I still see a fat boy in the mirror...

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  • SomeNights246
    SomeNights246 Posts: 807 Member
    I know the feeling. I think a lot of people don't get that. Even people I know offline don't seem to get it.
  • WoodChuckNorris
    WoodChuckNorris Posts: 216
    Truth.

    I know for me...I'm always literally shocked when a good looking girl is interested in me still.

    It's complicated. I like looking in the mirror now and even though it's been 2.5 years...it's still a shock where I've come.

    But I still think of myself as what I was before.

    Right? I always think "it's a trap" or "she is just being nice"
  • coopersmom2006
    coopersmom2006 Posts: 839
    Ditto.
  • tomomatic
    tomomatic Posts: 1,794 Member
    Don't feel bad. We all carry a little bit of our insecurities with us. It's not something that should hold us back. It's how we overcome them that defines us.
  • WeepingAngel81
    WeepingAngel81 Posts: 2,232 Member
    When I go shopping, I still try on clothes that are too big for me now because there's no way I can wear a size 12.

    I hear ya! Last time I went shopping I grabbed a bigger size and a smaller size. I tried on the smaller size first just to see how close I was. I was shocked when they actually fit. Now, they are getting loose and I am still shocked. I still have the tendency to grab the bigger size. Some things may never change I suppose.
  • mschicagocubs
    mschicagocubs Posts: 774 Member
    Well said!!!

    I lost 50 lbs in 2010 after I had my daughter. Kept the weight off 1 year and since 2011 have gained 20/25 lbs. Nothing extreme and I am still a pretty average weight. But I constantly think I'm fat and overweight and look like I did 5 years ago.

    Sometimes you need to reassure yourself. I look at my pictures from that time and I look A LOT bigger than I do now. It helps when I'm feeling huge.
  • Cali_Chica
    Cali_Chica Posts: 895 Member
    Very insightful post. Beauty/aesthetic appeal is as much a state of mind as it physical. However I think a little insecurity mixed with confidence keeps people humble and relatable. Either that or it makes them completely obnoxious.

    I was here before you. Neener.

    Yes but I made a post that was relevant to conversation before you so we are even :tongue:

    But I was being completely obnoxious before you talked about it in your first post, so I win. :bigsmile:

    May I request your award acceptance speech be in sonnet form?

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  • Cali_Chica
    Cali_Chica Posts: 895 Member
    Very insightful post. Beauty/aesthetic appeal is as much a state of mind as it physical. However I think a little insecurity mixed with confidence keeps people humble and relatable. Either that or it makes them completely obnoxious.

    Gracias Chica


    You're a sweetie. Inside and out. Never forget it. Well, at least TRY not to forget it ;-).
    :flowerforyou:
  • Sinisterly
    Sinisterly Posts: 10,913 Member
    That's just the bulk, hun. :flowerforyou:
  • mister_universe
    mister_universe Posts: 6,664 Member
    Very insightful post. Beauty/aesthetic appeal is as much a state of mind as it physical. However I think a little insecurity mixed with confidence keeps people humble and relatable. Either that or it makes them completely obnoxious.

    I was here before you. Neener.

    Yes but I made a post that was relevant to conversation before you so we are even :tongue:

    But I was being completely obnoxious before you talked about it in your first post, so I win. :bigsmile:

    May I request your award acceptance speech be in sonnet form?

    243gifa.jpg

    A true sonnet is actually pretty tedious to get right. I'll put something together though.
  • StaceyJ2008
    StaceyJ2008 Posts: 411 Member
    I've lost over 100 pounds and I still see what I used to look like in the mirror sometimes. It takes a while and it's a process. Just be positive and be happy.
  • phuckingbadasscutie
    phuckingbadasscutie Posts: 1,619 Member
    I know the feeling, but I suppose I am the opposite. I have always been thin and I thought once I hit 150 that I would be happy. Not even close and I am beginning to wonder when is it going to stop. I figure as long as I am gaining muscle the healthy way, it isn't that bad.

    That's why I said that I ALWAYS carry a bit of insecurity mixed with self confidence. Enough self confidence to continue to improve, and enough insecurity to always let me want more.

    Humility is key. Confidence without cockiness. What's the point in looking better if you just get uglier on the inside?

    This for sure! Well put!
  • sklarbodds
    sklarbodds Posts: 608 Member
    Truth.

    I know for me...I'm always literally shocked when a good looking girl is interested in me still.

    It's complicated. I like looking in the mirror now and even though it's been 2.5 years...it's still a shock where I've come.

    But I still think of myself as what I was before.

    Right? I always think "it's a trap" or "she is just being nice"
    LOL Yep.

    "She's just humoring me" or "It seems like she likes me, but I'm sure I'm just misreading the signs"

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