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  • seltzermint555
    seltzermint555 Posts: 10,740 Member
    Just tell them that you enjoy being with them but have not reached that emotional realm yet... or something to that effect.

    I agree with this.

    Honestly when this has happened to me, I knew that I was never (or probably never) going to reach that point with that person and I split up with them because I didn't want to hurt them more.

    But if I felt that the potential was there, and very real, but I just wasn't quite *there* yet I would openly communicate that to them, in the kindest way I could. This is what happened with my husband and I. I knew I loved him and I told him so, but he had actually NEVER been in love or said it to anyone and things were just moving so fast that he said emotionally everything just couldn't compute. A couple of weeks later he was totally sure and said it back to me and felt great about it.
  • ew_david
    ew_david Posts: 3,473 Member
    I can honestly say this has never happened and I hope it never does.
  • _Pseudonymous_
    _Pseudonymous_ Posts: 1,671 Member
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    This.

    Which is usually followed by "Look, you're a great guy but I don't think I've reached that "Love" level of emotional connection yet"




    aaaaaaaaaaaaaaand then we break up.
  • jackpotclown
    jackpotclown Posts: 3,275 Member
    tell her to fix you a sammich because the way to your heart is through your stomach.....ride that train as long as possible, til she stops fixing you said sammiches \m/
  • NS81
    NS81 Posts: 192 Member
    Before meeting my husband, I went through a time where my friends joked about all of my "2 month relationships" I dated a bunch of guys, and somewhere around the 2 month mark, most of them would start to say "I love you" ... Then I would panic. Each time, I thought about it, and couldn't see spending forever with them, so I would break it off... Then I met my husband. I knew as soon as I met him that he would be different. Maybe a 3 weeks in, he said he was in love with me... I told him I needed more time, and around 2 months, I was finally sure of what I already thought was true, and I told him I loved him too - Married almost 7 years, together 8...

    Just be honest - Honesty is most important :smile:
  • devil_in_a_blue_dress
    devil_in_a_blue_dress Posts: 5,214 Member
    Wait... Was their alcohol involved?


    Not that that would change my answer, but still. Important.
    No, but just aboutevery time its happened its was right after a vigorous pickle tickle was involved.

    Kiss on forehead, no worries unless it is said without pickle tickling or booze.
  • MizTerry
    MizTerry Posts: 3,763 Member
    Respond by mouthing the words "olive juice."
  • Myhaloslipped
    Myhaloslipped Posts: 4,317 Member
    Say, " Thanks, me too." You will be referring to yourself. Then abruptly change the subject.
  • tomomatic
    tomomatic Posts: 1,794 Member
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  • EddieHaskell97
    EddieHaskell97 Posts: 2,227 Member
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  • CarolinaGirlinVA
    CarolinaGirlinVA Posts: 1,508 Member
    OMG...did I say it out loud? Geesh...I didn't think you heard. Awkward!:blushing:
  • Galatea_Stone
    Galatea_Stone Posts: 2,037 Member
    In the past:

    1: "I think we need to talk."
    2: "so soon?"
    3: "OH MY GOD! YES! YES! (heavy breathing) I love you, too! O [insert expletive here] I really freakin' love you. YES!"
    4: "I have a date with someone else tomorrow. It was your idea to date other people."
    5: Said nothing, got in car and drove away really quickly. Left a voicemail about how I thought we should date other people on his work voicemail.
    6: "This isn't going to work."
    7: "I love you, too."
  • KatieKat1979
    KatieKat1979 Posts: 470 Member
    Ruuuun Foooorest
  • Sinisterly
    Sinisterly Posts: 10,913 Member
    I keep going "huh" over and over until they stop saying it.
    edit: Doesn't even have to be a relationship, but.. Just saying.
  • shutyourpieholeandsquat
    shutyourpieholeandsquat Posts: 1,394 Member
    Wait... Was their alcohol involved?


    Not that that would change my answer, but still. Important.
    No, but just aboutevery time its happened its was right after a vigorous pickle tickle was involved.

    um... "every time"??? So she'd said it more than once without you saying it back? Eeek. That's not a good sign. I know if I said it once and he didn't say it back I SHO AS HELL ain't saying it again lol
  • TheRoadDog
    TheRoadDog Posts: 11,788 Member
    It's only happened once. Luckily, he did it in front of the Guard, so I asked to be moved to another cell.
  • sullus
    sullus Posts: 2,839 Member
    Look them in the eye and say "We have so much in common ... *I* love me too"

    Or perhaps a simple "Roger that!"
  • thatismesammyg
    thatismesammyg Posts: 71 Member
    Say "I love you too" and then never call or text them again. Clearly I have no morals.
  • zyxst
    zyxst Posts: 9,151 Member
    "Why?"
  • Desterknee
    Desterknee Posts: 1,056 Member
    "Why?"

    Was just going to post this.
  • MyM0wM0w
    MyM0wM0w Posts: 2,008 Member
    Smile, gently push her head back down and continue watching the game.

    I like you.
  • ShellyBell999
    ShellyBell999 Posts: 1,482 Member
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    Respond by mouthing the words "olive juice."
    It's only happened once. Luckily, he did it in front of the Guard, so I asked to be moved to another cell.
    :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
  • Paganprincessmommy
    Paganprincessmommy Posts: 2
    "Well may the gods have mercy upon your soul". It worked for me.
  • CaitlinW19
    CaitlinW19 Posts: 431 Member
    I don't know...I said I love you first to my boyfriend (who was recently divorced and screwed over pretty badly). I knew he needed to hear it first to sort of, trust again I guess. It was a few weeks before he said it back, and I didn't feel akward about that. I was pretty sure he did love me too though, even if he couldn't say it yet. I think when I said it he just held me for a while and we kissed. It didn't feel particularly akward to me.
  • seltzermint555
    seltzermint555 Posts: 10,740 Member
    I don't know...I said I love you first to my boyfriend (who was recently divorced and screwed over pretty badly). I knew he needed to hear it first to sort of, trust again I guess. It was a few weeks before he said it back, and I didn't feel akward about that. I was pretty sure he did love me too though, even if he couldn't say it yet. I think when I said it he just held me for a while and we kissed. It didn't feel particularly akward to me.

    totally get this :-) That's nice. I think too many people make it into a bigger deal than it has to be, like there's a big spotlight and they have to make a decision to marry the person at that moment or something...lol
  • ninerbuff
    ninerbuff Posts: 49,178 Member
    someone says "I love you" in a newer relationship that you clearly are not on that level yet?
    Well is there spitting involved?

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  • ninerbuff
    ninerbuff Posts: 49,178 Member
    It's only happened once. Luckily, he did it in front of the Guard, so I asked to be moved to another cell.
    :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

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