VERY SERIOUS QUESTION 2 ASK! PLEAZ READ EVERY 1!!

Brat3073

I don't think this has anything to do with eating nutritiously, exercising, and losing weight. This conversation should not be posted here.
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get over yourself. People are on here for emotional support. She sounds very stressed and worried about the situation......and we all know where worry and stress leads...or we wouldnt be here. Have a heart!

ashlee954

"The man in your life" has no legal right to lay a hand on those children. If he touches them, he may well face assault charges and you may well face losing custody for allowing it to happen. All it takes is for one of the kids to tell a teacher or a friend's parents and have it reported. A man who is trying to convince you to allow him to hit people you love, against your wishes, needs to be shown the door. Or at least make sure he is never alone with them.

100% agreed! It's one thing to discuss with you that maybe YOU need to look into another form of punishment (not necessarily spanking) because historically what you are doing isn't working. But once you tell him no and that you are against it then that should be it. No more discussion.

Cina04

I was spanked up into my teenager years (until I was 16!) and I turned out fine! Sometimes kids just need a good ole spanking to get their act straight. Shoot we would get spanked by the belt - 3 times.

Although I do believe that if you weren't my mother or dad (blood relative) than that person didn't have the right to spank me. My mom would have our stepdad (who ever it was at the time) spank us or punish us).
Since I didn't view them as father figures I felt like they have no right too.

I say if he wants to leave cause you or he can't spank the kids, LET HIM GO!!! (Personally, he would be out the door already!) Never chose a man over your grandchildren/kids. My mom just got remarried for her 9th time, I don't mind her new husband putting my girls in time out (if he lasts that long w/ my mom when my girls get older) but he he lays a hand on my daughter's I will not allow my girls to stay at her house w/o me present.

If anything happens to my husband and I were we get divorced and I decide to have another relationship, I will only be the one to spank my kids!

ErinMarie25

I was only spanked once because I threw a pencil at my brothers eye, didn't hit him, but I was mad at him over something so dumb. My dad lost it and spanked me. Only time I was ever spanked though and I grew up good! My brothers were spanked more though for being mean to me. LOL

VCStarr

I think the whole get over yourself comment was a little rude and uncalled for. I understand stress effects weight but parenting sites are the place to discuss spanking. So are child abuse sites. This is a weight loss and nutrition site. Parenting questions that have nothing to do with weight loss or nutrition do not belong here.

There is no reason to get angry but there are better places to get answers for such questions. If parenting questions are your main focus then why not take advantage of the information on a parenting site. Also the please read every1 title is a little extreme.

It is a serious and important topic of conversation. I have children of my own and do not support spanking unless there is an EXTREME need for it. But I'm not going to come here and ask about child development and learning disablities or hormone development or anything. That is not why people come to this site.

Brat3073

HE WAS A NAVY RECUE DIVER, & IN GENERAL IS A VERY GOOD PARENT! HE BELIEVES THAT AS U GET OLDER, U NEED TRUST 2 LEARN THINGS, U DONT GO BEHIND THIER BACKS, SNOOPIN IN DROORS; UNLES THEY GIVE U A REASON TOO... & THE TYMES THAT THEY WERE SPANKED, IS LESS THEN THE FINGERS ON 1 HAND... WHEN IT COMES 2 DISAPLINE, THIS THE ONLY, THE ONLY THING WE SEE DIFFERENTLY.....

So what, he was a navy rescue diver.....i dont care if he was the president of the united states, that still doent give him the right. Hes a bully and he dont respect you. If he touches your kids (grandkids as they may be, but you are raising them, they are your kids) he is the one that should be punished. It's called abuse....and if he spanks them on the butt, they they can turn it into sexual imposition. I guess in the end, its up to you to let him do what he wants. i truly hope you dont let him....sounds like he needs to hit the pavement!

AnnaPixie

I was hit as a child. Spanked, hit, belt, stick. Even to this day my Dad thinks he did the right thing, in the name of 'discipline'.

I say, he was an impatient, controlling, egotistical, arrogant *kitten*!

NEVER hit your children!!!

VCStarr

Apparently my opinion is in the minority and i am sorry if I have offended anyone. I have not changed my opinion but I do respect all of yours. I apologize if I have upset anyone.

platoon

I was spanked as a child, and I'm fine. Conversely, I know people - some who weren't spanked and are "fine," and others who are not 'fine" - and people who were spanked who are 'fine," and others who are not "fine." It really depends.

Everybody has one issue or another no matter what type of discipline is used.

andy13

why would you want to hurt your child? i wouldnt dream of hurting my little girl.

Cina04

Beating/hitting vs spanking your child are NOT the same!!

Now I will never do what my mother did to us but if my girls need a pop on that booty I will do it to get their act straight cause I'm not going to have children who disrespect me or think "oh wow my mom is just sending me to my room/ taking my TV away for a week"

Marla64

Apparently my opinion is in the minority and i am sorry if I have offended anyone. I have not changed my opinion but I do respect all of yours. I apologize if I have upset anyone.

It's all good-- I totally see where you're coming from, and echo it usually. These topics usually are thrown out by people wanting to start trouble. One person a couple years ago asked advice on a gay marriage issue, then sat back and watched the uproar ensue.

The fact that the original poster is still in the discussion leads me to think it's probably a sincere question-- but one truly never knows. Myself? I ask personal questions and share personal issues all the time, but in a specific thread with people I know. Even though this is a weight loss site, my friends and I run the gamut of topics.

So-- bottom line-- I'm rambling. I see your point. Agree with it to a point, for sure-- but, it's all good. No harm, no foul.

peanut352

Beating/hitting vs spanking your child are NOT the same!!

Now I will never do what my mother did to us but if my girls need a pop on that booty I will do it to get their act straight cause I'm not going to have children who disrespect me or think "oh wow my mom is just sending me to my room/ taking my TV away for a week"

So what your saying is that kids that dont get spanked are disrespectful?? I beg to differ....As I said earlier, I have a 21 year old son, and an 18 yr old daughter. Both have always been very respectful, and I have never spanked/hit them. Both are in college and working full time jobs, and they turned out to be very well mannered, and very respectful to everyone.

I would send them to their room whenever they misbehaved, waited like a half hour and then went and talked to them about what they did wrong, and from there, depending on what they did, we would take privileges away. And it worked!

One thing I did take from my dad for extreme punishment, was to have them write 500 or 1000 times that they will not repeat whatever they did wrong. I absolutely hated this as a kid, and so did my kids. They both only had to do it like twice each over all the years.

Cina04

I just seen kids who never got spanked and they are just bad kids - it could just be the parent and lack of parenting skills.

My mom had me do the writing sentences - the good thing about that is that I have pretty handwriting

Now I'm not saying you should spank a child where it leaves bruises. Now it's rare occasions where my daughter does get a spanking, it's not like a I spank her all the time where I don't like how she is acting. At times I give her a firm no and explain what she is did wrong and/or send her to room.

altazin0907

Apparently my opinion is in the minority and i am sorry if I have offended anyone. I have not changed my opinion but I do respect all of yours. I apologize if I have upset anyone.

Please do not feel offended everyone should be able to express their own opinion. I agree with what you are saying 100%. I was spanked very rarely but when I was it was because I deserved it. And not only was it ok to spank at home it was ok it be spanked at school.

sherry_80

Take a parenting class, you can ask the counselor anything you want and she will give you accurate info on how to deal with your kids/ teens. Sometimes when you can't understand what's going on with your child/teen and you have tried different things, its time to find some type of counsel.

SJSchwartz

I think the whole get over yourself comment was a little rude and uncalled for. I understand stress effects weight but parenting sites are the place to discuss spanking. So are child abuse sites. This is a weight loss and nutrition site. Parenting questions that have nothing to do with weight loss or nutrition do not belong here.

There is no reason to get angry but there are better places to get answers for such questions. If parenting questions are your main focus then why not take advantage of the information on a parenting site. Also the please read every1 title is a little extreme.

It is a serious and important topic of conversation. I have children of my own and do not support spanking unless there is an EXTREME need for it. But I'm not going to come here and ask about child development and learning disablities or hormone development or anything. That is not why people come to this site.

Reading this post is completely optional. You don't have to if it bothers you.

buggaboo73

It's in the motivation and support area, I don't tend to think she posted in the wrong place.

What I find really offensive are self appointed forum police.........although I have to give a tip to the OP........take your cap locks off because that does offend a lot of people and then you're not likely to get the kind of response you want.

Douniap

I just have one question for you: How would you feel if a man on the street beat up your grand-kids?
Well it is no different here.. the only exception is that he has a "relationship" with you..
He has no right at all to touch them or discipline them..

Secondly, if you need to discipline your grand kids (and i mean YOU and not your partner), then there are many ways to do it without spanking..