Tips to get over a heartache

Butterpecan888
Butterpecan888 Posts: 79
in Chit-Chat
Tips to get over a heartache. And tips to not check on them on fb etc
«13

Replies

  • siport
    siport Posts: 7,429 Member
    icecream
  • siport
    siport Posts: 7,429 Member
    hitting the gym hard!
  • Butterpecan888
    Butterpecan888 Posts: 79
    this is a genuine question for those wondering... im all over the place atm
  • leantool
    leantool Posts: 365 Member
    hitting the gym hard!
    This
    And retail therapy, ;-) new clothes for a new and improved body,a nail spa or something similar won't hurt either...keep your chin up!
  • Butterpecan888
    Butterpecan888 Posts: 79
    hitting the gym hard!
    This
    And retail therapy, ;-) new clothes for a new and improved body,a nail spa or something similar won't hurt either...keep your chin up!

    thanks xx
  • Ainar
    Ainar Posts: 858 Member
    Time. Really, that's it. Nothing much you can do about it. And focus on good stuff. Like getting in shape and lifting or retail therapy, haha. The key is to direct your attention on positives in your life rather than sitting and feeling sorry for yourself.
  • Unknown
    Unknown
    This content has been removed.
  • Ariadne83
    Ariadne83 Posts: 36 Member
    Sorry to hear about your heartache. What has helped me in the past is:

    - Write down the reasons why the relationship ended. Re-read this whenever you're feeling weak and want to ring them, this has always helped to stop me!
    - Writing down all the things you can do now that you're single that you couldn't do in a couple. Plan to do one of these things this week, you can start right away.
    - Write down a reviewed set of life goals and small steps you can take to achieve them. Get started on this right away.
    - Plan some things to do with your friends and family. If you're heartbroken be kind to yourself, don't push yourself to go on big nights out or anything, just small things that will life your mood. Give someone a ring you've lost touch with.
    - Treat yourself extra kindly. You are fragile at the moment and need to heal. Eat healthily but allow yourself some treats too, just don't overdo it. Get lots of rest and exercise.

    Remember that it does get better. I have been totally and utterly devastated after breakups in the past but now couldn't care less about these people. As humans we are very resilient creatures. Good luck and hope you feel better soon. :)
  • cheryl2361
    cheryl2361 Posts: 7
    de-friend ur ex on fb and block him or her ...easy to say not so easy to do i suppose ....................
  • monkeywizard
    monkeywizard Posts: 222 Member
    Sorry to hear about your heartache. What has helped me in the past is:

    - Write down the reasons why the relationship ended. Re-read this whenever you're feeling weak and want to ring them, this has always helped to stop me!
    - Writing down all the things you can do now that you're single that you couldn't do in a couple. Plan to do one of these things this week, you can start right away.
    - Write down a reviewed set of life goals and small steps you can take to achieve them. Get started on this right away.
    - Plan some things to do with your friends and family. If you're heartbroken be kind to yourself, don't push yourself to go on big nights out or anything, just small things that will life your mood. Give someone a ring you've lost touch with.
    - Treat yourself extra kindly. You are fragile at the moment and need to heal. Eat healthily but allow yourself some treats too, just don't overdo it. Get lots of rest and exercise.

    Remember that it does get better. I have been totally and utterly devastated after breakups in the past but now couldn't care less about these people. As humans we are very resilient creatures. Good luck and hope you feel better soon. :)

    ^^^ Great answer(s)!
  • ew_david
    ew_david Posts: 3,473 Member
    Time

    And possibly getting under someone else.
  • surfinbird_1981
    surfinbird_1981 Posts: 946 Member
    Surround yourself with positive people/things.
  • msbunnie68
    msbunnie68 Posts: 1,894 Member
    Focus your energy on some other aspect of your life.

    Pick something = anything = you want to work on, no matter how stupid or insignificant. You need a focus outside yourself, and preferably something that your ex would not want to be a part of so that it is something you would not have in common or share an interest in.

    Defriend him on FB and if you can't stop yourself then deactivate it.

    A last resort, accept some of the dodgey friend requests we get here on MFP ( you know the ones where they think it's a dating site not a fitness site and have a bit of ego restoring fun. Just avoid skittles man.)
  • Unknown
    Unknown
    This content has been removed.
  • Unknown
    Unknown
    This content has been removed.
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    Time, time and time.

    Sorry to tell you, but that's it. You could go temporarily on antidepressants, as well. (I'm not saying that as a joke. It was offered to me by a psychologist when I was going through a tough breakup and I know a few people who took them.)
  • sentaruu
    sentaruu Posts: 2,206 Member
    your best bet is to stay away from alcohol and anti-depressants and do productive things with your time. the more busy you are the better.
  • ItsCasey
    ItsCasey Posts: 4,021 Member
    Dude should not even still be on your FB list.

    Step 1: Delete number from phone.
    Step 2: Delete from all social media.
    Step 3: Find something productive on which to focus your energy. Take an art class. Go on a trip. Learn to play an instrument or to speak a foreign language. Find something you can learn how to do or something you can get better at, something that will make you feel good about yourself.

    What NOT to do:
    1. Call him or text him
    2. Try to see him or "accidentally" run into him somewhere
    3. Stalk him on the Internet
    4. Call, text, stalk, or try to see or speak to his friends or family
    5. Put yourself in debt buying things you think will make you feel better
    6. Try to drink it away
    7. Starve yourself OR eat yourself into a coma
  • gerard54
    gerard54 Posts: 1,107 Member
    Find someone new...
  • vjohn04
    vjohn04 Posts: 2,276 Member
    Dude should not even still be on your FB list.

    Step 1: Delete number from phone.
    Step 2: Delete from all social media.
    Step 3: Find something productive on which to focus your energy. Take an art class. Go on a trip. Learn to play an instrument or to speak a foreign language. Find something you can learn how to do or something you can get better at, something that will make you feel good about yourself.

    What NOT to do:
    1. Call him or text him
    2. Try to see him or "accidentally" run into him somewhere
    3. Stalk him on the Internet
    4. Call, text, stalk, or try to see or speak to his friends or family
    5. Put yourself in debt buying things you think will make you feel better
    6. Try to drink it away
    7. Starve yourself OR eat yourself into a coma

    this is solid advice!

    I'd focus on doing things that make YOU happy and give YOU joy.
  • BigT555
    BigT555 Posts: 2,067 Member
    sex. releases endorphin's in the brain that act as pain killers
    edit; damn i need to read the full post first lol
    get a hobby, find something to occupy your time (sex will work for that too!)
  • sstolii123
    sstolii123 Posts: 205 Member
    Tips to get over a heartache. And tips to not check on them on fb etc

    The best advice I can think of came from Nikki Six from Motley Crue:

    The best revenge is living well and looking good!

    Go get a pedicure!
  • ShellyBell999
    ShellyBell999 Posts: 1,482 Member
    Time, time and time.

    Sorry to tell you, but that's it. You could go temporarily on antidepressants, as well. (I'm not saying that as a joke. It was offered to me by a psychologist when I was going through a tough breakup and I know a few people who took them.)

    ^^True
    You will be okay :flowerforyou:
  • fedup30
    fedup30 Posts: 141 Member
    Sorry about your breakup :flowerforyou: They just palin suck. I suggest, that as hard as it might be, remove him from your FB, and any of your contact lists. If you are seeing him popping up on your news feed all the time, it's hard to move on. Also, if you don't have his number in your phone, there won't be any texting slip-ups. Get out and have fun with your friends, workout, shop, do what whatever makes you happy. Think of this as time to work on making yourself happy! And just remember, this breakup happened, because there is someone better out there for you :heart: *Hugs*
  • thatonegirlwiththestuff
    thatonegirlwiththestuff Posts: 1,171 Member
    Keep busy! Put it extra time at the gym, go shop, buy yourself a few things, go out with your friends. Focuc hard on school/work. But remember its okay to take all the time you need. Don't listen to anyone who says "just get over him"; you can't tell your heart what your head already knows...only time can do that. It's hard now, but it will get better with each passing day.
  • sweetcurlz67
    sweetcurlz67 Posts: 1,168 Member
    OP... Thank you for posting this question!!!! :flowerforyou:

    In for the responses...
  • NS81
    NS81 Posts: 192 Member
    I'm not sure you ever COMPLETELY get over it... but time makes vast improvements... Keep reminding yourself that you can't get today back, once it's gone, so you may as well try for the best... Good luck, and hugs to you!
  • Luke_I_am_your_spotter
    Luke_I_am_your_spotter Posts: 4,179 Member
    Time heals all wounds.

    Until the wound is healed... just stay positive...life is good...learn to love yourself...focus on positive things...find hobbies...hit the gym... write in a personal journal, etc... worst thing to do is throw a million pity parties...life is going to keep going on all around you no matter what you choose to do... it's better to hop on and go along for the ride than to just sit there and let it pass you by. It's normal to have negative thoughts...just try to be more aware when they pop in your head so you can remove them in a healthy way. But time is the only real long term solution.
  • vasairiah
    vasairiah Posts: 5,187 Member
    Time heals all wounds.

    Until the wound is healed... just stay positive...life is good...learn to love yourself...focus on positive things...find hobbies...hit the gym... write in a personal journal, etc... worst thing to do is throw a million pity parties...life is going to keep going on all around you no matter what you choose to do... it's better to hop on and go along for the ride than to just sit there and let it pass you by. It's normal to have negative thoughts...just try to be more aware when they pop in your head so you can remove them in a healthy way. But time is the only real long term solution.

    ^^this...and remove them from all social media to avoid temptation.
    Other suggestions....Have a good cry to get it out, and then get a pedicure. Get a new focus...YOU. Be the best YOU, you can be.. *hugs* :flowerforyou:
  • Noogynoogs
    Noogynoogs Posts: 1,028 Member
    Get out and about to stop yourself dwelling. Eat well and get your rest. Listen to music all the time

Categories