'selfish' for losing weight

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  • ebayaddict0127
    ebayaddict0127 Posts: 523 Member
    Losing weight for the most part isn't a selfish thing. It's called "being healthy." And I think people who say you're selfish are just jealous. I know my family has always been very unsupportive of me - fat or skinny. If I'm fat, they tell me and talk smack behind my back. If I'm skinny, then they talk smack and say I should stop and I don't need to lose weight and eat more cupcakes.

    Don't listen to anyone but yourself. It's YOUR body. YOUR decision
  • craftywitch_63
    craftywitch_63 Posts: 829 Member
    If wanting to lose weight is "selfish" - then I'm selfish and I'm okay with that.

    As I typed this, a Nutrisystem commercial came on - one woman lost 60+ pounds just so she could wear "a little black dress."

    Bottom line - whatever gets you motivated. Dump the "Negative Nellies" and find some friends that will offer encouragement instead of discouragement.
  • animatorswearbras
    animatorswearbras Posts: 1,001 Member
    Translation - I'm selfish and insecure so I'm going to accuse/shame you of being selfish because I don't want to just say, please don't get way hotter than me... Waaaah.
  • Llamapants86
    Llamapants86 Posts: 1,221 Member
    Well... yeah. It's selfish, that's the point. Why would you lose weight for someone else?

    This. Trying to lose weight for some other people failed me. When I found my own reasons it makes things so much easier.
  • Blue801
    Blue801 Posts: 442
    How dare you have your own thoughts, feelings, and motivations! Shame on you!
    :drinker: :flowerforyou:
  • coleyj95
    coleyj95 Posts: 6 Member
    My reaon for weight loss is so that when my man comes home from the service he has a cute little wifey to come home to. I want to be at the same weight I was when he met me 3 years ago. That all goes right back to the same thing as you. I want to look better for him which ultimately involves me looking better in clothes! Keep going don't let anyone stop you!
  • hammersoaps
    hammersoaps Posts: 27
    I have a friend who is really buff and fit. Apparently, he wasn't always so. I didn't even recognize that the old picture I saw was of him. I asked him what was his motivation, what made him change? He looked at me straight in the face and said, "*****". After being a bit shocked by his bluntness, I just laughed really hard. Hey man, it seems to have worked.

    We've all got our reasons! I think all that matters is that they work.

    Edit: MFP filter blocked out the word. Think slang that starts with "p" and is another word for "kitty".
  • dakotababy
    dakotababy Posts: 2,407 Member
    If being "Hot" is your motivation then USE IT! It is not selfish, it is what works for you.

    ETA...I think I may have misunderstood. If others are saying "losing weight for the sole purpose of looking good is selfish" then they are stupid. If others are saying "losing weight is selfish" then they are severely co-dependant and need to get a little more selfish themselves.
  • AllieBear88
    AllieBear88 Posts: 170 Member
    If you're selfish, so am I! My husband is already going to play "Hot For Teacher" when we leave campus after I graduate next year. I want to BE that "Hot Teacher". I don't want to have a butt that jiggles forever while I write on the whiteboard! And cute clothes!? What girl DOESN'T want that!? Health is also a concern, as well, but overall, I want to feel and look good. That's not selfish. It's human. :)
  • leaner426
    leaner426 Posts: 89 Member
    They say "vain and selfish" you say "self-esteem." My life would have been a whole lot better if I'd been a lot more vain and selfish (i.e. had a lot more self esteem.) The reasons don't change the results. Go for it.
  • pamatc2
    pamatc2 Posts: 868 Member
    I've been told that my reasons for losing weight are vain and selfish. Like, does it really matter what my motivation is if it's working? If I want to lose 85 pounds for the sole purpose of wearing cute clothes, who cares?! How is that any of your business? I'm sorry I don't have a sob story for you, but I don't actually need a tragic backstory in order to justify myself.

    They are just jealous that you have a goal and motivation to go for your goals! I found that sometimes those closest to you (friends and family) actually are the most toxic to your goals because they wish they had the success that you do. It's best to ignore their comments and use your drive and motivation to push forward. "Get rid" of those who want you to fail or are negative and surround yourself with positive, motivational people and you will achieve! You go girl!
  • bribrijean234
    bribrijean234 Posts: 90 Member
    You have every right to be "selfish" when it comes to losing weight! It's your body and you are going to have to live in it for the rest of your life... And that being said I think we all would prefer to look better, be fitter, and frankly reap the benefits of that and in doing so likely live longer! Furthermore, to lose the weight and keep it off, you need to be motivated, so if looking better in clothes or being smaller etc motivates you, then who's to say that's wrong. Ignore the people that give you a hard time about it, they lack the motivation that you have. No one said your motivation has to be that of a saint. :)
  • Dreamingallday
    Dreamingallday Posts: 47
    I've heard that one before! I dated a guy who said that I was selfish to want to lose weight because I would start to think myself a better person than him and cheat on him. He was about 350 pounds and I was 275 at the time. I had to end that relationship because I was not being guilted in to staying unhealthy to be in a unhealthy relationship.

    This may sound nasty of me, but the couple hundred pounds of negative people are easier to drop than 10 pounds off your own body. It will be the easiest weight one can lose :D
  • PinkyFett
    PinkyFett Posts: 842 Member
    I don't think it's selfish. It doesn't affect anyone but you, what's the big deal? I want to wear things I WANT to wear, not just what I can fit into. I think we all do. And I think it fuels us all in some way.
  • PinkyFett
    PinkyFett Posts: 842 Member
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    Love it.
  • CherSharon
    CherSharon Posts: 3
    Don't listen to negative people. ...you do what's right for you.
  • fitandGLAM
    fitandGLAM Posts: 36
    Whatever it may be, if it motivates you to feel/look healthy, then go for it ! I first starting doing insanity for a reason I don't care to admit to, but it worked!! Lol just do you!
  • NoMoreStretchyPants
    NoMoreStretchyPants Posts: 307
    Number 1 reason I am losing weight: To look hot as fluck naked and rock the teeniest bikini at the beach with my son on my hip.

    Am I vain for admitting it? Absolutely. So? Who cares what the reasons are? If the reason is sufficient for you, that's all that matters.

    High five sister.

    OP - the people who want you to stay unhealthy and unfit are the selfish ones. True friends will motivate and encourage you and will want you to better yourself.
  • moya_rargh
    moya_rargh Posts: 1,473 Member
    If being "Hot" is your motivation then USE IT! It is not selfish, it is what works for you.

    ETA...I think I may have misunderstood. If others are saying "losing weight for the sole purpose of looking good is selfish" then they are stupid. If others are saying "losing weight is selfish" then they are severely co-dependant and need to get a little more selfish themselves.

    This!
  • knra_grl
    knra_grl Posts: 1,566 Member
    Um no not selfish - most of us who are losing weight want to wear "cuter" clothes or fit into the ones we already have :ohwell:

    It's a motivator - my thought process "If I eat healthy and exercise I will look great in my outfit and I won't have to wear a blazer to hide the muffin top" :bigsmile:

    Shame on all of us for wanting to look and feel better about ourselves! :embarassed:
  • plugers
    plugers Posts: 23 Member
    My motivation is half vanity and half health. Noticed I'd been a lazy douche lately and got tired more easily, also would like a 6 pack again as it's been over ten years since last time. If anyone has a problem with it, they can choke on a c|ock.
  • knra_grl
    knra_grl Posts: 1,566 Member
    My motivation is half vanity and half health. Noticed I'd been a lazy douche lately and got tired more easily, also would like a 6 pack again as it's been over ten years since last time. If anyone has a problem with it, they can choke on a c|ock.

    :noway:
  • oceanbreeze27
    oceanbreeze27 Posts: 66 Member
    Whatever your motivation is, it's your own. As long as it's getting you off the couch, watching the diet, and doing your thing, then you're right: It's none of their business. Stay true to yourself and reap the benefits!
  • neandermagnon
    neandermagnon Posts: 7,436 Member
    your reasons for losing weight are none of anyone else's business.... don't feel you have to give them a reason at all...
  • ClaudiaTheNice
    ClaudiaTheNice Posts: 74
    I've been told that my reasons for losing weight are vain and selfish. Like, does it really matter what my motivation is if it's working? If I want to lose 85 pounds for the sole purpose of wearing cute clothes, who cares?! How is that any of your business? I'm sorry I don't have a sob story for you, but I don't actually need a tragic backstory in order to justify myself.

    So what if it's selfish. Sometimes you have to think about yourself, take care of yourself and love yourself. You are doing something for you, don't give up on yourself.
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  • SrJoben
    SrJoben Posts: 484 Member
    I've been told that my reasons for losing weight are vain and selfish. Like, does it really matter what my motivation is if it's working? If I want to lose 85 pounds for the sole purpose of wearing cute clothes, who cares?! How is that any of your business? I'm sorry I don't have a sob story for you, but I don't actually need a tragic backstory in order to justify myself.

    Anyone who tells you this is just revealing they way they rationalize their way out of self improvement.


    Tell them that refusing to improve for fear of appearing vain would itself be a sign of incredible vanity.
  • lacewitch
    lacewitch Posts: 766 Member
    No, not selfish. I think it must be a fantastic motivator. i have a pair of jeans I am using as a 'mini goal' I want to fir in to them, nad I'd like to get my body fat down to improve my stomach and be able to wear cut off tops!

    If people have more 'noble' goals good for them.
    what nmatters most is that you have something that kkeeps you going whrn theat tub of icecream a the supermarket is calling to you!
  • TriShamelessly
    TriShamelessly Posts: 905 Member
    Be selfish. It's your body and your life. What anyone else thinks is irrelevant.

    QFT
  • MexicanOsmosis
    MexicanOsmosis Posts: 382 Member
    The question I have to ask is, if having a healthier lifestyle didn't change the way you look (in other words, you would still look fat regardless), how many people would do it? My guess is not many. Sure, there's the whole "I want to live longer, etc etc" but deep down we're physical beings. We all just want to look good while nekkid.

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