Motivating my husband
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For real, and he should take their daughter with him.You have said that he is not overweight and has no interest in working out. What is there to motivate? Leave the guy alone.0 -
a) motivation comes from within. There is nothing you can do to motivate him to change. When he wants to change, he will. And not a moment sooner.
b) if he supports you in your activities, and doesn't complain about the impact your lifestyle has on his life, then you should be damn happy. a lot of people do not experience that.
c) never ever EVER allow yourself to get "carried away" when it comes to any kind of aggressive activity. Whether it be boxing, kickboxing, play wrestling, or even sub/dom stuff. If you cannot control yourself, you DO NOT GO THERE.
I dated someone who would play slap my legs. Well in his mind, he was playing.
Twice he play slapped me into a corner... and twice I ended up in the fetal position, crying on the floor with him apologizing for getting carried away, that he was just having fun and that I was overreacting. I never told him how vulnerable and scared I felt. I never told him how I retreated into a child at that moment. It was one of the scariest moments of my life up to that moment.
You owe him a very big apology, and you need to stop minimizing it.
as for the boyfriend... we ended up breaking up after he punched the closet door right beside my face... and almost drove his fist through it.0 -
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a) motivation comes from within. There is nothing you can do to motivate him to change. When he wants to change, he will. And not a moment sooner.
b) if he supports you in your activities, and doesn't complain about the impact your lifestyle has on his life, then you should be damn happy. a lot of people do not experience that.
c) never ever EVER allow yourself to get "carried away" when it comes to any kind of aggressive activity. Whether it be boxing, kickboxing, play wrestling, or even sub/dom stuff. If you cannot control yourself, you DO NOT GO THERE.
I dated someone who would play slap my legs. Well in his mind, he was playing.
Twice he play slapped me into a corner... and twice I ended up in the fetal position, crying on the floor with him apologizing for getting carried away, that he was just having fun and that I was overreacting. I never told him how vulnerable and scared I felt. I never told him how I retreated into a child at that moment. It was one of the scariest moments of my life up to that moment.
You owe him a very big apology, and you need to stop minimizing it.
as for the boyfriend... we ended up breaking up after he punched the closet door right beside my face... and almost drove his fist through it.
Thanks for a reasonable response. Things are being blown out of proportion here, but I understand what you mean. Play or. Or, it can't have felt good to him and I need to apologize and make sure that he really is ok.0 -
a) motivation comes from within. There is nothing you can do to motivate him to change. When he wants to change, he will. And not a moment sooner.
b) if he supports you in your activities, and doesn't complain about the impact your lifestyle has on his life, then you should be damn happy. a lot of people do not experience that.
c) never ever EVER allow yourself to get "carried away" when it comes to any kind of aggressive activity. Whether it be boxing, kickboxing, play wrestling, or even sub/dom stuff. If you cannot control yourself, you DO NOT GO THERE.
I dated someone who would play slap my legs. Well in his mind, he was playing.
Twice he play slapped me into a corner... and twice I ended up in the fetal position, crying on the floor with him apologizing for getting carried away, that he was just having fun and that I was overreacting. I never told him how vulnerable and scared I felt. I never told him how I retreated into a child at that moment. It was one of the scariest moments of my life up to that moment.
You owe him a very big apology, and you need to stop minimizing it.
as for the boyfriend... we ended up breaking up after he punched the closet door right beside my face... and almost drove his fist through it.
Thanks for a reasonable response. Things are being blown out of proportion here, but I understand what you mean. Play or. Or, it can't have felt good to him and I need to apologize and make sure that he really is ok.
I'm glad you see this.
I may be old fashioned... but he's your MAN. I'd bet that he wants to feel respected and looked up to. I doubt he enjoys feeling emasculated... and all the things you've shared (even before the kickboxing incident) are doing exactly the opposite of what is healthy to a relationship.
Look long and hard at how you feel about him... because it's not very respectful or honorable. And I get that, but if you don't honor or respect him, then you either need to change now, get help as a couple, or leave... because you are teaching your daughter some really poor examples.
Maybe it is blown out of proportion, we only have what you have shared... but considering people don't usually set out to paint themselves in a bad light... I'm wondering just how out of proportion it is being blown.
All the best to you, to your daughter, and to your husband.0 -
Am I in before just break up?
ETA: Just break up.0 -
Hi I didn't read any of the responses but just in response to the op you could try shaming or emasculating him, implying you plan to be unfaithful, hitting or otherwise physically intimidating him, comparing him unfavorably to other stronger fitter men, casually putting your clothes in his drawers and when he asks about it you could tell him that if he is going to be the ***** in the relationship he had better start dressing the part, etc, etc.
Also I am into that stuff so if your relationship doesn't work out please PM me.0 -
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ITS A LIE!!!!!!!!!!! THIS STORY NEVER HAPPENED. PIXIE IS A MAN PEOPLE!
STOP BEING SO GULLIBLE!
I'm going to respectfully ask you to zip it, sir.0 -
ITS A LIE!!!!!!!!!!! THIS STORY NEVER HAPPENED. PIXIE IS A MAN PEOPLE!
STOP BEING SO GULLIBLE!
Please elaborate b/c I'm like crying here after the following response...0 -
With great power.....
Leave the guy alone. He is either fine with his current fitness and you are making him feel weak or he is not fine with it and you are not doing him any favors by bullying him.0 -
ITS A LIE!!!!!!!!!!! THIS STORY NEVER HAPPENED. PIXIE IS A MAN PEOPLE!
STOP BEING SO GULLIBLE!
Proof or gtfo0 -
Seriously Pixie, you're being a total jerk to your husband. Back off. If you want to be the man in the marriage, have a nice time, but don't try to make him your b-word just because you can physically beat him up.
If you are this unhappy, get divorced and marry a jock.
If I was interested in my spouse's kickboxing and asked him to show me a few of his moves, but then he came at me so fast I had to back away and got cornered by him, I'd be freaking pissed at him for scaring me and physically dominating me. You're hurting him, whether he says it or not (and he probably knows better than to share feelings with you by now because you're mean), and you're being selfish and cruel.
I'm embarrassed and sad for you. I'm embarrassed that you think any part of your behavior towards your spouse was a good idea, that you encourage your daughter to 'out man' her dad, and sad that you actually do these things and then brag about it on a forum.
You might need some counseling to find out what's really going on in your head that you are displacing your sense of dissatisfaction onto your husband. Maybe you're just looking for an excuse to have an affair. And then you can admit how you're ashamed of that too, but at least then there's grounds for getting that divorce rolling along.
^this one. That's the response that made my cry, b/c that's how it all added up to me and I just wanna smack OP like a ho on payday who ain't got the rent. I just wanna back her into a corner so hard she steps out of it with her *kitten* shaped into a triangle from being wedged in there while I gave her the talking to of her life. I just wanna take her little girl by the hand and bring her to my house and tell her THAT LADY is not your real mommy, that was an IMPOSTER created by excess hormones and crazy train. Your real mommy was as kind and sweet and supportive and graceful as you will be when you grow up. I just wanna smack OP. Smack. For reals. Smack.0 -
This is the single most emasculating thing I've ever seen or read and not only that it's humiliating and just plain effed up on many levels. The meanness, the pseudo violence, the "accidental" "oops lol" intimidation, the passing on to daughter, the list goes on and on.
Dear OP, your daughter called she says...
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ITS A LIE!!!!!!!!!!! THIS STORY NEVER HAPPENED. PIXIE IS A MAN PEOPLE!
STOP BEING SO GULLIBLE!
Please elaborate b/c I'm like crying here after the following response...
Pixie has only 20 posts, 19 of which are on this thread. The other post was dug up from a month ago and is about, you guessed it, women who are stronger than their significant others.
What really gives it away though is the way that Pixie was so determined to bring up the subject of the daughter beating the dad in arm wrestling, even though nobody was biting on it or talking about it. There is a whole underground culture on the internet for men who like being dominated by strong women, there are forums dedicated to making up stories about these types of encounters. This sounds like the makings of a story straight out of one of those forums. So go ahead and encourage 'her' but know that 'she' is probably a dude getting his jollies on on the other end.
...but you're right I have no proof...
Seems plausible.0 -
ITS A LIE!!!!!!!!!!! THIS STORY NEVER HAPPENED. PIXIE IS A MAN PEOPLE!
STOP BEING SO GULLIBLE!
Please elaborate b/c I'm like crying here after the following response...
Pixie has only 20 posts, 19 of which are on this thread. The other post was dug up from a month ago and is about, you guessed it, women who are stronger than their significant others.
What really gives it away though is the way that Pixie was so determined to bring up the subject of the daughter beating the dad in arm wrestling, even though nobody was biting on it or talking about it. There is a whole underground culture on the internet for men who like being dominated by strong women, there are forums dedicated to making up stories about these types of encounters. This sounds like the makings of a story straight out of one of those forums. So go ahead and encourage 'her' but know that 'she' is probably a dude getting his jollies on on the other end.
...but you're right I have no proof...
Seems plausible.
Thanks. F'kng troll.
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ITS A LIE!!!!!!!!!!! THIS STORY NEVER HAPPENED. PIXIE IS A MAN PEOPLE!
STOP BEING SO GULLIBLE!
Please elaborate b/c I'm like crying here after the following response...
Pixie has only 20 posts, 19 of which are on this thread. The other post was dug up from a month ago and is about, you guessed it, women who are stronger than their significant others.
What really gives it away though is the way that Pixie was so determined to bring up the subject of the daughter beating the dad in arm wrestling, even though nobody was biting on it or talking about it. There is a whole underground culture on the internet for men who like being dominated by strong women, there are forums dedicated to making up stories about these types of encounters. This sounds like the makings of a story straight out of one of those forums. So go ahead and encourage 'her' but know that 'she' is probably a dude getting his jollies on on the other end.
...but you're right I have no proof...
Actually that's a reasonable hypothesis and now that it's been brought up Pixie's first boss would certainly seem to be proof.
I suppose I'd rather believe I fell for troll bait then think there is a woman out there totally beating her husband down and teaching her daughter to emasculate her father?0 -
If it is a lie... Then I'm thoroughly disgusted.
If it is true... I'm thoroughly unsettled and bothered.
Either way... It's a loser situation and the OP needs help0 -
If it is a lie... Then I'm thoroughly disgusted.
If it is true... I'm thoroughly unsettled and bothered.
Either way... It's a loser situation and the OP needs help
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http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1227849-i-m-stronger-than-my-significant-other?page=3
Pixie's original post is actually from today as well and is the same story as the one told here. Not sure if a troll who just didn't get the bites they wanted or genuine poster who really felt this was worthy of attention.
Either way I'm bothered.0 -
He'll do it when he's ready and wants to.
Or when his wife makes him do it...
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good. Take that garbage elsewhere.User Deactivated.
Pixie1076 has deactivated their account.0 -
yep. Either way, it's just all kinds of wrong.If it is a lie... Then I'm thoroughly disgusted.
If it is true... I'm thoroughly unsettled and bothered.
Either way... It's a loser situation and the OP needs help0
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