"Oh, so you're starving yourself?"

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  • Ready2Rock206
    Ready2Rock206 Posts: 9,487 Member
    WTF? Running out and telling the neighbors? That's just whacked.

    For real. You mom has issues. That's just nuts.
  • GodMomKim
    GodMomKim Posts: 3,703 Member
    I don't know you or your mom; but mine is similar to yours - she won't tell the neighbors but she loves the line I can't love unless you_______. And all the advice about talking to her is just useless. I did counseling and learned that she was emotionally abusing me. I did not live with her; so that helped; as I was able to put limits up - ie: " Mom, if you continue to say that I will need to hang up - or leave" and then do it. So fast forward 15 years and I am finally working on the weight I put on as all the sweets/baked goodies made me feel good and learning to be a great baker got me positive feed back from others.

    My recommendation is continue your life as best you can; limit information you give her; figure out a way to move out - rent a room?, and if you feel you need it do not be too embarrassed to seek professional help - and if you don't think you can afford it barter ( I traded counseling for making 3 dinners a week for my therapists family)
  • zagbee
    zagbee Posts: 40 Member
    Someone else sort of said the same thing up there, but I think this is more about her than you. You choosing a healthier option for your dinner probably made her feel guilty about her choices and I think she got defensive and lashed out. I am a little lost about her running out to yell at the neighbors, though. :noway:
  • deztopstylist
    deztopstylist Posts: 55 Member
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    Omg I love this. Ignore your mom. They can make bad decisions but you have to do what you have to do sit her down and tell her that what she did was not right and that you respect her choices if she could respect yours.
  • Phaedra2014
    Phaedra2014 Posts: 1,254 Member
    Take your share and have it for lunch tomorrow.
  • dittmarml
    dittmarml Posts: 351 Member
    Personally I'd tell her I find her behavior today totally unacceptable and warn her that continuing to carry on inappropriately about your decisions will disappoint you and make you less likely to discuss them with her in the future.
  • Cranquistador
    Cranquistador Posts: 39,744 Member
    How old are you?
  • AmyML44
    AmyML44 Posts: 11
    Drink a ****load of Jim Beam. Go out and drag her *kitten* around the front yard by her hair. Then call her a slut and punch her a few times. Then when the cops come say "that ***** started it". And then pass out. Just saying that's how we handle family bidness in Texas.


    Hell yeah!
  • wheird
    wheird Posts: 7,963 Member
    Drink a ****load of Jim Beam. Go out and drag her *kitten* around the front yard by her hair. Then call her a slut and punch her a few times. Then when the cops come say "that ***** started it". And then pass out. Just saying that's how we handle family bidness in Texas.

    :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
  • rgohm
    rgohm Posts: 294 Member
    Your mom is one of those manipulative types, huh? That's OK. Recognize it for what it is and IGNORE any attempts at manipulation. You are a grown adult now. Just laugh it off and do what you need to do. :drinker:

    I agree.
  • sloth3toes
    sloth3toes Posts: 2,212 Member
    Drink a ****load of Jim Beam. Go out and drag her *kitten* around the front yard by her hair. Then call her a slut and punch her a few times. Then when the cops come say "that ***** started it". And then pass out. Just saying that's how we handle family bidness in Texas.

    I was thinking the OP might live in Mcintyre, Georgia, near the railroad tracks......
  • albayin
    albayin Posts: 2,524 Member
    I dont know what tone your mom used when she said that...hard to tell from one side the story...
    I guess everyone has different sensitive spot...I personally don't mind people asking if I am starving or they assume I am starving because I actually have to starve myself from time to time to keep my weight in check. But maybe OP isn't really starving hence found this very offensive. But I hope you can work it out with your mom eventually.

    My touchy spot will be something like "oh, you upper body looks good in this outfit", or something "you look better in skirt than jeans". So go figure each one has her own issues.
  • mmipanda
    mmipanda Posts: 351 Member
    I think she feels like your attempt to be healthier is a direct criticism of HER choices. Which it's not, of course, but she is going to make it a ~big deal~ regardless. I'm guessing she's overweight?
  • crsawinton
    crsawinton Posts: 96 Member
    Drink a ****load of Jim Beam. Go out and drag her *kitten* around the front yard by her hair. Then call her a slut and punch her a few times. Then when the cops come say "that ***** started it". And then pass out. Just saying that's how we handle family bidness in Texas.

    I laughed so hard.

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