How does your spouse support you?
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My husband is super active and always has been. I tend to be a lot more lazy and sedentary. If I had married someone besides him I think I'd be much less healthy. He decided to do the Leadville 100 the year he turned 40 and fell in love when mountain bike racing and is now starting on his 3rd year of that. He'll even ride with my on occasional even though I am much much slower than him (usually only on recovery rides)and he'll watch the kids when we don't have a sitter so I can ride alone, or with my club. He doesn't complain when I cook healthy and tries to encourage it actually. He joined a gym with me even though he knew I'd be going much more. He's the same height and weight as me but never makes me feel like there's anything wrong with that. He thinks my muscles are sexy and *might* have requested naked cell phone selfies with a flexed bicep...
And in general he's very loving and supportive, supporting me through the 4 years it took me to finish my Masters. He appreciates that I'm intelligent and career driven. He's okay with the fact that the house gets messy due to crazy schedules for both of us. He actively wants to work on our marriage and ensure we are both happy. Plus he's a great dad and an awesome lover.
And sometimes I go all creeper and take shirtless photos of him mowing the lawn because he's a sexy beast.
I NEED A LIKE BUTTON!! How do you keep your hands off him when he's mowing the lawn? Can you take one of him doing dishes? Can we turn this thread into husband (soft) porn? Much better than food porn!0 -
First, he eats half my sweets so I don't go over my calorie limit each day.
Second, he eats whatever I make for dinner and then thanks me for a good meal, even when it's something he's not too crazy about. (Like all the spinach I make that I love!)
Third, if he brings home fast food he no longer gets something for me trying to be a nice guy. It took a while for him to understand that I really didn't want it and that he is being a nice guy by not encouraging that bad habit I had.
Fourth, he's started swimming again so I wouldn't have to go alone. This is the only exercise he can do because he is disabled, so we are really helping each other.
And last but not least...He cheers for every pound I lose! Now he is starting to lose too - 10 lbs so far! Hurrah for him, hurrah for us! We can do it together now!0 -
My hubby completely remodeled a room in our basement for my home gym.0
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My fiance is my biggest cheerleader. When I tell him if I lost a pound or what weight I lifted that day, he always says "awesome baby." If I fail on a certain weight, he still will say "that's still good, baby." Like some others, he says he loves my body and to only do what I'm doing for ME.
He's fantastic around the house. He's always helpful. We do the dishes after dinner together. He does laundry, vacuums, cleans the bathroom. He always tells me that I don't have to do it ALL and it aggravates him when I try to do it all.0 -
He cooks sometimes and chops veggies and all that. But he has to decide to be in the mood for it. Im hoping this time around we are in it together and we both stick with that healthy lifestyle.0
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He likes to keep me naked, he surprised me with a squat rack because he knows how much I love to lift, he is easy going about what he eats even through those dark times that i refer to as the "lets try quinoa experiment", no really it's delicious they told me. it wasn't but he ate it and smiled.
This is hilarious!!!
My husband is overly-involved in my workouts and meals, he likes us to do all things together
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he is constantly telling me how sexy I am. He survived through my 6 month stint of eating vegan without saying a word, for Christmas he bought me a new bench, barbell and set of weight plates and made me a squat rack, he talks me down when I'm about to go nuts over how fast my mother is losing weight on jenny craig, he tells me how proud he is of me. When I was cardio queen he completed insanity with me.
He listens to me rabbit on and on about lifting0 -
Mine has grown to support me. He bought me equipment for our weight/workout room downstairs, and he has also started watching his calories and working out as well (and has lost 30 lbs in the process). He knows my standard staple items (egg whites, almond milk, whole grain bread, lean meats, ice cream) and buys them while at the store. If I hit a lift PR, he celebrates with me. He doesn't get alarmed when the weights hit the floor loudly during DLs.0
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He cups them gently. :drinker:
Hahahah! GMTA....I was about to say, "With one hand under each bewb" LOL....:laugh:
Additionally, he keeps me company while I'm working out, makes sure the heat or air is on in the area I work out, works on meal planning and bulk food prep for the week, picks up the latest copies of my favorite magazines when he sees they are out, and generally cheers me on.
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Hi!
Hes my biggest fan. He constantly is sending me motivational youtube videos, or he'll come home with a pair of new running shoes. He bought me Kettlebells. He constantly tells me how "skinny" I look..even though I have so far to go. lol.
He told me also that now my beautiful inside matches my beautiful outside. He constantly tells me how proud he is of me and how far Ive come.
Whats funny is he always complimented me at 272 , and also now 46 lbs less. Im a lucky girl!0 -
He pays for my Louboutins.
Now HE is a keeper!
Mine does too - he just doesn't know it ;-)0 -
I NEED A LIKE BUTTON!! How do you keep your hands off him when he's mowing the lawn? Can you take one of him doing dishes? Can we turn this thread into husband (soft) porn? Much better than food porn!
He's a little too fuzzy to do dishes shirtless...0 -
I had weight loss surgery a month before our 37th anniversary. He has always loved me no matter how big I was and has always been supportive of what I wanted for my life/our lives/schooling/career/etc. And didn't disapoint me this time either. Yes ultimately my success is my responsibility but his support and interest makes it so much easier. He attended the sessions with my nutritionist to understand my dietary needs after surgery, he grocery shops with me and because of our different hours does most of the cooking and makes sure it's something I am supposed to eat. He indulges his fast food addiction when I'm not going to be home for dinner. There is so much more that he does and thinks about, but I won't bore you with it all. We will be married 40 years this summer. That number says it all. He's not perfect, but neither am I. Together however, we are awesome!0
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My hubby and I support and motivate each other. We have been together 20 years and from day one always enjoyed working out and running together. The other morning I was doing my 30DS and he was drinking coffee and reading the paper. He got up and said..."you motivated me to go outside and run". So off he goes and ran about 8 miles.
We both love to eat and have a few adult beverages on occasion so it helps that we both enjoy exercising too! :laugh: :drinker:
Both of us have always been within our healthy weight range throughout our relationship, I think that comes from us supporting each other and living a healthy lifestyle together! 0 -
I NEED A LIKE BUTTON!! How do you keep your hands off him when he's mowing the lawn? Can you take one of him doing dishes? Can we turn this thread into husband (soft) porn? Much better than food porn!
He's a little too fuzzy to do dishes shirtless...
I can see how that might be a problem. Too funny. Thanks for starting the thread; it is great.0 -
My husband couldn't care less if I go for a run/bike ride - nor does he care how far or how fast. Nor does he care if I'm sticking to my training plan, or if I've managed to lift a new weight. Sometimes, I'm not even sure he notices I'm gone (to workout). He refuses to eat half the food I make, and constantly has the nerve to eat cookies and chips and stuff right in front of me. He doesn't give a rats @ss about how much protein something has, or whether it has 2 calories or 2 million.
But he is the most supportive husband I could ever ask for. He moved half his crap in the basement so I could have a gym (which he then bought a TV for). He bought me a bike and went for a first ride with me last summer - because it's something he has wanted us to do together but I was never able to. When I complain that my compression shorts are too big and wrinkly, he says "that's because there's nothing left to compress". I've had a terrible time "seeing" the smaller me and have a hard time telling if clothes fit and/or look appropriate. He answers honestly every single day. He helped me make my redneck squat racks even though he has no idea what they are for. When I was nervous and uncomfortable at a pool party over the summer, he told me people were staring because I'm hot.
He doesn't care about my workout plan, he doesn't care what I eat, but he supports me in every way that actually matters (to me).
I think this, more or less, reflects how my husband supports me. I view fitness and weight management as my stuff, and if he weighs in with an observation, that's fine, if not, fine with me too. I do appreciate his charming Bronx compliments though.0 -
My husband is the most amazing, supportive man I have ever met. No matter what I want to do he is always 100% behind me. He adores me and constantly tells me how amazing I am and how much he loves me.
If I want to weight lift, run, make hair clips, have an invention idea, he is ALWAYS 100% supportive. Never has a negative word to say and tries his hardest to make whatever I need happen.
Yup, I have me a keeper 0 -
It's a lot of little things, most recently, the switch to whole wheat pasta! Great topic BTW!0
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Finding the right schedule was a challenge. I was never a morning person so I originally began workouts after work. Although wifey didn't complain, I could feel she didn't like it too much since I would get home late and missed family meals together. So I shifted to working out at later in the evening, but I found myself making excuses like I'm too tired or just want to relax with my girl. She was being so accommodating for me and I didn't consider how my schedule was affecting her and the kids. I made the decision to wake up early at 5:30am and I haven't stopped since then. It was difficult shifting my schedule at first, but it eventually became routine. She even helps push me out of bed if I don't get up. She just has to tell me, "You'll regret it...". I follow the same schedule on weekends but not as early, but I'm still done my workout before the family wakes up. This gives me the rest of the day to spend time with them. Also, I have no more excuses if I suddenly have to work late, be at my kids events, or just have us time at night.
Here's are some other things my wife has done for me:
- She buys me workout clothes for me all the time. She'll come home with a little something and say, "I thought you might like this. My co-worker that runs marathons recommended it..."
- She's conscience of my calorie counting. Every night for dinner she'll kindly ask, "What do you have room for?"
- When I first started calorie counting, she listed out all the recipes for the meals I prepared so I can log them in for more accurate tracking.
- She just bought a blender for me. I've been using a crappy wand blender for years.
- One day after exercising, I mentioned the battery on my HRM was dead. She just went out and got the battery replaced the next day on her way home from work without me asking. Also, she was the one that bought the HRM for me in the first place.
- I signed up for my first 5K. She immediately asked if people can walk it. They do, so she replied "Sign me up!". (That meant so much to me)
- She tells me I look sexy all the time even though I don't feel it.
Yes, fitness is about you, but you also have to compromise with your family. Along with these little things and her support on helping me achieve my goals, I wonder how I got so lucky.0 -
He started dating me thin, and fell in love with me thin, but married me fat...and never batted an eye as I slowly grew bigger and bigger, and now that I'm back on track and getting fit, he says things like "I love you as you are" and when I'm stressing about being fat he says " You're not fat" (except I totally am, but the lie is sweet) and when it comes to my plan and weight loss, gym, foods, etc. He likes a heads up if I'm going to the gym after work so he knows to either eat on his own or have a snack if I'm making something to eat later, but totally supports my random scheduling of a yoga class or gym date.
When he has cravings for pizza or fast food he checks with me to see if it fits my macros for the day. lol. The funniest to date is when I say 'dammit, I'm over my calories by like 60 cals (or whatever)' and he says "Yes but you're forgetting how many times you've gone up and down the stairs today, and you were cleaning like a madwoman earlier... I'm sure you burned off those 60 calories no problem" That made me laugh, and it was sweet reasurrance. lol.0 -
My husband often cooks dinner (almost always healthy), which is awesome. He also knows that I go a little crazy if I can't work out so he will watch our young daughters for an hour or two so I can run/cycle/yoga...it helps both my physical and mental state. Also, he has never complained that I have like five different pairs of running shoes in my closet at any one time :laugh:0
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He often brings me my favorite foods (tamales, chocolate, pizza), and I know he does it because he loves me and knows I love food, lol. Hasn't stopped my weight loss, and he is very proud of me for it.0
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He told me, one starry night, "You've always been beautiful, I'm just glad that maybe now you can see it, too."0
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My husband supports me in whatever I do. In the area of health and fitness he has not even batted an eye when I've wanted something like a bike for my birthday (got it!) a power cage (he built me one in the garage for my birthday last year) a heart rate monitor (got one for Mother's Day) or weight plates (he's driven me all over to scavenge my craigslist finds!) When I have had to adapt my cooking because of my food intolerances he never said a word. He isn't a vegetable fan but he is still making himself try new things just to be supportive of me and also because he knows I worry about his health. He even joined the gym with me and is now my weight lifting partner (we do both at the gym and at home. It's nice to have options.)
I wanted to learn to decorate cakes a few years ago so he bought me a starter kit and a series of classes for Christmas that year. I've done a whole bunch of cake now, including more than a dozen wedding cakes. Not only does he not complain about that but he is my lovely assistant and helps me stack, carry and deliver them. He's always willing to give an opinion or advice without being a jerk about it and is my number one cheerleader.
He is my best friend and because of his support and encouragement, I truly believe I can do anything I set my mind to. I didn't believe that about myself before we met but he's spent years building me up and being the most positive person in my life.0 -
My husband tells me I'm beautiful no matter what my weight is. He acts like he thinks so, too. He takes care of our son when I'm exercising. Most days he makes my lunch with the healthy left-overs from what I make for dinner. And he's just generally an excellent, amazing human being, kind and supportive.0
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My hubby cooked dinner last night and weighed my portions separately. I'm the only vegetarian in the house, so he has to make a lot of accommodations for me. I appreciate it so much.0
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General awesomeness. In all of the ways.0
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My wife has been amazing, she has always been my best friend but she has made sacrifices for me to get healthy and she supports me to no end. I do most of the cooking but now when she cooks she keeps me in mind even though she and the kids are all fit. She lets me have my gym time when I can't go at times that are best for our family. She's always buying me new clothes ( she says that's her reward) and she just randomly throws compliments my way. She's the best we've been married 11 years and have 4 kids and it gets better every day!0
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My partner is probably the most wonderful, caring, compassionate human being I know. He is a great guy and I am very blessed to have him.
FYI - Valentines Day is blech If your going to act like a douche all year and you think you can rub it clean and demand sex with a bunch of roses mid Feb your kidding yourself 
Appreciate your partner each and every day... not with "stuff" but by just being there and being present in your relationship.
Ok vent over LOL0 -
well my husband actually is making this change with me. so that is a lot easier in every possible way. plus not pushing me and letting me go at my own pace helps and not rubbing it in when he loses weight and i don't is also great. it really shocks me when i see that some peoples spouses are discouraging. it's just horrible. most of us are doing this to get healthy and feel better.0
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