JELOUS HUSBAND!!! HELP

Cina04

I am sorry to hear that. I was in the same situation 3 and a half years ago. Unfortunetly for me I had to get a divorce because my ex sabotaged everything I was trying to do to better myself. I hope for your families sake he comes around and realizes it's for the better of everybody. If your happy and healthy, they will follow and be a lot happier and healthier. Good Luck.

This reminds of an episode of Losing it with Jillian. where the wife told her husband that if he want her to get into shape/eat better & can't accept it than she is leaving .

lloydrt

Cina,lol.....I never watch Jillian, not to crazy about her, but I did see that show.....Ithink the couple had a boy that was large, and they lived in Miami, or somewhere in Fla and if I remember , they were Cuban, because his parents were kinda upset, about Jillian going off on them about their plantains and rice, ,lol

Again, Im not a Jillian fan, please no bashing ladies, but that was a good show. And....I will watch her shows from now, because they do help me with my weight loss as well, ie, cooking and her work out routines....

Take care, good luck Lloyd

mytmom

You really need to just sit him down and talk, or if you are like me and my ex and suck at real communication, write him a note or e-mail. Tell him the reasons why you are loosing the weight. I had the opposite problem, I was a thin, buff, 20 years younger, wife and when I went through a few rough years and put on the weight, my husband dropped me like a hot potato. I''m happier now on my own, and loosing the weight for myself, not to fit some "image" he expected of me. But by all means, do not give uup your journey to a healthier you!

katyncal

so I have talked to him, and he really isnt opening up. I love him so much, we have been together since we were 16. I think that what a few of you are saying is right, I think that he miss's me sitting on the couch with him watching a movie after I put our son down for bed. Now I spend some of that time working out and cleaning. Also I just started a new job about a month ago so I am working full time. I think this is his was of trying to show me he needs more attention from me. I dont know how I didnt see it before. Maybe I was just being to selfish. We are doing much better now however. Thank you all for your great input and advice. This is a great site.

xDeannaGarciax

Awww I'm sorry you have to go through that. My hubby has been 100% supportive but also (and I don't know if I'd call it jealous), but he's always been very "protective" of me. A little more so now, he'll say things before I leave like "be good" or "why do you look so beautiful just to go to the store" but he does it in a playful goofy way, and it makes me feel good.

Him and I are funny like that, if some guy is flirting or staring at me when were out, I'll walk up to him (my husband) and give him a sexy kiss, to let him know I'm his and he doesn't need to worry. My mom actually taught us that and it's pretty funny to do, he'll walk up to me and kiss me if he notices a guy looking at me and I'll do the same with him, and vice-a-versa, it makes it fun and completely eliminates any type of jealousy or uneasyness.

Regardless your man should be happy for you, jealousy is a bad thing when it starts affecting your relationship and you or your man start making "rules" for eachother because of jealousy, truthfully it'll just make you both miserable. There should be no "what if" in the back of your mind when your in love with someone. Defenitly sit down and have a talk with him, or go out and show him that he's still all you see, regardless of how much weight you have lost, it hasn't changed your feelings for him.

Honestly I've witnessed it alot over the months as I've ost weight, met women losing weight, who's husband become jealous, just reassure him you love him no matter what your scale might say! Good luck hun:flowerforyou:

xDeannaGarciax

If you can get him onboard with the dieting I think you'll find the jealousy dissappear. His jealousy probably stems from multiple concerns. Why your doing it, you motivation to do something about your weight(maybe he doesnt like the fact that your doing something to lose and he is not), etc. I had some friction with my wife when I first started dieting a few weeks ago regarding not bringing junkfood into the house(I have real low willpower ;( ). Now I got her dieting with me and everything is on track and its something else we can do together. Good Luck!

Perfect points!

Cina04

so I have talked to him, and he really isnt opening up. I love him so much, we have been together since we were 16. I think that what a few of you are saying is right, I think that he miss's me sitting on the couch with him watching a movie after I put our son down for bed. Now I spend some of that time working out and cleaning. Also I just started a new job about a month ago so I am working full time. I think this is his was of trying to show me he needs more attention from me. I dont know how I didnt see it before. Maybe I was just being to selfish. We are doing much better now however. Thank you all for your great input and advice. This is a great site.

How about making Saturday night movie night w/ your hubby?

Do you give yourself cheat days? Sunday's are mine and that's when the hubby and I just go enjoy ourselves/ spend time together and I'm not concern about cals.

cabrzama

I have found my wife being a little bit this way. She is not over-weight at all (she's a fitness instructor and just right, 5'3" 130 lbs). But she thinks I am going to get skinnier than her and she is used to me being big. I have had to catch myself bragging about weight I am losing lately because she feels "stuck" where she is. So my advice would be to just keep living a healthy lifestyle, don't mention your progress much, and really try hard to give him extra attention so that he still feels like he is number one.

iplayoutside19

Now that we have a little more information, I think it might have more to do with the lack of attention than your weight loss. This may suprise some of you, but most guys I know like it when their wife becomes MORE attractive.

I think what you need to do is buy some new "bed time" attire. Put your son to bed, eliminate distractions, and rock his world.....THEN have this talk, like right after.

LittleSpy

Now that we have a little more information, I think it might have more to do with the lack of attention than your weight loss. This may suprise some of you, but most guys I know like it when their wife becomes MORE attractive.

I think what you need to do is buy some new "bed time" attire. Put your son to bed, eliminate distractions, and rock his world.....THEN have this talk, like right after.

AGREE!

JustBeckyV

I have a similiar situation. My DH has a terminal lung disease and he is worried that I will or want to find some one else. All I can do is keep reassuring him that is not the case. It's not so much that my DH is jealous but more just feels left out.

JStarnes

My DH got like that a bit after I lost probably the first 50lbs or so. He didn't get controlling or obsessve jealous, just jealous that other guys were now paying more attention to me. It took a bit to make him understand that I wasn't looking to get out of the relationship by getting 'skinny' and that no matter how many guys paid me attention now, his attention is what I want and nothing can replace that. It took some nights like iplayoutside19 described, but it worked. :flowerforyou: Good luck!

TK266

in no way justifying his behavior, but with new baby, new job and new zest to workout, I would guess he is feeling left out and no longer the center of attention. But if he is not willing to meet you half way and discuss the issue then there is a problem. I bet he was use to having you all to himself and now has to share you with life...sucks but he'll need to get over it or both of you will become unhappy.