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  • Holly_Roman_Empire
    Holly_Roman_Empire Posts: 4,440 Member
    My husband gives me 30 minutes 3 days a week to work out. I've seen some nice results from that, and he doesn't mind doing it. It shouldn't be asking to much from your husband to expect the same.

    Have you even asked him to watch the kid while you work out? I only ask because my husband would readily give me more time if I wanted it, but I feel like I take advantage of him if I do.

    Wow, are you serious? He "gives" you a whole 90 minutes a week, huh?

    Me and my husband both work out of the home (me part-time). Intuitively, we also take care of our 3 young children TOGETHER. I probably do a bit more around the house but only because some things bother me more and because I'm home 2 days more than him.

    I don't understand some of these comments. Having a family is a partnership. If you are the breadwinner of the family that doesn't mean your duties are exclusively to foot the bill. Are the woman taking on everything by choice or are the men expecting everything to be done?

    Selective reading much? I said he would readily give me more time if I asked for it, but I do just fine with my strength training just 90 minutes a week. Working out more would mean that I sacrifice more family time, and that is something I am not willing to do. And yes, I take on most of the duties by choice. He doesn't do chores the way I like them to be done usually, so I just do it myself. :laugh:
  • jtarmom
    jtarmom Posts: 228 Member
    Same situation as you (except with 3 kids). Lunch hour has become my friend when I can. Also, due to an earlier dinner time, I usually have everything done and kids in bed by 9. Then it's not a problem to work out.

    ((hugs)) Good luck! It's not easy, but will get easier as time goes on!
  • ChaplainHeavin
    ChaplainHeavin Posts: 426 Member
    I think husbands/dads need to help out as well. My wife works really long hours and has to grade tests at home. So I basically do 90% of the house cleaning or it just couldn't get done. On the flip side, she's the "fix it upper" in our household.
  • ripzone13
    ripzone13 Posts: 83 Member
    Here is what I do...I am a single mom with a full time career. SO- I workout 5 days a week on my lunch breaks (i get 1hr break). It's fast and furious and I have to come back to work sweaty (yuck I know), but to me it's worth it. I hurry to the gym, quickly change, run/walk/elliptical/ or stairstepper for half hour, and then quick change back into work clothes and fly back to work. People just have to deal with me looking like a hot mess in the afternoon. =) I do have an awesome boyfriend who watches my daughter for me on the weekends so I can go to the gym too. He usually hangs out at the house during nap time and I go to the gym Sat and sometimes Sunday for an hour or so. I know that by 8:30/9 I feel like falling on my face from going going going all day...so I know that I have to get my workout in during the day.Good lucky lady! It is a tough balance, but if you want it bad enough you figure out a way to make it happen =)
  • CJisinShape
    CJisinShape Posts: 1,404 Member
    Your husband does a very exhausting job. And that is all I have to say about the previous suggestions.
  • wonderwoman234
    wonderwoman234 Posts: 551 Member
    People will treat you the way you allow them to.....meaning that if you allow your husband to do nothing other than live like he's single with no family, that's what he'll do. No, wait.....he's not even living like he's single because if he were, he'd be getting his own meals, cleaning his own apartment, and handling his business. He is living like a child.

    I find it depressing reading how so many married women are happy to take on all of the child rearing, house cleaning, cooking, etc. while working full time. You are living like a single mother unnecessarily. This isn't the 1950's when most women stayed at home. Your husband is surely capable, even with a delivery job, to take on some things as a member of the family. He's not the only one working hard. You are, too.

    Your husband is not incentivized to help out. That's partially on you for treating him like another child. I strongly believe that marriage should be an equal partnership and studies show that those are the strongest marriages. And I can tell you that your husband will not love you more for taking on everything....in fact, he may respect you less. Just a thought....
  • kellymac518
    kellymac518 Posts: 132 Member
    maybe find out if you can leave your kid at your relatives house for an extra bit of time and get a workout in between work and picking her up?

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