What if I don't really care?
coffeefreak88
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Hey all!
So I'm about 15 lbs overweight. I've lost a few pounds here and there and then gained them right back. Here's the thing, I'm starting to wonder, what if, deep down, I don't really care that i'm not my "ideal" weight? I mean sure I'm always like "oh I'd love to be a size 2 and look perfect in bikinis, yada yada" and i'll eat well and exercise for a couple days, but then i'm right back to the unhealthy habits. Its like I know what I should be doing but when the junk food is in front of me I just dig in. Does anyone else struggle with this? what have you done to stay motivated? Or has anyone come to the realization that they're happy just the way they are?
So I'm about 15 lbs overweight. I've lost a few pounds here and there and then gained them right back. Here's the thing, I'm starting to wonder, what if, deep down, I don't really care that i'm not my "ideal" weight? I mean sure I'm always like "oh I'd love to be a size 2 and look perfect in bikinis, yada yada" and i'll eat well and exercise for a couple days, but then i'm right back to the unhealthy habits. Its like I know what I should be doing but when the junk food is in front of me I just dig in. Does anyone else struggle with this? what have you done to stay motivated? Or has anyone come to the realization that they're happy just the way they are?
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If you don't care, it ain't happening.0
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Why are you here, then? :huh:0
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If you don't care, then what does it matter?0
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IF someone was really happy with the way they are, they wouldn't bother with weight loss or change their eating. If someone is attempting it, then somewhere in them, there's a desire to change in some manner.
The problem that most people have is they have been misinformed about "good" and "bad" food, "healthy" and "unhealthy" food.
Food basically is just fuel for energy and rebuilding. Some food is calorie dense, while others aren't. Some food is nutrient dense and some aren't.
The struggle with everyone who's overweight is learning how to balance the foods they like to eat that are high calorie and low nutrient with ones that are lower in calories and higher in nutrients.
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I was feeling the same way. It took me changing jobs and meeting new faces to finally motivate me. Could it be that you are in a rut without a good support system (friends)?0
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I was feeling the same way. It took me changing jobs and meeting new faces to finally motivate me. Could it be that you are in a rut without a good support system (friends)?
Actually, that makes a lot of sense. I know this website works! I lost 12lbs doing MFP before but I was in college and doing it with all my roommates. Now i'm married and my husband couldn't gain weight if he tried
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Hey all!
So I'm about 15 lbs overweight. I've lost a few pounds here and there and then gained them right back. Here's the thing, I'm starting to wonder, what if, deep down, I don't really care that i'm not my "ideal" weight? I mean sure I'm always like "oh I'd love to be a size 2 and look perfect in bikinis, yada yada" and i'll eat well and exercise for a couple days, but then i'm right back to the unhealthy habits. Its like I know what I should be doing but when the junk food is in front of me I just dig in. Does anyone else struggle with this? what have you done to stay motivated? Or has anyone come to the realization that they're happy just the way they are?
I came to the realization that I was over the yo-yo and just made it happen. The weight loss, I mean.
Sooner or later you say 'enough is enough!'... I still have days (or weeks) where it's tough, but overall it's much more natural for me to do what I do now. 0 -
Why are you here, then? :huh:
She's trying to figure it out.
Sometimes getting it out and rereading it makes it easier to do that. That's what this forum is for, support. 0 -
I was in the same boat for a while. I wanted to lose some weight, but I didn't want to really change anything or put in the work on any sort of consistent basis. I'd lose a couple pounds, gain a few back, etc. Then one fateful day, not only did I want to lose the weight, I was READY to make changes and put in the work. That willingness is what got me going. What keeps me going is the progress I've made mentally & physically as well as the knowledge that I can do anything as long as I'm willing to work for it.
Good luck to you!0 -
Hey all!
So I'm about 15 lbs overweight. I've lost a few pounds here and there and then gained them right back. Here's the thing, I'm starting to wonder, what if, deep down, I don't really care that i'm not my "ideal" weight? I mean sure I'm always like "oh I'd love to be a size 2 and look perfect in bikinis, yada yada" and i'll eat well and exercise for a couple days, but then i'm right back to the unhealthy habits. Its like I know what I should be doing but when the junk food is in front of me I just dig in. Does anyone else struggle with this? what have you done to stay motivated? Or has anyone come to the realization that they're happy just the way they are?
I was most of my adult life between 46 and just under 50 kilos (101-110 pounds ). Both were a little bit on the high normal range for my height. I did not care, because I was in excellent shape. I still was in excellent shape in my 40's and early 50's, because of my job and because I was a very serious weight lifter. Then came menopause, health problems, more serious health problems, cancer and after cancer recovery I was all of a sudden 135 pounds, because among other things I had to stop serious exercise.. I did not care, because I was alive !
My health problems turned chronic and I took ( and still take ) mega doses of cortisone. I gained more weight, I did not care, because after all, things could be worse. For emotional reasons I started self pity eating and still gained more weight......and all of a sudden I did care, because 80 extra pounds made a difference and made life difficult for my joints, heart, lungs.......and now I have to make a real effort each and every day to lose weight. I have lost 50 pounds in the last year and have to lose another 50 pounds to even get to those 135 when I really did not care.
I am convinced that if I had cared enough to lose those first 10-20 pounds I would not be where I am today as far as my battle with weight is concerned. But that is just me.....your mileage probably varies.
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For one year, I challenge you to get in the best shape of your life. Exercise, get a lower BF%, stop any vices (like binge drinking), and surround yourself with like minded people.
Dollars to donuts, you will NEVER go back to what you are now. It's THAT good being above average...and being the best you can be.
Try it, it may change your entire life0 -
As long as you have a healthy bmi, I say good for you. It's really Madison Avenue that says you should be a size 2 and look a certain way. All that matters is that you are healthy and happy with yourself. You don't need to live up to anyone's preconceived notion of who you should be on any level. Be your own person and have no regrets.0
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What about if I dont care that you really dont care?0
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Or has anyone come to the realization that they're happy just the way they are?
Yes, I have.
I think you should look at the benefits v costs of getting your dream body and see if it is worth it for you. It might be. It might not.
For myself, I am happy with what I have now which means I am not as lean as I was in my 20s (which in hindsight was a hugely overrated experience anyway) but neither do I have to put in the amount of time and effort I used to devote towards this goal which frees it up for more important things in my life.
Do what makes you happy. Everything else is just noise.0 -
For one year, I challenge you to get in the best shape of your life. Exercise, get a lower BF%, stop any vices (like binge drinking), and surround yourself with like minded people.
Dollars to donuts, you will NEVER go back to what you are now. It's THAT good being above average...and being the best you can be.
Try it, it may change your entire life
I really like this it was very inspiring. thanks 0 -
Hey all!
So I'm about 15 lbs overweight. I've lost a few pounds here and there and then gained them right back. Here's the thing, I'm starting to wonder, what if, deep down, I don't really care that i'm not my "ideal" weight? I mean sure I'm always like "oh I'd love to be a size 2 and look perfect in bikinis, yada yada" and i'll eat well and exercise for a couple days, but then i'm right back to the unhealthy habits. Its like I know what I should be doing but when the junk food is in front of me I just dig in. Does anyone else struggle with this? what have you done to stay motivated? Or has anyone come to the realization that they're happy just the way they are?
for me, there are 2 reasons to lose weight.
1) if your weight is causing you medical problems... being 15lb over weight isnt really going to do you any harm, so you're good there.
2) if you stand in front of a full lenght mirror in your underwear and you're happy, then you're good to go... why bother losing weight? there are so few people who are truely happy with their body, enjoy beign one of the few!
that being said, you should still eat a bit of veg and do some exercise to be healthy!0 -
You don't care and you're happy where you are.
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You can't be bothered and don't feel like making the effort anymore.
I don't mean to sound harsh, OP. In my case every time I told myself I was happy with my weight I was saying I don't want to do this anymore, I don't feel like it. A few weeks later I'll catch somebody at my old size or the size I want to be and it will make me realise, no I don't WANT this body. I'm settling for this body. I want THAT body.0 -
If you didn't care you wouldn't be going on about it. There is no mythical ideal weight. Weightloss should and is about an overall attitude about your personal health and well being. you are the only one who can do something about it if you wish but ask yourself why did you write this post?Hey all!
So I'm about 15 lbs overweight. I've lost a few pounds here and there and then gained them right back. Here's the thing, I'm starting to wonder, what if, deep down, I don't really care that i'm not my "ideal" weight? I mean sure I'm always like "oh I'd love to be a size 2 and look perfect in bikinis, yada yada" and i'll eat well and exercise for a couple days, but then i'm right back to the unhealthy habits. Its like I know what I should be doing but when the junk food is in front of me I just dig in. Does anyone else struggle with this? what have you done to stay motivated? Or has anyone come to the realization that they're happy just the way they are?0 -
I don't think a size 2 is healthy or attractive!!Hey all!
So I'm about 15 lbs overweight. I've lost a few pounds here and there and then gained them right back. Here's the thing, I'm starting to wonder, what if, deep down, I don't really care that i'm not my "ideal" weight? I mean sure I'm always like "oh I'd love to be a size 2 and look perfect in bikinis, yada yada" and i'll eat well and exercise for a couple days, but then i'm right back to the unhealthy habits. Its like I know what I should be doing but when the junk food is in front of me I just dig in. Does anyone else struggle with this? what have you done to stay motivated? Or has anyone come to the realization that they're happy just the way they are?0 -
Then don't bother......0
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I can totally relate... during my weightloss journey I lost 20 kgs, started exercising, and gained a lot of strenght I never had. I can't lift heavy, I can't run lots of miles without stopping... but I've still improved a lot. I can walk, I feel less tired, I can easily find my clothing size in shops, and I am overall not disappointed in how I look. I started losing weight because I couldn't stand it anymore and I didn't like myself. Losing weight improved my health but also had the side effect of improving my confidence. I am not perfect now, I'm not at the ideal weight for my height... but I don't care! I've been in manteinance recently and I'm now back on track to get rid of a few kgs gained during the holidays. It's a life-long process so I know I'll always be changing and improving, but I have reached my own "goals" and even if they're different from other people's goals, I'm happy. I'm quite healthy and still working on it. No need to get thinner just for the sake of it, I love being a chubby girl.0
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Then don't bother......
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I felt a little deja vu reading your post! For many many many years I was in the healthy BMI range - right at the top, but still in the range - and I was a liitle bit annoyed about my weight, but not enough to motivate me to do anything.
It was only when I put on another stone and realised that I was technically "overweight" that I suddenly thought: FFS, you need to sort this out now.
I started MFP and it worked, and it was easy. So when I got back into the "normal" BMI I kept going and now I'm in the middle of that healthy range.
(before anyone says "Rahh RAHH BMI" - I know it's a tool used for judging the weight of populations etc, but paying attention to it was the thing that woke me up in the first place AND gave me the motivation to keep going).
Now I'm just so pleased I did it - finally - and wish I'd done it before it got that far (as someone else said).
I can't remember where I read this, but it rings out in my mind whenever I feel like giving up: "You are never again going to be as fat as you are today". Downwards and onwards!0 -
I noticed on your profile that your Mom lost 100 pounds. Don't take this the wrong way, but that is where you will eventually end up if you don't develop a sustainable discipline. Right now, you are only 15 pounds over your ideal weight. As years pass and life happens, the pounds slowly add up and before you know it you're avoiding pictures with the family etc. etc. Read some of the stories on MFP, you don't want all that loose skin and health issues to deal with later.0
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For one year, I challenge you to get in the best shape of your life. Exercise, get a lower BF%, stop any vices (like binge drinking), and surround yourself with like minded people.
Dollars to donuts, you will NEVER go back to what you are now. It's THAT good being above average...and being the best you can be.
Try it, it may change your entire life
Best Post Ever! Words to live by. Challenge accepted!0 -
do you really not care? if so why did you join mfp?
if it's because of the pressure to loose weight around you then you may be interested in #bebodyconfident http://www.myfitnesspal.com/blog/asciiqwerty/view/taking-on-the-bebodyconfident-challenge-from-girlguiding-640971
it's a challenge being run by girlguiding uk to help inform and support teenage girls
if it's becasue you do care really then you may like these:
http://www.myfitnesspal.com/blog/asciiqwerty/view/ten-steps-to-a-healthier-happier-you-651215
either way i find peace of mind in the following though - it's commonly used by AA and other 12-step programs:
http://www.myfitnesspal.com/blog/asciiqwerty/view/the-serenity-prayer-6411300 -
For one year, I challenge you to get in the best shape of your life. Exercise, get a lower BF%, stop any vices (like binge drinking), and surround yourself with like minded people.
Dollars to donuts, you will NEVER go back to what you are now. It's THAT good being above average...and being the best you can be.
Try it, it may change your entire life
I agree with this. I've always been mostly normal, sometimes ever so slightly overweight. Last year I buckled down and got really fit and absolutely love it. More strength, energy, stamina, less back problems, better immune system, and especially, less depression.
There are still days I'm done with work, it's raining and I'm tired and would rather go home and chill out, or days when I'd love to graze on sweets -- but it's about forming habits and doing the right things even if on a particular day you don't "feel" like it. Overall I find being in shape well worth it.0 -
...Then one fateful day, not only did I want to lose the weight, I was READY to make changes and put in the work...
^^THIS^^
It's one thing to 'use' MFP to lose a few pounds here and there, but until you're ready to make the commitment to CHANGE (your habits, your relationship with food, etc.), your results will be temporary.
True change is the only thing that will bring true and lasting results.0 -
For one year, I challenge you to get in the best shape of your life. Exercise, get a lower BF%, stop any vices (like binge drinking), and surround yourself with like minded people.
Dollars to donuts, you will NEVER go back to what you are now. It's THAT good being above average...and being the best you can be.
Try it, it may change your entire life
i like this
because when i put those old trousers on that i used to love and see them swimming on me now. I say i dont ever want them to fit again. That for me keeps me going. My goal was to get down to a uk size 14 and then stop, but when I passed it I realised that I can do better so still here. Exercising and not eating 4 packets of crisps everyday has now become part of me and I would like to continue. good luck0
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