Body changes = treated differently?
So a lot of you have read my success story over at http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1234646-can-t-believe-i-made-it but here's my question..
How have you been treated since your body has changed, whether it be weight loss, weight gain, toning up etc?
I went shopping for a swim suit the other day, and I grabbed a one piece that I thought was very cute. My friend and the sales associate both asked me why I wasn't going for a bikini to show off my body more.
I'm young, and I like to dress nicely, but I'm also a mom, I'm not going to be one of the parents that shows up at their kid's school in club wear.
I'm really more of a skinny jeans, riding boots and fitted sweater kinda girl.
Unless it's summer, sun dresses all day ever day.
But I've noticed since I've lost weight, a lot of people ask, basically why I don't wear more revealing clothes now.
How have you been treated since your body has changed, whether it be weight loss, weight gain, toning up etc?
I went shopping for a swim suit the other day, and I grabbed a one piece that I thought was very cute. My friend and the sales associate both asked me why I wasn't going for a bikini to show off my body more.
I'm young, and I like to dress nicely, but I'm also a mom, I'm not going to be one of the parents that shows up at their kid's school in club wear.
I'm really more of a skinny jeans, riding boots and fitted sweater kinda girl.
Unless it's summer, sun dresses all day ever day.
But I've noticed since I've lost weight, a lot of people ask, basically why I don't wear more revealing clothes now.
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Uhm, yes.
The unwanted attention remains unwanted, though >.>
I've started yelling at idiots waving at me. Bet they weren't expecting to be yelled at.
(And by that I mean scrubs hanging out the passenger side of their best friend's ride).0 -
Uhm, yes.
The unwanted attention remains unwanted, though >.>
I've started yelling at idiots waving at me. Bet they weren't expecting to be yelled at.
(And by that I mean scrubs hanging out the passenger side of their best friend's ride).
Oh this wisdom of TLC.. I assume most of your negative attention has come from males?0 -
100% different in almost every aspect of life.0
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Before I had my daughter people would always tell me I was too thin, anorexic or bulimic looking - very rude and hurtful things, I was always naturally thin so it used to upset me. After I had my daughter till now, I still have some "leftover" weight, I currently weigh 125, but I am not toned up. People do not say these things anymore. But they do say I am crazy for wanting to work out, that I don't need to lose weight. No matter what, you will never please everyone. I got to the point where I could care less if someone thinks I am too this or that.
And one piece are cute, some are hot! So pay no attention! Even before I had my daughter I was still modest about what I wore. Not everyone has to show off their body constantly. As a mom, I understand! Oh and I hate the attention in person get so shys..0 -
Oh my jesus....the thirist!!!!
I mean for me its been like that rare succulent seasonal steak in the meat section in the back of the rarest Wal-Mart thirst!
Not going to lie...its nice but weird at the same time. For family, its funny watching their eyes bug out of their head and watch them stare for hours trying to fathom my transformation :-)
The part that gets me the most is the people that use to look past you, now are the ones that are sneaking hugs and talking to me now.0 -
Most? You mean all..Uhm, yes.
The unwanted attention remains unwanted, though >.>
I've started yelling at idiots waving at me. Bet they weren't expecting to be yelled at.
(And by that I mean scrubs hanging out the passenger side of their best friend's ride).
Oh this wisdom of TLC.. I assume most of your negative attention has come from males?
Can't go jogging/running here in California without the random dude hanging out his window .-.0 -
100% different in almost every aspect of life.
Couldnt of said it any better man. Complete 360 and some lol0 -
100% different in almost every aspect of life.
Couldnt of said it any better man. Complete 360 and some lol
In some areas, it's quite a negative difference. People make wild assumptions based on appearance. I really have to work hard to counteract some of the negative perceptions and reactions.0 -
Most? You mean all..Uhm, yes.
The unwanted attention remains unwanted, though >.>
I've started yelling at idiots waving at me. Bet they weren't expecting to be yelled at.
(And by that I mean scrubs hanging out the passenger side of their best friend's ride).
Oh this wisdom of TLC.. I assume most of your negative attention has come from males?
Can't go jogging/running here in California without the random dude hanging out his window .-.
Haha same goes for Colorado in certain areas - the known streets here would be Colfax or Federal, hell girls couldn't even WALK down the street without being honked at0 -
100% different in almost every aspect of life.
Couldnt of said it any better man. Complete 360 and some lol
In some areas, it's quite a negative difference. People make wild assumptions based on appearance. I really have to work hard to counteract some of the negative perceptions and reactions.
Yeah if one more person tells me i need to eat something ....ima lose it >.<0 -
Well...my very sweet and loving grandmother told me that I look "...odd?" since I've lost weight. I'm still trying to figure out how to take that one? :laugh:0
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Most? You mean all..Uhm, yes.
The unwanted attention remains unwanted, though >.>
I've started yelling at idiots waving at me. Bet they weren't expecting to be yelled at.
(And by that I mean scrubs hanging out the passenger side of their best friend's ride).
Oh this wisdom of TLC.. I assume most of your negative attention has come from males?
Can't go jogging/running here in California without the random dude hanging out his window .-.
Haha same goes for Colorado in certain areas - the known streets here would be Colfax or Federal, hell girls couldn't even WALK down the street without being honked at
Wait.....people still honking at people these days??? Well then! lol!0 -
Mostly I just get more creepy messages on here.0
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Yeah if one more person tells me i need to eat something ....ima lose it >.<
Just be creepy and say you already have and wink at them!0 -
Honking? No. Inviting you into their freaking cars, going "hey girl, want a ride?".. Yes.
Most? You mean all..Uhm, yes.
The unwanted attention remains unwanted, though >.>
I've started yelling at idiots waving at me. Bet they weren't expecting to be yelled at.
(And by that I mean scrubs hanging out the passenger side of their best friend's ride).
Oh this wisdom of TLC.. I assume most of your negative attention has come from males?
Can't go jogging/running here in California without the random dude hanging out his window .-.
Haha same goes for Colorado in certain areas - the known streets here would be Colfax or Federal, hell girls couldn't even WALK down the street without being honked at
Wait.....people still honking at people these days??? Well then! lol!
!@$#@#$ >:(0 -
Wait.....people still honking at people these days??? Well then! lol!
Oh yes. It's very common in CO0 -
Well, that would be because Colfax and Federal in Colorado are known for having prostitutes...0
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Haha! :laugh:Mostly I just get more creepy messages on here.0 -
100% different in almost every aspect of life.
Couldnt of said it any better man. Complete 360 and some lol
In some areas, it's quite a negative difference. People make wild assumptions based on appearance. I really have to work hard to counteract some of the negative perceptions and reactions.
What a shame..you have obviously worked very hard to reach your goals and it's a bummer it has to have a negative conotation.0 -
Mostly I get..."Oh..you're still doing that exercise thing?"
Uhm yeah..I'm still doing it..haven't met my goal...and I'm no where near where I want to be..kk thanks0 -
Most people treat you differently because YOU treat yourself differently. You aren't as self conscious. You aren't self deprecating. You have more confidence. You do more stuff.
Welcome to the Virtuous Cycle.0 -
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You really have to be perceptive and aware of your behavior, but I think much of the difference in how I am treated now has to do with the fact that I behave differently than I did before. I didn't like who I was before. I was shy and reserved and didn't think anybody wanted to talk to me or be nice to me, so I maintained a general "Don't talk to me" vibe in public. I dressed so as not to be noticed by anyone. It was a very depressing way to live, and I didn't even realize it until a year into the weight-loss process.
Now, I am much more likely to smile at a stranger and say hi when I pass him or her. I frequently tell strangers they look beautiful or handsome. I am a much more open and giving person in general than I used to be, and I think that's largely why I get treated differently. Now, I'm no fool; I know that my looks and the way I dress (skirts, dresses, high heels) have something to do with it. But the lack of a "F off" expression on my face and in my demeanor probably has more to do with it.
As far as being expected to wear more revealing things, do what you want and let others do what they want. I think you have to be who you are, without compromise, if you want to have more of the right people in your life and fewer of the wrong ones.0 -
Mostly I just get more creepy messages on here.
Soooo many creepy messages. :indifferent:0 -
Yes, I'm treated differently. The squat rack opens up like Noah or Moses or whoever parting the Red Sea.0
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I went from obese to a very fit person. Naturally the response, and the way people treat me has improved. I get more attention than I used to, and the attitude of people has changed. I have experience cruel treatment, as well as elation.. I know how either side feels. But all in all is an experience I cherish, and an opportunity to know myself as well as others, and be able to relate to people and what they're going through. It definitely affected the way I treat others as well.
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Yeah...I don't get that one, and gladly so! You should carry a knife if you don't already do!
Total concurrence with Fox on this one....Them crazies!0 -
Haha. I always carry a knife. And a lollipop, great weapon.0
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