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  • moosegt35
    moosegt35 Posts: 1,296 Member
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    And BTW, I was also a kid that required a lot of spankings. "Time out" was a JOKE to me. My parents learned very early on that I required a heavy hand. And I am a better, more disciplined person today for it.

    This. I would even laugh at my mom when she was spanking me and tell her that she wasn't capable of hurting me. If I hadn't got my *kitten* busted I would probably be in jail today.
  • FoxBean
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    And BTW, I was also a kid that required a lot of spankings. "Time out" was a JOKE to me. My parents learned very early on that I required a heavy hand. And I am a better, more disciplined person today for it.

    Yeah except for the fact that you think it is okay to hit children.
  • moosegt35
    moosegt35 Posts: 1,296 Member
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    That kid has obviously not been beaten enough. Some kids respond to nonphysical corrections like "time out." Others require a mild spanking, like a slap on the wrist. Then others require a serious whipping with a leather belt on their bottoms. This kid seems like the last sort.

    And BTW, just to ensure that there are no problems with pansy-*kitten* getting all "sensitive" and calling child protective services on you for beating him, the trick is that spank him where no one else can see it, and you still refer to the spanking as "time out." Even though both you and he know that it will really be a spanking. That way, when you look at him and say "behave yourself or you will get time out", he will know that it is really a spanking that he is going to get, but everyone else will think that you are only threatening him with time out.

    I hope you are joking. Children who are violent tend to be victims of abuse and they are lashing out, not always the case but there IS a reason of why.

    There is always an excuse to why a child acts like they do, it's never that they are just a brat with crappy parents anymore.
  • moosegt35
    moosegt35 Posts: 1,296 Member
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    And BTW, I was also a kid that required a lot of spankings. "Time out" was a JOKE to me. My parents learned very early on that I required a heavy hand. And I am a better, more disciplined person today for it.

    Yeah except for the fact that you think it is okay to hit children.

    When did it become not ok to "hit" children? Right around the time 90% of kids started acting like little demons?
  • Wifey7891
    Wifey7891 Posts: 91
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    that's a difficult situation. props to teachers, that's a really under-rated profession nowadays. ive seen some different approaches to dealing with difficult children, and sometimes its best just to let their outbursts and tantrums play out. if its a child who thinks making noise gets him attention, the some cold shoulder might work. read some articles or books about this topic, there are a plethora out there. heres one from a simple google search, might have some interesting reads in the references as well: http://www.easternflorida.edu/community-resources/child-development-centers/parent-resource-library/documents/parenting-the-difficult-temperament.pdf
  • jacques57
    jacques57 Posts: 2,129 Member
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    Just break up.


    oh wait, wrong thread.
  • buzybev
    buzybev Posts: 199 Member
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    that's a difficult situation. props to teachers, that's a really under-rated profession nowadays. ive seen some different approaches to dealing with difficult children, and sometimes its best just to let their outbursts and tantrums play out. if its a child who thinks making noise gets him attention, the some cold shoulder might work. read some articles or books about this topic, there are a plethora out there. heres one from a simple google search, might have some interesting reads in the references as well: http://www.easternflorida.edu/community-resources/child-development-centers/parent-resource-library/documents/parenting-the-difficult-temperament.pdf

    Yes! Planned ignoring can work in many situations. As long as they are not endangering themselves or others/being destructive, I've noticed that it helps to wait until they've cooled off a bit and are ready to listen, talk, or be redirected to a more appropriate activity. As long as expectations are clear and consistent across the board (teachers, specialists, parents, etc) it is easier to work on managing negative behaviors. Won't work if they are only in a "structured" environment 6-8 months out of the year, but are allowed to do whatever they hell they want at home. Consistency is key.
  • moosegt35
    moosegt35 Posts: 1,296 Member
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    that's a difficult situation. props to teachers, that's a really under-rated profession nowadays. ive seen some different approaches to dealing with difficult children, and sometimes its best just to let their outbursts and tantrums play out. if its a child who thinks making noise gets him attention, the some cold shoulder might work. read some articles or books about this topic, there are a plethora out there. heres one from a simple google search, might have some interesting reads in the references as well: http://www.easternflorida.edu/community-resources/child-development-centers/parent-resource-library/documents/parenting-the-difficult-temperament.pdf

    Sounds like a great idea for a kid that hits, bites and tried to stab people. Hopefully no one dies. OP, please take this advice and report back on the results. ROFL.
  • pmr545
    pmr545 Posts: 51 Member
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    Teachers have it rough today.... parents scream about grades, they think their child does not wrong.... I feel for you! Teachers are so important in our society.
  • FemmeFatale83
    FemmeFatale83 Posts: 96
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    I feel for you and the child involved. The parents are the root of the problem since they just reinforce his disruptive behavior. I know someone who is a teacher and I have heard so many stories from her like this! Maybe you could do your best to keep any records of your experience with this child and his parents, a written journal of events at the very least with dates, in case they do ever file against you. Don't know how helpful that would be though. Anyway you have a tough job, I commend you for it!
  • Go_Mizzou99
    Go_Mizzou99 Posts: 2,628 Member
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    Sad, by "protecting" him, they are creating an individual that will likely get the p!ss beat out of him when he goes after the wrong person.

    Don't forget, these same kids get trophies for coming in last place too. My wife, a veteran teacher, calls them tea-cup children - because they are so fragile, they break often.
  • BrokenButBeautiful
    BrokenButBeautiful Posts: 939
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    Oooooh myyyyyyyyyyy gooooooooosh! Home stretch here in my world of teaching and guess what?! "The Child" got expelled today, for the rest of the school year. Which is exactly two and a half days...

    I expect the parents to try and take legal action and my heart breaks for this child. His mother left the school today shrieking about how this kid has been mistreated. He has not been at all, quite the contrary. We all bent over beyond backwards for him. :-(

    The final straw was him attacking a fellow student, another student trying to restrain him, defending the attacked, and all hell broke loose.
  • embrace_the_darkside
    embrace_the_darkside Posts: 60
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    Badly behaved kids are often the result of badly behaved parents. Unfortunately, its hard to get a parent to understand that because... well... they're pretty good at denying this fact

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