Sitting next to each other on a date = inappropriate?

Ohmydaze
Ohmydaze Posts: 403 Member
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Where I work, we have plenty of regulars that prefer to sit next to each other, so I lay their tables accordingly, but they do tend to be older married couples. We don't really cater to young couples (I work at a golf club), so I've never served a young couple on a date, but I really like sitting at a 90 degree angle, or next to each other.

A few people I've mentioned it to think it's odd, and you should sit facing one another on a date, or it's even awkward for servers.

Is it? Any thoughts?
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  • Chief_Rocka
    Chief_Rocka Posts: 4,710 Member
    easy access
  • JefferyArnold
    JefferyArnold Posts: 1,479 Member
    I'm more of the preference of across from. This way you can hold hands while looking at each other.
  • Inner_Goddess
    Inner_Goddess Posts: 1,146 Member
    I'm more of the preference of across from. This way you can hold hands while looking at each other.

    This!!

    I went on a date where the man sat next to me and it was weird and claustrophobic .... But then maybe it was also cu I didn't click with him
  • miss_jessiejane
    miss_jessiejane Posts: 2,819 Member
    If I really liked a guy, I might sit next to him. It's never happened though.
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  • 1PatientBear
    1PatientBear Posts: 2,089 Member
    Personal preference. I don't think there is a right or wrong answer. I like sitting across for ease of conversation and so I can look her in the eyes (boobs) when I talk to her.
  • vjohn04
    vjohn04 Posts: 2,276 Member
    Sometimes my hubs and I sit next to each other in the booth instead of across from each other. :-)

    At a table most of the time we sit 90 degrees instead of across from each other.
  • Mia_RagazzaTosta
    Mia_RagazzaTosta Posts: 4,885 Member
    I generally go for a lap seat.
  • cici1028
    cici1028 Posts: 799 Member
    I wouldn't say it's inappropriate! But it isn't my preference. I prefer sitting 90 degrees at the table from my husband on a date so I can look at him and talk to him. (Or across. Either way.) Just not side-by-side. Just something I have noticed (which may or may not pertain to your golf club clientele) is sitting side-by-side seems to be an open invitation to be checking phones/tablets/etc rather than talking!
  • workout_ninja
    workout_ninja Posts: 524 Member
    even if im just out with a friend, I like to sit across from them. Means you can look at each other and have a conversation. The only time I sit next to my hubby is in the cinema
  • OnAllFours
    OnAllFours Posts: 170 Member
    First date = across from each other.

    Any other time I like 90degree, it's close but I am not wrecking my neck (that's for later that night) from turning to look at her all night.
  • 1PatientBear
    1PatientBear Posts: 2,089 Member
    I generally go for a lap seat.

    Busy this weekend??
  • a_stronger_me13
    a_stronger_me13 Posts: 812 Member
    How is this even a question of appropriate or inappropriate?
  • Chain_Ring
    Chain_Ring Posts: 753 Member
    Across. Always across.
  • SonicDeathMonkey80
    SonicDeathMonkey80 Posts: 4,489 Member
    I think it is annoying. I don't like people sitting right next to me while I eat (unless it is Kate Hudson), and will always sit at a corner seat in a group arrangement so my right side is free.

    http://lifehacker.com/5990596/always-choose-the-best-seat-at-any-multi-person-table
  • ReginaldBrontosaurus
    ReginaldBrontosaurus Posts: 372 Member
    It has always been made fun of by everyone I know. We call it the triple S (same side sitters)
  • HunterKiller_deleted
    HunterKiller_deleted Posts: 458
    Sitting next to each other on a date =Bloody good snog
  • emkayelle91
    emkayelle91 Posts: 846 Member
    I prefer sitting across. Better eye contact, and I eat with my left hand, so I won't be hitting his elbow the entire time we're eating lol
  • randomtai
    randomtai Posts: 9,003 Member
    I like sitting next to each other. Cheap feels are easier. :smokin:
  • The_1_Who_Knocks
    The_1_Who_Knocks Posts: 343 Member
    Honestly it just seems unnatural to sit next to each other on a date. I'd think you'd of course sit across from each other so you are looking directly at the person who is speaking. I had no idea that people did that.
  • redheaddee
    redheaddee Posts: 2,005 Member
    My husband and I are "same side sitters". That way we can touch each other under the table and whisper filthy things into each other's ears. I only recently found out we were "weird" in this regard. Oh well.
  • mojohowitz
    mojohowitz Posts: 900 Member
    Next. That way, when she asks if I've seen the "The Notebook, I won't spray her when I blow my drink out of my nose.
  • KrazyDaizy
    KrazyDaizy Posts: 815 Member
    I generally go for a lap DANCE.
    Fixed it for you. Me, too.
  • MissSaturday
    MissSaturday Posts: 784 Member
    I do prefer sitting on their face but i may also go for the face to face and playing with my foot ????????????
  • ReginaldBrontosaurus
    ReginaldBrontosaurus Posts: 372 Member
    Sitting in the car. Sitting at a movie. Sitting on a couch. All the side sitting, why not break up the routine for a little.
  • Mia_RagazzaTosta
    Mia_RagazzaTosta Posts: 4,885 Member
    I generally go for a lap DANCE.
    Fixed it for you. Me, too.

    I was waiting ever so patiently for someone to do that :drinker:
  • mamahannick
    mamahannick Posts: 322 Member
    My husband and I have always sat next to each other at restaurants. Still do. It's preference. :)
  • KrazyDaizy
    KrazyDaizy Posts: 815 Member
    I generally go for a lap DANCE.
    Fixed it for you. Me, too.

    I was waiting ever so patiently for someone to do that :drinker:
    Glad to oblige. *commences lap dance for you*
  • devil_in_a_blue_dress
    devil_in_a_blue_dress Posts: 5,214 Member
    Let's ask CS Lewis: "Lovers are normally face to face, absorbed in each other; Friends, side by side, absorbed in some common interest. "

    I prefer to face my lovers and rub shoulders with friends. But you know, whatevers.
  • doctorsookie
    doctorsookie Posts: 1,084 Member
    My first date with my fiance, we sat next to each other. We are still together and it will be five years soon. Not understanding the whole, awkward for servers thing either. Ummm, how do they know its a first date, or a second date, or if you are married? Sit where you are most comfortable. Whatever other think, let them think it and don't let it bother you. :drinker:

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