever you have to do for YOU and for what makes YOU happy and healthy.

megan_mp

My son told me one day (when he was 7), "Mom, if you just lost some weight, then you'd look like a REAL mom..."

annie008

WOW!...reading through each of your comments has totally gotten me depressed. I feel like crunching into a ball and crying. I know exactly what you guys are talking about, and felt the pain in each one of you as I read each one of your words. I have been told many many of those same remarks. They become a tattoo in your heart. My family has always been one to say something. I have a long time friend of the family who says at least once a week (as if it's the first time she has mentioned this) "the other day I was looking through some pictures, and I found one of when you were so pretty and thin!...oh how you were pretty!...not like now that you're just ugly and fat" ....oh thanks!...to top it off she repeats it to everyone around at the moment....just in case you didn't catch it the first time!

I'm not sure what my problem is with the weight really. I don't know if it's what I eat or what, but I'm not one to eat much. For the most part I have to be on myself to meet the calorie count. I hate eating in public because I feel people's automatic assumption that I am fat because I must pig out all day. The worse is when someone approaches me and says "you see, you really should stop eating....that's why you are the way you are".

jantawa

Sounds like me Annie...have hypothyroid (in addition to a zillion other things), but it may be as my one son told me...you aren't eating enough. And I begin to think that is true, because I notice I do much better when I eat closer to the amount of calories I'm supposed to be eating. Anyway, don't be depressed...remember there is strength in numbers and that is what makes MFP such a great place.

pcw52

I can relate. I have women assuming that your sex life must be terrible and tell you, " If only you would lose some weight". My mother is always criticizing type of person. Always the opposite of what anyone says except about weight. Harsh. Even when one of my girls was 5' 8 and a size 3, mom would comment on her full figure butt. It hurts. People will ignore you sorta like fat is contagious. I too have have many health problems and gained so much wt. because of the stinking medicine. I had lost 20 lbs 3 years ago only to get a new med. and gin it back in just a few weeks. Painful!
At church, I always had a little test question to size up the group I was with and over the years it was amazing how the comments changed. When we moved here a few years ago, we decided on not telling our group that my husband managed a company and I was a designer. Just wanted to see who were the real friends and who just wanted the connection. 94% used you for what they could get. Even in church. People are people. It was not a surprise. We have our prejudices. Sad but true. I grew up never wanting to hurt any one's feeling. I as a parent do hurt the feeling of my girls. No one likes to be corrected. I don't like it.
I have learned a couple of things. I have to move, exercise. I have to watch what I eat. The medicines I take make it very hard to lose. As younger person, I would have lost 40 pounds by now. I have to lose for my health and not for anyone else. My goals are about my family and the person I want to please is ME.
My dad was always an inspiration. he smoked because he was shy and very shy. he had to manage his weight. He ate like ctazy if he didn't. He quit smoking and he cooked his own food to diet. He took a sxck of medicine. He drank plain coffee, v 8, and gallons of water. He kept moviing. He di it own his ownwithout a cheerleading squd. I hope I will do as well with support.
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Scorpiomom222

My son told me one day (when he was 7), "Mom, if you just lost some weight, then you'd look like a REAL mom..."

Awww! I'm sorry. Thing about kids is they don't know what real is yet. He might see moms on TV who are thin and beautiful, and it's just a sham. I hope it didn't hurt you too bad.

waguchan

When I was 16 year old, I went to Japan for 1 year as a high school exchange student. I was normal weight by American standards... maybe a size 8 or 10 at the most. But during my first week there at the orientation, some Japanese boys started pointing at me laughing and pretended to be Sumo wrestlers. Another exchange student from Australia who could speak some Japanese joined in on their ridicule. One of the orientation counselors yelled at them all in Japanese and I ran off and cried in my room for 2 days. I didn't speak Japanese yet, but I knew what they meant.

I was ridiculed about my weight the entire year I was there. My host sister was constantly asking me how many puppies I was going to give birth to. When I studied there again in college, some girls from Thailand told a professor that I was pregnant, when I clearly wasn't.

I really don't think I had a weight problem or image problem before I went to Japan at the age of 16. But from that point on, I struggled with my weight and body image. Now I'm 42, and I feel AWESOME!

TMLS

I think I've had some bad remarks this week, but wonder what other people think.

On Wednesday I was interviewed by the local newspaper on weightloss. They had a bit of an agenda, trying to get me say I'd lost what I'd lost through a gastric band, and they were disappointed when I said it was through diet and fitness. I then put a status on here saying

"has just done an interview with the local paper over a feature they're doing on weight loss. They thought I'd done what I've done with a gastric band, not hard work. It's almost insulting Oh well, sure there'll be some kind of hatchet job when it goes in tomorrow... "

Note the winking smiley, and the "almost". An hour or so later I received a text from my fiancée, saying the following:

"Hi em wud u pass message 2 dan plz i ain't got his number x plz tell him yes it is very insulting ! Gastic bands r not a quik fix solution it's still hard work only difference is I won't put weight back on and yes it's all down 2 willpower of which I have none."

It had come from my sister-in-law's girlfriend, who had a gastric band fitted earlier this year. I actually broke down in tears at work over the comment about putting the weight back on - I've had a bad time recently over not going to the gym and it really hurt. I then looked at it again, and thought maybe she was joking like I was with my comment.

Talking to my fiancée later, apparently she'd played absolute hell at my comment thinking that I'd directed it solely at her. Now, when I say that she only saw it becasue my MFP syncs to my Facebook and she'd made use of my sister-in-law leaving her Facebook logged in in order to see it I think it's pretty obvious that if I had intended it for her, it would have been a long way to go about it! Frankly I hadn't even thought of her, I barely see her and I didn't even remember she had the op - been concentrating on my own fitness!

Was I wrong to say it in the first place? I don't think so, as I couldn't have envisaged this happening for the reasons I just stated - it was a jokey exasperation at a journalist trying to serve his own agenda (and if you saw the story, you'd see he went down that route and made it look like I'd WANTED a gastric band but had to do it the hard way!). But it's meant we've all fallen out and is even causing problems with my fiancée and I. I just want other's opinions on whether it's all being blown out of proportion. I think it is, but there was no need for the "difference is I won't put weight back on " comment which, was a direct personal attack which mine in no way was. Help me, MFP

Julbella78

From a random male stranger... "Congratulations! When are you due?"

I have had this too.

lloydrt

how sad that your fiances sister in law wouldnt be happy for you, instead of causing problems for the both of you. I say, ditch her....who needs the bagage. After all, you only lost the weight so you can he healthy, I mean, you want to have a safe and healthy marriage, not one where your wife will have to take care of you in bed

You know, be careful...sometimes when people lose lots of weight, others are jealous and want to sabatoge you. Think I m kidding?

Im not, it happend where I worked, I saw it happen and didnt have a problem letting the 2 girls know what I thought.......

Just be aware, some people may not be comfortable with the new you, and also, remember, you were in the spot light, with the interviews and all......maybe she didnt like you recieving all the notarity?

hmm......I would be suspicious of her.....Good luck and dont back down....stand your ground ...Lloyd

Alioth

The worst for me is when people comment on my chest (which has gotten fatter as I have). Why people think it's okay to freely comment on a person's butt or rate their boobs is beyond me. :mad:

I was on disability for 9 months, and when I went back to work (after losing 85 pounds) I was treated to a discussion about how my boobs are sagging. I never realized I was a topic of interest. It stung quite a bit, since one of the girls in the discussion had only met me the day before.

Ugh. Did those girls also have fuzzy ears, whiskers, and tails? Talk about catty!

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I can't believe the rest of these stories, especially the elliptical jerk. Some people will say and do anything to get their way.

Waguchan, how does that saying go in Japan? "The nail that sticks out must be hammered down." You were a foreigner. Couldn't help but stick out. I think some of that collective mindset works over here too though. Anything or anybody different is bound to rub some people the wrong way.

StatutoryGrape

I have an aunt who hates on me constantly because I'm technically (because I am VERY pear-shaped) a size 12. "Well, if you tried harder..." At my grandma's birthday party, she ripped on me for taking a slice of cake. "Do you REALLY need that?" OH FOR CHRIST'S SAKE.

MamaRandall

I invited my husband's best friend and his girlfriend to come over to our house a couple weeks ago... well this girl was a b****!!!! She got a few drinks in her and than decided to tell me that she would love to switch bodies with me for a day, because than guys wouldn't hit on her... :grumble:
I love to tell the story now because people's reactions are AWESOME!

loopybec2002

My best Remark was from a young lad at work whos said. I have never been with a fat girl before but I find you attractive for some reason do you fancy it?? Errrmmm NO!!!

jantawa

Loopy - You should have asked him how he would fancy a pop in the nose:)

loopybec2002

Haha I felt tempted it got me mad because he was deadly serious he thought he was paying me a compliment!!!

Scorpiomom222

Loopy - You should have asked him how he would fancy a pop in the nose:)

I was gonna say something along those lines. "How 'bout I slap ya around for a minute, and then see if you want anything to do with me?"