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      Just tell them that you enjoy being with them but have not reached that emotional realm yet... or something to that effect.

      I agree with this.

      Honestly when this has happened to me, I knew that I was never (or probably never) going to reach that point with that person and I split up with them because I didn't want to hurt them more.

      But if I felt that the potential was there, and very real, but I just wasn't quite *there* yet I would openly communicate that to them, in the kindest way I could. This is what happened with my husband and I. I knew I loved him and I told him so, but he had actually NEVER been in love or said it to anyone and things were just moving so fast that he said emotionally everything just couldn't compute. A couple of weeks later he was totally sure and said it back to me and felt great about it.
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      I can honestly say this has never happened and I hope it never does.
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      This.

      Which is usually followed by "Look, you're a great guy but I don't think I've reached that "Love" level of emotional connection yet"




      aaaaaaaaaaaaaaand then we break up.
    • Posts: 3,275 Member
      tell her to fix you a sammich because the way to your heart is through your stomach.....ride that train as long as possible, til she stops fixing you said sammiches \m/
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      Before meeting my husband, I went through a time where my friends joked about all of my "2 month relationships" I dated a bunch of guys, and somewhere around the 2 month mark, most of them would start to say "I love you" ... Then I would panic. Each time, I thought about it, and couldn't see spending forever with them, so I would break it off... Then I met my husband. I knew as soon as I met him that he would be different. Maybe a 3 weeks in, he said he was in love with me... I told him I needed more time, and around 2 months, I was finally sure of what I already thought was true, and I told him I loved him too - Married almost 7 years, together 8...

      Just be honest - Honesty is most important :smile:
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      No, but just aboutevery time its happened its was right after a vigorous pickle tickle was involved.

      Kiss on forehead, no worries unless it is said without pickle tickling or booze.
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      Respond by mouthing the words "olive juice."
    • Posts: 4,317 Member
      Say, " Thanks, me too." You will be referring to yourself. Then abruptly change the subject.
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      OMG...did I say it out loud? Geesh...I didn't think you heard. Awkward!:blushing:
    • Posts: 2,037 Member
      In the past:

      1: "I think we need to talk."
      2: "so soon?"
      3: "OH MY GOD! YES! YES! (heavy breathing) I love you, too! O [insert expletive here] I really freakin' love you. YES!"
      4: "I have a date with someone else tomorrow. It was your idea to date other people."
      5: Said nothing, got in car and drove away really quickly. Left a voicemail about how I thought we should date other people on his work voicemail.
      6: "This isn't going to work."
      7: "I love you, too."
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    • Posts: 10,913 Member
      I keep going "huh" over and over until they stop saying it.
      edit: Doesn't even have to be a relationship, but.. Just saying.
    • Posts: 1,394 Member
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      No, but just aboutevery time its happened its was right after a vigorous pickle tickle was involved.

      um... "every time"??? So she'd said it more than once without you saying it back? Eeek. That's not a good sign. I know if I said it once and he didn't say it back I SHO AS HELL ain't saying it again lol
    • Posts: 11,788 Member
      It's only happened once. Luckily, he did it in front of the Guard, so I asked to be moved to another cell.
    • Posts: 2,839 Member
      Look them in the eye and say "We have so much in common ... *I* love me too"

      Or perhaps a simple "Roger that!"
    • Posts: 71 Member
      Say "I love you too" and then never call or text them again. Clearly I have no morals.
    • Posts: 9,151 Member
      "Why?"
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      "Why?"

      Was just going to post this.
    • Posts: 2,008 Member
      Smile, gently push her head back down and continue watching the game.

      I like you.
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      It's only happened once. Luckily, he did it in front of the Guard, so I asked to be moved to another cell.
      :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
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      "Well may the gods have mercy upon your soul". It worked for me.
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      I don't know...I said I love you first to my boyfriend (who was recently divorced and screwed over pretty badly). I knew he needed to hear it first to sort of, trust again I guess. It was a few weeks before he said it back, and I didn't feel akward about that. I was pretty sure he did love me too though, even if he couldn't say it yet. I think when I said it he just held me for a while and we kissed. It didn't feel particularly akward to me.
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      I don't know...I said I love you first to my boyfriend (who was recently divorced and screwed over pretty badly). I knew he needed to hear it first to sort of, trust again I guess. It was a few weeks before he said it back, and I didn't feel akward about that. I was pretty sure he did love me too though, even if he couldn't say it yet. I think when I said it he just held me for a while and we kissed. It didn't feel particularly akward to me.

      totally get this :-) That's nice. I think too many people make it into a bigger deal than it has to be, like there's a big spotlight and they have to make a decision to marry the person at that moment or something...lol
    • Posts: 49,215 Member
      someone says "I love you" in a newer relationship that you clearly are not on that level yet?
      Well is there spitting involved?

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    • Posts: 49,215 Member
      It's only happened once. Luckily, he did it in front of the Guard, so I asked to be moved to another cell.
      :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

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