Annoyed Husband...

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  • 19TaraLynn84
    19TaraLynn84 Posts: 739 Member
    A lot of people are saying your husband must be super controlling, and/or threatened that you'll lose weight and leave him.

    I call B.S. in this particular situation.

    I think it's much more likely that your husband is just annoyed and/or inconvenienced by some things regarding your diet & exercise habits. It would be easier for him if you stayed at your current weight, which he likes you at just fine, and did all of the same stuff as he does. There's nothing really BAD or wrong with that attitude but he does need to change it.

    Just sayin'...not every slightly frustrated spouse is that way because of evil intentions or their own insecurity.


    I thought this needed to be quoted again.
  • MinMin97
    MinMin97 Posts: 2,674 Member
    A lot of people are saying your husband must be super controlling, and/or threatened that you'll lose weight and leave him.

    I call B.S. in this particular situation.

    I think it's much more likely that your husband is just annoyed and/or inconvenienced by some things regarding your diet & exercise habits. It would be easier for him if you stayed at your current weight, which he likes you at just fine, and did all of the same stuff as he does. There's nothing really BAD or wrong with that attitude but he does need to change it.

    Just sayin'...not every slightly frustrated spouse is that way because of evil intentions or their own insecurity.


    I thought this needed to be quoted again.
    QFT!
  • SymphonynSonata
    SymphonynSonata Posts: 533 Member
    You aren't going to like my answer. You can't make him stop rolling his eyes or eating crap in front of you. For twenty years I was married to a man just like this. He would tell me I was too fat (he was right, by the way, I'm 5'5" and weighed in at 195 lbs). I would agree to diet, he would then immediately go to the store, buy a couple of gallons of rocky road ice cream (only my favorite) and eat bowl after bowl in front of me.

    This is a control tactic for him. He may change if you (non-confrontationally) point this out to him, or he might do what my ex-husband did, which was escalate his behavior like crazy! It's not uncommon, BTW and the best thing to do is remind yourself that you're losing weight for YOU!

    I am so happy he is your ex-husband because that sounds crazy abusive, borderline illegal, and when you said "escalate" I kind of choked on a piece of my oat blender.
  • SymphonynSonata
    SymphonynSonata Posts: 533 Member
    Yes that picture is of him, that was taken about 1.5 years ago already and hes smaller now.

    I never tell him he needs to work out, get in shape, eat better, or anything. I have asked him if he wanted to go for a jog with me.. and he says no he doesn't wanna jog.

    As for getting a Gym membership, I live about 30 minutes to the nearest gym, and its kind of a long way to go for that!

    See he grew up with Women do house work, Men sit and watch TV.. and this applies to everything apparently. Its just hard to stay motivated when i have to see this on daily basis.

    I need to stop reading these threads because they start really pissing me off. That's nice and grand and everything. Tell him you're going to quit your job and stop driving and he can go about becoming the ONLY bread winner in the home and you'll be just fine staying at home cooking and cleaning + you'll get to use the TV that you probably half paid for anyway. Wtf, is this a joke? This is so unbelievably disrespectful and I am so sorry that you have to live this way. I am also so sorry that your parents did not teach you better than to let a man not only kill your motivation but walk all over you without you putting your foot down.
  • SymphonynSonata
    SymphonynSonata Posts: 533 Member
    however if i'm already using it, then he comes and says he wants to use it. I will never just kick him off if he's already on it.

    WTF JUST TELL HIM NO YOU CAN'T USE IT I'M F**KING BUSY, OBVIOUSLY

    btw I read threads backwards.
  • DerryJohn
    DerryJohn Posts: 16
    A lot of people are saying your husband must be super controlling, and/or threatened that you'll lose weight and leave him.

    I call B.S. in this particular situation.

    I think it's much more likely that your husband is just annoyed and/or inconvenienced by some things regarding your diet & exercise habits. It would be easier for him if you stayed at your current weight, which he likes you at just fine, and did all of the same stuff as he does. There's nothing really BAD or wrong with that attitude but he does need to change it.

    Just sayin'...not every slightly frustrated spouse is that way because of evil intentions or their own insecurity.


    I thought this needed to be quoted again.
    QFT!

    what is qft sorry i am new here
  • MinMin97
    MinMin97 Posts: 2,674 Member
    Don't worry, it's a compliment.
    Quoted For Truth
  • ccmzone2013
    ccmzone2013 Posts: 177 Member
    I have the same issue with the opposite sex. She says I'm constantly counting my carbs & calories, but I'd rather live a healthy lifestyle than a horrible overweight one such as my past years of my life . . .you need to tell him to respect your wishes as you are trying to continue to be healthy ...

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