'selfish' for losing weight
AmberMcMiniskirt
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I've been told that my reasons for losing weight are vain and selfish. Like, does it really matter what my motivation is if it's working? If I want to lose 85 pounds for the sole purpose of wearing cute clothes, who cares?! How is that any of your business? I'm sorry I don't have a sob story for you, but I don't actually need a tragic backstory in order to justify myself.
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I don't think that's selfish at all you need to surround yourself with more encouraging people.0
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We all have our own reasons to loose, and honestly it is really no one else's business! maybe the person judging you has their own issues about weight and is putting them on you?0
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Do it for yourself & prove the fat *kitten* wrong!!!:laugh:0
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I agree, you need better supportive people around you. I may not have chosen to lose weight to wear cutier clothes but honestly I love it. You do what you got to do and the reasons why are your own.0
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Be selfish. It's your body and your life. What anyone else thinks is irrelevant.0
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my reason for losing weight has changed so many times since I began. People will talk, I even lost a friend due to her jealousy of me wanting to better myself. Whatever do what gotta do! Piss on all the negative people0
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I've been told that my reasons for losing weight are vain and selfish. Like, does it really matter what my motivation is if it's working? If I want to lose 85 pounds for the sole purpose of wearing cute clothes, who cares?! How is that any of your business? I'm sorry I don't have a sob story for you, but I don't actually need a tragic backstory in order to justify myself.
I think that regardless of reason for wanting to lose weight and the things that motivate us, making healthy, good goals and following through with them is an admirable trait in a human being. My main reason for wanting to lose weight is to look good AND to wear cute clothes! Is it vain? Oh, hell yeah. Not a doubt about it! But that doesn't mean I shouldn't do it. It doesn't mean that it won't benefit my health and likely extend my life by a few years or more. My vain reasons won't make the benefits of maintaining a healthy weight disappear and my vain reasons for wanting to get in shape are nobody's business.
Also. . . vain does not equate selfish. Ignore this person and keep heading toward your goal. Good luck!0 -
You don't need to justify your hopes, desires or anything to anyone. It's unfortunate that those people are negative and it only reflects the negativity inside them. Stay strong and do your best to surround yourself with positive people and to kindly ignore those who aren't as motivated, focused and daring as you to pursue YOUR goals. You can only live for you and you are only responsible for your actions and not how other people interpret things. It's also super unfortunate that this person doesn't realize that by losing all that weight you're going to sooo much healthier and live more quality life. Stay strong girl!
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You're making the fat, lazy people around you feel bad about themselves with your success. You really should be more considerate! I bet you never once considered how other people would feel when you started to look hot and they stayed as a not.
Wait, that's not how it works.
Tell them to shut up and have another cookie.0 -
I don't share the fact with non-close friends because then it's always followed by "why?" and I have the same reason as you. It's really no one's business. It's motivating me, so who cares what anyone else thinks?0
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Number 1 reason I am losing weight: To look hot as fluck naked and rock the teeniest bikini at the beach with my son on my hip.
Am I vain for admitting it? Absolutely. So? Who cares what the reasons are? If the reason is sufficient for you, that's all that matters.0 -
I've been told that my reasons for losing weight are vain and selfish. Like, does it really matter what my motivation is if it's working? If I want to lose 85 pounds for the sole purpose of wearing cute clothes, who cares?! How is that any of your business? I'm sorry I don't have a sob story for you, but I don't actually need a tragic backstory in order to justify myself.
How is it "selfish" to lose weight? Would that imply that being overweight is akin with being a philanthropist? LOL. Whoever said that should hold no more credibility in your eyes.0 -
If you are 85lbs over weight, it is not hard to believe you would have the desire to lose it for other reasons too than just vanity. That being said, whatever your reason is, people need to respect it.0
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I've been told that my reasons for losing weight are vain and selfish. Like, does it really matter what my motivation is if it's working? If I want to lose 85 pounds for the sole purpose of wearing cute clothes, who cares?! How is that any of your business? I'm sorry I don't have a sob story for you, but I don't actually need a tragic backstory in order to justify myself.
Anybody who accuses you of being selfish for losing weight...THEY'RE the ones who are selfish. You are allowed to do as you please with your own body.0 -
Actually we all know that losing weight is time consuming and at times expensive. We spend time at the gym, working out, counting calories, researching and even reading and writing on the forums. If we are neglecting our spouses, children, friends etc to do this then maybe we are being selfish. But...maybe we've neglected our heath so long that those close to us are glad to give us that time. On the other hand eating more than our share of food for our size and activity level is in fact selfish. We are storing extra fat on our bodies and spending extra money on food. We could donate that money to a charity that feeds others who need some fat. If we are consumed with our appearance and maintaining it is our first priority in life then that's selfish. However, if we neglect our health and are unable to play with our children or expect them to sit at our side in the hospital due to our self-induced illnesses then we are selfish. It's all about boundaries. It likely that only we ourselves know if we are being selfish or vain in regard to the time, money and essentially priority we give to losing weight.0
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I support anyone who's final goal is healthy along with their means of getting there. Reasons for getting their are irrelevant.0
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We're always raised to think of selfishness as a bad trait, but I think it's super important to be selfish. We need to put ourselves first, and manage our own needs as a priority. Embrace your selfishness, I say!0
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We're always raised to think of selfishness as a bad trait, but I think it's super important to be selfish. We need to put ourselves first, and manage our own needs as a priority. Embrace your selfishness, I say!
^ This!
And seriously, if we can't be "selfish" about out OWN BODIES, then what is the alternative? That's deffinitely something that should be 100% ours!0 -
Why do you feel the need to tell everyone your reasons? Maybe that;s what people are more annoyed about, you telling them constantly rather than your reasons. Just get on with itI've been told that my reasons for losing weight are vain and selfish. Like, does it really matter what my motivation is if it's working? If I want to lose 85 pounds for the sole purpose of wearing cute clothes, who cares?! How is that any of your business? I'm sorry I don't have a sob story for you, but I don't actually need a tragic backstory in order to justify myself.0 -
Sounds like......... HATERS!!!! Tell them "be gone wit your hatin *kitten*". I am sure the people telling you this are over weight themselves. Misery loves company.0
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The main reason i want to loose weight? The same reason most women (including myself) wear mascara: to look cute, nice attractive, better or whatever other vain reason. If loosing weight makes you feel better and healthier, go for it!0
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Que? I don't get it?...
Do we need a "tragic sob story" is there now an X Factor element to losing weight? Is Simon Cowell going to come to my house, & poke my belly?
I've over eaten/under exercised. I got fat - I now want to rectify this... Everyone else can go eff themselves if they don't like it. However, I don't really mention it to anyone aside from MFP friends list. Sooo, end of story really.0 -
That's my main reason for losing weight. Yeah its great for the health benefits and all that, but lets face it, I look frikkin awesome in clothes and I don't care how selfish that is!! You do what you want!!0
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vain and selfishess person here too. I wanted to lose weight to look better in clothes. I want a bigger selection of choice when I shop. The thing is though through this journey comes alot of benefits that are neither vain or selfish. you start to make better choices and you get fitter and stronger with exercise.
Dont mind them and good luck on your journey. x0 -
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In this case "selfish" is a good thing...selfish on my friend!!!:bigsmile:0
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How can wanting to improve yourself and be healthy be selfish. You carry on with what you are doing, you are doing well. The people who are saying that are just jealous that you are able to do it. They are being selfish in trying to discourage you. Keep up the good work.0
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Your mistake was not to want to lose weight, nor was it to assume that's there was something wrong with being wain.
What you did wrong was to assume nobody would criticize you for it and, when somebody inevitably did, you took the opinions of the critics serious.
They are jealous of your resolve and envy you.
Something similar came up recently on another forum I frequent. The best reply was a game of thrones quote: the lion does not concern itself with the opinion of sheep.0 -
Whoever is telling you that you are selfish is being very selfish themselves, losing weight is a very personal thing and we all have our own reasons! Go ahead, lose the weight, we are all here to support each other & unless that will make you dangerously underweight I can't see any issues! Healthy is good!
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Well... yeah. It's selfish, that's the point. Why would you lose weight for someone else?0
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