Physical chemistry or emotional connection

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  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    What's more important to you in a ( longterm) relationship, physical chemistry or emotional connection?
    I have never had physical chemistry with someone I wasn't emotionally connected to, so it's not an either/or situation for me.
  • odusgolp
    odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
    Chocolate Bacon Cheese Stix.
  • seltzermint555
    seltzermint555 Posts: 10,740 Member
    Both are important. But I have only had strong levels of both with one person (now my husband). It seems to be tied together...for me anyway.
  • ItsCasey
    ItsCasey Posts: 4,021 Member
    I'm not interested in an intimate, romantic relationship that doesn't have both of those in equal quantities.
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  • purplepink1992
    purplepink1992 Posts: 273
    Emotional. Realistically you have the ability to improve physical chemistry at anytime. But you can't force emotional connection if it isn't there
  • WendyTerry420
    WendyTerry420 Posts: 13,274 Member
    What's more important to you in a ( longterm) relationship, physical chemistry or emotional connection?

    Both are needed for a long-term relationship.
  • WendyTerry420
    WendyTerry420 Posts: 13,274 Member
    Neither. Physical chemistry can fizzle, especially as time passes, beauty fades, wrinkles deepen and pounds creep on. Emotions can turn on a dime and can be shallow, too.

    What's most important is a spiritual connection, one that is hard fought. The ability to make a commitment, to be willing to forgive wrongs 7x70 times, and realize that loving a human being means loving a person with inherent flaws.

    Sometimes we think the grass is greener on the other side, but really, we just need to aerate, water, fertilize and tend to our own lawns.

    If the physical chemistry fizzles, you're doing it wrong. :smokin:

    After 50 years of marriage, my grandparents still had that spark in their eyes when they looked at each other. They still kissed and held hands, etc.
  • wanna_b_there
    wanna_b_there Posts: 295 Member
    I have found that sex can lead to incredible emotional connection.

    Which isn't going to happen without a strong physical attraction.

    or roofies


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    Both. Both. Both. Will never again settle for one over the other.
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  • WendyTerry420
    WendyTerry420 Posts: 13,274 Member
    I believe in the triple combination... intelligence, emotional and physical,... fairly equally important.

    Hmm...I can't connect with anyone at all if they are not intelligent. I assumed that was implied.
  • WendyTerry420
    WendyTerry420 Posts: 13,274 Member
    Steak and a BJ. Yep, can't wait for March 14th.

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    +1

    Steak and BJ should be more than once per year.
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  • tlcarolinagirl
    tlcarolinagirl Posts: 1,700 Member
    There has to be a little of both, but an emotional connection is way more important to me. I am a bit of a geek, and I love someone to stimulate my mind and give me a mindgasm. However, there has to be a physical connection as well, bc as much as I can get turned on by conversation, I have to enjoy what I see once the talking stops and adult time begins. Just my opinion.
  • Smeltzer2
    Smeltzer2 Posts: 210 Member
    Spiritual, emotional, and physical. May I say at 71 next week, ding, ding, ding, it's like winning the lottery of life.
  • CallMeCupcakeDammit
    CallMeCupcakeDammit Posts: 9,377 Member
    the physical connection is what draws me in..the emotional connection is what keeps me there.

    yup.

    +2

    Sometimes it's not even a physical connection in like "Holy crap, he's hot!" Sometimes it's just butterflies I get when I talk to a certain guy. Chemistry? Makes me feel like I'm in high school, and I can't put a coherent sentence together.
  • walleyclan1
    walleyclan1 Posts: 2,784 Member
    GAWD I hated Physical Chem. in college. Hardest class I ever took. I'll take emotional connection any day.

    Haha

    I think both are important but the more emotionally connected I am with my husband, the sexier he looks. It doesn't work the other way to me (he can get his hair did, sprout a six pack whatever and that is not going to enhance our emotional connection)
  • walleyclan1
    walleyclan1 Posts: 2,784 Member
    Thread killer!
  • RECowgill
    RECowgill Posts: 881 Member
    Both
  • EddieHaskell97
    EddieHaskell97 Posts: 2,227 Member
    Maybe it's my military background, but I want someone who will never give up. I can't stand pikers, whiners, or "entitled" crybabies who spend their time *****ing about "what they can't do," instead of busting hump giving it a try.

    Physical chemistry matters little to me, and to have an emotional connection I'd need to share a difficult task with them.
  • moya_rargh
    moya_rargh Posts: 1,473 Member
    Both. Without one it's a fling, without the other it's a friendship.
  • WendyTerry420
    WendyTerry420 Posts: 13,274 Member
    Maybe it's my military background, but I want someone who will never give up. I can't stand pikers, whiners, or "entitled" crybabies who spend their time *****ing about "what they can't do," instead of busting hump giving it a try.

    Physical chemistry matters little to me, and to have an emotional connection I'd need to share a difficult task with them.

    What's a piker?
  • CallMeCupcakeDammit
    CallMeCupcakeDammit Posts: 9,377 Member
    Maybe it's my military background, but I want someone who will never give up. I can't stand pikers, whiners, or "entitled" crybabies who spend their time *****ing about "what they can't do," instead of busting hump giving it a try.

    Physical chemistry matters little to me, and to have an emotional connection I'd need to share a difficult task with them.

    What's a piker?

    1. a person who does anything in a contemptibly small or cheap way.
    2. a stingy, tight-fisted person; tightwad.
    3. a person who gambles, speculates, etc., in a small, cautious way.

    I was curious, too. :smile:
  • Timshel_
    Timshel_ Posts: 22,834 Member
    Both.

    Can't ask me to choose between breathing or having blood pump >.<

    Yeah. Gotta have a bit of both. Exact percentage of each can vary though.
  • SaebraSpirit
    SaebraSpirit Posts: 150 Member
    I gotta say both, you'd want a partner that takes your breath away and makes your heart pump but also be there for you when you need them and they know you inside out and you two support each through lifes challenges!

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