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I've been there done that and found out in the end he was cheating on me with 6 other women. I'm sorry to say it but move on. There are better people out there as hard to believe as that is. I know from experience it's true. It will hurt at first but you will feel SO much better in the end! I had a lot of health issues and soon after it was over I realized all of them were being caused by the worry stress and upset I felt knowing he was lieing to me. :flowerforyou:0
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Two main reasons why guys cheat
1) his needs are not being met at home
2) he is a "notch carver" and is always looking for someone new.
#1 can be worked out.
#2 can't.
End of story.
I don't agree with this. I think the biggest reason men cheat is they are insecure and need validation as a man.
Or he's not attracted to his wife any longer.
Or, as the first quote stated, his needs aren't being met at home.
There is a plethora of reasons why men cheat. We can only assume what the reasons are that the OP's husband is doing what he is doing. We don't live with them so it could be something that goes a lot deeper than what the OP has posted.0 -
Porn would be far more ok with me than interacting with real people on a dating site. If he is deleting messages, he's hiding things from you. As soon as there is hiding, it's cheating, IMO.
This and I don't care for the porn watching, but it would be a far more forgivable offense.0 -
If he's accessing porn regularly alone, he has an F'd up idea of what sex is about.
Disagree completely with this statement.
My husband watches porn by himself sometimes on his computer. He most certainly doesn't cheat nor does he have an 'F'd up idea of what sex is about".0 -
If he's accessing porn regularly alone, he has an F'd up idea of what sex is about.
Disagree completely with this statement.
My husband watches porn by himself sometimes on his computer. He most certainly doesn't cheat nor does he have an 'F'd up idea of what sex is about".
Absolutely stunning that someone with Ron Jeremy as their profile picture would feel this way.0 -
If he's accessing porn regularly alone, he has an F'd up idea of what sex is about.
Disagree completely with this statement.
My husband watches porn by himself sometimes on his computer. He most certainly doesn't cheat nor does he have an 'F'd up idea of what sex is about".
Absolutely stunning that someone with Ron Jeremy as their profile picture would feel this way.
Ohhhhhh. So that right there tells you what kind of person I am.
Gotcha.0 -
If he's accessing porn regularly alone, he has an F'd up idea of what sex is about.
Disagree completely with this statement.
My husband watches porn by himself sometimes on his computer. He most certainly doesn't cheat nor does he have an 'F'd up idea of what sex is about".
Absolutely stunning that someone with Ron Jeremy as their profile picture would feel this way.
Ohhhhhh. So that right there tells you what kind of person I am.
Gotcha.
I don't presume to know anything about you. Just thought it was funny.0 -
Ask him if you can create one too. If he gives you any other answer than yes then kick him to the curb. If he says yes, tell him it aint working out and it seems like the logical thing to do is move on.
Regardless all signs point to grab your chips and cash out.
Then again this is a forum and for the most part everyone is going to tell you to leave BUT only you know what's right for you, what you're willing to go through and how much this relationship means to you.
Good Luck.
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If he's accessing porn regularly alone, he has an F'd up idea of what sex is about
I disagree with this as well. I am not opposed to watching it when my boyfriend is out of town or if the mood strikes me. It can be a safe way to experience a fantasy or spice up a night with your partner, in my opinion.0 -
If he's accessing porn regularly alone, he has an F'd up idea of what sex is about
I disagree with this as well. I am not opposed to watching it when my boyfriend is out of town or if the mood strikes me. It can be a safe way to experience a fantasy or spice up a night with your partner, in my opinion.
many people enjoy porn...including me....alone and with a partner. But if it's viewed that regularly, there's most likely an issue.0 -
I'd kick his azz to the curb.0
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If it was me I would leave, (but as amicably as possible for the sake of the kids as they look up to both of you) you've already given him a second chance to change his behaviour (one more chance than I'd give lol) and no matter what any of the unsympathetic knuckle draggers say, do not change yourself and this is not your fault. Take it easy hun xxx There's plenty of good eggs out there. x0
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If he's accessing porn regularly alone, he has an F'd up idea of what sex is about
I disagree with this as well. I am not opposed to watching it when my boyfriend is out of town or if the mood strikes me. It can be a safe way to experience a fantasy or spice up a night with your partner, in my opinion.
many people enjoy porn...including me....alone and with a partner. But if it's viewed that regularly, there's most likely an issue.
Define "regularly".
ETA: And again there more than likely are other underlying issues in the relationship that we know nothing about.0 -
Leave him.
If you talk to him, and he says he's sorry, leave him anyway.
If he says it's okay, cause he doesn't have any activity, leave him.
If he says it's just all fun and games, leave him.
Just in case that is confusing, I will summarize: Leave him.0 -
Run, run away fast.0
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Run0
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If it walks like a cheater, and talks like a cheater... it's probably a cheater.0
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I found out there was no real activity on his dating profiles, because well, I found them and accessed them and looked around,he had 2 profiles in the span of our relationship that appeared to have just answered questions, everything else was blank.Another one was the same account we met on years before, I found that profile and it showed his last log in was about a month after one of our children was first born.I confronted him about it, said I wanted the password - he gave it to me after he already accessed it first (he was at work), it seemed messages were deleted.He also has an issue with watching porn, I know most men do, but I discussed this with him that I was not okay with it, and he agreed not to, and still went along with it behind my back.I do know he never physically cheated on me
but I do want to make things work
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I mean...
Why would you stay again?0 -
hes a lying cheater, leave his *kitten*0
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cut your losses and move on.....take it from somebody going through a divorce right now!!!0
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I don't think your guy's problems are sexual addiction or a problem with your sex life or anything like that. I think the fact that he is surfing that particular web site talking to women, but apparently not meeting them, is fulfilling a need for attention. For validation. For self esteem.
I think he has some issues. If you really love him, you may decide that it is worth it to work through them with him. If he doesn't have a willingness to admit that he has a problem and get some counseling, it will never work.0 -
There is 0 trust after that...obviously you need to dump is cheating *kitten*0
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There is a lot of black and white with this crowd.0
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Watch the season of Marriage Boot Camp Bridzillas and follow along with Porshia and Byron. They'll give you the answers to all your questions. It's on Netflix.0
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hes a lying cheater, leave his *kitten*
Totally off topic, but love the Abita Beer shirt.0 -
I'd consider leaving him. But at the same time, think about what's best for your kids. Their well-being takes priority over your own. Weigh your options, the pro and cons for you and your kids, then make your move. Don't forget to take any necessary steps to protect yourself and your kids, have a roof over your head, food, savings, support, etc.0
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Leave him.
I was dating this guy for about a year, met him on a dating site. Thought he was being honest when he told me he deleted his profile and told me we were monogamous. Introduced me to the parents, family etc...
My co-worker was on the same dating site and she accidentally came across his profile and emailed me like "hey isn't this your boyfriend?!"
Well, I asked him about it again and he blatantly lied and said he completely deleted it and we were monogamous. So, I set him up. I made a fake profile with a cute girl's photo, he actually initiated the meeting (and said he'd be bringing a condom), and I sent him to my guy friend's house (he was in on it)
My guy friend opened the door when he came in and he asked for the girl in the fake profile. He looked mortified! Haha!
When the guy got back home from being confused/mortified about meeting a guy who he though was a cute girl (who he had exchanged several explicit fantasies with over instant message), I instant messaged him and told him we were over and to never contact me again.
Yeah, I could have just broken up with him when my coworker emailed me with his profile and he lied about it, but it was WAY more fun to mess with his head! And, I was bored...
A year later he came back to me apologizing for lying, and I admitted that I actually set up that entire scenario and the guy whose house I sent him to was a friend of mine. He was shocked, but somehow still wanted to get with me again. HA.0 -
Why move on just start openly dating someone else... I think he will get the idea0
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