Really unsupportive family

kittykat1994

I'm 20 and I had the same problem. I don't like with my parents any more. When I was questioned on it, I simply told my parents that I was an adult and whether I am weighing my food or not, it's none of their concern. I'm not underweight, so they accepted it but I had to be firm.

I wouldn't show my parents charts etc. That's just me. I find that my weight loss is personal and I only discuss it with the people on here and my partner. That doesn't mean that you shouldn't if you feel that it's right for you.

Wingg_

Good afternoon,
I am sorry to hear that you are having trouble communicating with your parents...my middle daughter is your age and she has been working out and trying to eat healthier because she sees that I am finally doing something about my own weight...
I know it may sound funny but can you write a letter to them explaining that you want to explain in person but you feel they are not letting you speak.
When you talk to them are you already on the defensive, ask them specifically what they have an issue with but nicely.
They may be worried or not sure what you are doing? Tell them you would like their support. Are they heavy or overweight? Maybe they feel defensive because they are not doing anything about their own issue.
They are your parents so show respect but at the same time they should show you the same....my daughter and I work out together sometimes or if we have lunch or dinner together we try to eat healthy or we will discuss ideas...
Show your parents your MPF site and maybe you can show them an example of your diary to let them know what it's all about.
I hope things turn out okay...this is a great site to get motivation and support from others and hopefully without criticism.
take care of yourself - rose

That's really a great idea! If I text her, she wouldn't have the chance to say 'whatever' or make me feel discouraged to continue my conversation. I will definitely try that out! That way I will have more courage to say whatever I've always been wanting to say. Thanks for providing with such a brilliant idea!

Wingg_

I'm 20 and I had the same problem. I don't like with my parents any more. When I was questioned on it, I simply told my parents that I was an adult and whether I am weighing my food or not, it's none of their concern. I'm not underweight, so they accepted it but I had to be firm.

I wouldn't show my parents charts etc. That's just me. I find that my weight loss is personal and I only discuss it with the people on here and my partner. That doesn't mean that you shouldn't if you feel that it's right for you.

I'm still living with my parents and I really hope they can understand and support me. That's what family is for right? That's why I'm trying to prove my point. However, if they insist that this is unhealthy I can't help it but to just ignore them. Thanks for sharing with me your experience!

kittykat1994

I'm 20 and I had the same problem. I don't like with my parents any more. When I was questioned on it, I simply told my parents that I was an adult and whether I am weighing my food or not, it's none of their concern. I'm not underweight, so they accepted it but I had to be firm.

I wouldn't show my parents charts etc. That's just me. I find that my weight loss is personal and I only discuss it with the people on here and my partner. That doesn't mean that you shouldn't if you feel that it's right for you.

I'm still living with my parents and I really hope they can understand and support me. That's what family is for right? That's why I'm trying to prove my point. However, if they insist that this is unhealthy I can't help it but to just ignore them. Thanks for sharing with me your experience!

Family is supposed to support you. Especially when you are making healthy choices. It could be something they need to get used to you doing and once they see that you are being healthy and not losing too much weight, then maybe they'll understand. There could even be a degree of jealousy if your parents are overweight?