How does your spouse support you?
BusyRaeNOTBusty
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I've got three anti-spouse posts in "My Topics" alone. Tomorrow is Valentine's Day people.
Let's hear some good stories about spouses please.
Let's hear some good stories about spouses please.
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What I have to say might not be what you want to hear, but here it goes.
My husband is only supportive now because I didn't give up entirely. I did discontinue for a while because he got upset with me eating healthier and working out, but then I decided I couldn't be a slave to his feelings or my own and did what I needed to do. As time went on, he had to admit to himself the benefits of being supportive and being healthy. Now it's so much better because when I tell him how other people get mad at me for losing weight or tell me not to eat healthy, he says they need to shove it, lol.
I think when DH saw that I wasn't just doing it for myself and I was doing it for HIM, too, he must have changed his mind. DH realized being jealous and insecure about what I was doing for both of us didn't make sense, so now he's making a commitment to work out too. I mean, what guy doesn't want a wife with a nice body? DH also brags about my cooking because I cook healthy, but tasty meals. All of this took time-- as in YEARS-- so it was a process.0 -
I wish mine did, but nope not at all. Never has. I've had a stiff neck for 4 weeks now and not once has he asked me what's going on, if I've been to the dcotor, no a thing.0
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Yay, finally some thread about spouses worth reading!
(If it doesn't transform into an anti-spouse one...)0 -
My husband is very supportive. He's currently in Afghanistan, so the only progress he's seen is on Skype. Since deploying, he has lost 50 pounds, and as of this morning I've lost 34. His is much more noticeable, (at least in my eyes), but every couple of weeks he makes me stand in front of the computer, turn this way and that, (I really think he's checking for boob shrinkage! lol), but he never fails to tell me how proud he is and that I'm looking good. 2 1/2- 3 months left to go till he's home, and I hope to lose some more before he gets here!0
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My hubby is 100% supportive. He reminds me to not eat something if I look like I'm about to fall of track. He ensures that I get my workout in whether it's in the morning or in the afternoon. If I miss the morning he encourages me to go later in the day by leaving out my workout clothes for me. He knows that if I don't go in the morning I have a hard time being motivated to go later in the day and that's his way of showing support. If I have to go later in the day, he cooks dinner and makes sure that I have my healthy options even if he is having something not so healthy. He does what he can to keep me motivated.
my hubby for all of his support and understanding during this challenging time for me. :-) 0 -
My husband completely supports me, and he joins me with workouts when he can. Unfortunately he has a new position that has resulted him working much more.
He eats whatever healthy dish I put in front of him, but I try to make sure I prepare things we both enjoy. He even tells me how proud he is on a regular basis.
I really feel bad for the posters that don't have the support that I do, but you are your own person and entitled to your own happiness.0 -
My husband is amazing! He never questions when I try and make a family favorite dish healthier and doesn't complain about my post workout hair. He also tells me how great I look and encourages me to buy better fitting clothes. The most important thing he has done so far was when I was having a moment of self doubt he told me when he married me it was forever and didn't matter what size I was. It really gave me the motivation to pick myself up after a hump or slip up and to not give up or beat myself up. He has even started working out again!0
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With my dietary issues, he's had to keep an open mind about some of the food experiments as I've adjusted recipes and menus. Even if he didn't enjoy something, he never ridiculed or tried to persuade me to quit or cater exclusively to his appetite.
He's impressed with my lifting and never makes me feel less than feminine for doing it. He's good for a spot when I need it or to just watch lecherously when I do hip thrusts.
When I'm feeling bad about myself- not seeing progress in pictures or the mirror- he's always there to tell me it's all in my head and pull me in front of the mirror and show me all the changes that he can see.
brb- I need to go give him a big ole kiss0 -
I can't help but to sympathize with anyone whose spouse is less than supportive. There was a time when mine wasn't very supportive, but at least he was never trying to sabotage me. After a year when he saw that I didn't quit and that I was getting results with my trainer, he started going to see him too. Now he works out with me
He bought me a TRX for Christmas
He goes grocery shopping with me, so we do our meal planning together.
I don't take my good fortune for granted, and I let him know that I appreciate his support.0 -
My hubby is great -- he knows that when I go to the gym I'm in a better mood, and is not only good about sharing me with the gym (lol) but also about helping me find the motivation to go when I don't feel like it.
He has found the perfect balance of encouraging me to eat well and workout while still making me feel beautiful just the way I am.
Plus, for a very logical and pragmatic person, he's truly a romantic at heart. 0 -
My husband couldn't care less if I go for a run/bike ride - nor does he care how far or how fast. Nor does he care if I'm sticking to my training plan, or if I've managed to lift a new weight. Sometimes, I'm not even sure he notices I'm gone (to workout). He refuses to eat half the food I make, and constantly has the nerve to eat cookies and chips and stuff right in front of me. He doesn't give a rats @ss about how much protein something has, or whether it has 2 calories or 2 million.
But he is the most supportive husband I could ever ask for. He moved half his crap in the basement so I could have a gym (which he then bought a TV for). He bought me a bike and went for a first ride with me last summer - because it's something he has wanted us to do together but I was never able to. When I complain that my compression shorts are too big and wrinkly, he says "that's because there's nothing left to compress". I've had a terrible time "seeing" the smaller me and have a hard time telling if clothes fit and/or look appropriate. He answers honestly every single day. He helped me make my redneck squat racks even though he has no idea what they are for. When I was nervous and uncomfortable at a pool party over the summer, he told me people were staring because I'm hot.
He doesn't care about my workout plan, he doesn't care what I eat, but he supports me in every way that actually matters (to me).0 -
First, he tells me I'm hot just the way I am.
He fully supports me working out at home or at the gym, even though it means he is left with MY daughter. He loves bikes as much as I do and we ride together as often as we can. He's just a good guy and always tells me I can do whatever the fck I want!0 -
He tells me I'm sexy no matter what and doesn't care where I end up as long as I'm happy.
He keeps me supplied in cookie dough and ice cream without complain
"Eat if you're hungry" has been his mantra this entire time.0 -
He does a workout video with me every single night!0
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He likes to keep me naked, he surprised me with a squat rack because he knows how much I love to lift, he is easy going about what he eats even through those dark times that i refer to as the "lets try quinoa experiment", no really it's delicious they told me. it wasn't but he ate it and smiled.0
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He pays for my Louboutins.0
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My fiancé joined the gym with me 0
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great sex.0
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He cups them gently. :drinker:0
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My soon to be husband (as of tomorrow) has been the only person who has ever supported me in my weightless. We used to eat out all the time, always bought candy etc. After saying we would stop a million times I came to a breaking point where I just broke down and started crying and told him how unhappy I was with myself. Since then he runs 2-3 miles with me everynight, always ending with a high five and a I'm proud of you. He reminds me to eat healthy, and always asks me if I worked out while he was at work. He is amazing, he has been my motivation and we're even doing a 5k together in March. I am so grateful for him.0
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She has a high paying job...0
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I'm an athlete. And my wife is an athletic supporter........................................:embarassed: I mean she supports my athleticism.
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Been in fitness for 30 years and have studied kinesiology and nutrition0 -
My husband and I both use MFP and we do our workouts together. We both count calories so It's super easy to lean on each other.
We use each other to help us keep down on the snacking. In our house it is all about low calorie healthy eating.0 -
Mine bought us a treadmill for Christmas so he can start getting in better shape too; totally supports my need to work out (and will kick me out of the house and say, "Go to the gym, you need it!" when he notices I'm getting crabby; loves my cooking...even when it's super-healthy; and he tells me how awesome my *kitten* is.
Even better...when I was putting on some weight, etc. he loved me just the same and would still tell me how awesome my *kitten* was.0 -
He sleeps through my workouts! Kidding, but true! At least this means I don't bother him in the mornings.
He loves me no matter what weight I am and still wants me after 20 years of marriage. The other week he wanted to bring me to an event just because he was proud of me.
We walk/hike together when we can.
He listens to my ongoing excitement babble about new exercise routines, my love for teaching and so many things fitness and also when I complain about those things.
He buys me candy. (I like candy.)0 -
My husband is super active and always has been. I tend to be a lot more lazy and sedentary. If I had married someone besides him I think I'd be much less healthy. He decided to do the Leadville 100 the year he turned 40 and fell in love when mountain bike racing and is now starting on his 3rd year of that. He'll even ride with my on occasional even though I am much much slower than him (usually only on recovery rides)and he'll watch the kids when we don't have a sitter so I can ride alone, or with my club. He doesn't complain when I cook healthy and tries to encourage it actually. He joined a gym with me even though he knew I'd be going much more. He's the same height and weight as me but never makes me feel like there's anything wrong with that. He thinks my muscles are sexy and *might* have requested naked cell phone selfies with a flexed bicep...
And in general he's very loving and supportive, supporting me through the 4 years it took me to finish my Masters. He appreciates that I'm intelligent and career driven. He's okay with the fact that the house gets messy due to crazy schedules for both of us. He actively wants to work on our marriage and ensure we are both happy. Plus he's a great dad and an awesome lover.
And sometimes I go all creeper and take shirtless photos of him mowing the lawn because he's a sexy beast.
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I couldn't believe how supportive my fiance would be. He has always been very fit and plays minor league baseball, so I always felt like "Why does he want to be with me" However, he never tried to change me. When I approached him about my goals and that I wanted to get healthier, he was beyond supportive and encouraging to me. Sealing the conversation by saying "If this is what you want to do, if this makes you happy, I am there 100%". He would go for a run every morning, but because I couldn't run at the time, he would walk with me instead, and go for his run later in the day. With him being the cook(and an amazing one!) in our household, he supported my new portion sizes and went along with them, and also subbed out anything unhealthy for healthier options. He insisted on paying for my gym membership when I told him I wanted to join. He wanted to make the process as easy for me as possible.
He went above and beyond! I am so happy to say that we exercise together almost everyday. I play baseball with him on a co-ed team in the summer(just a fun league). And currently, he has taken on a bit more of the house hold load while I am currently in school to becoming a Yoga instructor...Which he is happy to play guinea pig when I want to practice new postures, alignment, etc.
Now in maintenance mode, he continues to support me everyday. Never letting me forget what an amazing thing I accomplished.
He just rocks!0 -
- She's on MFP entering daily when she doesn't need to be at all.
- She bakes me cookies and then scolds me when I reach for 'another one'.
- She tries hard to keep cal counts in mind when meal planning and grocery shopping.
- She's working with me and supporting my efforts daily in numerous ways.
- She married me fat.0 -
When I met my husband, I was my thinnest and at my fittest. Over the last couple of years, I have put on 40lbs. Never once has he made me feel less beautiful or less sexy. He is incredibly athletic, not too much into the healthy eating but he will eat whatever I cook, and enjoy it. He also exercises with me, and because he is avid into running marathons, he'll often push me harder, but never make me feel weak. He supports me on my bad days (I have multiple sclerosis, and sometimes, I lose a lot of mobility) and he takes notice when I lose weight, he makes sure I don't obsess about the scale, even hiding it from me when he notices I am weighing myself too often.
Most importantly, it's because I know he'll love me no matter what, at any size and because of that I am doing it ALL FOR ME.0 -
He let me invade his workshop with a spin bike and weight bench.
He will try all the healthy weird stuff that I cook, at least one time.
And finally, since I have been lifting weights, he now supports my derrière when I'm standing on a chair to get something out of the tall cabinets in the kitchen.
Great development! :bigsmile:0
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