I'm so freaked out...

I'm just starting to maintain my weight. I'm 19 years old, female, 165cm/50-51kg. I finally admited myself that I'm eating too little (1200 calories, plus 4 times a week workouts) Yesterday I saw a doctor (because my period stopped since two months) He said everything was fine, but that I need to stop losing weight (and that I even need to gain some), then the things will go back to normal. I don't want to gain anymore weight, I calculated my TDEE and it said for maintaince I need to eat 1700 calories, but that seems like a lot (to me right now). How do I do that, without gaining weight - but just maintaining my current? I need help, some advices. Please, don't judge me. I don't really need this, I'm so embarrased by posting this topic because I realize I have a problem, but I'm willing to do whatever it takes to get better :(
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  • Hey, I started out on less than 1,000 calories a day and was training hard. It took longer to lose weight because I was starving my body, the body was storing the food as fat. Think of your body as a car , for the car to go you need to put fuel in it. So I increased my calories still trained and lost over 90 lbs. I have increased my calories now to maintain weight. It is important to exercise though.
  • MissBabyJane
    MissBabyJane Posts: 538 Member
    Hey, I started out on less than 1,000 calories a day and was training hard. It took longer to lose weight because I was starving my body, the body was storing the food as fat. Think of your body as a car , for the car to go you need to put fuel in it. So I increased my calories still trained and lost over 90 lbs. I have increased my calories now to maintain weight. It is important to exercise though.

    Absolutely! I don't plan on stopping my workouts or something. How did you adjust, was it hard at first? It's kinda hard for me to wrap my mind around this idea, because I'm eating 1200 calories for more than a half year... and dieting before that... it's like a habit or something. But I'm already at my goal weight (and even a little under) and I just neeed to stop starving and take better care for my body :(
  • MissBabyJane
    MissBabyJane Posts: 538 Member
    Btw, good for you! 90lbs is a lot of hard work! I hope you're proud of yourself.

    I used to weight 68kg before starting my workouts and diets.
  • Serena272
    Serena272 Posts: 53 Member
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  • skinnybythanksgiving
    skinnybythanksgiving Posts: 159 Member
    Add 100 calories today, and for the next week eat 1300 daily. Continue your workouts (as long as they aren't 4 hour workouts). Next week on the 27th eat 1400 a day. You'll be use to the 1300 by then. It's baby steps. You'll be fine, I know it's scary, just slowly add calories, 100 calories at a time. You'll know to stop adding calories when you gain a pound or two. Who knows, you may be able to maintain your weight, have your periods, not worry and eat more calories. Plus, it sounds like the Dr. wants you to gain a few pounds, so if you do gain a couple he'll be happy. :flowerforyou:
  • glenmchale
    glenmchale Posts: 1,307 Member
    Add 100 calories today, and for the next week eat 1300 daily. Continue your workouts (as long as they aren't 4 hour workouts). Next week on the 27th eat 1400 a day. You'll be use to the 1300 by then. It's baby steps. You'll be fine, I know it's scary, just slowly add calories, 100 calories at a time. You'll know to stop adding calories when you gain a pound or two. Who knows, you may be able to maintain your weight, have your periods, not worry and eat more calories. Plus, it sounds like the Dr. wants you to gain a few pounds, so if you do gain a couple he'll be happy. :flowerforyou:

    this!!!
  • MissBabyJane
    MissBabyJane Posts: 538 Member
    Add 100 calories today, and for the next week eat 1300 daily. Continue your workouts (as long as they aren't 4 hour workouts). Next week on the 27th eat 1400 a day. You'll be use to the 1300 by then. It's baby steps. You'll be fine, I know it's scary, just slowly add calories, 100 calories at a time. You'll know to stop adding calories when you gain a pound or two. Who knows, you may be able to maintain your weight, have your periods, not worry and eat more calories. Plus, it sounds like the Dr. wants you to gain a few pounds, so if you do gain a couple he'll be happy. :flowerforyou:

    Thank you so much! You're so nice! I will that!
  • EvgeniZyntx
    EvgeniZyntx Posts: 24,208 Member
    You probably have some types of foods you avoid ("bad food") and will have to work as hard as you do with your body on rethinking your relationship with food. There are no bad foods.

    Good luck.
  • MissBabyJane
    MissBabyJane Posts: 538 Member
    You probably have some types of foods you avoid ("bad food") and will have to work as hard as you do with your body on rethinking your relationship with food. There are no bad foods.

    Good luck.

    Yep, I do that... I'm trying to change it.
  • Chadomaniac
    Chadomaniac Posts: 1,785 Member
    Add 100 calories today, and for the next week eat 1300 daily. Continue your workouts (as long as they aren't 4 hour workouts). Next week on the 27th eat 1400 a day. You'll be use to the 1300 by then. It's baby steps. You'll be fine, I know it's scary, just slowly add calories, 100 calories at a time. You'll know to stop adding calories when you gain a pound or two. Who knows, you may be able to maintain your weight, have your periods, not worry and eat more calories. Plus, it sounds like the Dr. wants you to gain a few pounds, so if you do gain a couple he'll be happy. :flowerforyou:

    Thank you so much! You're so nice! I will that!

    Id agree with what she said if you didn't train like a maniac (no offence)

    4 hours training has to stop . 45min-60min is enough!!! im referring to lifting weights for body composition and proper metabolic functioning
  • Well I recently stopped maintaining because I decided to lose a few more lbs, but before that I was maintaining for about 4 months, prior to that I had been eating 1200 like you and I'm 5''5, I was too scared to raise it to 1650 because I thought I was certain I would gain weight. However I decided I would try, so I added in 100 calories each week and as I did that, I realised that the extra calories really weren't that much, and I DID NOT gain any weight. It just meant a tastier sandwich for lunch or a dessert after dinner or a glass of milk with breakfast, small things like that which add up without making you feel like you're eating loads.
    it really just seems like a lot of extra calories in our mind because we know how much food we can fit into a small budget but really it isn't a lot extra when you eat slightly richer food :) hope that helps (also your appetite should adjust, mine certainly did, always ravenous now ;) )
  • MissBabyJane
    MissBabyJane Posts: 538 Member
    Add 100 calories today, and for the next week eat 1300 daily. Continue your workouts (as long as they aren't 4 hour workouts). Next week on the 27th eat 1400 a day. You'll be use to the 1300 by then. It's baby steps. You'll be fine, I know it's scary, just slowly add calories, 100 calories at a time. You'll know to stop adding calories when you gain a pound or two. Who knows, you may be able to maintain your weight, have your periods, not worry and eat more calories. Plus, it sounds like the Dr. wants you to gain a few pounds, so if you do gain a couple he'll be happy. :flowerforyou:

    Thank you so much! You're so nice! I will that!

    Id agree with what she said if you didn't train like a maniac (no offence)

    4 hours training has to stop . 45min-60min is enough!!! im referring to lifting weights for body composition and proper metabolic functioning

    Wow, I made a mistake in my first post. I didn't mean 4 hour workout - but a 4 workouts a week with duration 30 mins! My bad :(
  • MissBabyJane
    MissBabyJane Posts: 538 Member
    Well I recently stopped maintaining because I decided to lose a few more lbs, but before that I was maintaining for about 4 months, prior to that I had been eating 1200 like you and I'm 5''5, I was too scared to raise it to 1650 because I thought I was certain I would gain weight. However I decided I would try, so I added in 100 calories each week and as I did that, I realised that the extra calories really weren't that much, and I DID NOT gain any weight. It just meant a tastier sandwich for lunch or a dessert after dinner or a glass of milk with breakfast, small things like that which add up without making you feel like you're eating loads.
    it really just seems like a lot of extra calories in our mind because we know how much food we can fit into a small budget but really it isn't a lot extra when you eat slightly richer food :) hope that helps (also your appetite should adjust, mine certainly did, always ravenous now ;) )

    Thank you so much! This sound great, I'm not that worried now! I will try that as starting from now! I just adjusted MFP calories to 1310.
  • CipherZero
    CipherZero Posts: 1,418 Member
    All of the TDEE and BMR calculators are best estimates for where your calories should be and should NOT be taken as gospel from on high.

    I found my TDEE lies about 100 calories lower than any of the calculators show and I've adjusted accordingly; it's allowed me to keep my weight at the goal +/- one pound consistently.

    And a previous poster is right on: add 100 calories, wait a week or two and see how your body reacts. I'd also add to not worry about fluctuations of two pounds in either direction, as water retention and food still transiting your digestive system can vary ( at least my ) weight by three pounds a day.
  • SezxyStef
    SezxyStef Posts: 15,267 Member
    you are 5 ft 5 and weight just over 100lbs...you do need to gain some weight.

    You are considered underweight and eating 1200calories and working out 4 x week and you are not having a period

    Normally a womens period stops due to not enough bodyfat and is a sign of an eating disorder...

    If you realize you have a problem but still don't want to gain weight you need more help and not just from a GP...

    In other posts you mentioned an 18000 calorie binge...

    In December you were at 55kg (110lbs) and have since then lost about 1lb a week...and you dream of people calling you fat
    I know it's really stupid and kinda pathetic, because they're people who have lost so much more weight and have bigger problems with health and etc. But I just feel like a crap. The more weight I'm losing, the more I think I need to lose more. My family are telling me that I need to maintain and stop losing weight and that I look great, but I can't help thinking I'm still fat or I will get fat again. I hope this make sence, this post is all over the place...

    You need to seek some counselling...
  • EvgeniZyntx
    EvgeniZyntx Posts: 24,208 Member
    Well I recently stopped maintaining because I decided to lose a few more lbs, but before that I was maintaining for about 4 months, prior to that I had been eating 1200 like you and I'm 5''5, I was too scared to raise it to 1650 because I thought I was certain I would gain weight. However I decided I would try, so I added in 100 calories each week and as I did that, I realised that the extra calories really weren't that much, and I DID NOT gain any weight. It just meant a tastier sandwich for lunch or a dessert after dinner or a glass of milk with breakfast, small things like that which add up without making you feel like you're eating loads.
    it really just seems like a lot of extra calories in our mind because we know how much food we can fit into a small budget but really it isn't a lot extra when you eat slightly richer food :) hope that helps (also your appetite should adjust, mine certainly did, always ravenous now ;) )

    Thank you so much! This sound great, I'm not that worried now! I will try that as starting from now! I just adjusted MFP calories to 1310.

    Btw: Do not freak out when/if you gain a lb or two overnight from up marking your calories. It's a simple water weight response to availability and storage. It will disappear over a short time.

    You might not see that, it sometimes happens.
  • PearlAng
    PearlAng Posts: 681 Member
    This has happened to me, and I like the advice that I have just read on this forum! I agree with everything. I was even put on BC to help bring my period back. I also had to start eating more, but I was severely underweight, so I am now maintaining a weight that is good for me.

    I would also incorporate strength training into your workouts. You won't get bulky, but you'll look good, you'll be working out and it will help to strengthen your bones, so you won't get osteoporosis as I did from not having my period and not having enough calcium.

    Yes, some days it's super hard to eat more, but remember, food is fuel and it's good for you.

    P.S I would stay away from the scale at first. Give it a month, them weigh yourself. I once weighed myself everyday for over a year, it's just not necessary and can be so upsetting.
  • MissBabyJane
    MissBabyJane Posts: 538 Member
    This has happened to me, and I like the advice that I have just read on this forum! I agree with everything. I was even put on BC to help bring my period back. I also had to start eating more, but I was severely underweight, so I am now maintaining a weight that is good for me.

    I would also incorporate strength training into your workouts. You won't get bulky, but you'll look good, you'll be working out and it will help to strengthen your bones, so you won't get osteoporosis as I did from not having my period and not having enough calcium.

    Yes, some days it's super hard to eat more, but remember, food is fuel and it's good for you.

    P.S I would stay away from the scale at first. Give it a month, them weigh yourself. I once weighed myself everyday for over a year, it's just not necessary and can be so upsetting.

    Thank you so much! One question, though - did your period came back?
  • you are 5 ft 5 and weight just over 100lbs...you do need to gain some weight.

    You are considered underweight and eating 1200calories and working out 4 x week and you are not having a period

    Normally a womens period stops due to not enough bodyfat and is a sign of an eating disorder...

    If you realize you have a problem but still don't want to gain weight you need more help and not just from a GP...

    In other posts you mentioned an 18000 calorie binge...

    In December you were at 55kg (110lbs) and have since then lost about 1lb a week...and you dream of people calling you fat
    I know it's really stupid and kinda pathetic, because they're people who have lost so much more weight and have bigger problems with health and etc. But I just feel like a crap. The more weight I'm losing, the more I think I need to lose more. My family are telling me that I need to maintain and stop losing weight and that I look great, but I can't help thinking I'm still fat or I will get fat again. I hope this make sence, this post is all over the place...

    You need to seek some counselling...

    I personally don't think the above is very helpful at all.

    You have clearly realised you need to do something about your weight, which is why you posted the question! The first step for anyone is realising you need to do somehting about your weight, regardless of whether it's loose, gain or maintain and you are doing the right thing by seeking advice and being proactive about it.

    I'm no expert but the previous suggestions of increasing your calories gradually seems sensible. Maybe eating as usual but increasing portion sizes, eating more healthy but high in calorie foods like avocado, nuts, dates etc and drinking milk may help too?

    Anyway, best of luck :)
  • PearlAng
    PearlAng Posts: 681 Member
    This has happened to me, and I like the advice that I have just read on this forum! I agree with everything. I was even put on BC to help bring my period back. I also had to start eating more, but I was severely underweight, so I am now maintaining a weight that is good for me.

    I would also incorporate strength training into your workouts. You won't get bulky, but you'll look good, you'll be working out and it will help to strengthen your bones, so you won't get osteoporosis as I did from not having my period and not having enough calcium.

    Yes, some days it's super hard to eat more, but remember, food is fuel and it's good for you.

    P.S I would stay away from the scale at first. Give it a month, them weigh yourself. I once weighed myself everyday for over a year, it's just not necessary and can be so upsetting.

    Thank you so much! One question, though - did your period came back?

    My period came back with the help of eating more and my birth control pills I was put on specifically for brining my period back. I was without my period for about 10 months
  • MissBabyJane
    MissBabyJane Posts: 538 Member
    This has happened to me, and I like the advice that I have just read on this forum! I agree with everything. I was even put on BC to help bring my period back. I also had to start eating more, but I was severely underweight, so I am now maintaining a weight that is good for me.

    I would also incorporate strength training into your workouts. You won't get bulky, but you'll look good, you'll be working out and it will help to strengthen your bones, so you won't get osteoporosis as I did from not having my period and not having enough calcium.

    Yes, some days it's super hard to eat more, but remember, food is fuel and it's good for you.

    P.S I would stay away from the scale at first. Give it a month, them weigh yourself. I once weighed myself everyday for over a year, it's just not necessary and can be so upsetting.

    Thank you so much! One question, though - did your period came back?

    My period came back with the help of eating more and my birth control pills I was put on specifically for brining my period back. I was without my period for about 10 months

    Wow, thanks! That's a relief
  • KerrymBurgess
    KerrymBurgess Posts: 29 Member
    I had the same problem as you, lost weight on 1200 a day for 18 months working out 5 days a week. I was so happy but then my preiods stopped and I knew I needed to re-think my diet. I realised I wasn't actually eating any fat of any type which apparently can affect your cycle.

    I revamped my diet to include some healthy fats and upped my calories to 1400. I did put on a couple of kg's but I lost inches because now that I'm fueling my body properly, when I work out I'm toning up. I'm now very happy with my body shape and feel more energised and healthy, so I don't worry about the scales anymore!! I've been where you are and it's scary but honestly it'll be ok, all the best!
  • MagnumBurrito
    MagnumBurrito Posts: 1,070 Member
    Try adding muscle. The scale will go up, but your appearance will look better. 15-20 lbs of muscle will get you that toned look.

    Eat slightly above maintenance and lift some heavy weights.

    http://www.nerdfitness.com/blog/2011/07/21/meet-staci-your-new-powerlifting-super-hero/

    Check out that girls story if you need some inspiration.
  • SezxyStef
    SezxyStef Posts: 15,267 Member
    you are 5 ft 5 and weight just over 100lbs...you do need to gain some weight.

    You are considered underweight and eating 1200calories and working out 4 x week and you are not having a period

    Normally a womens period stops due to not enough bodyfat and is a sign of an eating disorder...

    If you realize you have a problem but still don't want to gain weight you need more help and not just from a GP...

    In other posts you mentioned an 18000 calorie binge...

    In December you were at 55kg (110lbs) and have since then lost about 1lb a week...and you dream of people calling you fat
    I know it's really stupid and kinda pathetic, because they're people who have lost so much more weight and have bigger problems with health and etc. But I just feel like a crap. The more weight I'm losing, the more I think I need to lose more. My family are telling me that I need to maintain and stop losing weight and that I look great, but I can't help thinking I'm still fat or I will get fat again. I hope this make sence, this post is all over the place...

    You need to seek some counselling...

    I personally don't think the above is very helpful at all.

    You have clearly realised you need to do something about your weight, which is why you posted the question! The first step for anyone is realising you need to do somehting about your weight, regardless of whether it's loose, gain or maintain and you are doing the right thing by seeking advice and being proactive about it.

    I'm no expert but the previous suggestions of increasing your calories gradually seems sensible. Maybe eating as usual but increasing portion sizes, eating more healthy but high in calorie foods like avocado, nuts, dates etc and drinking milk may help too?

    Anyway, best of luck :)

    Really so you think suggesting this young woman gets help from actual doctors...doctors trained in ED isn't helpful...instead of random strangers on the internet who may or may not even understand EDs....

    Righttttttttttttttttttttttttt......
  • you are 5 ft 5 and weight just over 100lbs...you do need to gain some weight.

    You are considered underweight and eating 1200calories and working out 4 x week and you are not having a period

    Normally a womens period stops due to not enough bodyfat and is a sign of an eating disorder...

    If you realize you have a problem but still don't want to gain weight you need more help and not just from a GP...

    In other posts you mentioned an 18000 calorie binge...

    In December you were at 55kg (110lbs) and have since then lost about 1lb a week...and you dream of people calling you fat
    I know it's really stupid and kinda pathetic, because they're people who have lost so much more weight and have bigger problems with health and etc. But I just feel like a crap. The more weight I'm losing, the more I think I need to lose more. My family are telling me that I need to maintain and stop losing weight and that I look great, but I can't help thinking I'm still fat or I will get fat again. I hope this make sence, this post is all over the place...

    You need to seek some counselling...

    I personally don't think the above is very helpful at all.

    You have clearly realised you need to do something about your weight, which is why you posted the question! The first step for anyone is realising you need to do somehting about your weight, regardless of whether it's loose, gain or maintain and you are doing the right thing by seeking advice and being proactive about it.

    I'm no expert but the previous suggestions of increasing your calories gradually seems sensible. Maybe eating as usual but increasing portion sizes, eating more healthy but high in calorie foods like avocado, nuts, dates etc and drinking milk may help too?

    Anyway, best of luck :)

    Really so you think suggesting this young woman gets help from actual doctors...doctors trained in ED isn't helpful...instead of random strangers on the internet who may or may not even understand EDs....

    Righttttttttttttttttttttttttt......

    I wasn't trying to offend anybody, in my opinion the tone was quite attacking and wasn't helpful to somebody who is reaching out for help on a sensitive subject.

    Telling somebody they have an eating disorsder and that they need counselling is very presumptuous and she has been to see the doctor already. If the doctor had any serious concerns they would have said or made a referral.

    Let's just try and be supportive.
  • SezxyStef
    SezxyStef Posts: 15,267 Member
    you are 5 ft 5 and weight just over 100lbs...you do need to gain some weight.

    You are considered underweight and eating 1200calories and working out 4 x week and you are not having a period

    Normally a womens period stops due to not enough bodyfat and is a sign of an eating disorder...

    If you realize you have a problem but still don't want to gain weight you need more help and not just from a GP...

    In other posts you mentioned an 18000 calorie binge...

    In December you were at 55kg (110lbs) and have since then lost about 1lb a week...and you dream of people calling you fat
    I know it's really stupid and kinda pathetic, because they're people who have lost so much more weight and have bigger problems with health and etc. But I just feel like a crap. The more weight I'm losing, the more I think I need to lose more. My family are telling me that I need to maintain and stop losing weight and that I look great, but I can't help thinking I'm still fat or I will get fat again. I hope this make sence, this post is all over the place...

    You need to seek some counselling...

    I personally don't think the above is very helpful at all.

    You have clearly realised you need to do something about your weight, which is why you posted the question! The first step for anyone is realising you need to do somehting about your weight, regardless of whether it's loose, gain or maintain and you are doing the right thing by seeking advice and being proactive about it.

    I'm no expert but the previous suggestions of increasing your calories gradually seems sensible. Maybe eating as usual but increasing portion sizes, eating more healthy but high in calorie foods like avocado, nuts, dates etc and drinking milk may help too?

    Anyway, best of luck :)

    Really so you think suggesting this young woman gets help from actual doctors...doctors trained in ED isn't helpful...instead of random strangers on the internet who may or may not even understand EDs....

    Righttttttttttttttttttttttttt......

    I wasn't trying to offend anybody, in my opinion the tone was quite attacking and wasn't helpful to somebody who is reaching out for help on a sensitive subject.

    Telling somebody they have an eating disorsder and that they need counselling is very presumptuous and she has been to see the doctor already. If the doctor had any serious concerns they would have said or made a referral.

    Let's just try and be supportive.

    you can't tell tone by reading text. You inferred attacking tone.

    This young woman has a BMI of 17...is underweight and isn't having a period...and is afraid of upping calories and of being fat...and has admitted to binging on 18,000 calories all signs of an eating disorder...

    As for doctors making referrals you don't know that...my understanding is that in the UK it costs a lot for that sort of help and those referrals aren't handed out willy nilly...and since we have no idea where she is from...you assume much and are missing my point.
  • you are 5 ft 5 and weight just over 100lbs...you do need to gain some weight.

    You are considered underweight and eating 1200calories and working out 4 x week and you are not having a period

    Normally a womens period stops due to not enough bodyfat and is a sign of an eating disorder...

    If you realize you have a problem but still don't want to gain weight you need more help and not just from a GP...

    In other posts you mentioned an 18000 calorie binge...

    In December you were at 55kg (110lbs) and have since then lost about 1lb a week...and you dream of people calling you fat
    I know it's really stupid and kinda pathetic, because they're people who have lost so much more weight and have bigger problems with health and etc. But I just feel like a crap. The more weight I'm losing, the more I think I need to lose more. My family are telling me that I need to maintain and stop losing weight and that I look great, but I can't help thinking I'm still fat or I will get fat again. I hope this make sence, this post is all over the place...

    You need to seek some counselling...

    I personally don't think the above is very helpful at all.

    You have clearly realised you need to do something about your weight, which is why you posted the question! The first step for anyone is realising you need to do somehting about your weight, regardless of whether it's loose, gain or maintain and you are doing the right thing by seeking advice and being proactive about it.

    I'm no expert but the previous suggestions of increasing your calories gradually seems sensible. Maybe eating as usual but increasing portion sizes, eating more healthy but high in calorie foods like avocado, nuts, dates etc and drinking milk may help too?

    Anyway, best of luck :)

    Really so you think suggesting this young woman gets help from actual doctors...doctors trained in ED isn't helpful...instead of random strangers on the internet who may or may not even understand EDs....

    Righttttttttttttttttttttttttt......

    I wasn't trying to offend anybody, in my opinion the tone was quite attacking and wasn't helpful to somebody who is reaching out for help on a sensitive subject.

    Telling somebody they have an eating disorsder and that they need counselling is very presumptuous and she has been to see the doctor already. If the doctor had any serious concerns they would have said or made a referral.

    Let's just try and be supportive.
  • MissBabyJane
    MissBabyJane Posts: 538 Member
    you are 5 ft 5 and weight just over 100lbs...you do need to gain some weight.

    You are considered underweight and eating 1200calories and working out 4 x week and you are not having a period

    Normally a womens period stops due to not enough bodyfat and is a sign of an eating disorder...

    If you realize you have a problem but still don't want to gain weight you need more help and not just from a GP...

    In other posts you mentioned an 18000 calorie binge...

    In December you were at 55kg (110lbs) and have since then lost about 1lb a week...and you dream of people calling you fat
    I know it's really stupid and kinda pathetic, because they're people who have lost so much more weight and have bigger problems with health and etc. But I just feel like a crap. The more weight I'm losing, the more I think I need to lose more. My family are telling me that I need to maintain and stop losing weight and that I look great, but I can't help thinking I'm still fat or I will get fat again. I hope this make sence, this post is all over the place...

    You need to seek some counselling...

    I personally don't think the above is very helpful at all.

    You have clearly realised you need to do something about your weight, which is why you posted the question! The first step for anyone is realising you need to do somehting about your weight, regardless of whether it's loose, gain or maintain and you are doing the right thing by seeking advice and being proactive about it.

    I'm no expert but the previous suggestions of increasing your calories gradually seems sensible. Maybe eating as usual but increasing portion sizes, eating more healthy but high in calorie foods like avocado, nuts, dates etc and drinking milk may help too?

    Anyway, best of luck :)

    Really so you think suggesting this young woman gets help from actual doctors...doctors trained in ED isn't helpful...instead of random strangers on the internet who may or may not even understand EDs....

    Righttttttttttttttttttttttttt......

    I wasn't trying to offend anybody, in my opinion the tone was quite attacking and wasn't helpful to somebody who is reaching out for help on a sensitive subject.

    Telling somebody they have an eating disorsder and that they need counselling is very presumptuous and she has been to see the doctor already. If the doctor had any serious concerns they would have said or made a referral.

    Let's just try and be supportive.

    Thank you so much!
    you are 5 ft 5 and weight just over 100lbs...you do need to gain some weight.

    You are considered underweight and eating 1200calories and working out 4 x week and you are not having a period

    Normally a womens period stops due to not enough bodyfat and is a sign of an eating disorder...

    If you realize you have a problem but still don't want to gain weight you need more help and not just from a GP...

    In other posts you mentioned an 18000 calorie binge...

    In December you were at 55kg (110lbs) and have since then lost about 1lb a week...and you dream of people calling you fat
    I know it's really stupid and kinda pathetic, because they're people who have lost so much more weight and have bigger problems with health and etc. But I just feel like a crap. The more weight I'm losing, the more I think I need to lose more. My family are telling me that I need to maintain and stop losing weight and that I look great, but I can't help thinking I'm still fat or I will get fat again. I hope this make sence, this post is all over the place...

    You need to seek some counselling...

    I personally don't think the above is very helpful at all.

    You have clearly realised you need to do something about your weight, which is why you posted the question! The first step for anyone is realising you need to do somehting about your weight, regardless of whether it's loose, gain or maintain and you are doing the right thing by seeking advice and being proactive about it.

    I'm no expert but the previous suggestions of increasing your calories gradually seems sensible. Maybe eating as usual but increasing portion sizes, eating more healthy but high in calorie foods like avocado, nuts, dates etc and drinking milk may help too?

    Anyway, best of luck :)

    Really so you think suggesting this young woman gets help from actual doctors...doctors trained in ED isn't helpful...instead of random strangers on the internet who may or may not even understand EDs....

    Righttttttttttttttttttttttttt......

    I wasn't trying to offend anybody, in my opinion the tone was quite attacking and wasn't helpful to somebody who is reaching out for help on a sensitive subject.

    Telling somebody they have an eating disorsder and that they need counselling is very presumptuous and she has been to see the doctor already. If the doctor had any serious concerns they would have said or made a referral.

    Let's just try and be supportive.

    you can't tell tone by reading text. You inferred attacking tone.

    This young woman has a BMI of 17...is underweight and isn't having a period...and is afraid of upping calories and of being fat...and has admitted to binging on 18,000 calories all signs of an eating disorder...

    As for doctors making referrals you don't know that...my understanding is that in the UK it costs a lot for that sort of help and those referrals aren't handed out willy nilly...and since we have no idea where she is from...you assume much and are missing my point.

    Wait, what?! 18,000 calories binge? I've NEVER EVER said that I have binged on 18,000 calories, last week I posted on a topic in the community where some girl said that she binged on these calories. I never had binges more than 2000/3000 calories I can't even call that a binge... LOL
  • imhungry2012
    imhungry2012 Posts: 240 Member
    To answer your question on how to eat more calories - eat meals with/snack on healthy high calorie foods like:

    Almonds
    Almond/Peanut Butters (on triscuits, apples, bananas...)
    Avocados
    Salmon
    Full fat dairy products
    Use olive oil for cooking
    Dark Chocolate
    Protein Shakes can be good suppliments as well (make with almond milk and fruit, yum)

    There are lots more and you can eat a good portion of them, increase your calories without feeling stuffed. Agree with others that you should probably gain weight to be healthier, follow your doctors orders :flowerforyou:
  • SezxyStef
    SezxyStef Posts: 15,267 Member

    Wait, what?! 18,000 calories binge? I've NEVER EVER said that I have binged on 18,000 calories, last week I posted on a topic in the community where some girl said that she binged on these calories. I never had binges more than 2000/3000 calories I can't even call that a binge... LOL

    my mistake re the binge of 18000 but I still stand by what I have said.

    You are underweight...not having a period and scared to raise calories...and have lost 1lb a week since December...even been told by a doctor to eat more...are afraid of being fat...and the more you lose the more you want to lose....

    All signs of an ED. Maybe the early stages but still all signs.

    I am not attacking you just suggesting you seek professional councilling about your fears etc prior to letting them take hold and really do damage.