I'm eating healthy, but my spouse isn't
swhitt1309
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Anybody else find it hard to resist temptation with an unhealthy spouse? When I'm eating carrots and snap peas and my husband is next to me enjoying his fried chicken or Chinese food.... AHHHH!!!!! Lol
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Your diet not his. And because someone eats fried chicken or Chinese food, it doesn't mean they're unhealthy. Hell there are millions of Chinese that eat Chinese food everyday and are just fine.
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why are you doing that to yourself? eat the chinese food just not as much...
It's not the types of food you eat it is in how much you eat.0 -
Your diet not his. And because someone eats fried chicken or Chinese food, it doesn't mean they're unhealthy. Hell there are millions of Chinese that eat Chinese food everyday and are just fine.
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Yeah, the "Chinese food" we eat in the West has very little resemblance to actual Chinese food.0 -
Your diet not his. And because someone eats fried chicken or Chinese food, it doesn't mean they're unhealthy. Hell there are millions of Chinese that eat Chinese food everyday and are just fine.
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Yeah, the "Chinese food" we eat in the West has very little resemblance to actual Chinese food.
Depends on where you go. Not all "takeout" places are created the same.0 -
Yes! But I don't feel jealous about his choices, I feel concerned. I wish he was on board as much as me to get our lives on a healthy track for our entire family.... BUT I'm not giving up or giving in. I will at least try and lead by example.
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Your diet not his. And because someone eats fried chicken or Chinese food, it doesn't mean they're unhealthy. Hell there are millions of Chinese that eat Chinese food everyday and are just fine.
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I should have specified Western Chinese food. I'm sorry but most Chinese people probably wouldn't eat it! Lol it's all fried and soaked in oil!0 -
Yes! But I don't feel jealous about his choices, I feel concerned. I wish he was on board as much as me to get our lives on a healthy track for our entire family.... BUT I'm not giving up or giving in. I will at least try and lead by example.
It really is out of concern! I want to live a long life together!0 -
Yes! But I don't feel jealous about his choices, I feel concerned. I wish he was on board as much as me to get our lives on a healthy track for our entire family.... BUT I'm not giving up or giving in. I will at least try and lead by example.
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why are you doing that to yourself? eat the chinese food just not as much...
It's not the types of food you eat it is in how much you eat.
I do still eat it occasionally. These are his dinner choices almost every night! Lol0 -
my life....
My wife doesn't follow my nutrition plan or training. I respect her for that but it's hard to see her eat junk in front of me.
She doesn eat better at supper cause i'm cooking lol so she eats what I eat..kids too but other than that..not that much no.0 -
No, because I don't deprive myself, it can lead to binging. I eat what I want, I just make sure I stay within my calorie goal and hit my macros.0
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I don't like temptations and certain "less than clean" foods are TRIGGER foods for me, and for good reason - many of them have flavor enhancers that are specifically designed to trigger cravings so people eat more and more of it. That's why I like "clean" foods because they have to at least stand on their own merits of yumminess, and aren't being messed with to mess with me!
So I don't BUY trigger foods or have them in the house. If I buy anything that triggers me to "eat the whole thing" I don't buy it again. Mark can eat whatever he wants out of the house at lunch time. We haven't had trigger junk in the house in ages. If it's not in the house, it's a lot harder to be tempted by it.
It's fine to eat anything in moderation, but learning what your trigger foods are and handling that trigger reaction are key to long-term success for me. Simple solution in my case because my husband eats lunch out every day with his workmates and can do as he pleases then and get it out of his system. This works for us.
Source: http://www.cbsnews.com/videos/tweaking-tastes-and-creating-cravings/0 -
There are four people in my home including me.
I am the only one dieting. It's hard but I manage. I'm on day 20 and so it's getting a little easier. Last night they all ate pasta in a meat sauce and I didn't even flinch. I do realize that everyone is different though. I hope it gets easier for you and maybe your husband will even join in.0 -
There are four people in my home including me.
I am the only one dieting. It's hard but I manage. I'm on day 20 and so it's getting a little easier. Last night they all ate pasta in a meat sauce and I didn't even flinch. I do realize that everyone is different though. I hope it gets easier for you and maybe your husband will even join in.
Ha. That's my same scenario. Day 20, 4 people in the house, I'm also the only one trying to eat better. lol. My SO lost around 100lbs, but he didn't alter his diet whatsoever and he is managing to keep the weight off eating all the crap food we both love. Everyone loves that stuff around here so it is everywhere.
I HAVE to alter my diet to lose weight. Once or twice a week I do have something I really, really like that I don't think I'll go overboard on.
But I can't eat breakfast pizza or cake or Burger King because I lack the self-control to do so. I can't see myself eating that stuff more often than weekly and in small amounts because I'll be back to the same behaviors that led to the crazy weight gain. I try not to even do once a week because then I crave it more afterwards.
But I don't care what they eat. Whatever makes them happy.
EDIT: SO managed portion control and cut out soda. My bad. He altered his diet to lose 100lbs, but he can still eat the food he loves. Looked like he miraculously lost 100lbs. Nope. lol0 -
H eats very different than I do but I am OK with that. He can get pizza and has four slices, I just have one. He gets Chinese take away, I eat a salad with a salmon fillet on top. He has a cup of ice cream, I have a 1/4 cup. He goes out for lunches of burgers and sandwiches, I bring mine to work so I can track what I eat. For me it is less about cutting stuff out and eating the stuff I love in moderation and so far it is working for me. I still have pasta, ice cream, chocolate, pita chips, etc. But now I just weigh and measure everything so I don't mindlessly eat from the bag/container.
I am progressing faster in my weight loss than he is by double so I am just hoping that my successes show him that you can still have the foods we love to eat but just in smaller portions.0 -
My husband eats unhealthy things because that's all he can eat right now. He's getting a bunch of surgery on his mouth and he can only eat soft things like spaghettios, milkshakes, pudding. He does enjoy my low-carb chili though. But overall, I don't mind and I make him his meal and I prepare my keto-friendly meal.
It's your diet, not his. You can't get mad at him because you are eating better.0 -
yes, that is a tough one. i live with my slim, 27 year old son who eats and drinks as he pleases...but i just keep my focus on why i am here doing this, day after day. one can ask for specific support from our significant others we live with but we can't force anything.
interestingly enough, my son now often just eats what i eat, with his own amount choices. if we have a salad, he uses his dressing, i use mine. it's not that complicated. plus i know he really wants me to succeed. but even if he did not (and most of the world could not care less) i would need to keep my focus on MY plan...day by day. people who do not struggle with weight issues truly do not understand. so that leaves us together, but different...0 -
My wife and I eat very differently. We also have my sister living with us. But overall everybody is on a conscious road for better health and weight loss. It helps.
But that wasn't always the case. I've had periods where my wife and sister were absolutely no concentrating on weight loss and fitness, and I was going at it alone. I can't make food choices based off what the people I love are eating. Sure there were times where I overindulged on foods they brought in the house that were not the best for my goals, but that's life, and I didn't let that stop me.
But to be honest it doesn't work the same direction. Both of them have issues if I, or the other person, brings in trigger foods. They are both emotional eaters who have trouble controlling their intake of higher carb, sweet foods. It's a lot tougher for them to stay on track when that stuff is brought into the house.Your diet not his. And because someone eats fried chicken or Chinese food, it doesn't mean they're unhealthy. Hell there are millions of Chinese that eat Chinese food everyday and are just fine.
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Yeah, the "Chinese food" we eat in the West has very little resemblance to actual Chinese food.
Depends on where you go. Not all "takeout" places are created the same.
I know, as I live in NYC, one of the most diverse culinary cites on planet Earth. I live two and a half blocks from the Brooklyn Chinatown, where lots of true Chinese cuisine is served.
But lets not nitpick here. We all know the vast majority of "Chinese food" served in the west is not authentic Chinese food eaten by "millions" of actual Chinese people, simply because there are a rare percentage of authentic Chinese food places.0 -
Your diet not his. And because someone eats fried chicken or Chinese food, it doesn't mean they're unhealthy. Hell there are millions of Chinese that eat Chinese food everyday and are just fine.
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Yeah, the "Chinese food" we eat in the West has very little resemblance to actual Chinese food.
Depends on where you go. Not all "takeout" places are created the same.
I know, as I live in NYC, one of the most diverse culinary cites on planet Earth. I live two and a half blocks from the Brooklyn Chinatown, where lots of true Chinese cuisine is served.
But lets not nitpick here. We all know the vast majority of "Chinese food" served in the west is not authentic Chinese food eaten by "millions" of actual Chinese people, simply because there are a rare percentage of authentic Chinese food places.
I live in Queens and I know. *shrug* Doesn't make one or the other "healthier" or "unhealthier".0 -
Yes. My wife weighs over 200 pounds, and cant walk up 2 flights of stairs. She also doesnt exercise. I weigh 134, run 70 miles a week. She eats more than I do and she doesnt make good choices with the foods she does eat.0
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That's my family. My husband and kids can all eat as much as they want of whatever they want--my husband works out a lot and the kids are all naturally thin--but if I ate like they do I'd be obese. My husband is the cook, and he usually cooks healthy meals, but when he doesn't I just make something separate for myself. I don't usually get too tempted, because the most unhealthy thing he makes fairly often is pizza and I don't even really like pizza. He doesn't get offended if I make myself something so it works out.0
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Yes! But I don't feel jealous about his choices, I feel concerned. I wish he was on board as much as me to get our lives on a healthy track for our entire family.... BUT I'm not giving up or giving in. I will at least try and lead by example.
Yeah, same here. My husband also drinks a lot of beer. He's probably 30 or 40 lbs overweight. He works out and has big muscles, and he thinks that makes the fat gut OK.
He won't eat fruit. He only eats a limited range of vegetables.
I have as much as told him that if his health fails I will have some resentment about having to take care of him-- because it would be self-inflicted.
The irony is that his dad's health failed before it should have (big beer gut and overweight), and my husband felt resentment about taking care of *him*-- because it was self-inflicted. (disclaimer-- We did the best we could for his dad and loved him, but there was indeed some resentment there.)0 -
I eat the same thing my husband does, every day. I don't see foods as healthy our unhealthy. I focus on nutrient density, which typically means whole foods but that doesn't restrict me from enjoying myself. That's how I deal with it. If we choose fast food for dinner, I find things that work with my calorie and macro limits.0
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It doesn't really bother me. My bf and I have always had different food tastes (been together 11 years). My biggest problem has always been portion control. I always ate quite a bit healthier than him, I just ate way more than I should have. His eating habits didn't really "show" on him until he turned 30. Actually, sometimes he comments how good my food looks and how tired of junk food he is and will eat what I make instead of doing his usual, so sometimes it goes the other way.0
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No, because I don't deprive myself, it can lead to binging. I eat what I want, I just make sure I stay within my calorie goal and hit my macros.
Same here. Everything in moderation. Depriving myself leads to binge eating so I just allow myself things I enjoy and just keep within calorie count.0 -
Sure, it's frustrating. One thing you could try is to cook for the two of you more often. Make healthy food -- but make a lot of it so he's not stuck hungry afterwards. Even if he eats a whole serving more than you do, you're both doing better.Anybody else find it hard to resist temptation with an unhealthy spouse? When I'm eating carrots and snap peas and my husband is next to me enjoying his fried chicken or Chinese food.... AHHHH!!!!! Lol
ETA: Do get some filling carbs and protein in there... not just snap peas and carrots! A good "plate" is filled with 50% vegetables, 30% lean protein and 20% starch. Healthy starches would be baked potato, whole-wheat bread, brown rice, quinoa...0 -
Lol, so Chinese food that's eaten by employees in Chinese restaurants (yes they eat there and that food) with the lean waiters/waitresses isn't really Chinese food? Heck I go to China Town in SF often and it seems that lots of Chinese people eat the same exact foods that served in restaurants there.
Yeah, the "Chinese food" we eat in the West has very little resemblance to actual Chinese food.Your diet not his. And because someone eats fried chicken or Chinese food, it doesn't mean they're unhealthy. Hell there are millions of Chinese that eat Chinese food everyday and are just fine.
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They just don't eat a whole order to themselves. They "share" it with 2-3 other people.
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Sorry, but they do eat the food cooked in their own restaurants. They don't bag their lunch to bring to work.:laugh:Your diet not his. And because someone eats fried chicken or Chinese food, it doesn't mean they're unhealthy. Hell there are millions of Chinese that eat Chinese food everyday and are just fine.
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I should have specified Western Chinese food. I'm sorry but most Chinese people probably wouldn't eat it! Lol it's all fried and soaked in oil!
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If I was just eating snap peas and carrots when there was fried chicken or chinese food in the area, I would probably hurt someone. That just sounds miserable.
Now my husband loves his treats even more than I do, if he wants to eat them that is his choice, if I want to join in and eat it that's my choice to either make it fit in my day, go over for the day, or have something else. But normally we eat the same thing, I just eat less.
My husband isn't the one who made the choice to lose weight, I did so I take responsibility for my choices and he is responsible for his.0 -
OMG lol, yes my honey does this to me a lot. If I'm allowed 6 rice cakes, he's eating a family bag of chips, if I'm eating salad he's eating hot wings, which only makes me angry with the salad for not being hot wings lol. It's hard but if you can suffer through it should make you feel stronger and empowered to sticking to your healthy eating.0
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