First time in I don't know how long I have a complaint

plantlady99

Write her a lovely note how you feel.

FatDancer

How about the two of you taking a Latin Dance class together...she wouldn't be doing any lifting and it would be low impact but intense cardio...if you're interested, you could make her promise not to workout and to take this class with you until she is well healed...also, it is a very sexy artform and it will get your motors running...plus dance makes you feel high!

SunnyInBuffalo

this may help...

"I know you are struggling with this. I am worried that in that struggle you'll get hurt. I love you so much. Do what you need to do, but know I am here when or if you need me"

and then just love her and keep checking in every so often...

I believe that supported people make the best decisions.

kimber607

Hi

My gut is telling me after reading your post, is at the right time to have a heart to heart with your wife, BEFORE going to her trainer/therapist

GOOD LUCK, like another poster said it's a tough situation and there is no right answer

Kim

cinandchris

Best of luck buddy :flowerforyou: I hope she doesn't cause you any permanent physical damage when you discuss this with her. :laugh:

foxfire9372

one more thought, if you don't think she will kill you, have her read the posts that we all have made. Either she will want to rearrange your most private parts or she may realize that there are a whole lot of people who have gone through similair situations and have overcome, survived and thrived.

DianneLynn

Aww Banks...and Mrs. Banks...I truly feel your pain...

About 2 years ago I got bored with my Bowflex routines and decided to "shake it up" with some Winsor Pilates (I have the tapes and have done 10 week stints before). After the 3 day of Pilates I awoke on the 4th day in the most incredible pain of my life and thus it began. Life and Stress just twisted my spine intto a pretzel!!! Literally!!! from the C1 right down to S1 twisting my pelvis and shortening my one leg..rolls my eyes...God forbid I ever have an accident if this is what "just life" can do to ya.

Traditional Docs don't help ~ shooting me up with Cortisone bilaterally in the hips for Bursitis...or maybe its Arthritis ...as if!!!

My Naturopath recommended an excellent Osteopath in the area after her clinics Chiropractor did nothing. I tried Acupuncture...only temporary pain relief then it was right back.

Finally last August I found the Alternative Health Clinic's owner told me about someone who helped her when she hurt her back while vacationing in Florida. By this time, it was very difficult to walk, sleep, sit. This Chiropractor practices the Activator Method (www.activator.com) and is totally awesome but got me halfway. Now I've employed this Personal Trainer/Lifestyle Coach and he's bringing me the other half...hopefully soon I'll be a whole functioning human being again.

Mrs. Banks I truly feel your pain. I have so been there. When my Chiro told me I could start resistance training again I was elated to say the least (& I never ever thought I'd say that about exercising). Pleas e go easy on Mr. Banks...he just loves ya and is probably feeling a tad useless right now. Men naturally just want to "fix" things...its a gene or something like that.

Banks, being a gym rat, surely your wife knows some Personal Trainers (Kinesiologists would be the best choice) and can consult with them as to what should be done and how it should be done in conjunction with her other medical consultants.

I wish you both the best and hope you take it easy on each other and maybe Banks, this is something you can't "fix" but hearing it from someone else will help and definitely keep you safe!

sapphyre0702

I agree with Shannon talk to her about it. Back injuries are really serious and can quickly develop into something more serious. I ended up fracturing my back slightly as a result of lifting weights that were too heavy. I had a pre-existing back condition and after the fracture I couldnt sit or stand for any longer than 30 minutes without a lot of pain for 3-4 months.

Your wife sounds very health conscious and I'm sure it would absolutly crush her to get a greater injury and not be able to work out at all.

You only have one body and the spine is so important and so fragile.

Please talk to your wife. This is serious and could take some time to heal. Maybe in the interim while she is healing you two could do something together to help get her mind off of the gym and get some together time as well!

Good luck!

chriss1tt

So how's it goin Banks? Hope your still with us.

REB89

sorry, i missed this post when you first wrote it as i haven't been online for a couple of days. i hope everything went well!!! :flowerforyou:

banks1850

LOL, right now she's too freaked out about the house to care about anything else.

ali106

yay for distractions!!! woot woot! lol
hugs!

bodibykelli

Banks....as a woman who probably would not heed the advice of my husband where an injury is concerned (particularly if it would mean taking me out of the gym!).....the best thing you CAN do is to choose a "quiet" time.....in which there are no other emotional things already being discussed, to tell her how her decisions to proceed onwards is affecting YOU. Have your say, unemotionally....get EVERY concern off of your chest. When you are done, you are done. You are not her father, and she is a big girl. More than likely (speaking from experience) she will learn the more difficult way, by re-injuring herself. The gym is a very powerful monster......bigger than even the scale I hope her road to recovery is a swift one :flowerforyou: